I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. He's going away to college this fall, two and a half hours away. We've been apart for a three months, that's it and it was very hard. He says he's going to try to come home every weekend or at least every other weekend. We've started talking about it, and the only thing we have decided on is to attempt staying together, but we're both afraid of it hurting too much. I tell him that I'm still going to be in the same boring town, with no new people, he's the one going to a completely different place (but it's an automotive college, so not a lot of girls), then he pulls out of card of me going to college in a year, but I'll be going somewhere only 45 minutes away from our home town. What can I do to relax about him going away and keep the person that I love more than anything???? (link)
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Long distance relationships are not easy and you have to be sure of how you feel about each other before you embark on such a relationship because it would put a strain on even the strongest couple.
Make sure that you text or phone or e-mail or write each other as often as possible and that you occasionally go and see him. You will probably feel a lot more comfortable once you become acquainted with his surroundings.
Spend as much time together as possible for now and take lots of photos, keep lots of souveneirs. Just things that, during your times of doubt, will remind you why you are struggling through with this and how great it will be when you can see each other again.
In absoloute truth, there is really no way you can relax about this situation because what you are feeling is completely reasonable. Anyone would feel the way you do right now. As for keeping him, this is something that is down to him and the only thing you can do is trust that he really does care about you as much as you do him. If you both feel the same, you shouldn't have a cause for concern. There is no way of knowing whether a long distance relationship will last but if you both have faith that you care about each other and that it can be maintained, everything will work out.
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ok.. so there's this guy. we used to be BEST FRIENDS.. we talked about everything. he would flirt with me all the time even if he HAD girlfriends (one happened to be my best friend) and i admit i flirted back. sooner or later i fell for him.. and this was also even when he had a girlfriend. only my close friends knew, but my heart seriously ACHED for him. his girlfriend broke up with him.. he was SINGLE.. things didn't change.. still best friends. so then he asks out my best friend again (the one he went out with before) and she turns him down and him and his friend call me one night and tell me he likes me alot and he asks me out. OF COURSE i say yes.. we were together.. everything was perfect. he was the perfect boyfriend anyone could ever ask for. his smile was amazing and he could make me laugh no matter how bad i felt. but then i got a text message just out of the blue after a week or so of us going out and he says he wants to just be friends like we used to be.. and my heart just drops. i cry and cry.. all my friends were calling me and i couldn't even talk while tears were running down my face. the next day i sat right next to him in social studies and i felt tears swelling up in my eyes. he tried to make things go back to normal and we talked.. just acted like everything was alright when inside i was dying. so then i find out more news.. he got a new girlfriend. and surprisingly i don't care because she has liked him for a LONG time and i'm happy for her.. we were just aquantices (can't spell) so it wasn't one of those "going out with your friend's ex" type of situation. but there's more.. i find out he cheated on his ex-girlfriend.. not my best friend, but the other one. my whole world falls apart. i don't think of him the same way.. i thought he was the perfect guy ever. it may not seem like a big deal, but it just makes me wonder.... for weeks i have been ignoring him and he knows why now. but i STILL miss him.. i want him back so bad.. i mean if he asked me back out i would say no just because of all the pain he put me through.. or would i? yesterday he wasn't at school and all i could do is put my hand down.. him being absent ONE DAY killed me. it's like i hate him when he's there, but when he's gonna i love him sooo much. even when he isn't there i still think i secretly love him, but i just don't want to admit it. i mean.. there are other guys who have my eye right now.. i LIKE them.. but i LOVE him. i seriously think he's THE one. i probably seem really stupid, but you don't understand. he was AMAZINNGGG.. he was so sweet to me and funny and outgoing.. and he was smart.. he could actually hold a conversation. he would stick up for me when other guys were being jerks and his hugs were so cute and cuddly. anyways.. what i'm saying is.. idk what to do. it seems like my heart's incomplete without him. maybe i should move on? or just wait? if he just wants to be friends.. then i guess that's what i'll have to do.. but i just want so much more than that. and plus i still hate him, but i love him?! wtf.. ok.. just please help me.. (link)
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I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I know how awful you must feel.
