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My boyfriend and I were talking about sex the other day. We both want to wait until we have a stronger relationship (we've only been dating a few weeks) and I'm glad we both agreed on that. He said he was interested in seeing my vagina though. He said that there wasn't anything bad about me showing him myself down there but I'm not sure if that's ok?
He told me he'd show me his penis if I wanted to see it and I kind of do want to see it. Obviously we haven't even touched each other sexually yet but I'm kind of thinking that we'll end up doing something if we get naked lol But I don't want to have sex yet...but I do want to make him happy and I am kind of curious about what his penis looks like (but what if it makes me horny or something and we end up having sex?!).
So, I sort-of want to show him but I'm scared. What do you all think? Should I show him my vagina or should I tell him that it's too early in the relationship and I'm too uncomfortable with it? :\ I really want to make the right move here...please help... (link)
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If you are not comfortable with it, then don't do it. Once naked there is always the chance things will get out of control. Its just not a good idea.
Follow your instincts, they seem to be working good!
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I am a 20 year old female and my period has been way out of whack this month it started out really light and brown in color and it should have ended two days ago, and now it is super heavy and really red!!! I don't mean to be graphic, but, I go through a super tampon in less then an hour! I don't think this is normal! is something wrong with me? Should i go to a gyno? I have never experienced this in all the years i have had my period! Ok I am freaking out. Can i lose to much blood from my period?
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There is probably nothing wrong with you. If it continues, visiting your doctor will at the very least ease your anxiety. Thats never a bad thing!
Some birth control has been known to cause this. the one that sticks out in my mind is the depo shot.
When I worked for a doctors office we had a patient who got the shot and had a period for 2 months with only a couple of days off. So, unless the heavy bleeding continues non stop, I don't think you can lose to much blood.
A call to your doctor is not a bad idea. He/she can help you decide if you need an office visit.
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I know that this is long but I need help. I have been with my boyfriend of two years since i was 16 years old, I am currently 18 and in College working towards my maters. He has always been good to me and is my best friend, I can tell him anything and I know he will listen and understand. We have been through a lot together, vacations, deaths, proms exc. and I have seen him every single day for 2 years. Although are relationship was good there are many negatives. When I met him he had gotten in a lot of trouble the year before and I had to deal with it, it was hard but we got through it. Nothing major , just stupid kid mistakes. Although it was not serious, what he did still came back to haunt him and I always was there to swing to the rescue. He has gotten alot of speeding tickets and would never pay them and continues to speed. Just things like that bug me and we would argue about it alot. He is currently about to turn 21 and does not have a degree and was laid off of work 2 months ago. Once again I had to swing to the rescue to give him money because he needs it. I do it because i love him and its not really his fault but its hard for me. He doesn’t really think a lot of things throught before he does them and I always have to deal with the consequences, for example getting an apartment when he cant really afford one. He has come a long way from when I first met him but he still has a long way to go. About two months ago i was introduced to a guy through my now ex boyfriend. I ran into him a month ago and we started to text. He knew I had a boyfriend but continued to pursue me. I started to develop feelings for him and left my boyfriend for him to figure out his situation and for me to figure out mine. I have been spending more and more time with this new guy “John” and he is everything my ex is not. He has a degree and a great job and is good with his money. He is saving for a house. He has set incredible goals for himself and knows that he is going to be extremely successful . His smile drives me crazy and he makes me so happy and I want to be with him and he would do anything to be with me. We recently slept together and the sex was amazing, nothing like I have ever felt before. He is stable and I know that he will always be able to take care of me. The only thing is when I told my ex he was devastated. He’s written me letters upon letters pouring his heart out to me claiming that he has changed and how he does not know how to get over this and calls me balling his eyes out. The letters make me cry and I feel like such a horrible person for what I have done to him. I still love him but after being together for 2 years I feel like the only thing let is to get married and I don’t really want to be the one supporting him. I still talk to him and its hard because he was such a big part of my life for so long but I don’t know what to do. I want to commit myself to “John” and he asks me everyday to be with him but feel as though I can’t because of the guilt and sadness I feel from my ex and I feel as if I’m not ready to but I do not want to lose him over a relationship that most likely will always be the same. Any advice at all would be greatly appreciated, I really could use it. (link)
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You go where the happiness is. You cannot make a good relationship based on guilt. Of course your ex is sad. Its just what happens when a break up occurs.
He has to get over it. He will NOT get over it if he has your shoulder to cry on. I know it sounds mean, but you are going to have to cut off all contact until he is over it. You have to move on and leave him in the past if you want your current relationship to work out.
