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Q: 21 female

My boyfriend is 18. We've been together for 8 months now. He loves me unconditionally & would literally do anything for me. He reminds me every day how much he loves me and how I mean the world to him. I love him too but why am I always so moody and crabby when I'm with him then?? We see each other about 3/4 times a week. When I'm not with him though, I miss him. I literally miss him right when he leaves me. But then sometimes when we're together it's like I get irritated with him when he's not even doing anything wrong!

I've told him before that maybe my feelings are changing or that our love is fizzling and that broke his heart and he broke down. I couldn't even look at him it broke my heart seeing him like that. I can't see myself with anyone but him in the future. I don't know why I feel so moody and irritated when I'm with him sometimes though. It's one of those feelings where I just want to scream, punch something and cry. Maybe it's just stress but I take it all out on my boyfriend because he's always there. He deals with it too and tries to comfort me. I feel bad for doing this to him and treating him like crap sometimes when he treats me like a princess every single day.

What can I do? I don't want this to ruin our relationship. I don't know if it's him that I'm unhappy with or myself. How can you love someone so much yet be so irritated with them at the same time?

I know how you feel, although I am younger than you. My boyfriend and I have been also dating for 8 months and I can get extremely crabby and sensitive to the point where I feel I don't deserve him. We get into some arguments but in the end I realize how lucky I am. You should, too. You have a good guy. Communication is the key! Talk to him. Work it out. Let him know how you feel and tell him some space would be better for both of you. He loves you so much he accepts you no matter what! Be grateful. I hope I am not too cruel.... This is what I learned in my relationship and I want to help!

Q: Hey, 18/f
Okay so basically I'm just wondering is it necessary to tell your boyfriend EVERYTHING?
We have been together for two and a half years and he knows pretty much everything about me as do I him.
But there is one particular incident in my past that I don't feel comfortable discussing with anyone. I don't want him to think differently of me telling him about it just isn't an option.
He asked me before had I any secrets and I just said no then he said If I had then all of this is for nothing.
It's not like I'm lying to him or anything there are just certain things I like to keep private. Surely that's allowed?
I asked my mum and even she says she has stuff my dad doesn't know about.
Does this make me a bad person?It's literally just this one thing.
Any advice appreciated thank you in advance.

It isn't bad to have at least some privacy. My boyfriend and I are the same way. We are very open with each other. I tell him things I never have told my mom or my closest friends. Although there is a certain extent to what you can and can't tell, I don't think you are a bad person. My boyfriend doesn't want to hear about my past sexual experiences, and I don't want to hear about his. We made a deal before we dated so we didn't get jealous. I have about one or two things I have kept from him for a while. But it isn't life threatening or threatening to our relationship.

The past is the past. It makes no sense to dwell on it and mention it. If he asks about your past, tell him it is already happened and does not need to be discussed, and that you're only looking forward to the future and the present with him. There is nothing bad about wanting some privacy on a uncomfortable situation. I hope I helped!

Q: do guys like it when their girlfriends lay on their stomachs? when their girlfriends rub their stomachs?

My boyfriend loves to cuddle. He likes when I lay my head on his chest or even just hugging. He's a big sweetheart. But really every guy is different.

Q: what are some cute nicknames for mt boyfriend

My boyfriend and I are very close so we have some weird nicknames. He calls me "buttercup", "babe", "hunny dew", "darling", and "babycakes". I like to call him "babe" and "monkey" but it's really up to you!

Q: I am 16 and I just had unprotected sex with my boyfriend, I was previously a virgin, he did not cum in me he has alot of self control, trust me I would know and we didn't do it for very long before he popped my cherry and I told him to stop because it hurt. But he DID precum inside me and I would like to know of those risks I know it's possible but unlikely to get pregnant from precum but the bigger picture is what are the risks such as sexually transmitted diseases. I've read online that it's possible to contract chlamydia and ghonneria easier through precum but sometimes the internet doesn't give very valid info like (you have to be ovulating to get pregnant and my friend says that's the stupidest thing she's ever heard and her teacher says it's rediculously easy) but anyone who knows for sure, for a fact, perhaps an educated professional on these things. I just don't want more false information. Please and thank you for your help!

