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hey...well within the last year i have become christian. but lately i have been having my doubts. i have depression, and have had it for about 2 years now. i pray so much but i dont seem to be making any progress to becoming happier. i dont understand why my prayers arent getting answered. (link)
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As always, I'll be up front about this and begin by saying that I am an atheist, although I'm fairly well-read in the Bible.
My understanding (and your own particular sect may differ on this point) is that God does not answer all prayers for a number of reasons. Here are some:
1. Because we don't know everything. Maybe the depression was sent to test you. They say that God moves in mysterious ways, after all. Perhaps, years down the road, after you have worked through and conquered your depression with the help of doctors and medication, you will end up a better person, stronger in your faith, because of the trial that you have gone through.
2. Because of the doctrine of free will. If human beings did not have some freedom of action - the same freedom which allowed the Original Sin - then our choices would be meaningless. We could not truly choose to come to God, to accept salvation, because we wouldn't HAVE a choice. Our purpose as created beings would be nullified if we weren't able to make our own decisions; we would be, to quote Anthony Burgess, like a "clockwork orange", not real creatures at all. Our sin, and redemption, would be meaningless, and there would have been no point to Christ's crucifixion and resurrection at all.
The same doctrine could apply to the answering of prayers. If God answered all prayers, who would question his existence? How could we freely chose between good and evil?
3. It's also possible that God will answer your prayers via other human beings - that is, through medical treatment and therapy from mental-health specialists! I know of no doctrine that says that God is limited to acting through miraculous means only. Just because medical treatment has visible human causes doesn't mean that it doesn't ultimately come from God.
You should talk to your pastor or spiritual leader for answers about this subject, of course. They're far more qualified to answer than I am.
From a strictly secular viewpoint, let me say that depression is NOT a character defect, nor the result of sin. It is a documented neurochemical ILLNESS, as real as a broken leg or heart attack. If you broke your leg, would you pray to God to heal it? Perhaps you would, and ultimately you might feel that the cure came from Him, but unless you are a Christian Scientist or belong to some sect with similar beliefs, I'd bet that you'd also go to a hospital to have your leg x-rayed, the bone set, and a cast put on. And you wouldn't consider it a spiritual failure to go to a doctor.
Just because an imbalance of the chemicals in your brain isn't as visible as a broken leg is no reason not to seek medical treatment. If anything, relying on prayer only might be considered a sort of spiritual hubris - testing God, to force Him do what you could do for yourself, with human help.
But God is not a butler or a slave.
It would be like jumping off a cliff to see if God would catch you. I know of no doctrine that says that this is acceptable. Since effective treatment for depression is available from human sources - and it IS available, and effective - you should take it.
It may take time, and patience. But in the end you CAN have your life back. So pray, if you want, but also talk to your doctor. He or she will probably refer you to a specialist for an evaluation.
There's an old saying: "God helps those who help themselves". Please take that first step.
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What are some good names for a 3 month old, female, english mastiff? thank you. i rate for good answers =) (link)
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Margaret Thatcher.
Or, if you don't like Thatcher's right-wing policies, you might try some other names of famous English women:
Elizabeth Regina
Victoria
Anne
Bloody Mary
Mary, Queen of Scotts
Queeny
Catherine
Princess Diana
Edna
Boudicca
Barbara Woodhouse (the famous dog trainer)
Edith
Tony Blair (okay, just kidding with that one :D )
Good luck!
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What do guys look for in a girl? It seems like all the guys go for the sluts and they don't want an actual relationship. (link)
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This is an awfully hard question to answer. Because the truth is, most guys - particularly in their teens - aren't really READY for an actual relationship.
Now, to be fair, that's not true for *every* guy. Some are more mature than others, after all. The problem is figuring out which are the mature ones, and that can be hard to do.
My *guess* is that the smarter a boy is, the better chance he has of being mature enough for a relationship - but that's definitely not a guarantee. There are some awfully smart people who are TERRIBLY immature.
So it comes down to your own judgment. If a boy seems to be thoughtful, and considerate, there's at least a chance that he may be ready for a real relationship. But you can never be 100% sure, because life doesn't work that way.
To be fair to boys, you can't really put all the blame on them. There are a number of factors involved.
One is that boys really do mature more slowly than girls, in many ways - particularly emotionally.
Another is that hormonally, teenage boys are in overdrive. Girls are, too, but nowhere NEAR as much as boys (of course there are always exceptions). It's hard for boys to think clearly when they're thinking about sex - and they think about sex nearly ALL the time.
