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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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I need to do a small report on a discrimination case. It can be any racial, disability, age, any.
But I can't seem to find any ones the really interest me. So if you could please leave the name of a discrimination case it would be appreciated. (link)
Here are a couple you might find interesting to investigate more.

Walmart age discrimination
http://www.diversityinc.com/content/1757/article/1256/

Hollywood writers age discrimination
http://articles.latimes.com/2010/jan/23/business/la-fi-ct-writers23-2010jan23


I'm tired of living in my parents expectation and acting in a certain way, im 18 years old and i know i dont really know about the world a lot but really, i just want to have fun with my friends and do something spontaneous with my friends but i seem like i cant do it because i constantly have to worry about family lecturing me how i go out a lot or going home a lot what can i do about this? i feel really im controlled and i dont like it but i dont have a guts to say that. (link)
At 18 you are considered to be an adult. You're parents may be thinking you are not acting very mature.

So long as you are living in your parents home, you have to live within their rules.

Do you have a job? If not get one. Goal...get your own place. There you can act any way you want to. You'll be your own boss. ;)


I'l summarize this as much as i can.Me and my boyfriend were only together for about 3 months but we got very attatched.We were together way to much,but didn't fight that much either.We would be with eachother from the minute we wokeup to the minute we went to sleep ..it seems like.He was the boyfriend that was my best friend as well.He broke up with me ..randomly.I had no idea it was coming. He said " he doesnt like me as much as he did,he sees me as more of a friend,i didnt give him enough space,etc" (typical breakup stuff) then he said "that im the coolest,cutest most amazing girl ever ".I cared way to much for him,i made him food,i wrote him cute letters,i drove him every where everyday,yes he acknowledged that I cared to much ,,which drove him away.It's been two days and my friends have talked to him and to one of my friends he said "he knows he's gonna miss me" and my other friend said that he said " he was alright but sad " and that he had a sad look on his face the whole time they were with eachother.We haven't spoken a word to eachother really since the breakup.He was my first real boyfriend and he told me I was the only girl he ever loved and he's even cried to me 3 times and said he's never cried to anyone before.His family is down this week so he's been occupied with that and he's going to his brothers college (about 3 hours away) for a few days just to spend time away.I'm hoping when he comes back,he comes back to me to! Or i atleast hope he's thinking about me as much as I'm thinking about him.Since he broke up with me,i won't dare text him or call him..that's his job! He said he wanted a "break" but we both ended up taking it as a "break up"..We didn't have a nasty break up with yelling and screaming or anything.Do you think he'll come back? (link)
I really hate to give you bad news, but no, I don't think he'll come back.

All the lines you were given about how he's going to miss you etc. were just that. Lines. They kept you from freaking out to much when he broke up with you. Kept the break up friendly.

Next time you get into a relationship, give the guy some space. Don't spend every waking hour together.
Most guys will feel you are smothering them. Being clingy. They want to date you, not be married to you.

Don't wait around for this guy yo change his mind. Go find a new one. :)


ok so for the past couple days my ears having been in agonizing(sp?) pain . i went to the doctors today and he said i have an ear infection in both ears. i got prescribed numbing ear drops and amoxxicilin. i have been using the drops all day but although i still have some pain i now have this obnoxois(sp?) loud annoying ringing noise. is this normal am i just overreacting? (link)
You won't notice much of a change until after you have been taking your antibiotic for at least 24 hours. It will get better every day. Continue taking your antibiotic, even when you start to feel better so it doesn't come back.

Your ringing ears could be just an annoying symptom of your ears being infected. If it continues after you have finished your antibiotics, discuss it with your doctor.


A few years ago I got married to my darling husband. He's really a wonderful man but I wasn't ready for a baby then. Two of my best friends have BOTH just become pregnant and it makes me realize that I'd like to be pregnant now as well. I am ready to have my first baby but I don't know how to tell my husband now. When we got married he really wanted to have a baby right away and I told him how I didn't want that to happen so he was very disappointed. (link)
If you think he is still wanting a baby, make a celebration out of it. Fix a nice romantic dinner
& just tell him you're ready to start a family.


