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my bf and i just broke up. i think i like him still but he's treated me badly the whole time we've been together. i found out that he never really liked me in the first place and was juz doin that till he got another gf. what should i do about my feelings for him?
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aw that stinks.. well yoou said he was really rude to you so he obviously wasn't a good boyfriend in the first place... just tell yourself he's a jerk and you deserve sooooo much better... keep yourself busy and do fun things so you'll get your mind off of him... because if your bored, you'll think about him.. don't worry time heals everything... and you'll find an even better guy in the future <3... your ex is in the past now and you'll forget about him sooner or later, because you can't force yourself to get over him right away. hope i helped <33
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Hey,
Well there isn't anything you can do about you're feelings...if you like him...you like him. Your going to have to wait for those feelings to go away. Just keep telling you'reself what an asshole he is and how he doesnt deserve you and hopefully that will help your feelings depart a little more quickly.
<33 kayla
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yikes he doesn't sound nice whatsoever. you have to move on. obviously he seems like a jerk and you can do way better. try going out with your friends and meeting guys. some good places would be like the movies, minature golf/putt putt, bowling, dinner, etc.
good luck!♥
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Feelings are like stretchmarks: they take time to fade. The best thing you can do is force yourself to be active. The more quiet time you have, the more you'll think about him and suffer, so get out more! Find some new activities, preferably with new people. Volunteer somewhere - a hospital, an animal shelter, a soup kitchen, ANYTHING. Start a new hobby. Join a club. You don't have to pretend you're having a wonderful time; just FORCE yourself to be busy.
Exercise is also a great idea. It will speed up your metabolism, and increase the release of endorphins in your brain; that will definitely make you feel better. You'll also feel better about yourself as you get into better shape.
Try to wait for a few months at least before you consider dating again. Right now you probably aren't interested in that; you're still emotionally attached to your ex-boyfriend, and dating other boys would probably just feel wrong to you. But later on your feelings will change, and that's the time that you're most at risk of a rebound relationship. Those usually don't end turn out well, so it would be smart to set yourself a time - say, six months - during which you won't date. That sounds harsh, but I think you'll end up agreeing that it was the best thing you could do.
You'll be happier in the end.
And just a suggestion: learn what you can from this experience. If your boyfriend wasn't good to you, and didn't really like you, you chose badly. That could just have been an accident, but the odds are good that you could pick wrong again. So think carefully about what sort of boy you want to be with, and how you'll want your next boyfriend to treat you.
I'm not saying that you were abused - I don't know - but abuse victims tend to pick abusive partners again and again. I hope you're not in that trap, but if you are, try hard to choose boys who respect you and will treat you with kindness.
Good luck!
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Your better off without him. If he treated you bad once why would you want to stay with him. If you like this so much then ask him if he ever really liked you and just tell him how you felt about him and how you still feel. Its your decision, but I think you can find a better guy thats going to love you and really care about you. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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