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I need help. There is a guy in my school that i like but i am not sure if he does, but i think he does. for starters he is really mean to me. he calls me names well i hit him for it. He is rude and mean around his friends and sometimes around me. I think he doesn't want to show his feelings. I sometimes find him staring at me and i feel like he is jealous sometimes when i talk and laugh with other guys in my class and when i beat him at something. Sometimes we laugh together but i am not sure the way i thing. Like when i fall or when i get mad. I am not sure what he has in mind but i feel like he is really nice inside. I am in middle school by the way. (link)
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Yes he likes you. When boys are young they show affection for each other through physical contact, such as hitting and whatnot. Making (playful)fun of a girl is also a clear sign that a boy likes her.
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Hello,
I'm 19 years old and very confused. Just a week or two ago, I met a guy at a party who I seemed to like. That very same night, we ended up making out and exchanging numbers obviously. Throughout the week, we hungout many times and I guess he talked me into foreplay. A few days after that, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said no because it was moving to fast. Then literally two days later, he asked me again. I felt bad saying "no" , so I said yes and just thought I'd see how it goes. It's only been a few days but I feel as though I don't like him as much as I should. He's such a nice guy, but i feel as though I barely know him. I want to take it much slower, but I just don't know what exactly to say considering I accepted the relationship ( stupid of me). I hate to say it , but normally I like mean guys and he's just so nice to me and is all over me all the time. I wanna talk to him and see where it goes, but I don't think im ready for a full on relationship. HELP! (link)
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Tell him exactly what you said here. If you want to take it slow tell him you want to take it slow. If he refuses to slow down then break up with him. You barely know each other and haven't invested much into each other at this point, so there is nothing to lose in breaking it off. You will only save the both of you from a potentially bad relationship.
If you don't think you're ready for a relationship, then you probably aren't ready for a relationship. The only reason you are "in a relationship" 9and I use that term loosely) right now is because clearly you think you are somewhat ready for a relationship with him, otherwise you would have just said no, regardless of how many times he asked.
If you like this guy enough, give it some time to develop. You never know. It could turn out to be amazing after all once you get to know each other better. But if you start to get the vibe that its not going anywhere for you, do yourself a favor and break it off before you start to make yourself feel bad.
Talk with him about how you feel and see how he responds, and then base your decision off of that.
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I'm in 7th grade and not the most popular person but this guy that is staring me is one of the most popular boys in my grade. He's only in one class of mine and he sits across the room from me. I see him staring at me at least twice a day. I have only talked to him once for about an hour, but it was on facebook...And it was a year ago. I know he's not staring at something behind me because we meet eyes quite often in the hall for a short time. I don't consider myself the prettiest person so I don't know if he likes me or not...any advice? (link)
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He likes you. Guys are stimulated the most by looking at things. He wouldn't stare at you if he didn't like you.
If you think he is cute and you like him too try to start up conversation with him some time, see how he acts around you.
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Hi guys, so I have this friend named john. He is my bestfriend and i hangout with him almost everyday. He asked me out in mid-december and now its almost the end of January. I said no to him because he is my older brothers bestfriend too, and i dont and didnt want to do that to my brother. another reason is because i'm not sure if i like him 100%. I mean i flirt with his constantly and he knows that i like him, i told him that yesturday. and also, i am not sexually attracted to him. He stands about 6-6'1 and i am about 5'5, and he is very broad and naturally a big guy. much bigger than i am, and i like his size but than im just not sexually attracked to him.. i dont understand it...and if him and i were to date and have sex i would feel under so much pressure. like so judged. but he knows about my prior sex life. i've kissed him many times, but never made out with him until last friday and it wasnt very pleasing so i guess thats another reason why i dont want to date him. his saliva was like thick and his mouth is small. But he is a good friend and i think he would do anything for me. He is accepted by my family and by my friends. but one of my friends think we would be great together but she also thinks that we may not have as much fun together if we date. i've been thinking about this for obviously a pretty long time and i just want to hear what you guys think. (link)
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No matter what anyone tells you ever, sexual attraction is the largest basis for any romantic relationship 100% of the time. If you're not sexually attracted to him, especially after making out and being around him a lot, you have absolutely no reason to start a relationship with him, and it would just be plain stupid to have sex with him.