Why do people hardly ever buy new bright-yellow cars? In my graphic arts design class we were discussing how yellow on black has the biggest contrast or whatever. So, I got to thinking...why do people NOT like bright yellow cars? It sounds like they'd look the best agains the black asphalt road...
I guess my question is about your personal preference. Do you like the bright yellow cars? Why or why not? THANKS! (link)
Me, I gotta be different I guess. :)

I had a gray 1983 camaro. I painted it 79 corvette yellow and had the pin striping painted on in black. It looked sharp. It spawned several copy cat
yellow vehicles in the area.

Biggest reason for going with the yellow? It wasn't
your plain old white, yet hid body work flaws pretty nicely & wasn't like every other car on the road. I miss that car.


do you think it would be better if all men died out and only their sperm was saved so the female population would die out? We could eat the men and also reduce world hunger. Just think, Bush and Cheney would be gone along with all those other assholes. We could keep the gay, sensitive ones for the sperm, right?

what a perfect world it would be.

what do you think? (link)
am i insane to think like this?

I certainly feel you are.


i was wondering .. i seem to cum really fast no matter if im masturbauting or having sex. I see guys on pornos lasting so long. How do some guys last longer than other guys? im 17 m btw (link)
Well age has a lot to do with it. The best way to prolong things is to start thinking of something else when you get close to ejaculation. Takes some practice but most guys are willing to practice a lot. :)


I am going to go buy my first car with the money I've been saving up and my dad insists that I take him with me for a "better" deal. I kept telling him that they're going to give me a fair deal just like they give everybody else REGARDLESS OF GENDER and that I can go alone if I want to. He keeps saying how the salesman will see I'm a woman and will shoot the price up and that I won't know what to look for under the hood or during the test drive. I think I will know if something doesn't sound right or doesn't work though.

Why should I take a man along to a car dealership anyway? I just don't get his point. I think he's making too big of a deal out of this? I don't think they're going to say, "Hey! It's a chick...let's rip her off!" I mean, WHY would they even do something like that?! Doesn't make sense! (link)
You don't necessarily need to take a "guy" with you.
But, unless you know a lot about cars, you need to take along someone who does. Unfortunatley, there are many, many businesses who will take advantage of anyone who they feel they can. Your dad is right about that. Its a great opportunity for them to make some money on a piece of crap that may look nice, but is mechanically a mess. Its not nice at all, but they do it everyday.

If you don't want to take your dad along take a mechanic at the very least. Someone who can help
you negotiate a better deal is good too. If you know what you are looking for, go online to Kelly blue book and see what your the car you want is actually worth. Most banks won't loan you more than that price.

I've only gone to buy a car one time. If dad comes along you can do what I did. Go to the lot
and start looking at a car that isn't your first choice but is in the same price range. When the salesman came out and started giving a line about that car, I left my husband to talk with him and went to look at the car I really wanted. When I went back and was asked what do you think of this car? I said well, I'd like you to come see this one (the one I really wanted). Worked like a charm!


I know this is probably the dumbest question ever but on St. Patrick's Day everybody drinks GREEN colored beer. Most people actually seem to call it green beer but I don't know the particular brand it might be. Anyway, my real question is actually WHY is it green? Other than this certain green beer served on St. Patrick's Day I've never seen a green colored alcoholic beverage. Is it just a brand of beer that adds green food coloring to their drink? Insight, please? (link)
I did a little research and the true answer is probably that American bar owners can take a cheap beer, color it green and charge a higher price for it. Good for making a profit. They say a true Irishman wouldn't drink green beer, it is an American tradition.

I really like the idea that it could have come from this little tune though. :)

Jerome Holst, songwriter, states the following lyrics about green beer. ...

Now you may wonder how green beer
Got its fancy hue
Well once upon in Ireland
A leprechaun needed to
Relieve himself and so he pissed
Into a nearby stream
That just by chance was passing by
The local brewery...(magically delicious!)


