My boyfriend wants to see my vagina...should I let him look at it?
Question Posted Friday February 26 2010, 10:49 am
My boyfriend and I were talking about sex the other day. We both want to wait until we have a stronger relationship (we've only been dating a few weeks) and I'm glad we both agreed on that. He said he was interested in seeing my vagina though. He said that there wasn't anything bad about me showing him myself down there but I'm not sure if that's ok?
He told me he'd show me his penis if I wanted to see it and I kind of do want to see it. Obviously we haven't even touched each other sexually yet but I'm kind of thinking that we'll end up doing something if we get naked lol But I don't want to have sex yet...but I do want to make him happy and I am kind of curious about what his penis looks like (but what if it makes me horny or something and we end up having sex?!).
So, I sort-of want to show him but I'm scared. What do you all think? Should I show him my vagina or should I tell him that it's too early in the relationship and I'm too uncomfortable with it? :\ I really want to make the right move here...please help...
WittyUsernameHere answered Sunday February 28 2010, 3:15 am: The point of taking clothes off is to do things. Granted, as young as people generally are on this site, he might well be curious because he's never seen girlparts in real life, but really he should get over it.
There's nothing wrong with nudity, seeing others naked, etc. However, in this context, you're dating and you're not ready for intimacy. That means no, you don't inch into bad territory because your boyfriend wants to see a vagina so he has an image in his head to beat off to. [ WittyUsernameHere's advice column | Ask WittyUsernameHere A Question ]
SecretDreamer95 answered Saturday February 27 2010, 9:05 pm: it's too early in the relationship to have sex. if you have to ask then it's not a good idea it shows you are not ready. what for a while until you get to know each other better. there's more to a person that meets the guy it just takes more then friendship to see it. best thing to do is wait and you know what if he dumps you because you say no he wasn't good to begin with and no guy/girl is worth hurting yourself and doing things you may regret later. [ SecretDreamer95's advice column | Ask SecretDreamer95 A Question ]
thelaura answered Friday February 26 2010, 10:48 pm: If you even need to question it, then just don't do it.
Tell your boyfriend you want to wait - it will make it more special when that time comes around.
You've only been dating a short while, don't rush into things and then regret it later on. [ thelaura's advice column | Ask thelaura A Question ]
Matt answered Friday February 26 2010, 8:13 pm: You've only been dating a few weeks. Keep your pants on. Especially if you don't have the will power to not have sex once they're off. [ Matt's advice column | Ask Matt A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Friday February 26 2010, 5:27 pm: Keep your clothes on. Once you take your clothes off things can get out of hand. Next thing you know he is asking to touch you, then you get excited and bam your pregnant.
MJ0201 answered Friday February 26 2010, 2:29 pm: if i was you, it is way to early in the relationship to show anything. i mean give it some time. maybe a few months before you do anything. but i mean your not me. so if you wanna show it to him, then go ahead. if you get horny i say let him pleasure you, but its most definitely up to you to control your hormones. see when i showed mine to my ex, he pleasured me but i wasnt ready to have sex so i controlled my hormones and kept it moving. dont send any pictures cus guys like to show their friends shyt. (sorry for cursing].. if your not comfortable then dont do it. you should take things a step at a time. he should understand your position and if he really feeling you, he should be patient about it. [ MJ0201's advice column | Ask MJ0201 A Question ]
karenR answered Friday February 26 2010, 12:01 pm: If you are not comfortable with it, then don't do it. Once naked there is always the chance things will get out of control. Its just not a good idea.
Follow your instincts, they seem to be working good! [ karenR's advice column | Ask karenR A Question ]
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