That being said, it will be hard for him to be friends with you, because that is not how guys see the world. Girls can be friends with guys, but straight guys cannot be JUST friends with girls. He will always be attracted to you and want to be with you as long as you are best friends. This is called the "friend zone" and can make him very frustrated with your relationship.
Unfortunately not much can really be done about it. If he is able to deal with being friend zoned then fine, but he will eventually have to get over it and move on.
If you really are not sexually attracted to him and don't want to be with him, do NOT continue to flirt with him. Do not lead him on. Do not hint at you two having sex. Do not tease him. Do not make out with him or kiss him anymore. If you really make him think he has a chance with you when he doesn't, like so many girls tend to do with guys they friend zone, you are being a horrible friend. Don't do it.
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I am sixteen. My boyfriend and I are going to be together for six months on February 4th. I have a lot planned out for our special day: a movie, dinner, and a gift. I'm giving him an acoustic guitar, because all he ever talks about when we go to my godmother's (who owns a lot of guitars) is wanting an acoustic guitar. I plan on getting it for cheap but in good condition. I also plan to give him a book I made him. I write a lot, and so I wrote down from my view how I felt about him before, all the events that happened throughout our six months, and how I felt about him, as well as all the things I love about him. I am usually a big gift-giver, but usually I run out of ideas. He is also a very creative, thoughtful person. We get along great and have a few skirmishes here and there, but overall we have a good trust and a strong relationship. He's really sweet and kind and I can be myself when I am around him. I just love feeling comfortable. But we do have our flaws as a couple, and individually. I'm insecure, paranoid, and I get very mad easily. He can be very dumbfounded at times, and tends to say a lot of things that are very hurtful, but does not mean to make it seem this way.
However, he expressed he did not know what to get me for our six-month anniversary. It hurt a little, because I listen attentively and knew exactly what to get him. But for me, I actually have to say things to him promptly instead of dropping hints easily. Now, I have a question. I'd prefer you not be too harsh with me, but do I have a right to be upset about this? It upsets me that he doesn't listen. I mention things I've always wanted before, and sometimes it just gets to the point where I say something and he doesn't even respond, and I go to class feeling like shit some days, but that barely happens anymore. I told him to forget about giving each other gifts since it's such a struggle for him to find something I want, even if I give him several hints. It hurts. Any advice, and am I being too sensitive or nit-picky? Thanks. (link)
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You're being way too sensitive and way too nitpicky. Guys are not mind readers, and I don't get why so many girls are under the impression that we are, and then get mad when we don't respond the way you want us to when you aren't even being direct. Its silly. Hints that may seem obvious to you may not be so obvious to him. Guys often have difficulty getting presents that women like because women go out of their way to be indirect when it comes to requests (because your guy should know you sooo well that he shouldn't even have to ask what you want, he should just be psychic right?). That's not how it works in the real world.
Tell him the TYPE of gift you would like. Give him different ideas of things you would like to receive from him. Tell him you like, for instance, perfume, clothes, jewelry, certain books you've wanted, stuff like that so he can have a direct idea of what you want. That way it can still be a surprise because you don't know exactly what he will get for you, but you both can be sure you will still like it.
This relationship isn't about you. He shouldn't have to cater to you and go through this complex process of figuring out what you means when you say certain things or drop hints because you choose not to be straightforward. There's no reason for you to do that. It over complicated things and is one of the biggest causes of problems in relationships.
At the same time, from his end, when he says something hurtful, let him know. Its important in life to know when you're wrong, how else can you correct yourself? I had a girlfriend who used to say very hurtful things on accident, because even though she was being honest, she didn't realize that what she was saying was rude until I told her. Its a part of growing up. If he accidentally offends you, tell him. Don't get all passive aggressive, just be straightforward and let him know he hurt your feelings. Verbal sensitivity is something that's learned, not intuitive.