I'm an 18-year-old female and I'm really lonely. I have friends but I don't feel like they really care about me or would mind if I wasn't around. I've tried talking to them about how I feel and they don't listen. My parents are the same. I don't like my personality or how I look but I can't seem to change it. I try to be social but I just end up feeling miserable. I was diagnosed with depression and had some councilling but it just made me feel worse and when I went back to my doctor, she just sent me away with a reccomendation for more. I feel sad and isolated all the time and I don't know what to do. (link)
The thing is, there are so many medications for depression. Finding the right one and the right dosage can take a while sometimes. Don't give up trying to find the one that works for you. Remember that its the depression that's making you feel miserable.

If you feel your doctor isn't doing you any good, you can always change doctors. However, keep this in mind.

Your doctor will start you on the lowest dosage. If that doesn't work he/she will continue to increase the dosage until you reach the safe max.Then they will switch drugs and the process starts all over again. It continues until the correct dosage/med for you is found.

Its really to bad it has to take so long sometimes. You should also remember that it takes time for each dosage change to kick in and start working. I'm not sure if a couple of weeks is long enough or if its 30 days. It may depend on the med. That is something to discuss with your doctor.

I'm sure your friends would care if you weren't around. Remember depressed people don't see things exactly as they are at times. You just feel sad all over and can feel you are on the outside looking in. Thats just the depression.
It can be fixed. You have to keep trying & never give up. Things WILL get better.

Feel free to email me any time you want to talk.
Hang in there and let me know if I can help in any way. :)


how long do you leave in the clorox and shampoo in your hair (link)
Do not use clorox on your hair. Your hair will most likely fall out if you do. It could also cause severe burns to your scalp and/or eyes. Use a product made specifically for bleaching your hair, which is a whole different thing from bleaching your clothes.

Keep in mind also if you have dark colored hair, and you were to attempt this, you would get many shades of orange hair and not the blonde you are probably going for.


I'm very worried that when I get pregnant, I may not be able to support my baby. I'm 5'3" and around 95-100 lbs. I'm obviously a very tiny girl. I don't look sickly skinny, but I can still see my ribs and my hip bones stick out. It's not that I don't eat, because I eat a lot. I am also a runner, and have a fast metabolism. I am just scared that when I do get pregnant, I won't be able to carry my baby full-term or something else may go wrong. I have an older sister who is a bit smaller than me and the first time she got pregnant, she had a miscarriage. The second time, her son was born 2 months early (but lived) and while pregnant with her last son, she had was on so much medication to keep the baby inside her for as long as possible. Does anyone have any experience with this ? Or could anyone tell me what might happen ? (link)
I am 5'3". I weighed 120 when I got pregnant the first time. I had a very healthy pregnancy and an 8 lb. 9 ounce child.

Everyone is different, but miscarriages are usually because of a problem with the child itself and nothing wrong with the mother. occassionally a person like your sister will have problems carrying a pregnancy, but that doesn't mean you will have.

When the time comes for you to start a family, go see an obgyn BEFORE you get pregnant. Explain your fears. Get some answers from a professional. As a matter of fact, just ask questions at your next or first visit with a doctor for a pelvic exam.


my vagina hurts and leaks a clear substance?what should i do i do not want to see a doctor? (link)
Since there is pain involved you need to see a doctor. If you refuse to see a doctor then I guess you will have to learn you live with the pain & results of an undiagnosed problem.


Iv'e recently noticed that whenever i click on
the Firefox icon on my desktop that Firefox doesn't open up...what should i do about this & why is this happening?

Will uninstalling & reinstalling Firefox
fix the problem or is it more complicated? (link)
This may not work for you, but its an easy fix if its the problem. I've noticed firefox recently is sometimes not shutting down properly. As a rule when you go to use it again it will tell you its already running, but just check because it only takes a minute.