I'm not a professional whatsoever, but I have never ever heard that you can get an STD from precum. Has your boyfriend had multiple sex partners before you? Have you both ever even talked about STD's before?

I'm 16 as well, but I hope you can be more responsible. I don't want to sound harsh, but I'm just being honest. My boyfriend has a lot of self control as well, so we're safe, but we usually do it with condoms, and I think you should, too. It's much safer that way. xoxoxo good luck! Inbox me if you have any questions.

p.s. you can get pregnant if you have sex close to ovulation and during

Q: Ive never given head before, which is pretty sad considering I'm 23 years old. But I'm about to try it for the first time and I don't want to look like a total noob while going down on him. So what are good tricks that guys enjoy? Also, how long will I have to be down there? Once he ejaculates, how much semen will be in my mouth? I'm so nervous that he's gonna know I have no clue what to do so all the advice would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks so much!

I never really liked giving head until I started dating my current boyfriend. We've been dating for eight months and we're really comfortable about our sex life.

My boyfriend likes it when I surprise him most of the time. We'll be just relaxing and I'll lean over and whisper in his ear, "How about I give you a blow job?" he gets so wild when I do it. If you're not that comfortable with the person you're giving head to, then that's fine. One of the most important tips is to watch your teeth. It can really hurt a guy if you don't be careful, but some like it if you nibble on the skin a little bit. It's easy, really. Just start slow and suck slowly on his shaft, and see how far you can get it in your mouth. If you want, you can also use your hands while you give head. My boyfriend enjoys it when I put him in my mouth as far as I can go and lick the remaining length of his shaft and gently massage his balls in my hands. I don't really have any other tips, but I hope this helps! Good luck.

Also, I've never had anyone finish off in my mouth before, so I would not know how much semen you'll get if he cums in your mouth. It depends I guess.

xoxo

Q: What are the craziest texts some one has sent ou? One time someone told me they had a dream I killed them... And that got the conversation interesting. So what are some of the funniest/craziest texts you have ever gotten? Or what are the funniest/craziest texts you have ever sent someone?

My boyfriend always sends me, "Poop". That's probably not the craziest but the funniest randomest I've ever seen.

Q: I need advice on how to get my man to take control in the bedroom when we have sex its because I'm the one telling him to get upstairs and get his clothes of but I would really like it if he could make the first move and suprise me I'm the one who talks dirty and puts outfits on for him just once I would love it if he could just do that one thing for me

Tell him that it's sexy when a man is dominant. Maybe he'll take the hint.

Q: So their is this girl that I really like a lot. I even have/had her brothers approval because he is my good friend and I wanted to make sure he was fine with it. Everything has been going very well, talking, even went out for a day and we both wanted to go out again. It was all going good until the other day when I got upset about something I have...
This girl really makes me feel happy and I didn't want this stupid condition to ever effect her if things ever went that far. I don't want it for anyone. So I was looking up a complete cure for it. Of course I knew their probably wasn't but I figured what the hell maybe their is...
So I looked it up and found some books on fully preventing it from happening. You still have it but it wont pass or happen if you do certain things with your life stile. I was skeptical so I figured I would wait. In fact I was going to ask the question on here. So I minimized the links and put a password on my computer and went to classes for the day.
I got home really late and opened my computer to do something and then left it unlocked spacing what was on their. Him and his roommate came over to get my roommate and I to play some cards. He said "Before we go you need a new background" and he opened my minimized explorer...
Of course he sees what I looking at. I don't know what to do. Or how he feels about me anymore. To cut to the chase it is, it is herpes. I hate it and it really sucks. I have only had sex with one girl and He she had only had it with two before me. I regret my choice not to wait until marriage but that is forgivable in a way. Well depending on the girl you find. And now I feel like since I have this and he knows I will not be good enough for his sister. Nor will she even want me. I wasn't going to hide it from her of course. But I figured if I at least found a way to completely prevent it from being contagious and happening I would be okay.
What should I do. I feel like I went from being on top of everything, to not being able to eat and I feel like crying my eyes out finishing this. I cried myself to sleep last night. I just don't want this condition anymore. It sucks and it is killing me inside... I feel like I will never find love because of it.

