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Her brother saw me looking up how to cure herpes... now I feel like she will never want me! I don't want herpes anymore and I don't want to be alone, what do I do?
So their is this girl that I really like a lot. I even have/had her brothers approval because he is my good friend and I wanted to make sure he was fine with it. Everything has been going very well, talking, even went out for a day and we both wanted to go out again. It was all going good until the other day when I got upset about something I have...
This girl really makes me feel happy and I didn't want this stupid condition to ever effect her if things ever went that far. I don't want it for anyone. So I was looking up a complete cure for it. Of course I knew their probably wasn't but I figured what the hell maybe their is...
So I looked it up and found some books on fully preventing it from happening. You still have it but it wont pass or happen if you do certain things with your life stile. I was skeptical so I figured I would wait. In fact I was going to ask the question on here. So I minimized the links and put a password on my computer and went to classes for the day.
I got home really late and opened my computer to do something and then left it unlocked spacing what was on their. Him and his roommate came over to get my roommate and I to play some cards. He said "Before we go you need a new background" and he opened my minimized explorer...
Of course he sees what I looking at. I don't know what to do. Or how he feels about me anymore. To cut to the chase it is, it is herpes. I hate it and it really sucks. I have only had sex with one girl and He she had only had it with two before me. I regret my choice not to wait until marriage but that is forgivable in a way. Well depending on the girl you find. And now I feel like since I have this and he knows I will not be good enough for his sister. Nor will she even want me. I wasn't going to hide it from her of course. But I figured if I at least found a way to completely prevent it from being contagious and happening I would be okay.
What should I do. I feel like I went from being on top of everything, to not being able to eat and I feel like crying my eyes out finishing this. I cried myself to sleep last night. I just don't want this condition anymore. It sucks and it is killing me inside... I feel like I will never find love because of it.
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so for whats going on in your life..but they have meds for that wouldnt cure it but can help,,just be protected at all times and read up more on it i now i got a friend he meet to this and she still cares and still with him..if she cares and uderstand shes the right one for you..have them except you for who u are dont let your pass stop you
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As far as I know there is no cure for Herpes. Have you seen a doctor and been treated for the type you have. The doctor should have told you at the time how to avoid spreading this to a partner. Such as refraining from sex during an outbreak.
My advice is such as the others. This is not then end of the world type of STD. It is a life changing line in which you need to find out more about the type of Herpes you? How to know when it is active? What precautions you and your partner need to take to avoid infecting your partner?
With proper knowledge you can mange you disease and live a normal life with a mostly normal sex life. So talk to your doctor or a infectious disease specialist.
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First things first: before you have sex with a new partner, you need to talk to a doctor about the risks involved. Don't take the advice of random strangers on the internet when it comes to your health and your partner's health. You need to talk to a real medical professional about this.
Having herpes doesn't make you "not good enough" for anyone. Lots of people are infected, and it doesn't mean you're dirty or overly promiscuous. It just means that there was a mistake at some point. Heck, you can be born with it. I'm not going to lie: some people are just unable to deal with it. That may be an issue for you. That doesn't mean that you'll automatically be rejected by everyone from here on in. There are lots of people who end up with partners who have herpes, who can handle the risks involved. There are ways to diminish the risk of transmitting the virus. And who knows, you may even find a partner in the future who has herpes too. You're not out of luck.
If this guy gives you trouble, you can let him know that you're being extremely careful, that you're fully disclosing to his sister and that you won't do anything to endanger her.
You're still the same fantastic person you were before getting herpes. You just have another little hiccup when it comes to finding a partner. If you are having trouble coming to terms with your diagnosis and what it means, your school likely provides free counselling services. They can help you deal with the emotional side of things.
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Having an STD is a very hard thing to deal with. But if this girl makes you truly happy and she likes you, what does it matter? Love is accepting someone for their true self, whether they have a disease or not. If you and her brother are good friends, he should also accept you for you no matter what. If not, then the friendship was never worth it.
I'm sure he didn't care, because you did not mention his reaction much, but who knows. How do you know if you're not good enough? I'm sure she will understand. All you have to do is tell her how you feel. Tell her that you really enjoy being around her and would like to have more than a friendship, and when you begin to feel comfortable, tell her that everyone makes mistakes, and tell her your story, and you hope she will accept you even if you have a disease. Be honest. Girls like honesty. I wish you good luck. My inbox is always open if you need to talk! xoxoxo
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