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I am seventeen female I have been with my boyfriend fir two years and we have been having sex for one year already and I can not orgasm I have no idea what I'm searching for like in what it feels like or if I'm even close to ever having one can anyone help me I'm getting disgraced and my boyfriend is getting even more frustrated I don't know what to do anymore please help...

There are a number of reasons why you are having a problem. First understand if a boy gets an erection the chance of him not cumming is about 1% at your ages. Basically a boy gets hard he can cum through oral, hand or intercourse at almost anytime or any place.


For a girl it is a little more complicated. Unlike a boy a girl cannot just drop her pants and have intercourse. She needs foreplay. She needs to be comfortable and she needs to feel safe in her surroundings. Remove any of these three things and the boy will get off and she probably will not.


What I suggest is that you first find out if you can orgasm. To do so I suggest you go in your bedroom, lock the door, undress and make love to yourself. Call it self-foreplay or masturbation if you want. There is no sin in masturbation it is after all nothing more than foreplay and according to a recent survey 85 percent of us do it. Most religions condone masturbation including the Catholic church.


If you can relax in your own room and bring yourself to orgasm then there's nothing wrong with you. What you will find out is if you are clitoral or vaginal in nature. If you can orgasm by stimulating your clitoris then what you need to do is get your boy friend to stimulate your clitoris during foreplay and to find positions that allow for greater stimulation of your clitoris during intercourse.


You may also find that you need to spend more time on foreplay before actually having intercourse. Teenage boys are always in a rush to get to the act, so you may have to slow him down both before, during fore play and while having intercourse to allow you to catch up to him.


By the way this is fairly normal for people your age. Boys are quick on the trigger so research the web to find ways to slow him down and I think you will find what you are missing as well.

I hope I have helped.

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Ok so 13/f and I have a boyfriend(13) and a best guy friend(14) and they dont get along, at all. Today I hung out with my best guy friend and I didnt really tell my boyfriend about it. We hung out from 1-4:30pm. During this time we went to Tim Hortons, went to our school and played basketball and we walked and talked throughout town. We had alot of fun and he is a really close friend so he was joking around and put his arm around me and stuff. I was alittle stunned but I went along with it. We were walking along this one street and he had his arm around me and we were talking and laughing and all of a sudden, he leans in and kisses my cheek. I was freaking out inside. I have a boyfriend! I didnt even have enough time to duck away. I dont know what to do! Should I tell my boyfriend? I promised my best guy friend I wouldnt tell anyone but Im scared. Most of the people in my school dont know me and this guy are friends and I saw 2 other guy friends and the one shouted out my name so I obviously looked to see who it was. No one except my mom of course knows about me hanging out with the guy. I dont know what to do! Please help! I cant obviously tell my boyfriend about him kissing my cheek but can I tell him we hung out? Advice please!

This question might be best asked in the open forum as I am one of the older advisers hear and it has been sometime since I've been 13.


I will say this that I think honesty is the best policy. Since you did nothing to encourage the boy to kiss you, you have nothing to worry about by telling your boyfriend about it. Just tell him what happened.


You did not ask but I will stick this in anyway. At 13 I believe you are too young to be having exclusive dating relations. Here again your mother is aware of your relationship and she is the one raising you so her judgement prevails. My feelings are the at at 13 you should be group dating mostly for the protection it offers you while you grow the skills required to date exclusively.

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My boyfriend has more experience then i do in kissing so its like i feel that im not good enough sometimes.. today he said im getting BETTER.. whats that mean??? and how can i get better at kissing??

There is only one way to learn anything that is to practice. So tell your boyfriend to pucker up.


Kissing like everything else in life; it is a learned experience. Your boyfriend wasn't great at kissing when he first kissed a girl either. He had to learn from someone. The best way to learn is by doing and each person is going to be a little different in the way they like to kiss and be touched and caressed. So it is a constant learning experience until you find the guy you marry.

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help me!!!!!!!!!!
i had sex with my boyfriend last night
he couldnt get his penis in my vagina
HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!


