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Get him 2 trust me
I'm 15 yr. old girl and a musician. Plus I'm in a band of all guys. Thing is I have a boyfriend who doesn't trust me at all. Every time we have practice he always wants to come. I love him to death and I've talked to him many times about it. He always thinks I'm going to try something. I've been in this band way before I met him and I'm not giving it up. I just started dating this guy like 6 months ago. I've been with this band since I was 13. Anybody have any ideas on how I can get my guy to trust me more?
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Trust is the most important thing in a relationship and this is exactly why. While all relationships are built on a foundation of trust, they are destroyed by a lack of it and this is what your boyfriend doesn't seem to realise.
If you have already tried talking to him, it is unlikely it will work now but I would recommend you have one last chat with him about it. Explain to him that you care a lot for him but that if he can't trust you, there's just no point in continuing the relationship. After all, if he reacts this way about the guys in the band only, what is he going to be like when you're doing gigs and other guys start floating around? Tell him once and for all that either he trusts you or you can't be together because if he can't, he's wasting your time and your energy. Concerns like his can be what they call a self-fulfilling prophecy. By worrying that you being in a band with guys might lead you to another guy, he might actually push you into the arms of another guy.
If he really cannot wrap his head around the concept of trusting you, you might need to consider looking elsewhere. However much you care about him, the relationship will never be able to grow until he can trust you. If he can't, it's better for you if you get out of it.
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try sitting him down and just telling him that you carew for him a lot but and you not going to do anything to hurt him. Tell him you love being in a band so you not going to quit. Just let him know how much you care then he will see you would never try to hurt him. I hope it works
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Just give him time. My boyfriend was like that too. He just doesn't want to lose you. Just keep telling him you won't do something. If he wants to go see you..let him and prove him wrong. In time he will trust you, don't let it bother you.
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