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Love
growing up not having my dad around really messed me up. he never told me he loved me and as a result to that I have been on a search for love ever since. Ive been with all kinds of guys who abused me mentally physically and emotionally. I have been heart broken so many timetimes... How do I get over the whole "i neef love" phase ?
18F
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I have been through exactly what you have been through. My father abandoned my mother and I when I was ten, cheated on her, and started a whole new other family. He didn't care about us, and he still doesn't. He has four other kids that he never ever pays child support for, including me and my sister...but that's not something that is relevant to your situation... so...
Anyway, since I have been abandoned, I have always had this longing for love just as you have. I've been with too many jerks, and it has caused me to become insecure and paranoid and afraid of being hurt. I have a hard time coping with such feelings. But because I am like this, I tend to get attached easily....
I'm sure we are similar.
I would suggest seeing a counselor or a close friend for your phase. But honest, I'm sure you'll find someone that will be patient and loving to you even if you are needy and have been hurt badly in the past to where it effects you presently. If you need any help, inbox me.
xoxo
romeoandrebecca
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At only 18 to realize the true foundation of your problems is very mature of you. You are still very young and tender but that only means the quicker and sooner you build your self-esteem the quicker you can start living your life for you.
You have to start loving yourself. All that... "im looking for love......." you can find it with yourself. Do things that make you feel good. Whatever it is. Also be vocal about your feelings about your dad to someone you trust, a best friend, your mom, maybe even a therapist.
Now, one thing you must never do is let no boy abuse you, Take advantage of you in any type of way, etc. Remember the past you can not change but you have the power to build your own present and future. You will get over it one day at a time. I wish you all the best, Good Luck!!!
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well if you think about it... life isn't all about love! your only 18 and you still have your whole life in front of you! don't go after guys just because you miss your dad or you miss his love. if you lived without him however long or he never said "i love you" to you, im sure you can live with it more! it may hurt, but he doesn't know what he's missing!
you're his daughter, his little girl! i'm sure he will always remember that!
when my mom was little, her dad never showed up! he always said he would be there and my mom would watch out the window waiting for him and he never came, until she just forgot about it! yeah she missed him and wondered why all of this happened... but you can't change it!
my mom dies when i was in 2nd grade! yeah i used to cry but if you really think about it.. no matter how much you cry, it's never going to change the fact of what it is!
if you know where your dad lives or anything, take him out to dinner or something and talk serious about all of it! tell him how you feel. tell him EVERYTHING! i really hope everything goes well!
but im sure A LOT of people love and care about you!
good luck!(: hope i helped
if you have any questions ask!(:
melissa.
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