You know, I can kind of relate. Let me tell you what happened to me. When I was 11, I fell for a guy in my class at school. Really fell. I was convinced he was my 'one'. The person I would be with for the rest of my life. He never told me he liked me and I never told him I liked him but we were very good friends and when I was ill in hospital, he visited me. Then one day, a friend found out and started harassing him without my knowledge or consent. She phoned him 3-4 times a day, asking him out for me or asking him whether he liked me. When I found out, I phoned him to set the record straight but he told me never to phone him again and hung up. I didn't see or hear from him for around 5/6 years after that. I was crushed and cried for days on end.
Then one day, I met him in town and we went for a drink. He had lost the good looks I had once known and was now a rock punk festival goer who spent his free time getting drunk. Not the sort of guy I would ever want for a boyfriend. I never saw him after that. Shortly afterwards, I met my real 'one' and I have been with him ever since. I thought I was in love before but I realise I couldn't have been because it felt nothing like this and I got over that guy.
What I am saying is that this guy who you really think is the one, isn't the guy you think he is and if he was your one, you would still be happy and with him now. I know it sounds harsh and I'm sorry to put it so plainly, but if he doesn't feel the same way, and it sounds as though he doesn't, then he isn't your one. The good news from this being that it means your real one is out there somewhere, waiting to be found.
Having your heartbroken as you have is the most painful thing in the world. It's worse than any broken limbs because it's a pain that you can't ease with any medicine and it leaves a hollow inside you. But it does go away if you let it. By hanging on to the idea that he is your one and by getting your hopes up that he might like you because sometimes he looks at you, you are only preventing yourself from moving on. It's difficult to let go of a first love but love is lightning that can strike more than once and believe me, when you do find that special person you are meant to be with forever, what you feel for this guy now will pale into insignificance because what you will feel then will be so much stronger.
Instead of worrying about the possibility that he might like you, (please bear in mind that friends shoot worried glances at friends who look sad), try to focus on moving forwards. You WILL get over him, if you let yourself get over him. Shut yourself away for two days in your room and allow yourself to cry, kick, scream, shout and completely wallow in your sadness. Eat as much ice cream or any other fattening foods as you like. Write a letter to him telling him how you feel and then burn it or rip to shreds. Do NOT send it or you WILL regret it, I promise you that.
After those two days, realise it is time to move on. Go out with some friends and make sure you smile and laugh and have fun. Yes, you will still feel sad but the more you make yourself feel happy, the easier it will get. Don't talk about the guy and while you are with them, prohibit your friends from talking about him too. Flirt with other guys and remind yourself that you can find love still. Once you start getting yourself 'out there', so to speak, the easier it will become. The rest is up to time.
Don't worry, you will find love again.
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Hi all I am 28 years old and I have a daughter who is going to be 9 this year and she has been asking me how babies get into the tummy and what pads are for and I am having truble getting the right way to say it...As I dont remember my mom talking to me about it...But I wont to be the one to tell her so she will be able to talk to me about anything....I was not comfertable talking to my mom and I wont my daughter to be able to talk to me.......if anyone could help me please do.thanks (link)
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I know this is a very awkward question and the one that pretty much every parent dreads from the second they give birth!
The trick is to just make it as simple as possible and work out what you will say beforehand so she sees that you are comfortable with it. The problem is that we have all been raised to believe sex is a taboo subject and it's difficult to talk to people about it freely.
First tell her about the different male and female genetalia and give her the proper names, so she feels comfortable with them straight away. Try to avoid the 'When a Mummy and Daddy love each other very much...' speech but perhaps change it to man and woman who care about each other a lot. Then just explain, as plainly as possible, exactly what happens.
I know it's embarrassing but she needs to learn all of this from an early age. Studies have shown that there are great benefits to teaching children about sex at an early age. For example, they are aware of sex and feel less concerned about raising the subject with you, which in turn means they're more inclined to come to you with their sex and relationship related problems, instead of trying to work it out alone and getting it wrong.
Don't worry. As long as you tell her the facts and tell her if she ever needs to know anything else that she can come to you, it will all be fine.
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i have six dogs. they are all pretty old. one of my dog is blind,and 3 of them are diabetics. my mom says that chow chow will have to be put to sleep because she is blind and she bites to many people. i'm not sur if i should keep all of them or give them away. i love all of my dogs and i don't want to put anyof them to sleep. should i put them to sleep? or should i keep them. by the way they all are in pain and i know it but their my best friends.