As for your overall situation, I know it may be hard, but try to calm down a little. Gifts really don't matter in the end (or at least they shouldn't). They are just materialistic ways of showing affection, popularized by a commercial society where showing that you love someone means you have to spend money on them. What really matters is how he acts towards you, not what you buy for each other, or how much you spend on each other, or whether or not you like your gifts. It really is the thought that counts, because money is temporary; thoughts are timeless.
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a girl and a man who knows each other for 5 years, are very uncomfortable around each other. he ignores her and seem uncomfortable, like he wish she is no around him. otherwise, he is happy when he thinks she is not around. after some time, she starts to treat him the same. he has an alpha male personality, and commands everyone (their mutual friends), to do what he wants. he seems quiet with her and sad. sometimes he try to be sarcastic with her, but it does not seem to matter to her. he only speak one word sentences to her, and seems to want to get away to avoid more conversation. she doesn't seem to care either way. recently, they are inadvertently walking on the same road both going the opposite direction. they see each other from a distance, and ignore the fact that they did. he then quickly turned to the yard of one of their friends. it ended being the same friend that she was also going to.when she entered the yard also, his back was turned and talking. then he slightly turned to see her, then quickly turned back to talking. she started to gesture to the mutual friend abt why she came, the mutural friend quietly responded, then she left. and both her and the man did not even say a greeting or responded to each other in front of this mutual friend. is this normal behavior? (link)
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that's completely normal sounding behavior for two people who don't like each other.
but since you gave no detail as the the intimacy of the relationship its hard to tell if there is more to it than that.
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Okay, here it goes.. I have a bestfriend he's a male I'm a female we are both 15 he is amazing I can talk to him about anything and he trusts me with his life, recently he's come out of a serious relationship which obviously involved sex, and now he is really lonely, we always use to talk about it but recently it's become more personal he says he really likes me and that he wants to be with me, but I dont wanna ruin our friendship ?? I do think of him in a relationship way but he is my bestfriend I don't know what to do, plus I live 3 hours away which bugs him spot cause we use to live 10 miniutes away... Help !? (link)
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A friendship is the best basis for a relationship. You would both obviously be happy being together. The problem right now is the distance since neither of you are old enough to drive just yet. Its not exactly a long distance relationship, but it might as well be if you have no way of actually seeing each other on a regular basis.
That being said, its always hard to stay friends with someone after a breakup. But its also extremely hard for 2 people who like each other to stay friends instead of going out, since both of you will always have that option right there in front of you.
I suggest you talk to him about how he feels about relationships, without explicitly putting the two of you going out on the table. See if hes ready to start another relationship so soon, and if he still has feelings for his ex. Also see if you two would be able to see each other often.
Who knows, things may just work out for the two of you. You never really know until you try. If you've been friends for a while, the chances that your relationship would be a great one are very high, because you both know each other well, and already have a basic level of affection and attraction for one another.
So yeah, see where hes at mentally, and see how deep the waters are before you dive in. It never hurts to talk about these things, especially when you're so close to begin with.
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I went to school for fashion merchandising right outta high school. I loved it but after a semester didn't feel like college was the place for me. I've always wanted to be in fashion, that was always my plan. And I've always been great in school, got a 3.7 after my first year of college. But I changes my mind after that year and am now in beauty school.
I love it and am excited about it, but recently am questioning my decision. I am about 40% done, and really just wanna finish it, but I'm so torn. I had surgery last week and was forced to drop out until I am recovered enough to re enroll, and I keep thinking, well I'm already dropped out, maybe u should go back to college... I loved the campus, town, and all my friends are there. I keep thinking I wanna go into fashion, I wanna have a legit college degree, not do hair forever :( But I don't wanna quit this or go back there just cuz in overthinking stuff and it's not really what I wanna do. Since I've been off for surgery I'm re thinking EVERYTHING. I'm going nuts. My heart and head are both torn. Any advice!?! Thanks. (link)
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Life is short. Spend it doing what makes you happy. It sounds like fashion is what makes you happy, so I would suggest you go down that road, especially since you are already a good deal your beauty education anyways.