(19) female

Below you will find a link to a website I have given other women who are having first time sex. Which might be from the sound of your question your problem. I suggest both you and your boyfriend read the information on this site.


The problem you experienced happens a lot. Most likely your muscles clenched not allowing the boys penis to enter. Their are a number of reasons for this and you can over come this.


First you need to relax and be comfortable. This means finding a place to have sex where you won't be intruded upon or discovered and can take your time. Like everything else sex is a learned experience. In order for a penis to enter your vagina you must be lubricated or as we all say wet. If you are in the mood and properly excited by foreplay your body will lubricate by itself sufficiency for the boy to enter.

Now the boys penis size does matter but you will stretch to accommodate him. Remember what comes out of your vagina during child birth. This is why you must be relaxed so that you can be stretched to accommodate the boys penis. First time sex will always be troublesome as this is a new experience. The boy has to be patient and not try to force his way into you.


Next time you have sex or try, make sure you have a comfortable place where you can relax. Where the two of you can get to know each other and get acquainted with each others body. Let him finger you and you play with him. This is all part of foreplay and much needed to learn about each others body's before actual intercourse. In fact call this a deep make out session and have one or two of them before attempting intercourse again. This gets you use to be naked with each other and more comfortable with each others body.

Then if this is a first time;if he is large. Some K-Y jelly will help your natural lubricant and make for a better experience.


http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.

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How do you have sex by yourself?

It is called Masturbation. For more information look it up on the Web.

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my mom is always yelling at me and my sister and brother. She always makes me do things that she can do. She always says her back hurts really bad to where she cant walk but she walks around the house perfectly. She yells at my sister and spanks her to where she lays on the floor and cries.I always feel like crying when she yells at my step dad.And i feel like he is gonna leave us.She always yells and throws stuff for no reason.Just now she said my little sister didnt get spanked and i saw her.My mom put my brother through a wall what do i do to stop her from being an idiot to me and my family?

I suggest you tell a trusted teacher or your school principal what is going on at your house. They will know what to do. You have not given us enough information for us to give you true directions and your teacher or principal can ask you questions they need answers to so they can help you.

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I'm a senior in high school. I just turned 18 like 5 days ago. There is this sophomore in my high school who really likes me but I dont like him in that way at all. He cant take a hint. He always texts me and writes me on facebook. When I dont respond, he still texts me like every 3 hours. I dont know any other way to tell him to leave me alone without being mean. Can you please help me? Thanks.

The quickest and easiest way to deflate a guy who is interested in you but your not interested in him. Is to tell him your interest in him is of that by which one would look upon a younger brother. That pretty much lets him know that he has no chance of getting to any of the bases for he has no chance of getting to bat.


If that doesn't work then you have to tell him straight out you have no interest in him and he has to stop harassing you. If he doesn't you will report him to the proper authorities for harassment.

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what will happen one boy do handsex daily

If you are talking about masturbating the answer is nothing; just so long as his masturbation does not replace all other activities.


Masturbation is normal. According to a recent survey 85% of the population masturbate. This includes married adults. Masturbation is a good and safe way to relieve sex tension when normal forms of sexual relief are not available.

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People At My School Keep Calling Me Anorexic. Here Is Why I Think:

-I Have A Fear Of Gaining Weight
-I Count My Calories
-I Do Think I'm Fat
-I Starve Myself
-Food Kinda Grosses Me Out

If I'm Not Anorexic, What Do I Have?

I'm not a doctor so I can't say for sure if your anorexic or not. Form what you have written in my opinion if you are not truly diagnosed as being anorexic you are very close to being one.


My wife and I have a friend who's daughter was anorexic. The illness killed her. She was a Porrima Ballerina with a New Your Ballet Company. She knew she was anorexic and she did try to fight it but it was to little to late. Watching her die was a horrible thing to watch. Here was this pretty young girl, 21 years of age, who weighed less than most middle schoolers.