I know you are feeling guilty & sad too. You don't marry someone because of those feelings. It would not work out in the end, and you will have lost what you feel is a good relationship with someone else. 2 years is a long time, but not that long. You will both get over it with time.
So, you are going to have to cut ALL ties with the ex. No phone calls, no texts, no emails, no letters, no visits, no listening to pleas in any way shape or form. It will be hard to do but you have to. Or, you go back to being miserable.
Hope you choose to be happy.
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ok so im 16 and my boyfriend is 17
we just had our 1 year about 2 weeks ago and everything was absolutely perfect. but about a month before that and now again im having like serious doubts because im noticing things about my boyfriend that really worry/annoy me. and it kills me because i love him with all of my heart and we have a lot of good times. my question is what is some good advice for keeping a relationship strong at this age and at this stage in the relationship.
i will appreciate anything :) thanks (link)
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Work. Everyday! I have been married for close to 35 years, we have to work on our relationship every day. It doesn't matter what your age is or how long you have been in the relationship.
By work I mean you can't let things slide. If something is bothering you, talk. Little doubts become big ones if they aren't talked out.
I really like Dr Phils advice on relationships. Wake up each day and say to yourself, "How can I make life better for him/her".
Its really easy, when you've been in a relationship a while, to just let things slide. To not say anything because its easier than an argument. To let yourself believe it isn't important or don't really matter. Well, it does.
Thats why communication is one of the most important parts of any relationship.
OK, hope I didn't get to carried away! Talk. Get rid of any doubts before they turn into big monsters. If the problems or annoyances can't be fixed & can't be lived with, you have decisions to make.
Good luck.
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my boyfriend and i broke up yesterday which we have been going out for almost two years. i broke up with him because we fight alott and he usually starts it. he cheated on me a bit which i forgave and i think it happened again. for dates i picked him up n i payed everytime. he was controlling over my friends and my appearance and where id go even if he didnt come or if i was alone. although he has saved my life, helped me through trauma rehab, and gave me the best nearly two years of my whole life... my two best friends finally convinced me to breakup two days ago when i texted them cryin so they kept calling and helped me through it and then picked me up and we went out for girl time. i need alot of help copeing even though they help me non stop, i had another attack today which this led up to and i couldnt breathe, because of the pain he causes me. but i dont wana loose him were only takeing a break and i wana stay friends but he wont talk to me unless its in a dick way, yet im the one who broke up with him. please help?? (link)
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First let me tell you that you have done the right thing. However, you really need to see this as an ending, not a break. I know that is hard, but you were being used & that is not a healthy relationship.
He has cheated on you, possibly more than once. You pick him up for dates, pay his way and yours. Even though he is putting no effort into the relationship, he feels he has a right to control who you can be friends with, what you can wear or look like. Those are all big red signs of an abuser. You do not deserve that.
You deserve a guy who puts you first and treats you to a good time. One who doesn't try to control who you talk to or hang out with.
Its great he helped you through a rough rehab. But you don't owe him your life for doing so. If he is using that to guilt you into things, that isn't right and also abusive. People who help others don't expect to be rewarded. So don't feel guilty or like you owe him loyalty.
Don't bother trying to talk to him or try being friends with him right now. Don't cry to him and allow him to talk to you like this whole thing is your fault. Thats the last thing you need. Go out with your friends, have fun. Find another guy. You will soon forget this one.
I know this may not be what you are wanting to hear, I'd bet it is similar to what your friends have been telling you though. It will take some time, but you can and will get over this loser.
Best of luck to you.
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my boyfriend of about a year keeps indirectly pressuring me to have sex with him and it bothers me. and i feel kinda guilty cause hes on the football team and he gets pressured from people and i know that. but i wouldnt do it because of that, but im just really feeling pressured now, even though i never thought i would. but im not ready yet, cause im only a junior in high school, and ive told him that im not ready yet. what should i do? (link)
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Next time he says something tell him he is making you uncomfortable talking like that. Tell him that you can understand his frustration, but you are not ready and don't want a guilt trip about it.
If he doesn't stop after that, you may need to reevaluate your relationship. Don't make excuses for him and don't feel guilty about your values. If he cares about you, he will stop.
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My ex and I dated for a year and we were close and really happy together. We would talk all the time and spend time together and he really seemed to care about me. Then over the summer going into senior year he broke up with me out of the blue saying he just lost feeling. so two weeks later he calls me and tells me he made a mistake and he wants me back so i get back together and we are fine and happy but then he breaks up with me a second time.. i know wow a jerk but idk he seems really confused about what he wants. so three months go by and we see each other on halloween and we end up getting back together, I KNOW SAD but look through that k well we dated a month and i get a phonecall ending it again so im done and i dont talk to him since. well just recently he saw me at church and then tuesday i get a friend request from him. k so he had deleted me on fb so i wrote him a message and he blocked me so a week goes by and he unblocks me, than an month he friends me... i think hes just really confused or idk what... y is he friending me? what should I do?
