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how to sustain a relationship
ok so im 16 and my boyfriend is 17
we just had our 1 year about 2 weeks ago and everything was absolutely perfect. but about a month before that and now again im having like serious doubts because im noticing things about my boyfriend that really worry/annoy me. and it kills me because i love him with all of my heart and we have a lot of good times. my question is what is some good advice for keeping a relationship strong at this age and at this stage in the relationship.
i will appreciate anything :) thanks
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That's normal, after about a year most people get to that point. It's okay to have things about him that annoy you, it doesn't mean you love him any less.
There aren't really any general tips for keeping the relationship strong, it really depends on the two of you.
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for me, its backwards. im 17 and hes 16 and i am also having doubts right now.
but it all depends on what you are noticing about him that is worrying you.. if its bad like abuse or something, get out. no matter how much you love him, him getting angrily physical with you is domestic violance and can lead to very bad things and hurt you emotionally and of course, physically.
but if its not that extreme or life threatening, talk to him. communication is key. if you dont tell him how you feel, he'll never know and he wont be able to fix it or assure you that nothing is wrong.. but if you leave it alone and dont tell him what is bothering you, it'll just keep building and building until you or him just explodes and feelings get hurt. its better to talk about it then to just stay silent.
but keeping a relationship strong at this age, i have noticed is .. trust and communication. yes, love comes into play, but you cant love someone if you dont trust them. and you cant communicate with someone if you dont trust them. you have to be absolutley honest with one another and try not to hide anything meaningful from one another. you also have to trust that the other person isnt lying or decieving you.
i cant say this enough, communication is KEY in every relationship. without communication, you have nothing and youll have a very weak relationship. and you cant really have a relationship without trust either. if you dont trust him, you'll always be paranpoid or skeptical, and thats really rough [i would know..]
just be open and talk and trust. get your feelings out and keep nothing inside. youll become closer throughout this if you just talk and trust.. your love will strengthen from there.
good luck, hope i helped, and if you need anything at all, feel free to inbox me :] xxo.
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Work. Everyday! I have been married for close to 35 years, we have to work on our relationship every day. It doesn't matter what your age is or how long you have been in the relationship.
By work I mean you can't let things slide. If something is bothering you, talk. Little doubts become big ones if they aren't talked out.
I really like Dr Phils advice on relationships. Wake up each day and say to yourself, "How can I make life better for him/her".
Its really easy, when you've been in a relationship a while, to just let things slide. To not say anything because its easier than an argument. To let yourself believe it isn't important or don't really matter. Well, it does.
Thats why communication is one of the most important parts of any relationship.
OK, hope I didn't get to carried away! Talk. Get rid of any doubts before they turn into big monsters. If the problems or annoyances can't be fixed & can't be lived with, you have decisions to make.
Good luck.
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