If you are anorexic or even think you are seek help now for what you have to look forward to is both painful and humiliating. Your body will do everything it can to save itself. To do so means it will start shutting down. First you will have Kidney problems followed by Kidney failure. Then liver problems, followed by breathing and heart problems. By this time you will be in the hospital most likely on life support with the end very near. Your parents will be in tears but you won't hear them because you'll be in a comma.


Yes, I mean to scare you this is a horrible eating disorder for which vanity is the cause. The models you see in magazines are all suffering in different ways and take all types of drugs legal and illegal to get through the photo sessions. You don't want or need to look like them. It is a false image.


If your feel you have this eating disorder get to a doctor NOW.

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is talking to another female about her virginity and losing it to another person but u dont go out with that someone but your girlfriend says that is cheating. Do u consider that cheating?

Talking about sex and having sex are two different things. Talking but not doing is not cheating. You can even lust for someone but until you actually have sex it is not cheating.


Former President Carter once said openly he had lust in his heart. This from a sitting President. He never acted upon his lust as he very much loves his wife. Even though he may have lust in his heart he has never cheated.

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What is your opinion on age gaps? I'm talking 16 and 21.. is it wrong? is it okay if you've known them for a long. Is it okay to be friends with people that much older than you. I'm 16 f and hes 21 m. im worried even being friends makes him look like a bad guy.

Your bigger worry is not what being friends with him makes him look like. From a legal stand point being in any type of relationship with him runs the risk of him being charged with statutory rape.


There is a 5 year age difference between the two of you. You are under the age of consent in most states. It matters not if you two are in a sexual relationship. Statutory rape has nothing to do with rape or sex and everything to do with the difference in age and you being under the age of consent.


Then there is the fact that he is 21 a grown adult. You may not be truly a child though in the eyes of the law you are. In the eyes of the law a 21 year old in a relation ship with a 16 year old they will question if he could be a child predator.


Your relationship at this time places him at great legal risk, something he should be very aware of. If for any reason the law questions your relationship he faces the possibility of spending most of the rest of his adult life in prison.


If you were 21 and he 26 no one would question your relationship. This is not a good relationship for you to be in. I'm surprised that if your parents know about this relationship they are allowing it to continue. There are all sorts of alarm bells going off in my head right now.

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This guy and I have become friends over the last few months. I am into him and while I've never directly told him this, it's no secret; he has to be very well aware of it. In many ways it seems like he's into me too. We hang out a lot, stay up all night on the weekends, talk over Facebook for hours about nothing, and sometimes do nutty things (like for instance the 3-hour staring contest or like tearing around campus and climbing trees for no reason at midnight, haha). If he's not into me, I don't know why he would do this stuff to the degree he does.

However, this is really puzzling and frustrating me: I have done everything but kiss him, but I am the only one making physical advances - aside from semi-rough play-fighting such as wrestling over a nerf gun, which he does without hesitation, although I usually initiate it. But for instance, we were watching a movie and I put my head on his shoulder and he just didn't do anything. He lets me play with his hair, draw on his hands, practically sit on his lap, and doesn't seem to mind at all, but he won't do anything like put his arm around me, he just sits there like a rock. He does hug me goodbye, but seems kind of awkward about it like he isn't sure how to do it. I almost kissed him last time we said goodbye - hugged him and then pulled back a little and we looked at each other, and I couldn't get up the nerve and he wasn't doing anything at all to help, and I said "goddamnit" and he laughed because he knew exactly what was going on and we went our separate ways. Yeah, I'm frustrated both with him and myself...

Before you ask: no, he isn't gay; he has stated that he is straight. We are both 19. I don't know how many girlfriends he's had in the past because he gives off a very inexperienced vibe (I've never had a boyfriend, so the inexperienced thing is mutual). He is very, very shy and also a rather strange person (not complaining, I'm pretty strange myself, but just saying) and I kind of get the feeling that maybe he doesn't have the slightest clue what to do with a girl...? But how hard would it be for him to just grab my hand or something? He's got to know I like him...