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I'm so sorry that your pets are so ill. I know how it feels to lose animals you are close to and it hurts so badly. But believe me, giving them away will not help and if they really are suffering, you have to do what is best for them and it sounds as though that might be having them put to sleep, if this is the recommendation of the vet.
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This great guy & I have been dating for a few months now. He's popular and he's been with a few girls from our school. He has told me that 2 of his exes have mentioned me in a negative way. I've started to notice a few girls giving my dirty looks around school, which has never happened before. He says these girls are jealous but I'm getting upset by it. I'm starting to question if this potential relationship is worth it, even though he really makes me happy. Should I just forget about the girls or forget him? (link)
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That really all depends on just how much you like this guy. If you think you have the potential to be with him for a long time, don't let a bunch of jealous girls ruin it for you. This relationship isn't about them, it's about you and him.
I can promise you now that whoever you date as you get older, there will almost always be someone who is jealous of you for dating them or for being lucky enough just to have found someone so special. The best thing you can do is to learn to deal with it now. Your relationship has nothing to do with them and there's no point letting it bother you.
If you really care about him, stick with it and see it through and it will be so much more worth it.
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*please females only..*
this is gonna sound very weird..and im sorry.. well im 14/f and i come from a family that is very hairy..yah so far i bet your thinking EW. ok well moving on i have like really bad issues with myself like im very self consious..and like since i come from a hair family my body is like yah..so my toes are ew and my knuckles and armsand tummy are yah u get it..so i was wonding what does anyone recomend..thanks ill rate! (link)
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There are lots of products out there to help with problems like this so please don't panic! The availability of such items is testament to how common it really is!
Try finding a lightening or hair softening cream first of all. This will work nicely on sensitive area like your knuckles, toes, stomach and arms. It doesn't get rid of the hair but just makes it light and/or soft enough to be barely visible. You also shave your stomach but you will need to keep at it afterwards so that choice is up to you.
For most other places, you can use a depilatory cream, razor or wax. Just make sure you always check the instructions and only put it where the cream or wax is meant to go, or you could end up with some nasty burns in some nasty places!
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I have a friend..well she might be. She is from Taiwan and she has lived in the U.S. for 2-3 years already. What bugs me is this: she doesn't know very much English. And this BUGS me! She'll say something like, "He don't like fish" or something and I'm like DOESN'T! Anyways, that's not all. When we go to the movies or wherever, and she's paying for both of us, she won't talk to the people giving out tickets. She'll make me order them because "she's scared". Scared of being made fun of for her English. And she makes me go with her when she has to talk to a teacher. And we were at a party and we were playing a game where you describe something until someone guesses it. Well she got all quiet and she said that she was about to cry because she doesn't know much English.
Also when she eats she lowers her head to her plate instead of lifting her fork to her mouth. Just everything she does bugs me! I've told her and she started writing me all these notes saying "Are you mad at me? -Your best friend".
She doesnt even try to learn English, she and her family only speak Chinese in their house.
What do I do? (link)
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I can understand why she is so upset. It must be difficult to live in a household that only speaks Chinese and then be expected to speak English the rest of the time.
I don't wish to offend you in any way but right now you need to be helping to build her self confidence. If you act as though you are irritated by her when she doesn't speak English properly, it's going to make her more scared to try, especially in front of other people, which will be why she is asking you to do the talking instead.
It must be very difficult for her right now and she needs you to be supportive. Rather than losing your temper with her, why not try to spend some time with her after school, teaching her to speak English properly? Or you could buy her a book about speaking English as a second language. If you put yourself in her shoes, it's the equivelant of you going to China and being expected to speak Chinese by a community that makes you feel humiliated if you get it wrong. It is intimidating. So getting her a book or trying to teach her some English, to try to improve her knowledge of the language will be much better for her than getting upset with her when she gets it wrong. It might also give you that wam fuzzy 'feel good' feeling.
I know it can be difficult to keep your patience with someone who doesn't pick things up very quickly but the more you can boost her self confidence, the faster she will learn. She will get the hang of it but in the meantime, don't be too harsh on her. She's doing the best she can.
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This is probaly a stupid question but I would really like to know. Do guys think about girls after they break up with them? I mean my boyfriend "well was my boyfriend broke up with me yesterday in the hallway at school, in front of a lot of people. The nerve of that idiot, and then he asks me if we can still be friends. But I still miss him a lot and I still like him I hate to say. Do you think he's thinking about me at all? (link)
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Guys do still think about girls after they have broken up. Guys may be very different to girls but they still have the same feelings and just because they aren't with a girl any more, it doesn't mean that girl is erased from his memory.