Having an STD is a very hard thing to deal with. But if this girl makes you truly happy and she likes you, what does it matter? Love is accepting someone for their true self, whether they have a disease or not. If you and her brother are good friends, he should also accept you for you no matter what. If not, then the friendship was never worth it.

I'm sure he didn't care, because you did not mention his reaction much, but who knows. How do you know if you're not good enough? I'm sure she will understand. All you have to do is tell her how you feel. Tell her that you really enjoy being around her and would like to have more than a friendship, and when you begin to feel comfortable, tell her that everyone makes mistakes, and tell her your story, and you hope she will accept you even if you have a disease. Be honest. Girls like honesty. I wish you good luck. My inbox is always open if you need to talk! xoxoxo

Q: Female, 16.
I've never had a boyfriend at Valentines Day, and I've honestly no idea what to do for it. D:

Me and my boyfriend have been going out properly for two months, been seeing each other since Summer last year though.
I'm not much of a romantic, and he's the typical kind of 16 year old guy, into x-box, Skyrim and all that.

Admittedly, I don't have tonnes of money, so no expensive ideas, but any idea would be sooo appreciated, thanks!

My boyfriend is similar to your boyfriend! He isn't very picky about his gifts, he pretty much likes anything I get him, so I am very simple with my gifts.

What I did for Christmas: I baked some brownies, got a wooden picture frame at Dollar General, and painted simple designs on the side, and put a picture of us inside of the frame. If you don't have a picture for your frame, start taking some and pick your/his favorite. I put the brownies in a small tin box with wax paper on the bottom, and he loved it. I also got him some headphones because he was complaining he doesn't have any.

I also suggest making origami if you don't want to go all romantic and all out with this. I'm making a few origami hearts like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_R6nI0grBHg&feature=relmfu
it's pretty simple, and I'm hiding candy in the side pockets in three hearts and putting reasons why I like him in the other three hearts. Maybe you could just buy him some chocolates or bake him something. Guys really like food :)

If all else fails, maybe go to a game store and see if they have walkthrough magazines or magazines of Skyrim! They're not very expensive. Or you could get him a Skyrim poster or any other games he likes for Xbox.

Hope I helped! Good luck! xoxoxoxoxo

Q: Hi so my name is Bailey I'm 13 and a female. So yesterday my boyfriend who is 15 we made out after school and dry humped eachother and were being all sexy with eachother and we almost went back to his placse to have sex and my little sister saw us making out and dry humping. (she's 11) So she has a boyfriend too but he's 12 and the other day her boyfriend came up to me and said " I want to fuck u im just dating ur little sister for you. Kiss me and bite. Fuck me and it'll be a delight'" So i got all freaked out and was about to go tell my little siste r when he grabbed my boob and squeeezed it (im a size C) and told me not to tell and he was joking. I told my sis but she didn't believe me. (I MEAN WHAT THE FUCK THIS KID IS A 12 YEAR OLD BASTARD) I slapped him when he came over to my house for my sister ( he claimed) the next day. After he started makking out with me and I couldn't help it. Then 1 hour later my boyfrind came and the 12 year oold told him to 'back off and that i was his' They got into a fight a 12 year old and 15 year old while my little sis and I watched and hoped my Mom wouldn't be home anytime soon. She was still mad t me though for thinking I was making stuff up about her and her boyfriend. How do I get my sister to believe me and break up with the bastard? Also how do I get that bastard to stop squeezin my boobs and trying to fuck me? HELLLLPPP i love my boyfriend and dont want hm to be mad cause i told him this story and he is trying to protect me. Also i forgot to add that tody my sis's bf told me to meet him at his house tomorrow at 10 for some "fun" (he lives 3 houses away) ANY ADVICE??? Thanks

Another young victim caught into sex...

All I have to say is, do you not realize what is wrong with this post? Several things, actually.

Number 1, you are 13, and therefore wayyy too young to be having sex. You might think it's stupid that I am lecturing you, but you need to realize that this is sick and wrong.

Your post makes you seem willing and considering for your sister's boyfriend. I'm wondering why you'd even let him do that kind of stuff to you. You have every power in you to shove him or push him away. You are 13. Stand up for yourself... 12 year olds are still children.

