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Dating a friend's ex
HI,
Im currently talking to this girl who happens to be my friends ex. We dated for about a week and broke up because things were kinda complicated. She was scared of me losing all my friends. She went out with my friend for 9 months and they broke up 3 months ago cuz he cheated on her. I talked to him about it and he gave me the okay, and told me it would be akward. But im affriad of all my friends talking shit behind my back. Every time i talk to this girl i like her more and more, what should i do, is this right?
I dont want to lose her??? i know she really likes me, but she just doesnt want to be the cause of drama..... but i really think shes worth it?? what should i tell her??? what should i do????
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If you really like this girl then you just need to decide whether this girl is more valuable to you or the friends that you are afraid are talking about you behind your back. If you decide that you care more about her then tell her that and just give the relationship everything you can. If you pick your friends, you will need to try to move on from her.
Should you go out with her, you need to make it clear to her that you don't care what the other guys say about you because you care more about her. Explain that you really like her and since her ex cheated on her, there is no justifiable reason to not date her just because he did. She deserves a guy who will treat her well and if you want to do that, tell her so.
You sound like a nice guy and if you just tell her how you feel, I don't think you have anything to worry about.
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Oh man, boy have I been here before.
Honestly, it is not for your other friends to decide. If they judge you on it and your friend has already said it was ok, then something else might be happening. Talk to them about the real deal.
MAKE SURE YOU ARE POSITIVE THAT IT IS OKAY WITH YOUR FRIEND. (and that is in capitals for a reason). Sometimes friends say it is okay when it really isn't. They just do not want to get in the way. Trust me, I've seen friendships go down the drain because of this. (for some reason my friends have a thing for going out with each other ex's, probably because we all get so close while the guy is with one of us).
If it is okay and you are positive of it, then go for it!
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If it is really and truely ok with your friend then there is no reason not too. But I have to wonder where all the drama is coming from if it IS really and truely ok with your friend. If he secretly has a ploblem with it then that could be the reason who other mutual friends might dissaprove. Find out what is behind all this first...remember though, never diss your friend for a girl. That should be your first priority. Make SURE it is ok with him.
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if you really like this girl then you need to tell all your friends that will get mad at you or that you think will get mad at you. o well what they think... yes they are your friends but they should let you make the decisions. your friend cheated on her. thats like the most worst thing a boy could do besides break up with a girl for another girl. and i know. why? im a girl. :] she probably needs some one to love her at this moment.Sit down and have a talk with her. and tell her if anything goes down then it isnt her fault. because how could it be? what did she do to her ex? he cheated on her! thats so wrong. Look all im telling you. is TAKE the chance. treat her right.
hope i helped
&&heart's;;kayla
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You should sit down with your friend and ask him if he would have a problem with you dating his ex. If he does have a problem with it, you have to decide if it's worth it to risk a friendship to possibly have a relationship with this girl. Don't tell her anything until you talk to your friend... it's not right to make your friend feel ackward about it, but it's not right to leave her hanging either. Let her know that you'll talk with your friend and then get back to her. If she really does like you, she'll understand that you don't want to lose a friend.
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