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My boyfriend is going to college and I'm staying home
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. He's going away to college this fall, two and a half hours away. We've been apart for a three months, that's it and it was very hard. He says he's going to try to come home every weekend or at least every other weekend. We've started talking about it, and the only thing we have decided on is to attempt staying together, but we're both afraid of it hurting too much. I tell him that I'm still going to be in the same boring town, with no new people, he's the one going to a completely different place (but it's an automotive college, so not a lot of girls), then he pulls out of card of me going to college in a year, but I'll be going somewhere only 45 minutes away from our home town. What can I do to relax about him going away and keep the person that I love more than anything????
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Long distance relationships are not easy and you have to be sure of how you feel about each other before you embark on such a relationship because it would put a strain on even the strongest couple.
Make sure that you text or phone or e-mail or write each other as often as possible and that you occasionally go and see him. You will probably feel a lot more comfortable once you become acquainted with his surroundings.
Spend as much time together as possible for now and take lots of photos, keep lots of souveneirs. Just things that, during your times of doubt, will remind you why you are struggling through with this and how great it will be when you can see each other again.
In absoloute truth, there is really no way you can relax about this situation because what you are feeling is completely reasonable. Anyone would feel the way you do right now. As for keeping him, this is something that is down to him and the only thing you can do is trust that he really does care about you as much as you do him. If you both feel the same, you shouldn't have a cause for concern. There is no way of knowing whether a long distance relationship will last but if you both have faith that you care about each other and that it can be maintained, everything will work out.
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There is no doubt in my mind that it will be hard to keep together, but it's possible.
What you have to do is keep your emotions relaxed, but keep yourself bust doing something with friends, or your family. Staying at home doing nothing will only remind you of the pain you have that he's gone. And then you'll start having worse thoughts about him being with another girl and that's a horrible feeling.
Sometimes when someone you love makes a change in their life, you have to make some changes in yours. Is there anything that you've always wanted to study or do in your lifetime? Like taking a vacation somewhere or doing something big? Maybe you could go to a school and study something.
If you find something like a hobby or a job, then you should start on that so that you'll have something to look forward to. Besides, your boyfriend said he would try his best at visiting you on weekends and that's probably a hard task. So at least he really cares about how you'll be feeling while he's gone.
And one more thing: Don't make the mistake of getting mad at him if he seems to be tired or not as active as usual. School isn't always easy and he'll probably be working hard. He probably is worried about what you'll be doing too and he's probably just as concerned.
-TheTeenGirl
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Hi
Long distance relationships are so hard. They really do test how strong the relationship is, and what obstacles you can overcome.
If you and your boyfriend are truly meant to be together, then nothing, not even being away from each other will destroy your relationship.
I'm certainly not saying that it will be easy. You both will feel lonely, you both will have days where you think you should just give up, and you both can use this to make your relationship stronger.
In order to relax while he is gone, you need to trust in your love, and know that this is not forever. Before you know it, you will be back together all the time.
Good luck, and take care.
Brenda
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Hey,
Well my cousin was in the same situation except her boyfriend was 2yrs ahead of her in college. It is a bad situation to be in ya know with the love of your life being however many miles away he might be. All you need to do is relax. Dont think about it that much, have him call you like every now in then during the day an update you on what he is doing an stuff, an im sure you would feel better about the situation. If not then try exsplaing to your parents how much you love him or w/e an see if they would let you go some day out of the month to see him. Believe me as long as you dont think about it, it will defiently get better over time!!
-Stephanie-
*JUST REMEMBER*
-Absence makes the Heart grow fonder-
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