Why do you think he's being so physically reserved? Should I just kiss him sometime and see what happens? Should I risk the awkward factor and tell him straight out that I'm not a mind reader and ask what his feelings are? I am tired of being confused and frustrated.

At first I wasn't going to answer this question. Then after rethinking about it I thought I might be able to help.


This guy sounds like a wonderful guy who has a great deal of respect for you and enjoys your friendship. His shyness and in experience around girls is an inhibiting factor that probably is very deep seated put their by probably a over bearing mother.


He may want to go to the next level in your relationship but his upbringing won't allow him to make that first move; you are going to have to. Because you are also inexperienced how you make that first move is going to be difficult.


One way is to talk about it. In conversation you need to let him know you want or desire to take your relationship to that next level. You may have to even draw him a picture so to speak of what that next level is. Is it making out or do you desire full on sexual intercourse with him.


I would not suggest you try and get this guy into bed with you without first talking with him and finding out if he is ready to go their. It may also just be possible he wishes to remain a virgin until he marries and is to shy to say something to you about it. This is why I believe you need to take the lead here and you must start with a conversation.

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I think Im anerexiant. I havent eaten anything for a week but not because I dont want to gain weight. Its because I am so depressed and just cant eat. I have thrown up stomach acid every 3 or 4 hours the week I havent eaten. What should I do? I want to eat but everytime I try, I gag and throw up again. Im 13/f. Thanx for any advice .

You are not anorexic but you may be depressed about something or it just may be how puberty is hitting you that is the root cause of the depression you are feeling. Given the time of the year it is also very possible you have a mild case of stomach flu.


Being 13 I'm going to go with the last two possibilities. Teenagers today do suffer from teenage depression generally brought on by puberty. Girls suffer more than boys because of all the changes puberty brings on, we will call these internal changes. Plus all teenagers face new external changes both at school and at home. Your not a child any more and yet your not an adult, still more is expect of you.


This adds to your stress levels; stress causes depression. In the old days this was called a phase we would grow out of and most of us did. Today we know better and doctors can help teenagers with this problem.


You are not mentally ill. One or two of the hormones your body produces is not being produced in sufficient quantity to keep your mood in balance. A simple pill will supplement those hormones while you body adjust to the stressors now being thrown at it.


As for the flu; some of the symptoms of the flu mimic some of the symptoms of depression. A visit with the family doctor will tell which you are suffering from. I suggest you ask mom or dad to make an appointment with your family doctor and you ask the doctor to evaluate you for teenage depression. Tell the doctor exactly how you feel. If need be ask to see the doctor privately.

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Okay, this question will be very detailed and graphic, sorry about that, but I think it's necessary. I'm 17 and female, my boyfriend and I love each other very much and have been together for a long time. On Thursday, we were together in his bed and we started to make out. Clothes came off, things got heavy, and I gave him head. He finished in my mouth, and then we cuddled. Neither of us were wearing any clothes at this point. His penis never went in me, I don't even think it touched the front of me, but I need someone to tell me that I'm just being paranoid and I couldn't be pregnant. I'm a worrier, about everything, and driving myself crazy! Please help!

You are being paranoid. As long as his penis did not' enter you or come into close proximity to your vagina with any semen emanating or remaining on him you cannot be pregnant.


There is a Federal Law called HIPPA which has a part that was specifically written for young women. This part allows for young people to see doctors concerning there reproductive system without parental permission. This law affords them total confidentiality once they reach the age of 14.


You can visit any doctor or GYN and discuss any problem in confidence. Not the doctors or their staff can tell your parents why you are see the doctor or what you are being treated for. If you want birth control pills the doctor will write a prescription which the pharmacy must fill in confidence.


If you are this paranoid about pregnancy you might want to consider seeing a doctor about birth control. You do not need parental permission to do so or as I said to be treated by the doctor. If mom accompanys you to the doctor she will be told she must stay in the waiting room.