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It might be best just to ignore this guy. He may be confused, he may just be a wacko. Either way, you don't need that.
Making facebook friends with someone isn't that big of a deal for most people. You need to consider though if you want him knowing what you are up too.
Its hard to say why he'd be wanting to friend you.
The decision is yours to make, but I think I'd just ignore it.
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How do I hint to my guy friend that I want him to take me to prom? Our friends had told both of us that we should go together and I think he said yes, but I don't know if he was really serious. I really want to go with him! Thanks! (link)
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Why hint? If you want the answer come right out and ask him. Just say hey, you want to go to the prom with me?
You could hold off a little longer. I'm not sure when prom is, but think its a month or two away isn't it? He may feel its to early to make plans that far ahead.
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I'm sure many of you have come across websites where you can take free surveys to get points for certain things.
I noticed all the free ones require adresses and credic card numbers and phone numbers.
My dad hates putting our credic card number online and I'm aafraid we'll get charged for something anyway?
Are there any fake legit addresses, credic card numbers, and phone numbers for purposes like this? (link)
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I agree with Xenolan. Any site that asks for your credit card information for taking free surveys is one to avoid. Don't bother with fake information, the site is a waste of your time.
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My husband and i want to spice up our sex life. Do you have any ideas on what i can do? I want to really pleasure him. What do you do with your men that they really seem to like?
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No offense intended here but if you want to spice up your sex life, ask your sex partner what he'd like. A site full of mostly 13 & 14 year olds isn't going to get you anything useful. No offense to them either, they just don't have the experience they sometimes feel they have. The older users of the site aren't even going to bother answering.
Ask your partner, he'll get a thrill you did.
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i'm a 24 years old f and my bf is 40.We've been together for 3 years we were planning to get married in the summer and last week i've found out that he got his ex pregnant.i love him very much a part of me want me to leave and a big part of me is telling me to forgive him.She knows about me, knows that we leaving together.she told me once she'll do anything to destroy our relationship because she don't like me for him.But i feel i'm gonna be miserable and i will never love the baby.when i asked him why he did it he said that because she was bothering him by sending him nasty messages.please tell me what you think i should do? (link)
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Do you trust him? If you don't then I don't advise getting married anytime soon. I have to say that is the lamest excuse for cheating I have ever heard. Is he going to hop into bed with her every time she sends him nasty messages and bothers him in the future? He knocked her up, you have to put up with her being a part of your life for the rest of your life. Can you live with that without it causing suspicion & fighting?
You have a big decision to make. I will advise you NOT to marry him until you are very, very sure he is mature enough to be a husband. Not only was his excuse for cheating a load of BS, he also cheated and didn't bother using a condom. He risked your health/life so an ex would stop bothering him.
A lot to forgive.
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My mom is married to this really, really fat guy and he is going to be having the lap-band done. He tried to lose the weight with diet and exercise but he has gained the weight back and he is entirely too large so his health is at risk. He's already on heart medication and high blood pressure medication. He went into the hospital before because he got to be so big his lungs started to fill with fluid! I understand their desire to get this type of surgery done so that he can actually live.
I'm curious about the lap-band though. What is the difference between the lap band and gastric bypass? When my mom said he would be having the "lap band surgery" I said, "Don't you mean gastric bypass surgery?" and she said they were different. What's different about them? (link)
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Basically, they both have their pros and cons.
The biggest difference is that lap band surgery
can have the band removed, gastric bypass is forever.
Nothing wrong with either option. They both can save lives. I'm not sure about lap band, but gastric bypass won't be done unless the person sees a psychiatrist first. Lifestyle changes have to be understood. many things a person likes to eat and drink, they will no longer be able to. Once they heal their entire meal will fit into a yogurt container.
It will do him good to take off some of his weight. I believe recovery time is much faster for one getting the lap band surgery.
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A close relative ended her life a few months ago after struggling with chronic pain and depression.
Losing her was one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with in my sixteen years of life.
I find myself a little lost at times, and feel as though there's no one I can really talk to about it.
Every now and then, I'll think that I'm okay, that everything's fine, but it's not. I go back to four months ago, that feeling of hopelessness and I just break down again and cry. I cry for my cousin, and I cry for the rest of her family that she left behind.
But I have to cry in secret. I feel ridiculous. Why?
Is it strange of me to still feel like this after four months? I feel like my parents get annoyed with me when I bring it up to them, so I don't.