Your boyfriend is immature. He shouldn't have fought a twelve year old... do you realize how dumb that was? Yes, the situation was very tense, but things could have worked out much better with words. You don't stand back and watch, YOU STOP IT. On his behalf, he should leave you. If you let someone touch you sexually besides him, whether they're 12 or 16, it is cheating. He should dump your ass. I'm very angry about this post and you need to get it through your head that this is all stupid. DO NOT go in that house, and DO NOT ever have contact with this 12 year old ever again. You need to man up and stand up for yourself. You are becoming a teenager, and therefore that means you need to grow up.

This is pure madness. I am so angry about this. I hope you realize that this is wrong.

Q: What do i say next after i tell her i love ,whether she says yes or a no

Be passionate.

When my boyfriend told me he first loved me, I was overjoyed. He stroked my hair and looked in my eyes and said, "I love you." There was a little silence but I said, "I love you too!" and he kissed me deeply and hugged me tight. I loved it and thought it was the most unforgettable night ever! Don't get nervous, just kiss her and hug her and tell her how much she means to you!

Good luck!

Q: The same thing keeps happening when ever I get into a serious relationship
I'm a 19m by the way

We have sex and it consumes the relationship

I can't really talk to my friends about it

I have no reason to complain I have an above average sized "package" about 9" and I have sex atleast once a day I live the mans dream but it isn't a relationship and that's what I really want any advice would help

I know how you feel. I'm sixteen, a bit younger than you. My past relationships were always revolved around sex. I'd express I didn't want it revolving around sex but they always pressured me and such and it was very confusing. Eventually I realized I wanted more. I told guys I didn't want sex, I wanted a long lasting relationship. Sure that brought a lot of rejection, but in the end it all works out. I've found someone who respects my boundaries and has similar wishes. We waited about two months before we had sex, and that might not seem for long but he has been my friend for about two years. We're very close and we both want the same thing. Find someone who has similar interests, and wants a relationship, get to know them, and when the time comes, do what you want in your sex life. Don't give up!

Q: I was raped about a year ago and I have slowly began to date.I feel like I have to do things with my boyfriend. He keeps saying things like "oh well when your ready", but he says it a lot, like if he says it enough I will change my mind. We do things, but I end up freaking out and feeling guilty about it afterwards. We attempted sex once,but I ended up shoving him away and curling up and crying. Any ideas on ways to help? Please I feel lost!!

I have not been in the same situation as you, although it sounds so traumatizing. I'm so sorry that happened to you. When I was young, I had sex very early. I didn't want to, but the person I was with threatened me and forced it upon me. I gave him permission, so it wasn't really rape, but afterwards I felt so disgusting.

Three years later, I have the most caring, loving boyfriend. He is very patient with me. The first time we had sex, I pushed him away and cried and curled up just like you. He pulled me close and told me that I would be alright if we didn't have sex yet. He told me he truly loves me and he's here for me no matter what and he'll always be here. He was very comforting and our relationship is wonderful now. I suggest you sit down with your boyfriend and tell him that you aren't ready to do anything yet and he needs to be here. Don't rush into telling him about being sexually harassed until you're truly ready. He'll understand. Just be strong.

Q: Im am 16 and I just wanted to know if any of yall know some up to date songs that relate to

-loving someone with a girlfriend (my pov)

or

-loving your ex but having a new gf (his pov).

thanks i will really appreciate this :)

Might not be exactly like the situations you included, but this song is slightly similar. If it kills me by Jason Mraz. (Casa Nova Sessions is the best version!) so if you look up If it kills me (casa nova sessions) by jason mraz you'll find it. There are a lot of versions of this song but I really like the acoustic one. Hope I helped!

Q: This is for a school project I'm doing and would appreciate totally honest answers. I just need to know peoples own opinions on dating outside your own race could you please tell me gender, age and your own race plus how you feel when you see different coloured men and women together.