Honestly.
Our culture, too, shares some of the blame. Advertisers and pretty much everyone in the media target teenagers as one of the groups with the most disposable income; and they know that the one sure way to get the attention of a teenage boy is with sex, in some form.
Our culture is saturated with sex. Not that there's anything WRONG with sex, mind you; it's wonderful. But it's being *used* on TV, in films, in music and magazines, to sell stuff. And that encourages boys to think of women as nothing more than sexual objects.
Once you get a boy thinking that way, he'll be a better target for advertising for life. Unfortunately, he's likely to be stuck thinking of woman as sex objects for the rest of his life, too - or at least, he'll have that tendency.
I'm not saying that there's an evil group of advertisers and pop culture producers who sit around planning to corrupt and ruin the world's boys. Not at all. They've just found out what works to sell products, and they're doing it. Unfortunately the side effects either don't matter to them, or they're not even aware of them.
It's also interesting that more and more, some girls are buying into the idea that their whole worth is based on their *value* as sex objects. So they become "sluts", as you put it. They're as victimized as the boys are! Both end up with damaged self-images and are handicapped in their ability to have an adult relationship for the rest of their lives.
This is kind of depressing to talk about, to be honest. It makes me feel old. But I don't want to leave you with NO hope. There *are* boys out there who have the potential to relate to you in a mature way. I've been out of the high-school scene for a long time, but I'd guess that it's still true that the ones to look for are the ones who are a little shyer, a little more intellectual, a little more thoughtful. Some of them, to be brutally honest, are geeks.
It's important to remember that even those boys with potential are still BOYS, which means that it's smart to take things slowly - when boys start moving fast they tend to think less and make mistakes. At which point it's easy for them to snap back into sex-object mode, and do something stupid, or thoughtless.
I'll be very honest. I never did ANY dating in high school (the first girl I really dated was my wife, much later). So my view is totally an outsider's one. But over the years I've observed and thought about this issue a LOT. And my conclusion is that it's certainly possible for teens to have a worthwhile, meaningful relationship - but it's not easy.
On the other hand, maybe the thing to do is jump in and have fun. You're only a teen once, after all. Don't let worrying about finding the perfect relationship stop you from having SOME fun!
I didn't start dating until my 30s. To tell you the truth, now that I know what it's like, I really wish I'd started a lot earlier. So be careful, but please don't miss out the way that I did. I eventually did start dating, got married, and have a wonderful little boy now, but sometimes it does make me sad to think of the 17 years that I wasted, and the opportunities that I let slip through my fingers.
Life can be a tough balancing act; you need to find a way to make the most of it, without screwing up and making irredeemable mistakes. Sometimes I wonder how any of us make it through unscarred.
But of course we don't. We all have our share of scars. The point is to have the good choices outweigh the bad, I guess. And to know, at the end of the day, that you did your best to make every hour, every *minute* of it worthwhile.
Good luck!
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im either really really really really happy or extremely pissed off or depressingly sad. i think i could be bipolar. what does that consist of? what do i do? anything.... (link)
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Just to clarify, bipolar does NOT mean that you have two personalities (that's Multiple Personality Disorder, also known as Dissociative Identity Disorder).
To be bipolar simply means that you fluctuate between two emotional extremes. That can be happy and sad, as you've described. For others, it can be between depressed and irritable. There are a lot of possibilities.
Some manifest their "manic" or "up" stage with hyperactivity, hypersexuality, or by practically drunken happiness. Others manifest it by going on shopping binges (really!). What I'm trying to tell you is that bipolar is complicated, and comes in many different forms, and only a psychiatrist can diagnose you accurately.
The good news is that it IS treatable, usually with a combination of medication and talk therapy. I won't lie to you; it can take a long time and a lot of tries to get the combination of meds right for a patient. But as long as you keep at it and don't give up, the odds are excellent that you can get on an even keel and lead a stable, happy life.
That is, if you ARE bipolar. If you're a teen, you may just be going through normal hormonal swings. But if your feelings are bothering you enough to ask about them here, they're serious enough for you to speak to your doctor. She or he should be able to refer you to a specialist, probably a psychiatrist, for a full evaluation.
Good luck!
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What do you guys think is the appropriate age and/or grade to start wearing mini skirts? Also, do tall girls with long legs look good in mini skirts? Thanks! (link)
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You might not want to hear this, but I'd say 16 or so (I AM TheOldOne, after all).
