I wanna drink bleach and kill myself. I can't take it. Please help
Question Posted Saturday December 31 2011, 12:23 am
I'm a 14 yr old girl and the other day my dad found weed in my sisters jacket he went ballistic. He punched her several times and then choked her. All our mother did was say No, Stop,No. Like wtf is that going to do? My dad is a very big and strong man. When I do something wrong like forget to vacume my dad wraps his hands around my throat like he's about to choke me. It's been like this for me ever since I was About 5 or 6. I just can't continue to live in constant fear. The even that happened recently with my sister I just can't seem to get it out of my mind. I get drunk next day wake up have a hangover still remember. Get high still freaking remember! I just don't know what to do. Please help me
SwimxRun answered Thursday January 5 2012, 10:29 pm: This is bad. Im really sorry about your sister! She probably also doesnt know what to do! Your mom is wrong doing that. Your dad for choking and punching like that, he could end up in jail!!! Thats child abuse and not right. you need to tell someone at school or something. Even the police.that is not right! DO NOT KILL YOURSELF. get help, thats not a way to live! [ SwimxRun's advice column | Ask SwimxRun A Question ]
jessie22 answered Monday January 2 2012, 6:41 am: You definitalley don't need to kill yourself. When you're alone call Social Services or the police and they will get you out of that shithole and put your dad in jail and probally sue your mom... if you need any other help or someone to talk to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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mizznette1 answered Sunday January 1 2012, 4:43 am: I think that you guys should be removed from this situation immediately. If not someone is going to be seriously hurt or maybe even die from his actions. You owe this to yourself to get the hell out of this .Go to the cops or talk to an adult at school this is not going to go away on its own. I will be praying for you. [ mizznette1's advice column | Ask mizznette1 A Question ]
Denabella answered Sunday January 1 2012, 12:12 am: Get out of there now. You need to go to the police and tell them. This is abuse and this is serious. If you don't act now, it'll get worse. And please... don't kill yourself and give the "man" and I use the term loosely, any satisfaction. But you and your sister need to get out and now. Be safe, and I'll keep you in my prayers. [ Denabella's advice column | Ask Denabella A Question ]
xChaos answered Saturday December 31 2011, 8:57 pm: Just to add to what everyone else said, this is serious. Its not a joke. Its something that needs to be taken care of and stopped. Don't try to protect your dad or your family by just hoping it will go away, or by taking the easy way out. You really do need to make those calls and get that help, because this isn't going to go away unless you do.
adviceman49 answered Saturday December 31 2011, 4:38 pm: Erinn_the_bamf advice to call the suicide hot line is good information. I will add an organization called RAINN. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They also operate a 24/7 hotline that can help you and your sister, your mother too, get away from your father and his abuse. child abuse is illegal in all 50 states and most civilized countries of the world. RAINNS hotline number is: 1-800-656-HOPE.
There is also one other thing you can do. When you return to school on Tuesday seek out a trusted teacher or your school principal. Tell them what you have told us. By law they must take action to protect you and your sister.
If something happens before you can call one of the hot lines or before you go back to school call 911. Tell the call taker what is happening in as calm a voice as possible. The calmer you are the faster help will get to you.
Don't worry about whether you will be believed. From what you have written the marks on you and your sister will tell the police all they need to know.
As for your drinking. I know why you are drinking and it is not good for someone your age to be doing so. Once you get help for the abuse you will have no reason to drink and should stop doing so. If you need help in stopping contact Alcoholics Anonymous. They have programs for teenagers as well as adults.
There is help out there for you. Hurting yourself is not the answer. Call the hot lines we have supplied. Tell you teacher or principal or call the police. These are the ways you can get help for you, your sister and your mom without hurting yourself. By doing so you will also get help for your dad.
This is the suicide hotline number. I urge you to call this number. Suicide is NEVER answer, and the people on the other end of the phone can help you with what you are feeling.
Next, call 1-800-4-A-CHILD
This is the child abuse hotline. Unfortunately, no one on this site can stop your dad from abusing you and your sister, but these people can. No matter what you and your sister may do against your parents wishes, it is 100% illegal for any parent to put their hands on their child. Your mother is probably terrified, which is why she isn't taking much action. The most important thing to remember is this is not your fault. Your father isn't acting like a decent parent, and right now you and your sister's safety is the priority. Please call this number for help as soon as possible. [ Erinn_the_bamf's advice column | Ask Erinn_the_bamf A Question ]
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