However, although he may still think of you, as much as I hate to say this, it doesn't necessarily mean he thinks of you in the same way. Although you still like him, he broke up with you (however insensitively it may have been done) for a reason and it may be he only thinks of you as a friend now.
You will get over him so please don't dwell on it too much. There will be a guy out there somewhere just waiting to be the man of your dreams. You just haven't found him yet.
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okay well.. my mom she is putting me on a pill. and before i go on it i need a exam at the ghynecologist (sp?) she said it was only partial but im terrified. is there any way i can make this experience less scary, i tried using a tampon before and i was crying hystericall cause i got so scared and it hurt. please help me
im 15
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As long as you try to relax yourself then it will be fine. Examinations down there are far from pleasent, we all know but every woman has to go through it and if you don't do it now, it will just make you more scared the next time. They are necessary because you need to be checked for any abnormalities that signify cancers, STI's or STD's.
Please try not to panic because you will wonder what all the fuss was about afterwards. It's awkward and a little uncomfortable but as long as you try to stay relaxed, it won't hurt. They are pros and they know how to do it so it doesn't hurt. All they will want to do is a quick swab an job done.
Don't worry. You will be fine. It will last for a couple of minutes and then it will be over.
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HI,
Im currently talking to this girl who happens to be my friends ex. We dated for about a week and broke up because things were kinda complicated. She was scared of me losing all my friends. She went out with my friend for 9 months and they broke up 3 months ago cuz he cheated on her. I talked to him about it and he gave me the okay, and told me it would be akward. But im affriad of all my friends talking shit behind my back. Every time i talk to this girl i like her more and more, what should i do, is this right?
I dont want to lose her??? i know she really likes me, but she just doesnt want to be the cause of drama..... but i really think shes worth it?? what should i tell her??? what should i do????
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If you really like this girl then you just need to decide whether this girl is more valuable to you or the friends that you are afraid are talking about you behind your back. If you decide that you care more about her then tell her that and just give the relationship everything you can. If you pick your friends, you will need to try to move on from her.
Should you go out with her, you need to make it clear to her that you don't care what the other guys say about you because you care more about her. Explain that you really like her and since her ex cheated on her, there is no justifiable reason to not date her just because he did. She deserves a guy who will treat her well and if you want to do that, tell her so.
You sound like a nice guy and if you just tell her how you feel, I don't think you have anything to worry about.
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im 14/f
ok so i had sex with my boyfriend like last week and some days ago we were both virgins so we had sex we used a condom and we did it like for 8 fast seconds without one then we stoped for good
he said he dident cum but i been having to pee alot and im not sure why he promised me he dident cum he said it took him a while to cuase he went in the bathroom to do so
my friend told me i might have to pee alot becuase my body is dehydrated cuase i got a cold sore after i had sex and she said you can get it from lack of water drinking and you get sick she said it happened to her too she would pee every thirty minutes
and that i agree i never ever drink water it all started when my mom brought can soda\'s i went crazy
im not sure oh i havent got my period but im only one day late and sometimes my period dosent come exactly on a date
but im freakin my self out im becoming paranoid my boyfriend told me he dident cum and that hes 110% sure he dident im not sure as to wut to think we used a condom the whole time except the one 8 seconds things wut should i do? (link)
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Don't worry, I know what it is because I had the exact same problem for around a year after I first started having sex.
What you are suffering from is what they call 'Honeymoon Cystitis'. First of all, you need to know there are two different kinds of cystitis. There's the bladder infection, where you need anti-biotics or you risk kidney infection and then there's Honeymoon Cystitis. This is quite common in girls who are having sex for the first time.
Basically, it is caused when sex makes you a little tender inside and it irritates your bladder. Don't worry, it doesn't cause any long term effects because it isn't an infection. It's kind of like having a bruise on your bladder and because it is irritated, it makes you need to go to the loo a lot.
Now, your body can recover from it naturally but if it is really bad and it hurts a lot when you wee, you should see your doctor. Although it isn't strictly speaking an infection, anti-biotics do take the pain away. It sounds very odd but because I suffered from it constantly for around 3 months, my Doctor gave me the anti-biotics on repeat prescription. Every time I had sex, I took one tablet straight after and I had no symptoms after that! I also found drinking a lot of water made it worse, which is common because it isn't an infection.