And tall girls with long legs look good in ANYTHING.
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How do you make the URL show up on your page, where it's just a word? Example: Click Here. (link)
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Here's the code. Because the system here insists on turning any URL in an answer into a link, I'm going to replace "http://www.whatever.com" with just plain "URL". You can copy & paste the code, with your actual URL replacing the "URL" - but KEEP the surrounding quotation marks!
Click Here.
If you want the URL to open up in a new browser window, type this:
Click Here.
Good luck!
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what does drinking 8 glasses of water do for you? like will it help me lose some wieght? (link)
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It hydrates you, and will help you to lose a little weight. But it would be a big mistake to rely on drinking water alone; the results will be relatively minor unless you also change your general diet by switching some of your daily intake to healthy fruits and vegetables. And of course it's a good idea to cut down at least a bit on sweets and fats.
Daily exercise will kick up your metabolism, allowing your body to burn more fat even when you're resting. I recommend 30 or more minutes (more is better) of cardiovascular exercise (brisk walking, running, swimming, biking, or cardio-machine use) every other day, and if you REALLY want to burn fat, do some light weight-training on alternate days. You can also do some cardio on weight-training days, as long as you don't hurt yourself. But be sure to take at least every other day off from weight training, to give your muscles a chance to recover and rebuild.
Water's a good start, particularly if you use it to *replace* soft drinks. Good luck!
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Hey. I'm so close...so close to killing myself. Everyday I have to FIGHT not to, its the hardest thing i've ever done. My mom knows... im seeing 3 colnsulars.. but nothing helps. Nothing at all makes me want to live anymore. It hurts to talk, it hurts to smile... I've stopped doing everything i used to love. Nothing can make me happy. I don't want to hurt my friends though, their the only ones keeping me from..ehh. If you cant help me, please do.. (link)
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If you still feel this way (and it sounds very much like clinical depression to me, although I'm not a psychiatric professional), then your treatment is not helping you enough.
That means it's time to talk to your mother and your counselors, about making some changes in your treatment. If you haven't seen a psychiatrist, you should; medication isn't a cure for everything, but it can REALLY help some conditions. I've seen people regain their will to live after getting the proper combination of medication and talk therapy.
You need to be clear with your parent(s) and therapists, and let them know that you NEED MORE HELP. Help is available; most psychiatric problems can be treated effectively, although it can take time to work out the precise combination of therapy and medication that's right for you. But the help, and the hope, IS THERE. You need to ask for it, and keep asking for it until you get it.
Life will get better. Hang on, and try to fight for it. I wish you the best of luck.
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to lose stomach fat, is walking the same as running? im not very good at running and i really want to lose my stomach fat so can i just walk? will walking help me lose my stomach weight? (link)
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ANY exercise will help. Even little things like taking the stairs more often will contribute.
But there's a lot more that you can do.
Your best options are to eat a healthy diet with lots of fruits and vegetables, drink lots of water, and do cardiovascular exercises every other day - that is, walk (fast), or jog, or run, or bike, or swim, or use some sort of cardio machine at a gym. Your cardio workout needs to last at least 30-40 minutes, and more is better.
That will speed up your metabolism, which will make your body burn fat at a higher rate all the time - even when you're sleeping.
On alternate days, warm up with some light cardio exercise (about 15 minutes) and do some weight training; you can use free weights or exercise machines. If money is short, you can get an incredible range of exercise with just a couple of five or ten-pound hand weights. By toning up your muscles you'll improve your shape and burn more fat.
Sit-ups are a fine addition to your muscle-building regimen. Just make sure not to hurt yourself, and give your muscles at least every other day off to rest. After weight training, you can do some more cardio, if you feel up to it. But it sounds as if you're still growing, so it's important not to overdo it. If you feel pain, stop and rest! And make sure to stay well-hydrated. Drink a lot of water.
As for motivation...one thing that helps is to make a regular schedule. If you know that from 7 to 8 o'clock (or whenever) every day is your time to work out, you're much more likely to stick to it - particularly once you make it through the first few days.
You can develop that habit surprisingly quickly.
The most important thing is to make sure that you ENJOY all of this - the change in diet, and the exercise. You need to want to do it because it's fun. That means that if there's a part of the new routine that's painful or really unpleasant, you need to change it. It's better to give up (or replace) one particular exercise, or one particular vegetable, than to give up all hope and just pig out.
I have the feeling that you're young. This is a perfect opportunity to give yourself great habits that will last for a lifetime - a lifetime that will be longer, and *healthier*.