Also if you do support or agree with inter racial relationships, which is your favourite combinations like white women with black men or asian women with white men, don't be shy :) I just need some honest opinions to finish off my research. thank you

16/ female

my mom is white, and my dad is puerto rican. I personally think that it doesn't matter! Everyone has their own different tastes, and color doesn't matter! I don't have a favorite combination, as long as the happiness is there, then that's all there is to it! My mom and dad divorced when I was ten and my mom married a wonderful man, and he is black. They have been married for two years and have been together for four! They are extremely happy and now I have a mixed baby brother :) no matter the color, love is love!

Q: My fiance will be leaving for Navy bootcamp in a little over a month. By the time he leaves we'll be married. But all I think about is how much I'm going to miss him. I know I should think about spending as much time as possible together but I'm a planner type of person. It gets to a point where I'm just really depressed. I don't know if you call it depression or not but he's not even gone yet and I'm already freaking out about it. I just want to know what I can do to fix this. I don't want to have to take any anti-depression pills so that's out of the question. I just don't know what to do. Thanks!

Even though you are older than I and have been with your fiance longer than I have been with my boyfriend, we're in the same situation.

My boyfriend is leaving for the Navy in December and I am always thinking about how much I will miss him and how much I'll worry, but I agree with Melissa...

Do not worry!!! Focus on yourself. Do what makes you happy while he is gone, but make sure you write letters and talk in as many ways as possible to keep in touch. I know it's hard and you'll miss him like crazy, but he is doing something he loves and he is extremely lucky to have such a wonderful fiance that will stay with him even with his passions getting in the way of the relationship. Make sure to set a date along with him before he leaves and spend time with him, there doesn't need to be planning for that! Surprises are always nice :)

I hope I helped...
xoxox

Q: growing up not having my dad around really messed me up. he never told me he loved me and as a result to that I have been on a search for love ever since. Ive been with all kinds of guys who abused me mentally physically and emotionally. I have been heart broken so many timetimes... How do I get over the whole "i neef love" phase ?
18F

I have been through exactly what you have been through. My father abandoned my mother and I when I was ten, cheated on her, and started a whole new other family. He didn't care about us, and he still doesn't. He has four other kids that he never ever pays child support for, including me and my sister...but that's not something that is relevant to your situation... so...

Anyway, since I have been abandoned, I have always had this longing for love just as you have. I've been with too many jerks, and it has caused me to become insecure and paranoid and afraid of being hurt. I have a hard time coping with such feelings. But because I am like this, I tend to get attached easily....

I'm sure we are similar.

I would suggest seeing a counselor or a close friend for your phase. But honest, I'm sure you'll find someone that will be patient and loving to you even if you are needy and have been hurt badly in the past to where it effects you presently. If you need any help, inbox me.

xoxo
romeoandrebecca

Q: So i'm 14 and i have a boyfriend of 4 months now. we've made out, hes seen and touched my boobs. yesterday, we were curious as to how OTHER things feel. so i like stroked his penis and we dry humped with clothes on... we didn't wanna do it because we're horny little teens, maybe a little but it was mostly because of curiosity.I WILL NEVER DO A blowjob AND I AM CONTENT ON SEX AFTER MARRIAGE. we agreed these things will never happen again. what we normally do is just hold hands and kiss :) but i feel guilty about my actions yesterday. am i a slut?

Don't feel guilty. You are not a slut if you've only done this type of stuff once... plus, it didn't really count as sex, because he didn't go inside of you. You were just curious but as long as you two talked about it and agreed it'd never happen again, you two are fine.

Q: when should i tell my boyfriend i love him?

Because I have had many short relationships in my sixteen years, I have learned over the years that saying "I love you" is a big deal that should not be treated as a word you can throw around. Even if I felt like I loved the guy I was with, I usually waited at least two months or three months before I express my feelings. It all depends on how long you have been dating. If you really feel like you love him but don't want to tell him too soon, tell him, "I feel really strongly for you..." or, "I'm starting to fall for you more and more..." if you feel skeptical about this subject.

Usually, I wait a few months but often let the guy know he means a lot to me and I enjoy spending time with him.

Good luck!

xoxo
romeoandrebecca

bio

Hi! I'm Selina!

I've been through so much in my life, and these experiences have made me stronger... I love music, sunshine, and videogames.

I'm a pretty friendly, loving person and I'm here for anyone when they need it. I'm honest and I'm always open, so just inbox me!

Happiness is what I aim for.