Hit control alt delete together. Go to processes and see if firefox or mozilla firefox shows up anywhere. If it does, click on end task. Then it should start for you.


alright, so i had sex on monday.
last night (tuesday night) i forgot to take my pill before i went to bed. i took it as soon as i woe up.
tonight, i took it on time.

what are the chances of me getting pregnant? is the birth control still effective since i took it normally at the time i had sex? (link)
Unless this is your first round of birth control pills ever, you are probably ok. Chances of you being pregnant are not very good (thank goodness!).
Just try to remember them everyday. :)


I am thinking about killing someone. I know I shouldn't but I can't stop thinking about it (link)
If you think there is even a slight chance you could act on this, then you need some professional help.

Depending on your age, tell a parent or an older person what you are feeling. Make sure they understand you are serious. Tell them you need to talk to a professional. If you are on your own, then please seek advice from a doctor.

Whatever you do don't act on it. You are the one who will have to live with your actions for the rest of your life. It would torment you forever.
Prisons are not pleasant places to live & you would be living in one a very long time.


I'm a 26 year old female and I just want someone to please tell me what you think! Ok here goes... About three years ago I meet this guy... And real and kinda soon I fell real fast for him... We became inseprable, and I have a daughter that's five and she grew attached to him as well... My family did to and he and my brother became fast friends... We were so in love... And a year later he broke up with me after a argurment... But instead of telling me it was over he decided to just dodge me... He never even spoke to me or my family members... He wasn't even man enough to come to me and tell me how he felt... And my daughter who grew attached to him was deeply hurt... It really took me about over a year to get over him and to this day I still harbor hate and resentment issues towards him... So about 6 months ago I went to enroll my daughter in school... and to my disappointment his mother works there... So I had to run into her... Even though I didn't feel it I was nice and I spoke to her... And until today I really never held a convo with her... I would just see her around in school... But today I had to actually go to her office to talk to her about my daughter missing school... Because she was sick... And his mom is the school nurse... So we begin talking... And she started bringing up his sister... And how she was doing... And then she brought up him... She actually told me that he was getting married... To his exgirlfriend which is his sister best friend and the women that she wanted him to be with all along... She even went as far as to take his fiances picture off her desk and show it to me... Ok now here goes... My opinon of it was that she was super insensitve... She shouldn't have brought that up to my face and it was like she was bragging and boasting about it... It really hurt my feelings because even though we've been broken up for two years now... I still had a small hope that one day we will reunite and now it's totally out of the question... So please someone anyone tell me about this siuation let me know what you think thank you (link)
I can certainly understand you being mad at him! He took the easy out and didn't give you any closure. Even though you didn't know it, the relationship must have been in trouble already if one argument is going to set him off. He was probably just waiting for an excuse to run.

This happened long enough ago though that you really need to move on & try your best to get over it. I know that's easier said than done sometimes but you are the only one this hate and resentment is hurting. He's moved on, he doesn't care. Don't let him and his behavior keep you from getting out there and finding a great relationship for yourself.

As far as his mother goes, this isn't in any way her fault. She probably has no idea he just left after an argument and didn't come back. I know my
son has never shared details of a breakup with me.
I think his mom was just trying to make you comfortable, I don't think she meant to make you feel bad. Its been a couple of years, she probably assumed that you were over it by now. I probably would have assumed the same.

My opinion is that you may have been overly sensitive about it. I don't think she was trying to make you feel bad.


When am i most likely to het pregnant? (link)
When you have sex.


My boyfriend of a year and a half is suddenly being mean and sarcastic to me. Usually he is pretty nice and doesnt take out his anger on me. I don't kno if its something i said or did to provoke this. We just moved in to a new house and have gotten a new puppy. He also just turned 21 and we are supposed to celebrate his birthday this weekend, but he is increasingly agitated. Ive been trying everything i can to help him with the move and new pup. Should I try to make him feel better or call him out for making me feel bad?
Confused Girlfriend,age 18 (link)
You need to sit him down and have a good long talk. Find out what is bothering him and don't settle for the "nothing" answer.

Don't put up with him being mean and sarcastic to you. Let him know you are not going to put up with it. Once you do he will continue.

You need to find out what is going on with him. once you talk it out, you will both feel better.





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