Please don't worry. You're not ill with anything but I do think you should see your doctor if it isn't better after a couple of days because anti-biotics will at least calm the pain. If you do see your doctor, tell him when you had sex or he won't be able to make an accurate diagnosis.
Just as a side note, I'm a little distressed to hear you are having sex at just 14 years old. I don't want to preach but it is illegal and not a good idea because you are too young to be having to deal with all of this stuff. You shouldn't have to worry about it for a couple of years yet. Sex is good fun and all but it's very stressful and you have enough to worry about at 14 without fears of getting pregnant or contracting infection or disease. Please, think twice before having sex again.
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I'm entering my school's talent show. It's coming up very soon. I'm gonna to sing. I'd prefer to do a country song sung by a female. I play guitar if that helps. Please give suggestions =)
Thanks so much in advanced! (link)
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Stand By Your Man or Crazy by Tammy Wynette are very good ones if you have a strong voice.
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I was going out with this girl at my school for about a month but she recently dumped me and said that I was too clingy. I know 1 month isn't alot for most people but for our school it is, especially since we both aint exactly the most popular people. I really want to make things up with her because i know if i get her back i can make myself be less clingy, I just can't stop thinking about herm the only reason i was so clingy in the first place was because i like her so much, i know i text her a lot, a REAL LOT but i know if I had her forgive me i wouldn't make the same mistake again. (link)
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If being clingy was the problem, the first thing you need to do is back right off, for at least a week and a half to two weeks. Don't call her, text her, visit her or even look at her in the halls at school. Pretend she doesn't exist.
When a reasonable amount of time (preferrably two weeks or a little more) has gone by, speak to her. Try to catch her in the hall or go to her home but do not do it over the phone.
Explain to her that you have taken some time to think and you realise now that the way you acted was too full on. Tell her that you really like her and you went a little weird because you were so nervous that you didn't know how to act. Don't go overboard with an apology because that will only put her off further. Say simply that you are really sorry for the way you acted and you promise that if you can have a second chance, you will be less clingy. Leave it at that and see what she says. If she says she needs to think about it, tell her to take as long as she needs, because it is her call.
Although this would probably work on a lot of girls, I want to warn you that it's not foolproof. There are girls who drop guys like hot potatoes over things like clingy behaviour and after dropping them, they refuse to allow themselves to be burnt again. If this is the case, I'm very sorry but there really won't be anything further you will be able to do. However, it is vital that we learn from every failed relationship, as learning from such mistakes teach us to be great partners to the people we are meant to be with. So should she say no, use it as a learning curve and next time, give yourself a mental kick to remind yourself to give her some space.
For now, don't worry. There is someone out there for you. Whether it is this girl on another and when you find her, everything will fall into place. If this girl turns you down, it just means she isn't your 'one' and your great love is out there. Go find it. You sound like a nice guy and you deserve a great girl who can give you as much love as you have to give.
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all my friends are annoying me - they're not different or anything. They're not mean. But for some reason, I suddenly hate them all. I don't want to hang out with them, I hate talking to them. I do everything to avoid them. All of them. I hate my school. Yet I hate being at home. I just hate everything. I hate people. does that sound weird? Like PEOPLE annoy me. I don't want to be alone, but I just really don't want to be with anyone I knwo right now. What can I do to get rid of this feeling? Iäve had it for about 1 month and its pushing all my friends away.. (link)
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There are a number of possible explanations for what you are feeling.
Are you more stressed that normal? Stress lowers our tolerance levels. I certainly get less patient when I am stressed!! If you have a quick think about anything in your life that is worrying you, see how you feel about them. It might be there are some things which have been niggling away at you and are increasing your stress levels because they haven't been dealt with yet. If this sounds accurate, work out what the various stressors are and how to resolve them. Once you work this out, you should notice you feel a little calmer.
It could also be a sign of hormones kicking in. You know why they call teens 'moody' and stroppy'? If you didn't before, you do now! PMS and so on are hormone fluctuations around the time of your period but when the hormones start first kicking in, you can be almost constantly angry about anything and everything. The good news is that hormones do eventually calm down and you won't feel like this forever.