Good luck!
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my bf and i just broke up. i think i like him still but he's treated me badly the whole time we've been together. i found out that he never really liked me in the first place and was juz doin that till he got another gf. what should i do about my feelings for him? (link)
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Feelings are like stretchmarks: they take time to fade. The best thing you can do is force yourself to be active. The more quiet time you have, the more you'll think about him and suffer, so get out more! Find some new activities, preferably with new people. Volunteer somewhere - a hospital, an animal shelter, a soup kitchen, ANYTHING. Start a new hobby. Join a club. You don't have to pretend you're having a wonderful time; just FORCE yourself to be busy.
Exercise is also a great idea. It will speed up your metabolism, and increase the release of endorphins in your brain; that will definitely make you feel better. You'll also feel better about yourself as you get into better shape.
Try to wait for a few months at least before you consider dating again. Right now you probably aren't interested in that; you're still emotionally attached to your ex-boyfriend, and dating other boys would probably just feel wrong to you. But later on your feelings will change, and that's the time that you're most at risk of a rebound relationship. Those usually don't end turn out well, so it would be smart to set yourself a time - say, six months - during which you won't date. That sounds harsh, but I think you'll end up agreeing that it was the best thing you could do.
You'll be happier in the end.
And just a suggestion: learn what you can from this experience. If your boyfriend wasn't good to you, and didn't really like you, you chose badly. That could just have been an accident, but the odds are good that you could pick wrong again. So think carefully about what sort of boy you want to be with, and how you'll want your next boyfriend to treat you.
I'm not saying that you were abused - I don't know - but abuse victims tend to pick abusive partners again and again. I hope you're not in that trap, but if you are, try hard to choose boys who respect you and will treat you with kindness.
Good luck!
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Alright, so I'm considering making a DnD group. First, though, I need some help. I'm either gonna start the adventurers at level 1 or level 3. Which one should I choose? Second of all, should I allow multiclassing, prestige classes, and monster races? Like, one person is obsessed with being a Mind Flayer, and another really wants to try out his new class, a cross between an Arcane Archer and a ranger. Third of all, where's a good site that can show me how to make a good scenario? I can't take my chances with the wizardsofthecoast.com scenarios or store-bought ones, because maybe the others have played that scenario before. And finally, should I give penalties for people looking in the Monster Manual, checking to see why fire heals an iron golem, etc? What should the penalty be? Thanks! (link)
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The question of first or third level comes down to power level; magic, of course, is the key. The spells available to a third-level spellcaster are quite different from those available to a first-level one, and that will determine how the party approaches and deals with problems.
Personally, if this is going to be a long campaign, I'd suggest going with first-level characters. It will give everyone the chance to feel that they've really started with their characters at the beginning. Besides, giving them two free levels to start with just reduces their appreciation of the time it takes to EARN levels. Unless you're running a high-level campaign, of course.
As for "multiclassing, prestige classes, and monster races" - multiclassing is generally not a problem; the system is well enough balanced in that regard (I assume you're using 3.5). If anything, multiclassing is a handicap, not an asset.
I recommend handling prestige classes on a case-by-case basis. Some are balanced, some are not. Read each one over VERY carefully before allowing it, and make it clear to your players UP FRONT that if the class turns out to be unbalanced, you reserve the right to make any and all changes necessary - specifically including retroactive changes and reverting the character to the non-prestige base class.
I don't know a lot about monster races; I haven't played them with D&D (my system of preference is RuneQuest). But my gut feeling is that a Mind Flayer PC is probably a bad idea under the D&D system. It just doesn't sound balanced. A very experienced DM might be able to handle it, and the result might be a great game; but it doesn't sound as if that's a challenge that you're really ready for.
As for designing scenarios, step one is to read and run as many of them as possible. There are, of course, some suggestions in the DMG; those are worth reading. Likewise, you can Google for "roleplaying scenario design" to find some useful articles.
I can recommend the "Roleplaying Tips" website ( http://www.roleplayingtips.com/ ), although in fairness I should note that the site author is a friend and I wrote one or two of the articles on that site.
There are thousands of scenarios online, ranging from great to awful. If you're concerned that your players might have read some of them, look at scenarios for other systems and see if you could easily translate them into D&D, or at least use the best ideas in your own scenarios. Your players are unlikely to have read them (unless they're fans of that those other systems, of course).
