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How to tell my boyfriend that he's moving to fast for me
Hello,
I'm 19 years old and very confused. Just a week or two ago, I met a guy at a party who I seemed to like. That very same night, we ended up making out and exchanging numbers obviously. Throughout the week, we hungout many times and I guess he talked me into foreplay. A few days after that, he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said no because it was moving to fast. Then literally two days later, he asked me again. I felt bad saying "no" , so I said yes and just thought I'd see how it goes. It's only been a few days but I feel as though I don't like him as much as I should. He's such a nice guy, but i feel as though I barely know him. I want to take it much slower, but I just don't know what exactly to say considering I accepted the relationship ( stupid of me). I hate to say it , but normally I like mean guys and he's just so nice to me and is all over me all the time. I wanna talk to him and see where it goes, but I don't think im ready for a full on relationship. HELP!
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You met this guy at a party, You willingly made out with him and exchanged numbers. This right here could of given the guy the wrong impression.
If you don't want to be seen as easy, Then don't give a man any reason to think you are. I do however credit you for wanting to take the relationship slow and how you do, You need to just tell him how it is. "I am really into you but I really would like to slow things down and take it a day at a time" If the guy doesn't seem to want to go with that then clearly he didn't want a very serious relationship. If you don't want to be full on then I really think you might want to have the talk with him about taking it a day at time as that would technically be the best way to go. If you don't know him then slow it down and get to know him and they say....It takes at least 6 months to start to get to truly know someone. Talk to him
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Tell him exactly what you said here. If you want to take it slow tell him you want to take it slow. If he refuses to slow down then break up with him. You barely know each other and haven't invested much into each other at this point, so there is nothing to lose in breaking it off. You will only save the both of you from a potentially bad relationship.
If you don't think you're ready for a relationship, then you probably aren't ready for a relationship. The only reason you are "in a relationship" 9and I use that term loosely) right now is because clearly you think you are somewhat ready for a relationship with him, otherwise you would have just said no, regardless of how many times he asked.
If you like this guy enough, give it some time to develop. You never know. It could turn out to be amazing after all once you get to know each other better. But if you start to get the vibe that its not going anywhere for you, do yourself a favor and break it off before you start to make yourself feel bad.
Talk with him about how you feel and see how he responds, and then base your decision off of that.
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