But you're the only one who can really make the best decision for yourself in the end. Try thinking about this in the long term, rather than short term. Is it really worth it to go back to school? What would you be studying anyway? Would you like that better than fashion? What about all the time and money you've already spent on beauty school?
If you go back to college will you gain more than you have lost in attending and then leaving beauty school?
Try thinking about these question in terms of stability as well as enjoyment. Will you be able to provide for yourself either way? Then pick the one you would enjoy the most. Don't waste your time doing something that doesn't make you happy.
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i had unprotected sex when i was ovulating and he used the 'pull out' method and i know you can still get pregnant from that but what are the chances i am? and if so how soon till i have symptoms? (link)
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if you're sure he pulled out before ejaculation, the chances of you being pregnant are extremely low.
symptoms usually begin showing around 2 weeks after conception. its best to use a pregnancy test if you want to be sure right now if you are pregnant or not, or you can wait to see if you have your next period.
edit: also dont listen to adviceman. hes a dumbass.
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My boyfriend an I have been together for four months. He was the first guy I felt I truly loved. So I knew that one might when things started to go a bit farther, I was ready to have sex with him; he was my first and I was his first. It's been over two weeks since we has sex. I think I might be pregnant. I had that feeling that something was off, something was different with my body. My expected perio is in ten days. Usually I'd be ovulating on the 14th day of my cycle, but my last period was much shorter and irregular. I have recently gone through a lot of change in my life, so my irregular period and the symptoms of pregnancy could not be pregnancy but stress and mild depression. I'm terrified, I'm scared that this wil change our relationship. If I get pregnant at 16, does that officially mean that I'm a slut? What if I'm not pregnant? He said he doesn't want to have sex until we're older (which is honestly a good idea), but if we take out that amount of intimacy in our relationship, things might start going south. I love him, I'm scared, and I'm at the end of my rope. (link)
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If you had your period after you had sex, then you are most certainly not pregnant, even if it was irregular.
After pregnancy it is physically impossible to have a period, as your body begins immediate physiological changes that prevent periods from occurring at all, though you may still get period like symptoms at first, such as nausea, dizziness, etc.
If you had sex after this last irregular period which you're talking about, then you may be pregnant. You cant be certain until you take a pregnancy test, or just wait for your next scheduled period.
If you become pregnant you are in no way a slut, regardless of what some people may think. For tens of thousands of years girls your age and younger have been mothers. It may end up being a radical change in your life, and its easy to see why it can be very scary. But it doesn't have to be a bad thing. Motherhood can be a wonderful thing, regardless of your age.
If you continue having irregularities in the future I suggest you contact your doctor, and if you find out your pregnant its important to have a talk with your parents as well as your boyfriend. If you end up not being pregnant don't let this scare you away from having sex in the future. Just use it as a lesson to always use protection until you are ready to actually have a baby with someone responsible and who cares about you and is willing to take care of both you and your child.
But really dear don't worry yourself to death over this. Everything is going to be okay either way.
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I was hanging out with my friends last night and I huffed for the first time. I didn't even do that much and didn't feel much of anything but I'm scared that I really messed myself up. I don't plan on doing it again. Will I have any serious long term effects? (link)
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You'll be fine unless you keep doing it. Huffing over a long period of time can be dangerous, but just once shouldn't hurt you.
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I am 46 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years. We recently got into an arguement and for the first time ever, he said he would hit me and throw me in my car. But he didn't. Is this a sign? I love him very much and he says he loves me. We are both divorced. He does not want to get married. I would like to someday and he said that he might too. He said that I am very special and he has never felt the way he feels about me before. He went through a nasty divorce and has dated many women. I was married for over 20 years, raised 4 sons and own my own home. He has only worked 5 weeks since I met him, he makes me drive alot even though he owns 3 cars, 2 motorcycles, jet skis and a drag bike. I struggle and I feed him, cook for him, do everything for him(grocery shopping). I have never asked him for a dime. what should I do? thank you so much for just listening, I have 2 sons in the Marines and they are both being deployed soon... (link)
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In regards to the hitting threat, you have to understand it was said in anger. If you two were having an argument you may or may not have done something to provoke him to react with that response. You gave no context as to what the argument was about or what was said.