As far as your friends go, it is true to say that we do outgrow our friends, just as we outgrow everything else in life. It sounds terrible to think that the friend you used to share everything with once upon a time could become someone you dread the very sight of but it is the way it happens sometimes. The connection we once had with our friends changes and can disappear completely and it is not necessarily the fault of either individual. It is usually merely that the person you are now cannot have the same connection with the person they are now.
Whatever the cause for your anger and frustration, you need to find a healthy outlet for it. Something that means you won't feel like snapping people's heads off on a ten minute basis. Much easier said than done but not impossible. What you need to do is to find something peaceful and quite possible creative. Try keeping a diary or writing a story or some poetry. Try taking up drawing or painting. Perhaps try volunteering for a charity that works nearby. It doesn't have to be anything big. Just something you can absorb yourself in when it all feels a bit much.
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me and my husband are trying to have a baby...but my best friend of seven years called my mom behind my back and was telling her that she doesnt want me to get pregnant, and that she doesnt want us to be together and that when she gets home shes gonna do everything in her power to split us up...she even said she was gonna bring a bunch of guys around me and stuff to try and get me to leave him to go with these guys so...i told my husband about it and he got mad and said i shouldnt even talk to her anymore...so i wrote her a letter telling her how i felt...i told her that it was selfish for her to want to split us up when i am happy she should be happy for me so she called me and said that i was selfish because i didnt want to come to mississippi to see her and stuff and that was selfish of me so she evidently thinks its ok for her to do what she did because i couldnt just up and go to mississippi to see her...what should i do? (link)
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What a terrible terrible excuse for a friend. The best thing you can do now is to cut all contact with her.
If you are in the middle of trying for a baby, it is very unreasonable of her to expect you to come and see her in Mississippi and just drop what you are doing. To then use this as an excuse to go to such blatant lengths to try to ruin the happiness you have probably worked very hard to obtain is unforgiveable.
Whatever sort of friend she might have been in the past, I can assure you that she is anything but a friend to you now. I would suggest you make no effort to contact her and ignore any incoming telephone calls or written correspondence from her. If she starts contacting you on a regular basis or makes threats to you again, you should speak to the police and they will give her a warning for harrassment.
Right now, your priority is your husband and the family you are trying to create and stress is not condusive to creating new life so try to let it slip from your mind for now. You know your husband loves you and you have no reason to believe she would be able to split you up. The only thing her attempts will dois destroy whatever reputation she may have.
Most people that make such threats do not follow up on them but if she does, make sure you have a plan together so that you know what to do. Always carry a mobile phone with you when you are out alone and you should be fine.
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I am in my mid twenties and i am getting more and more bald on the top of my head. Is is just age or hereditary or what. Also, is there any nutrition, health food, herbal products or anything I can use that guarantees my hair to grow back. You responses are alwyas very much appreciated. Thank you all. (link)
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There are a number of things that can cause hair loss at an early age. Usually it's a genetic thing. If your parents went bald or had thinning hair at an early age, I'm afraid you were effectively destined to this. Other factors can be poor diet, weight loss and stress.
Unfortunately, there is nothing that is completely guaranteed to bring back the hair you have lost but I would recommend you speak to your doctor, to check if there is an underlying problem that if treated, can cause your hair to grow back. However, if it is genetic, I am very sorry but there really will be nothing you can do, although the doctor might be able to recommend some form of hair replacement which might be suitable.
Don't worry about it too much for the moment. There is always something that can be done.
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ok well i have a friend and hes my best friend and like i like him (secretly) and like he always sleeps over and stuff like he did last night but like hes asked me out one time but i said no cuz i was wworried but anyways should i tell him i like him or should i stay friends with him cuz i really dont want to ruien our friend ship. please help...=0 (link)
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My theory on situations like this is that it depends on how much and how long you have liked him. If you have liked him a LOT and for a very long time, then it might be worth risking your friendship over to ask him out because you can't get great love without great risk.
If, on the other hand, you think you just like him quite a lot and have liked him for say...less than 6 months, it might be a better idea to try to stay friends.
If you decide you do want to go for it with him, explain to him first that you have liked him for some time and that you wanted to go out with him before but you were too worried about what it would do to your friendship to say yes. Then explain that you would really like to go out with him but that you can only do it as long as you are both sure you can be friends if you split up later.