I don't know if I should suggest this, but on my own site I have about a thousand scenario hook ideas that you might find useful: they're under "Found Items" at ( http://www.runequest.org/chaosproj.htm ).
And now, the last question: Penalties for looking in the Monster Manual? You're the DM. You decide what your policy is. You can't stop them from looking at the books on their own time, but you can certainly forbid it during the game.
Whether you do or you don't, though, it's a good idea to use your authority to stop the players from abusing out-of-game knowledge. A first or even third level character would NOT normally have access to rare and esoteric knowledge about the game world. So it's completely appropriate to require them to make a Knowledge: Arcane or Knowledge: The Planes or other appropriate Knowledge skill roll. It would even be legitimate to keep a file card of their relevant Knowledge skills behind the screen, and make those particular rolls FOR them - after all, they shouldn't always know if they succeeded or failed.
As for what the penalty should be: just don't let them act on knowledge that's too obviously something the PLAYER knows, rather than the character. If they can give a good reason - a GOOD reason - explaining why their character would know about iron golems, for example, allow it. But they can't claim to have read a million library books, or anything like that. Make sure they pass the "reasonableness" test.
Good luck, and have fun!
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just lettin' you not forget me. i don't get on here often (+she took EVERYTHING away from me, so i have to sneak on/stay up this late).
just send any ideas you have as questions and i won't answer 'em so they'll stay private...i'm gonna talk to my guidance counsellor tomorrow...i can't stay this miserable.
thanks oldie...+i prefer redheads also. except 25 yrs younger. (link)
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I hate to remind you, but I don't know your Advicenators username! You might want to send it to me.
You can also write to my Gmail account, of course. And if it would be useful to you, I can give you a Gmail invite.
Talking to your guidance counselor is a good idea. I was thinking about it last night, and it does seem that you need to bring in an outside party; your mother has blocked too many social avenues preemptively. This is a level of control that seems unhealthy.
I hope you've got a decent counselor, though. In my experience some of them are...well...not the brightest. The same is true of many behavioral social workers; that field seems to attract a larger percentage of underqualified people.
Not that psychologists and psychiatrists are *inevitably* better at therapy, but in my experience they tend to be. And of course they've had a lot more training.
Good luck!
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What is your opinion on religion? I've heard about the theory of evolution and it makes a lot of sense.
And right now the theory of god and heaven doesn't seem real. There's no proof.
Can any of you give me your point of view? I want details b/c i'm really troubled with this.
plz help
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I try to avoid religious debate, because it tends to be fruitless and frustrating. By its nature, religion really can't be debated; debate presumes logic, and religion is pure emotion, albeit often cloaked in pseudo-logic.
I did get kind of dragged into the issue once here, though. Here's a link to the question and my response:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=363056
In short, I'm an atheist. I was once a Christian, but came to the conclusion that the supernatural simply made no sense to me...and I saw no reason other than special pleading to place the Christian God and mythos into a separate category from all other supernatural beliefs, from Santa Claus to Zoroastrianism.
That's not fashionable to say, of course, and it certainly isn't the sort of thing that gets you wide social acceptance - at least, not in the modern US. But as a rationalist, I have no other option. I have to uphold what I believe is the truth, or I'd have no self-respect.
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do guys have something against redheads..im jw? (link)
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The small amount of scientific evidence that's available indicates that guys PREFER redheads.
Red hair, unlike any other hair color, is tied to a specific genetic flaw. It is also unique in that it's tied to an anti-survival trait: red hair is associated with a higher susceptibility to skin cancer.
A study a couple of years ago also indicated that redheads need more anesthesia to receive the same level of pain reduction as non-redheads, but it isn't clear whether this is because redheads are resistant to pain medication, or are just more sensitive to pain. I have been told by a doctor that redheads do tend to have anomalous medical reactions; for example, they are more likely to experience a temperature *drop* under circumstances that would give a non-redhead a fever.
That said, scientists speculate that one reason that the genes for red hair have not been bred out of our species (despite their minor but definite contra-survival association), is because redheads are simply more sexually appealing. In other words, people - guys AND girls - tend to find red hair attractive. Which gives redheads an improved chance of reproducing.
Of course, I'm a redhead. And I prefer redheads. So I may be biased.
I'll also note that my little boy has red hair, so I can testify personally to the effectiveness of the red hair gene. :D
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what do you do when your parentswant to do something you dont want to do for example church? (link)
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When it comes to church in particular, I'm afraid that parents can be really demanding - particularly if they're very religious.