Threatening to hit and actually hitting are two very different things. In society its generally accepted that women are basically untouchable and should never be hit by a man for any reason, but you have to understand that if you are putting yourself in a position where you are making him so mad that he might hurt you, you do have to take some responsibility for that.
When an argument starts escalating, its often best to step away from it and calm down, or else it can result in explosive consequences on both sides. I'm not saying that he is justified in hitting you if he did end up doing so, but I am saying that maybe you can avoid being in that situation in the first place, and take responsibility for your part in the argument.
If you think he's really the type of man who may prove dangerous to you or physically aggressive, maybe you should question your relationship with him and your future. But if you think it was just something he said and didn't really mean (which is very possible since he didn't follow through) maybe you shouldn't take it over the top and be filled with fear.
If it does escalate in the future don't even think about participating in an abusive relationship, no matter how long you have been together or how much you think you love each other. It will only end up hurting you and your sons in the long run.
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I'm a 14 yr old girl and the other day my dad found weed in my sisters jacket he went ballistic. He punched her several times and then choked her. All our mother did was say No, Stop,No. Like wtf is that going to do? My dad is a very big and strong man. When I do something wrong like forget to vacume my dad wraps his hands around my throat like he's about to choke me. It's been like this for me ever since I was About 5 or 6. I just can't continue to live in constant fear. The even that happened recently with my sister I just can't seem to get it out of my mind. I get drunk next day wake up have a hangover still remember. Get high still freaking remember! I just don't know what to do. Please help me (link)
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Just to add to what everyone else said, this is serious. Its not a joke. Its something that needs to be taken care of and stopped. Don't try to protect your dad or your family by just hoping it will go away, or by taking the easy way out. You really do need to make those calls and get that help, because this isn't going to go away unless you do.
If you haven't called already you need to do so now. I'm serious.
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I dated this guy in primary(im now in high school) and it was a preety harsh brake up.Days after he ended it I started never coming out of my room. I still stay in my room but now i dont eat or drink and my body goes all tingley. I just need to know why it is. Can you help me??? (link)
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You're in what we call the grieving phase after a relationship is terminated. What you are experiencing is fairly normal.
Its important that eventually you start to eat normally again and talking with people and try to continue on with your social life as it was before. There's no reason to torture yourself over something like this, no matter how bad it seems.
You're just starting high school, and I'm sure there are plenty better, nicer, smarter, cooler, more attractive guys who will treat you better and make you feel better about yourself.
Just remember that in the grand scheme of things, its really not that big a deal. You may feel bad right now, but I promise you will look back some day and be able to take a sigh of relief, and smile once you reach a better time in your life.
I can assure you there will be plenty of them to come. ;)
Good luck.
xChaos
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I'm 17, my guy friend were talking and he called me a tease yesterday and today. I think he's joking we Ushually mess around about stuff but yesterday I told him me and my friend made dancing videos and he asked to see and I said maybe, then when I have him the choice of seeing them or not and he said u don't have to show him I said "fine then it's settled:P" and he said I was a tease. And then tonight it was raining here and not at his house and he said he wished it would rain there so I told him he could just come stay here every night (he knows I'm joking) and I said said but then you probably wouldn't be thinking about the rain(; and he said but that's just a big tease and I asked how and he said how isn't it? And I said it's not, and he just said never mind. Idk what exactly he means, and if it's a bad thing. I know why a tease is but shouldn't that mean it makes him want something more? (link)
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I don't think some girls understand what its like for a guy to get teased by them.
When a girl teases you, its usually the sign to a guy that she likes him, and wants him to be sexually interested in her (even if its not explicit, such as with the things you are saying).
I can guarantee you that everything you are doing is making him want you more and be more interested in you. But at the same time it can often be sexually frustrating, not fun, because when there is no follow through the guy is left with blue balls basically.
On the other hand, when girls tease me, I often respond by shrugging it off, or acting like I don't care all that much, as a way of reverse teasing, and making myself seem more desirable and cool.