While at the doctors office you will be asked to sign the office HIPPA compliance form. This form explains your rights under HIPPA. One of which is you must express in writing who the doctor can tell about any condition you are treated for before the doctor can release aby information. You cannot be forced to give anyone permission including your parents.

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i got to an accident with a tree and i have learner's permit with insurance but no one got hurt so my question is are we going to get help from insurance company if we don't have license? but we do have insurance policy

If you were operating the vehicle legally with a licensed driver next you; yes the insurance company will have to pay to the limits of the policy. Otherwise stephiipuff is correct in what she told you. If you did not have a licensed driver over 21 in the car with you the insurance company can refuse to pay the claim.


The law requires that someone over 21 with a fully valid license to operate a motor vehicle be in the front passenger seat at all times with some one driving on a learner's permit. NO insurance companies have been known to repair cars that have been stolen. If you tool the car without permission the insurance company may repair it under the limits of the policy provided charges have been filed.

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I Hate My Body, And I Think I'm Fat. I've Been Starving Myself, But Then I Break Through And Eat. Please Tell Me How I Can FULLY Starve Myself For A Long Time. (Slso, I Don't Know If I'm Anorexic)

First: You are not anorexic at least not in the true definition of the disease.


Second: Starvation diets are not the way to loose weight. Several things happen that can actually do you physical harm and you could find yourself in the hospital if you are successful in starving yourself.


One of the reasons you end up binging after a few days of starving is your bodies self preservation system. It is our self preservation system that anorexics learn to overcome and eventually they end up dieing because of it.


If you look at your body as an car. Your brain is the engine. Your heart is the fuel pump and the lungs are the carburetor. Your blood is the gas that everything works off of. Your body is going to do all that it can to preserve these functions. Food is the fuel that keeps the engine running.


When the body runs out of stored energy, fat which can be in this scenario the battery, the body starts to turn off those systems it does not need to keep the engine (brain) running. First the Kidneys, then the Liver, then the Lungs. The last thing the body turns of is the fuel pump, the heart, since there is no fuel left to pump.


Even though you may think you are fat your body is saying different. What you are saying or seeing as fat your body is not able to use or make into energy to keep things running. So it triggers your self preservation alarm and you binge. Any weight you may have lost is regained.


Now if you are trying to look like the models in the magazine or Victoria Secrets forget it. Most of them are so sick they need drugs to get through a shoot and the pictures are air brushed to get them perfect.


What I suggest is you go to the doctor and find out what you ideal weight is. If you are over weight ask the doctor to help you lose weight with a proper diet plan. A proper diet plan includes three meals a day and two snack plus the right exercise.

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Idk why but I keep farting I'm a girl btw. Its really weird. I bet ur problably laughing but it's serious. I always poop too.... ALOT. I need help

You fart because you have gas in your intestines it is natural. The food you eat can be the cause of the gas. If you eat a lot of greens you are going to have a lot of gas build up. The gas needs to come out and will do so one way or the other, no pun intended.


If you have or think you have excess gas seeing a Gastroenterologist might be in order. They are the doctors that deal with the digest and intestinal track.


Before going to the doctor try watching what you eat. Keep a food diary; stay away from green vegetables, leafy greens and limit your soda and carbonated drinks to maybe one a day or not at all. Brussels Sprouts, Green Beans, Kidney Beans and any other type of beans as well as very spicy foods all contribute to gas build up.


This small change in diet may be all you need to control your gas build up and your farting.

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my frd is very important for me but my boyfrd do not like my frd.

This is unfortunate and just as unfortunate it appears to happen more often these days. For some reason significant others are not very tolerant of their other friends. Even adults are having these problems.


I would suggest you ask your bf just what it is about your friend he doesn't like. Then tell him how important your friend is to you and ask him to be more tolerant of her. Relationships like marriage are 50/50 prepositions. Each of you comes into a relationship with past histories which includes friends you have made prior to meeting each other


One or two of these friendships will last a lifetime. The others will pass when you all go your separate ways come time to leave for college. For any relationship to work, be it a long term relationship or a short term relationship you need to learn to deal with the others history. This is the essence of teenage dating. The chances of you and your current bf growing up and getting married is possible but unlikely.