Legally, they can make you do that sort of thing, and there isn't much you can do about it. It's not child abuse, after all. Well, assuming that they don't go to a child-abusing church. :D
I'm sorry, but if there's a solution to this one, I never found it. All you can do is wait until you're old enough to tell them that you don't want to go, or until you move into your own place.
You're not alone. There are a LOT of us who suffered through years of church, until we were able to make our own decisions.
Good luck!
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well im going to eigth grade and i didnt have my period yet...should i be worried?i dont even got boobs yet (link)
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Everyone matures at a different rate. You do seem to be going a bit more slowly than most girls, but there's plenty of time.
I assume that you're getting annual checkups? Your doctor would let you know if s/he was concerned. But if it's really bothering you, give your doctor a call, or have your parents make the call for you.
Good luck, and try not to worry!
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ok im not sure if its my period or like if i am going to die or something!!!! i came back from somewhere and just saw that blood was in my undiwear. it has been for like 3 days now. but every time i go to the bathroom there is blood-A LOT, like i have to change the pad (i gues). idk if this is my period or not. if it is, its the first time thats why im asking like this. but please, im really worried something might be wrong so if you could please explain what it is supposed to look/feel right, and what i just explained sounds normal or whatever! PLEASE ASAP! sorry for the length. bye (link)
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It's normal. Everyone is a little different, and you may not bleed the same amount every time, but what you've described is well within the bounds of normal menstruation.
Now that you're menstruating, you should probably schedule an appointment with your OB/GYN.
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I just had surgerey earlier like at 10:45, and had anastesia. My dad and I were supposed to go to another city quite a few miles away. Do you think that I could go? We would go at like 7 or 8 tonight. Oh, did I mention we're going on his motorcycle? Yea, we are. So..do you think this would be alright? I need answers as soon as possible. Thanks
***Jess***♥ (link)
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It doesn't sound like a good idea, but (as everyone else has said) it also depends on what type of surgery you had.
Actually, if you had general anesthesia, I'd say you almost CERTAINLY shouldn't be riding a motorcycle.
And for most kinds of surgery, you'd be running a risk of causing yourself some damage by moving around so much. Right now you need to rest and allow the incision(s) to heal.
If this was utterly minor surgery - say, draining a cyst under local anesthetic - then you'll be fine, I guess. But for anything more than that, you shouldn't take the chance. Check with your doctor to be sure, though.
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I have a phobia that I want to get over but dont know how, please help. (link)
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A full-blown phobia is awfully hard to tackle alone. It's generally best to get some professional help.
That said, relaxation techniques and self-hypnosis are one good place to start. Begin by taking three deep slow breaths. Then tense and relax each muscle group, beginning with the feet and working your way up to the scalp. Take it slow. Imagine yourself in a beautiful, safe, relaxing place.
If you can practice that every night, you should be able to get pretty good at it. Try it when your phobia is triggered; it should help.
That's a VERY quick introduction, and there are more advanced techniques, but you really should talk to a professional for more help. There are a number of treatment options that they can offer you. Remember, you don't have to live your life in fear.
Good luck!
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i applied to work at Giant.. and i was called for an interview lastnight. its tomorrow, and i dont know what to wear. any suggestions?? please. (link)
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Dress conservatively. I believe that Giant is a supermarket? Just guessing - we don't have Giant in my area.
If you're male, you can't go wrong wearing a clean white button-down dress shirt, preferably with long sleeves. Dark unwrinkled dress slacks and dark dress shoes are also a good idea.
For professional interviews, add a conservative blazer or suit.
Women should wear conservative blouses and not show a lot of cleavage (unless they're applying to work at Hooters). Add a dark skirt that covers most, if not all, of the knee. Dark slacks are also an option, although there are still a few dinosaurs out there who might frown on that.
Shoes, too, should be conservative and tasteful; extreme high heels are a bad idea. Jewelry should not be excessive.
In some cases (particularly for professional career interviews) women may choose to wear a pantsuit or skirt-suit.
In other words, dress as if you were going to church, a winter wedding, or a funeral. It's hard to over-dress for an interview, unless you're applying for a job at a farm, a mud-wrestling pit, or in construction. :D
Try to be clean-shaven, neat, and clean. Avoid overly-strong aftershave (does anyone actually USE that stuff?), deodorant, and perfume. Of course you should use SOME deodorant if you normally need it - just don't drown yourself in the stuff.
One easy rule of thumb is to dress AT LEAST as conservatively as the people who already work at that store or company.
Good luck!
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