If you like this guy, keep doing what you're doing, but eventually you are going to want to make things more clear, because sometimes guys start to think that you really are just teasing and aren't actually interested in them.
But if you don't want him I suggest you stop, because it will just make things very complicated.
Good luck.
xChaos
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Am 20 yo f and the tot of marriage absolutely irritates me. When i fink about d fact dat i should be married in a few yrs it gives me the creeps. The thing is am an only child so i feel guilty cos dat means my parents wont have any grandkids.... (link)
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Who says you cant have kids? You can have kids with a boyfriend or something.
Marriage isn't mandatory anymore. You're not a piece of property. Its just an idea that society put into everyone's heads. Plenty of people decide to be single and never get married, and to just live with their partners.
You have plenty of time to change your mind anyways. So just enjoy yourself. This is your life, do what you want with it, and perhaps more importantly, don't do what you don't want to do. ;)
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The thing is that i have a boyfriend named matthew and my mom doesnt want me to but i really like him and stuff like that. me an my mother have been argueing about this for over a month now she doesnt trust me to do anything please help me what do i do to gain her trust but also have matthew as my boyfriend still. (link)
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Its really none of your mothers business who you are with or what you do as long as you are being safe, and as long as the person you are with isn't a clear danger to you. It doesn't matter what age you are. That is your personal business and it is disrespectful for anyone to come between you and someone you care about, and who cares about you.
That being said, if your mother is the kind of person who might change her opinion by being around this guy (assuming hes a good guy of course) I think that would be a good way of making her trust the two of you being together more.
If that works, give it time. After a while she will learn to live with it. Parents can be really over protective at first when their children get into relationships. Its a natural reaction. But its something they have to learn to deal with sooner or later.
If your mother really cares about you at all, she will learn to accept your feelings for him, and hopefully come to support you. You're not going to stop growing up, so she really doesn't have a choice either way.
Good luck.
xChaos
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i am a 13 year old girl and i feel like a freak! none of my friends masterbate and they think its groos and weird! i havent told anyone though and i plan to keep it to myself! OMG i feel like a freak!! is it normal??? i do it daily in my bed and rub the leg of my stuffed animal on my vagina!!! is that normal! help me and please dont say mean things!! (link)
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Here's the truth. Your friends masturbate just as much, if not more than you do. 100% guaranteed.
They would never admit it, because its considered socially inappropriate for girls to admit that sort of thing. Its mandatory to deny it at your age.
Masturbation is a normal human behavior. The only abnormal sexual behavior is no sexual behavior at all. So if they didn't masturbate, they would be the weird ones.
If someone ever tells you they don't, or have never masturbated, you can pretty much be sure they are lying.
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Hey,
okay so me and my ex broke up over a year ago.
Since then he went back to his ex,then broke up again. Then got another gf and split up. Now he fancies some other girl.
However, we met up the other day at college and he seemed into me. But on fb it's obvious he likes this new girl. Basically there is an agreement we are 'friends' and he gave me a christmas card.
Should I delete him off facebook? Because basically I keep on getting hurt-but then I don't want to look like a cow :/
Any advice much appriciated :) (link)
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Its always tough to be friends with your exes, especially after bad breakups. You have to keep seeing them talking to people and going out with other people and being happy without you. I always end up blocking and then deleting my ex girlfriends just because seeing them at all makes me really mad.
You don't have anything to gain by staying friends with him, and really only have everything to lose. Its best if you block him, because if you don't it will be hard to move on.
Additionally, if he tries to come back to you now, its a clear sign that you're just a backup plan. Don't let that happen. You need to be either his first choice, or not with him at all.
Good luck.
xChaos
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so my boyfriend and me have been going out for 5 months now. and we never fight its great. cause were both really chill :) .... but .... :( **iam 16 years old btw. (female)
(now i kknow this is going to sound bad please dont judge it just happen.... i feel aweful and i regret it but please dont judge with what i am about to say.)