When I'm not doing anything, my mind instantly wanders to her, and I'm constantly looking at her Facebook page even though I know she's not actually there anymore.
I get scared sometimes too about losing another relative or a friend. Anytime someone says "Ugh, I'm so depressed", I get angry. Because they don't even know the meaning of that word. But I have to be secretive about it, because I feel like everyone expects that I've already moved on from it. But it's hard. I'm struggling.
If I ever bring her up to talk about with a friend, they change the subject very quickly or else don't say anything at all. And they change the subject to these trivial things that don't matter.
And I can't talk to my extended family either because I feel like they think I don't have any major reason to be so sad about it. Because I've never been that close to any of them. But I was close to the one I lost. :( (link)
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What you are feeling is normal. There really isn't any sort of time line saying you have feel better by
a set time.
Here is a site that may help with questions you are having.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm
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I recently had sex and a couple weeks after Im experiencing itching inside my vagina and i often have the urge to pee, what could be wrong? (link)
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It could be a UTI, It could be a yeast infection of some sort. Both have causes other than having sex, so don't be afraid to seek medical attention. That is the best and quickest way to find out the cause and get a cure.
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16/f so lately i have been feeling very weak and dizzy and it will be like all day or for hours and i just feel really tired and like i am going to pass out and i do not know why. it is also hard to breathe i used to have panic attacks but i think i would know if this was one right? cause i do not think it is i think it is something that is wrong with me but i do not know what it is, what could it be? i checked my blood sugar it was like an hour after i ate or so and it was 109 i think that is okay. i gave up sugar for lent so could that have something to do with it though? i am normal weight for my height i just do not know what is wrong and i feel terrible could someone please help!!!
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Sounds like you might be hyperventilating.
Hyperventilation: Over breathing. This can cause dizziness, lightheadedness, weakness, shortness of breath, a sense of unsteadiness, muscle spasms in the hands and feet, and tingling around the mouth and fingertips. All of these symptoms are the result of abnormally low levels of carbon dioxide in the blood caused by over breathing.
Hyperventilation is often due to anxiety or panic.
Best bet would be to see a doctor & find out for sure.
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there is this girl who is telling my bf to break up with me and date her!!!!!!! Grrr... and i wanna message her on myspace but i dont know what to tell her. I need some advice on this so tell me what to tell her , not what you think I sould tell her.Sorry to be mean but im really mad (link)
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I agree with Flare. This is something your boyfriend needs to deal with. If you write her then you will just come off looking like an insecure girlfriend.
If he cares about you, he won't be listening to anything she says. He does need to make it quite clear to her that he is taken & that she needs to back off.
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So, I shoplifted the other day. Not anything huge, just some earrings from American Eagle and a shirt from Forever 21. They didn't have an ink tag or anything, just a price tag with a barcode, which I ripped off. I didn't do it because I don't have money, but I will admit, I don't like to just blow my money. I have a shopping addiction and I can't afford to buy every single thing in the store. I saw it as an easy solution. I hid them under clothes to take in the dressing room, so the attendant saw no difference. But my question is, are there security cameras in the dressing room.. is that even legal ? Or what are others ways I could get caught ?
(And please PLEASE do not tell me about how shoplifting is wrong. I don't have a guilty conscience about it, and I'm going to continue to do it.) (link)
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Since we aren't here to give advice on how to commit crimes, you aren't going to get many useful answers.
I don't know if cameras in dressing rooms are legal or not. I have heard they do exist. If they do then I'm sure they do it in a legal way.
There are many ways you can get caught. Since you intend to continue your life of crime, you will find out what they are on your own. Since you feel it is ok to steal making prices higher for legitimate shoppers, I don't feel at all guilty in saying I hope you are caught soon. Enjoy showing off those earrings to your cell mates.
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I'm so sick and tired of not being a popular girl and not getting the hot boys at school to notice me. I want to do whatever it takes now to become popular before school is out this year. What are some good tips on how to become popular in my school so people know me and like me? THANKS (link)
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Personally, I think there are better things to aspire to. However, here is a site that gives some tips for those who think popularity will get them somewhere in life.
http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Popular-Girl
Good luck.
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Can a pregnant woman do an anal sex (link)
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They can as long as it is comfortable for them to do so. You should be aware that weight gain due to pregnancy can often lead to hemorrhoids. Do not have anal sex if you have hemorrhoids or it is not comfortable.
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Hello!
I want to get a dog for my children to grow up with but I need a dog breed that is safe for kids and hopefully one that doesn't shed.
Is there such a dog?
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I have Yorkshire terriers (yorkies) and they don't shed. I have 8 grandkids and they all get along great! :)
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