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all my friends are annoying me - they're not different or anything. They're not mean. But for some reason, I suddenly hate them all. I don't want to hang out with them, I hate talking to them. I do everything to avoid them. All of them. I hate my school. Yet I hate being at home. I just hate everything. I hate people. does that sound weird? Like PEOPLE annoy me. I don't want to be alone, but I just really don't want to be with anyone I knwo right now. What can I do to get rid of this feeling? Iäve had it for about 1 month and its pushing all my friends away..
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There are a number of possible explanations for what you are feeling.
Are you more stressed that normal? Stress lowers our tolerance levels. I certainly get less patient when I am stressed!! If you have a quick think about anything in your life that is worrying you, see how you feel about them. It might be there are some things which have been niggling away at you and are increasing your stress levels because they haven't been dealt with yet. If this sounds accurate, work out what the various stressors are and how to resolve them. Once you work this out, you should notice you feel a little calmer.
It could also be a sign of hormones kicking in. You know why they call teens 'moody' and stroppy'? If you didn't before, you do now! PMS and so on are hormone fluctuations around the time of your period but when the hormones start first kicking in, you can be almost constantly angry about anything and everything. The good news is that hormones do eventually calm down and you won't feel like this forever.
As far as your friends go, it is true to say that we do outgrow our friends, just as we outgrow everything else in life. It sounds terrible to think that the friend you used to share everything with once upon a time could become someone you dread the very sight of but it is the way it happens sometimes. The connection we once had with our friends changes and can disappear completely and it is not necessarily the fault of either individual. It is usually merely that the person you are now cannot have the same connection with the person they are now.
Whatever the cause for your anger and frustration, you need to find a healthy outlet for it. Something that means you won't feel like snapping people's heads off on a ten minute basis. Much easier said than done but not impossible. What you need to do is to find something peaceful and quite possible creative. Try keeping a diary or writing a story or some poetry. Try taking up drawing or painting. Perhaps try volunteering for a charity that works nearby. It doesn't have to be anything big. Just something you can absorb yourself in when it all feels a bit much.
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You're going through a phase. Or coming to the realization that us teens are brainwashed individuals copying off each other and giving respect to all who claim it.
There isn't any questioning, or individuality. Just conformity. The only questioning people will do is only to look 'cool' and 'original' but that's only because that is what you do in their little 'group' or 'label'
It's sad, really.
Or, like I said before; it's just a phase. One of the two.
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It probably just phase or somthing. I know how you feel. Sometimes i just wanna sit back and not have to deal with people. Its okay. Just take a break from all the stuff going on right now. Youll get over it son and go backto being your normall self again. Then you can just explain to your friedns what was going on and they should understand.
xoxJess
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You sound just like me sometimes,
I'm irritable, and I'm annoyed by people I love, and they just piss me off, everything they do. It drives me nuts, is that how you are feeling?
I so understand how you are feeling, the best thing I suggest that worked for me, is you go talk to a school counsular or someone you can vent to about these problems, it helps and it feels a heck of a lot better. You probably feel this way because you have feelings stuffed up inside of you that just need to get out.
And so you dont lose your friends, write them notes or something telling them how you are feeling right now and that you are getting help, and apologize to them for being mean, or your attitude change.
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Dear Reader,
In order to figure out how to fix the problem you need to find out what the real problem is. And I'm sorry to say it's probably going to be something that you will need to figure out on your own for the most part. Some of my suggestions for the quickest, easiest way to figure it out is start back from the begining of the problem. Try to remember everything that you were doing, everything that was going on in your life one month ago. List any factors that might have changed during that time period. It could even be a little thing that finally broke you down so write down EVERYTHING! Make it into an easy to read list. A lot of times when you list things on a paper right in front of your face you notice connections and obvious thought paths that you have never noticed before.
On a more pychological level of looking at your problem though, your feeling of not wanting to be around people could be a way for your body to tell you that you just need some quality time with yourself(cheesy as that may sound) to figure out some problem that has been facing you or to sort through your thoughts to make the best possible decision on a choice that may be arising in your near future. This is something that is more about you and what your feeling and dealing with then any of your friends; like you said they haven't changed or done anything different. It could also be a maturity thing. Maybe you've seen or gone through something in the last month that has pushed you through to a higher level of maturity and little things that your friends are doing that you didn't notice before your noticing now through new more mature eyes.
Make the list, think things over, the answer that you need will come to you in time.
~Kambrey
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