--> so i really do love and care for him and he tells me he feels the same way. but his personality is always humor not to serious just likes to joke and have fun which i dont mind i find it amusing :p and im kinda the same so it works great. but last night i was sleeping over at his friends house with him and we were all in his friends bed. (me, my boyfriend and his friend) and were all pretty close haha but jokingly to piss off / amuse his friend as a joke me and my boyfriend started having sex. in the bed. and his friend lying right there (dont judge i know it sounds bad) but to be honest i only do this stuff cause he tells me to and i just wanna make him happy. i will admit im kinda whipped. but anyways so then as a joke he told his friend to join in. and hes always joked about 3 some. / sharing me (jokingly) and we had something like this happen before but not that bad just kiss. (same guy) as a dare. with him there. and so anyways he kept telling me to. and they both kept telling me to and to be honest i felt really pressured. and so i gave in. at first it was like jokingly i let him fuck me. :( with my boyfriend right there in the bed. and i just did it cause i felt pressured to by them. and my boyfriend just laughed at first and made little comments. then lied there and \"slept\" per say but i know he was awake but i dont know why i let his friend keep going. i honestly just didnt know what to say i wanted it to stop but i didnt have the guts to stop him. i was frozzeen. i didnt enjoy his friend at all i just wanted to be with my boyfriend. :( anyways i think this time it made him mad. cause he left the room. got up and walked out. and i was left there with his friend . and his friends like i think he cares this time... im like well then why did he tell me to? :( ugh!!! anyways i got up and left to and went to the couch away from them both and just cried all night. think im stupid and just fucked up how could i let this happen. now hes mad :/ which isnt what i wanted i really love and care for him i just wanted to make him happy. not mad. i did what he said i went along with his joke. and anyways his friend told me this ....
\"yeah he never admits to liking you and or any of his girlfriends and he wont ever admit it to us cause he just is hiding his emotions but i can tell as his bestfriend he really does care and like you cause of what he got you for christmas and the fact that what we just did effected him (it apparently never effected him in the past) but he must really like you cause he never spends money on his girlfriends and in the past hes onlydated a girl about a month or two and they fight all the time and we have been together 5 (almost 6) months and no fighting. and the fact he is moody and u effect his moods shows he cares.
(but the next morning he just walked by and left the house. he didnt say goodbye or anything to me....)
so basically im just asking. was last nights incident proof that he cares about me cause it effected him to see me with another guy? cause it never used to effect him apparently when he had a 3some in the past. and is what his friend saying true? or did i just fuck up and loose a guy i really care about :( i dont know what to do. or should i dump him cause he is treating me like a trophy and has no respect for me? :/ :( like i dont know what to think anymore. i do not want to loose him though cause all our friends are the same. i just dont know if im being treated like a trophy and used. or if he really cares and hes just starting to show it. please help :( sorry for it being so long :/ (link)
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I'm gonna be straight up with you even though you may not like it.
Your boyfriend is awful. Utter garbage. You probably shouldn't have done what you did, and his friend is stupid as well. But your boyfriend doesn't deserve you at all. How the hell is going to pressure his girlfriend into having sex with his best friend right in front of him, and then turn around and act like hes mad at you? That's honestly one of the dumbest things I have ever heard.
It is 100% his fault. Any bad feelings he has he completely deserves because hes an idiot. Don't feel sorry for him. You deserve much better than that. If a man is willing to share his woman with another man like that, it just shows that he's not territorial over you at all, and doesn't really care about you. When a guy really cares about you, he will want to keep you to himself, not basically force you into a threesome and then turn around and act like a sad little bitch with his tail tucked between his legs as he mopes around.
So here's my advice, dump him completely. No second chance. Period. Find a better guy. Don't have threesomes if you want a serious committed relationship. And don't let guys pressure you into doing things. And if they do, don't lay all of the blame on yourself afterwards when its completely and totally their fault. And don't feel bad for them when they decide to be morons and ruin things between you.
There are much stronger and more romantic guys out there who will treat you right, and protect you, and not pressure you into things that you aren't comfortable with. You're worth it, and don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise.
Good luck.
xChaos
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