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Boyfriend puts up with all my crap but why am I unhappy sometimes?
21 female
My boyfriend is 18. We've been together for 8 months now. He loves me unconditionally & would literally do anything for me. He reminds me every day how much he loves me and how I mean the world to him. I love him too but why am I always so moody and crabby when I'm with him then?? We see each other about 3/4 times a week. When I'm not with him though, I miss him. I literally miss him right when he leaves me. But then sometimes when we're together it's like I get irritated with him when he's not even doing anything wrong!
I've told him before that maybe my feelings are changing or that our love is fizzling and that broke his heart and he broke down. I couldn't even look at him it broke my heart seeing him like that. I can't see myself with anyone but him in the future. I don't know why I feel so moody and irritated when I'm with him sometimes though. It's one of those feelings where I just want to scream, punch something and cry. Maybe it's just stress but I take it all out on my boyfriend because he's always there. He deals with it too and tries to comfort me. I feel bad for doing this to him and treating him like crap sometimes when he treats me like a princess every single day.
What can I do? I don't want this to ruin our relationship. I don't know if it's him that I'm unhappy with or myself. How can you love someone so much yet be so irritated with them at the same time?
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I know how you feel, although I am younger than you. My boyfriend and I have been also dating for 8 months and I can get extremely crabby and sensitive to the point where I feel I don't deserve him. We get into some arguments but in the end I realize how lucky I am. You should, too. You have a good guy. Communication is the key! Talk to him. Work it out. Let him know how you feel and tell him some space would be better for both of you. He loves you so much he accepts you no matter what! Be grateful. I hope I am not too cruel.... This is what I learned in my relationship and I want to help!
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This takes me back to when I was young.
I was just 16 when I met my husband,he was 28! I used to feel the same,and at one point tried to end it,but I was the same I could not hurt him.
I think looking back I think the problem is you are still very young and being serious at your age can just be too much. I would advise having a nice word with him,and tell him that for now you want to enjoy being young,but still be with him,but not to take things too seriously yet.
It would be more cruel to stay with someone if your feelings changed later on in the relationship if you were not totally sure.
As for feeling nasty towards him now and again,I think thats down to him being too attentive all of the time. Its nice to be loved and wanted but you may be feeling too smothered,and now and again I am sure you would prefer him to answer you back and be himself than try too hard to please you.
Try and have time with girlfriends maybe one night a week,its healthy to do other things too. Tell him you love being with him,but you think its good to go out with friends one night,and he should do the same,and you will probably end up feeling better about things.
By the way I have been married 35 years now,so it does work ! Good luck.
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