Remember that the best relationships are normally based on a foundation of friendship and that, as long as you make sure you remain best friends to each other throughout your relationship, you will never need to worry about losing your friend if you split up.
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My so called friend only wants to hang out with me when she wants to. She is two-faced and treats me like poo. Her ex boyfriend is taking me to prom and we eventually might be going out. Would that be wrong? (link)
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Perhaps one of the reasons your friend isn't being a good friend to you right now is because of the possibility you might go out with her ex. If he dumped her, she was quite possibly very hurt by the whole thing and might feel more hurt if you then went out with him.
If you are certain this could not be the reason, then it might be worth talking to her about the way she treats you. Explain to her, calmly, that you don't feel she is being a good friend to you lately and you are worried that she might be upset with you about something. See what she says to this and then try to work the problem out. Her behaviour would suggest to me that there is something on her mind and that perhaps she is taking it out on you.
If talking to her doesn't help the situation, you may have to reconsider having her as a friend. Friends are meant to be there for each other and she doesn't appear to be doing this.
As far as her ex taking you to the prom goes, this is really something you do need to speak to her about. There are certain unwritten rules about things like this and one of them is that you just do not date a friend's ex. The only exception to this rule is where a friend has agreed that it is okay. So speak to her about it first and check she doesn't mind.
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I'm going to get tested for STIs/STDs with my boyfriend. He's my first sexual partner, so if I have anything it would be from him. He has been sexually active for several years though, and about 4 years ago he had unprotected sex with 2 successive girlfriends, who he thinks may have been quite promiscuous.
So, there's a chance he could have something that hasn't shown up yet, i.e. HIV (I heard it can take up to 10 years to show).
If he has HIV and has passed it to me, I'd really rather not know as I think it would be the end of our relationship, and he is my absoloute soulmate.
So, my question is, if we both have HIV does it matter if we sleep together - it won't make it any worse surely? (link)
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If you were to have HIV then no, after that point it wouldn't matter if you continued to sleep together unprotected.
However, the chances you actually do have this aren't as high as you might think. Of course, there is the possibility but there is a far higher risk you might have something like chlamydia or gonorrhea, which could result in infertility.
You say that if you were HIV positive, it would be the end of your relationship. I'm curious if you knew that he had had unprotected sex with other girls before you had sex with him, also unprotected? If so, I am afraid to say this puts you as much in the wrong as he is because men are not solely responsible for ensuring protection is used. If he's putting it in you, you are every bit as responsible as he is.
For the moment, please try not to worry too much. I know the possibility of contracting HIV is very daunting but even if you do have it, there are medications used to treat it. There is no cure but it can be treated. Added to which, the chance of you having it are still slim. However, if you have got away with it on this occasion, please use it as a learning curve for the future. Unprotected sex is dangerous for so many reasons and if you and your boyfriend were to split up (although hopefully this won't happen), I hope that you will remember this in the future and not only remember to use a condom every time after that but warn others of the risks involved in unprotected sex.
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I'm 15 yr. old girl and a musician. Plus I'm in a band of all guys. Thing is I have a boyfriend who doesn't trust me at all. Every time we have practice he always wants to come. I love him to death and I've talked to him many times about it. He always thinks I'm going to try something. I've been in this band way before I met him and I'm not giving it up. I just started dating this guy like 6 months ago. I've been with this band since I was 13. Anybody have any ideas on how I can get my guy to trust me more? (link)
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Trust is the most important thing in a relationship and this is exactly why. While all relationships are built on a foundation of trust, they are destroyed by a lack of it and this is what your boyfriend doesn't seem to realise.
If you have already tried talking to him, it is unlikely it will work now but I would recommend you have one last chat with him about it. Explain to him that you care a lot for him but that if he can't trust you, there's just no point in continuing the relationship. After all, if he reacts this way about the guys in the band only, what is he going to be like when you're doing gigs and other guys start floating around? Tell him once and for all that either he trusts you or you can't be together because if he can't, he's wasting your time and your energy. Concerns like his can be what they call a self-fulfilling prophecy. By worrying that you being in a band with guys might lead you to another guy, he might actually push you into the arms of another guy.
If he really cannot wrap his head around the concept of trusting you, you might need to consider looking elsewhere. However much you care about him, the relationship will never be able to grow until he can trust you. If he can't, it's better for you if you get out of it.
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