Relationship building like everything else in life is a learned experience. This is the primary purpose of teenage dating to learn to deal with each other and to build relationships. You have stumbled into something that you may see again as you go out in to the adult world. Finding out what it is your boyfriend doesn't like about your friend and dealing with it in an appropriate manner is a good experience.


Just do not dump your friend for your boyfriend as that would be wrong. If need be make sure you make time in you social life for her as well as your bf.

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So I have been seeing this guy who Is three years older than me so my parents don't know about our relationship and he mentioned oral sex a few times. I trust and love him and I'm ready but he said fingering will be nice. Hedoesnt pressure me though. My parents are very protective and they will take me to the gynecologist if they feel the urge to. So my question is, is fingering me going to break my hymen? And I use tamponsos there a way for me to see if it's already broken?

If you are over 14 your parents cannot force you to go to any doctor for the purpose of a female examination the results of which they wish to know. Under a law passed by congress called HIPPA if you are 14 years of age or older you are afforded medical confidentiality when it comes to your reproductive system. This would include your hymen and if you are a virgin or not.


Once you reach age 14 you will be asked to sign the doctors office HIPPA compliance form. Read it carefully, ask the nurse to explain anything you don't understand. Your parents cannot force you to sign any form that allows them to see or be told anything about any visit or any treatment you receive. Mom is not allowed in the exam room with you unless you invite her to be with you. The doctor or office staff will tell her she must wait in the waiting room that is the law.


Everything you discuss with the doctor or anyone in their office of a medical nature is confidential. They can not tell anyone without your written permission. You can ask for and be prescribed birth control. The pharmacy will fill the prescription and does not require parental permission to do so. How you pay for them is another story or problem. Mom can only find out if she finds the pills.

This Law was passed so that teenagers could get proper medical care for their reproductive systems without fear of parental intervention or knowledge.

.You also do not need parental permission to see a doctor if you feel the need to do so.

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I hope this isnt overly detailed, but... My boyfriend and I are both virgins and we decided to have sex last week. He tried to put it in, but it wouldnt go. I was wet so I dont know if lube was the issue, but it felt like he barely even put it in and I was in pain- it felt like he literally couldnt go any further and was just pushing. I really want things to get better, and I feel like even if we practice, it wont make a difference because it literally felt like there was no where for him to push to. What can i do to improve the situation? I would literally appreciate ANY help.
Thanks

You may not have been as ready as you thought you were. You have not said how old you are and age does make a difference. The older you are the more comfortable you will be with having sex in the first place and loosing your virginity.


Below is a website I found some time ago when answering similar questions posed by other young ladies. I suggest you and your boyfriend review the information together before trying again.


Sex for a guy is mostly mechanical. Meaning if he gets an erection he can have sex anytime any place. As long as he has no inhibitions he will be able to complete the act with a willing and able partner.


For a girl sex is a lot more complicated. A girl needs to feel safe, comfortable and loved in order to have sex. Remove any of those three and sex becomes a problem for her. Now of course I was not there with you when you tried but I suspect the younger you are your concerns were; will I get pregnant? Will it hurt; will someone catch us doing it?


Also where you were having sex is also important. I remember when I was a teenager a lot of us lost our virginity's in the back seat of the old mans Chevy at drive-in movies. Not the most comfortable place to do it but it was the best place we could find that offered some privacy.


When your young and having what parents call illicit sex you need to find someplace you are comfortable. Hopefully some place with a lockable door and a bed. You should be on birth control for at least 30 days an the boy should wear a condom. Condoms don't stop all STDs but they do prevent some and they are a second line of defense against pregnancy.


Once you take care of you worries and provide for your comfort you should be able to relax enough to allow your boyfriend to enter you.



http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html

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