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my parents dont want me to have a boyfriend but i do
The thing is that i have a boyfriend named matthew and my mom doesnt want me to but i really like him and stuff like that. me an my mother have been argueing about this for over a month now she doesnt trust me to do anything please help me what do i do to gain her trust but also have matthew as my boyfriend still.
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Being someone who is old enough to probably be your grandfather. I could probably help you deal with your mother if I knew your age and the age of the boy.
There are many different reasons parents object to their children being in relationships. One of them is age and age difference. This is why I have asked you about your age and the age of the boy.
It is not always a trust issue about you especially when the YOU is the female in the relationship. You may be forgetting we were all once your age and not much has changed since we were your age. Your mom is only trying to protect you, I believe.
It gets a little complicated here and the more I know about you and your boyfriend the more I might understand why your mother is being the ways she is. If I can understand why mom is acting as she is I may be able to give you some suggestions as to helping her to see your side of the equation and coming to a workable solution.
Again I really don't think this is a trust issue on towards you. Write me a private message if you would like more help.
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Its really none of your mothers business who you are with or what you do as long as you are being safe, and as long as the person you are with isn't a clear danger to you. It doesn't matter what age you are. That is your personal business and it is disrespectful for anyone to come between you and someone you care about, and who cares about you.
That being said, if your mother is the kind of person who might change her opinion by being around this guy (assuming hes a good guy of course) I think that would be a good way of making her trust the two of you being together more.
If that works, give it time. After a while she will learn to live with it. Parents can be really over protective at first when their children get into relationships. Its a natural reaction. But its something they have to learn to deal with sooner or later.
If your mother really cares about you at all, she will learn to accept your feelings for him, and hopefully come to support you. You're not going to stop growing up, so she really doesn't have a choice either way.
Good luck.
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