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Saying Sorry
I was going out with this girl at my school for about a month but she recently dumped me and said that I was too clingy. I know 1 month isn't alot for most people but for our school it is, especially since we both aint exactly the most popular people. I really want to make things up with her because i know if i get her back i can make myself be less clingy, I just can't stop thinking about herm the only reason i was so clingy in the first place was because i like her so much, i know i text her a lot, a REAL LOT but i know if I had her forgive me i wouldn't make the same mistake again.
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If being clingy was the problem, the first thing you need to do is back right off, for at least a week and a half to two weeks. Don't call her, text her, visit her or even look at her in the halls at school. Pretend she doesn't exist.
When a reasonable amount of time (preferrably two weeks or a little more) has gone by, speak to her. Try to catch her in the hall or go to her home but do not do it over the phone.
Explain to her that you have taken some time to think and you realise now that the way you acted was too full on. Tell her that you really like her and you went a little weird because you were so nervous that you didn't know how to act. Don't go overboard with an apology because that will only put her off further. Say simply that you are really sorry for the way you acted and you promise that if you can have a second chance, you will be less clingy. Leave it at that and see what she says. If she says she needs to think about it, tell her to take as long as she needs, because it is her call.
Although this would probably work on a lot of girls, I want to warn you that it's not foolproof. There are girls who drop guys like hot potatoes over things like clingy behaviour and after dropping them, they refuse to allow themselves to be burnt again. If this is the case, I'm very sorry but there really won't be anything further you will be able to do. However, it is vital that we learn from every failed relationship, as learning from such mistakes teach us to be great partners to the people we are meant to be with. So should she say no, use it as a learning curve and next time, give yourself a mental kick to remind yourself to give her some space.
For now, don't worry. There is someone out there for you. Whether it is this girl on another and when you find her, everything will fall into place. If this girl turns you down, it just means she isn't your 'one' and your great love is out there. Go find it. You sound like a nice guy and you deserve a great girl who can give you as much love as you have to give.
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