I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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I will try to make this as simple as possible. Im a 42 yo male, however I do not feel like it nor do I look like it or act like it. Most all my friends are 20-25, I can hang with them and act just as crazy( with out being ingnorant) but I can also be the adult when I have to be. My question: Is it wrong for me to enjoy the company of the younger crowd, meaning, I am attracted to a 20yo female, Im not like some sexual preditor chasing/hunting down the teen hotties, Im just more attracted to them.Part of me feels totaly wrong for having these feelings.Give it to me strait and tell me how terrible I am. Sincerly mndfrk (link)
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There really isn't anything wrong with it. You can't help who you are attracted to and as long as it is legal, there is nothing wrong with trying to do something about it.
A lot of people feel uncomfortable with such large age gaps (sorry!) and I'm afraid that socially speaking, this will always be an issue. Even if you do not look like you are 42 now, when your age starts to show and your 20 something girlfriend still looks very young and verile, there will always be those people that pass comment and make snarly remarks. As long as this is something you and your potential partner can handle then there is no reason you shouldn't go for it.
However, the one thing I would very strongly advise is that a young 20 something girl may be naive and unwise to the ways of the world and this being the case, you would have to be very careful. I'm not suggesting in any way that you would take advantage or treat her poorly, so please don't think I am but what I am saying is she may think she is ready for things that perhaps she isn't yet. You have a lot more experience than someone half your age and no matter how young you make look, feel or act, there are some things that will not be different and you will have to make allowances for that. Please also bear in mind that whatever young female you may pick as a potential is liable to have protective parents who will almost certainly take exception to a middle aged (sorry again!) man taking an interest in their daughter. It's a stereotype that all older men want from younger women is sex but it is one a lot of people, especially parents buy into. So if you do find a girl you are interested in, the first thing you have got to do after you both decide you want to date each other is to speak to her parents. Let them get to know you. She will probably want to hide the whole thing from them but if you sneak around, it will make the whole situation worse.
As long as you take proper formalities, there will be less of a problem. Most importantly, remember that you can't help who you are attracted to so if you find someone younger that you like, as long as it is legal, go for it.
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okay well me and this kid we'll call him bob. well we started talking about a month & a half ago. and we really hit it off. we hung out and started liking eachother like right away. he really liked me and i liked him but it like seemed to change. we went out and it started to seem like i was liking him more. and then we broke up after a week. and then the week after that we went out and then broke up again. so we stayed friends & we still acted like we were going out and kissed all the time and crap. so on friday i asked him who he liked and he said this girl named sarah. so on friday i was with him and he kissed me and i was okay with it but then i started to feel akward and hes like why do you keep pulling back and i wouldnt tell him and then i finally did but it came out totally wrong. i said that he was leading me but i didnt mean it like that, so now hes mad at me and i tried to explain to him it was cause he liked that girl but then he goes i told her yesterday i didnt like her anymore and i did like you. so now i dont think he does anymore. and hes really not talking to me. & he like took my out of his top 8 on myspace and everything. so basically i just need to know what to say to him. please help me. im super sorry its really long. ill rate all 5's. thanks (link)
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I'm not entirely sure that you owe this guy an explanation at all, to be honest because from my perspective, you haven't done anything wrong.
I am finding it difficult to understand how it is that he doesn't want to actually go out with you but is happy to treat you as his girlfriend. It sounds to me as though he is just keeping one foot on the boat and one on the dock, which certainly wouldn't be good enough for most women. To then tell you that he liked another girl implies that he is considering going out with someone else while still acting like your boyfriend, which is appalling!
By all means, if you want to speak to him about what you said then do but make it clear that you every right to feel upset about the situation with the other girl. However, if you did say something bad to him, apologise for that. Also explain to him that you wouldn't have reacted the way you did if you knew where you stood. Are you just friends that kiss? Is he just spending all this time with you until 'someone better comes along'? Does he really like you? Is he under the impression you are in fact a couple again? You have a right to know the answers to these questions and I really don't think you should be kissing him until he is prepared to give you some answers. If he's just making use of you or just wants to kiss you without making you his girlfriend then you really ought to get rid of him once and for all because you can do a lot better.
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A guy that I'm friends with and hoping will be my bf one day keeps giving me mixed signals. One day he'll be sweet and attentive and tell me things I want to hear; and the next he's mean and cold. For example; one day he told me that he wanted to be with me and hoped I wouldnt marry someone else. Then another day he sarcastically told me I needed a man in my life. He can also make some rude comments about women in general; like "women always need attentiong"; and that men are smarter than woman. One day I took him to play tennis and the whole time he critized me. Everyone tells me I can do better but I feel I really love him. Even with all his faults he's still really sweet sometimes- once he gave me his computer and desk and when it was my birthday and phoned me and sang happy birthday and mailed me a gift (he lives out of state). He'll also say Bye Beautiful everytime we sign off on msn messanger. What do you think I should do? (link)
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This is kind of a toughie! I can understand your position. After all, even if he does like you, do you necessarily want to be with someone who can be so critical and makes sexist comments?
Then again, is it possible that these comments and criticisms come from somewhere else? Perhaps he says things like that he doesn't want you to marry someone else as his way of letting you know he likes you but when you don't respond in a way that lets him know you like him too, he becomes defensive. The way he is acting is similar to what I can do to my boyfriend when he does something to upset me, which is what leads me to believe this is a possibility.
Of course, there is also the chance that he is just not a great guy. However, my feeling towards this is that you will never know unless you take a chance.
A lot of people see dating as a be all and end all. Why go out with a guy if you're not sure how you feel about him? My rule of thumb is that dating is a method of getting to know a potential partner better. Dating doesn't mean you definitely have to stay with them or kiss them or sleep with them. There's no obligation there so why not give it a try? Tell him how you feel and ask him if he would like to go out with you. Go somewhere intimate where you can talk properly, like a restaurant and try to really get to know him. If you still think he gives you the cold shoulder after one or two dates, you don't have to go out with him again and you will know for sure. On the other hand, you could find out that he really is only using the criticisms and comments as a defense mechanism, fall madly in love with each other and live happily ever after!
My point is you won't know how warm the water is until you dip your toe in so give it a try and see what happens. You could end up the happiest girl in the world!
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ok this may get confusing so i'll try to put it simply ok
me and my ex also one of my best friends went out for 1 month then he broke up with me he says he did because he just saw me as a friend.i don't know if i really believe him this is the kind of realationship we had.
We talked on the phone like everyday for hours.
and we would always meet like every night(he lived behind me)anyway he seemed as though he liked me he would always put his arms around me and hold my hand and i truly thoght he liked me and i really loved him and i know i loved him because i don't say i love you unless i mean it and if a guy says it to me i'll be like thats good i know thats mean but hey can't lead them on anyway so i toldhim i loved him and he said he loved me know here's the thing he treated me way differnent then all his other girlfriends like on myspace he put all his g/f 1st but with me he didn't even put me on it he would hug his previous g/f at school but not me once we broke up i asked him if he really saw me as just a friend or if it was more to it and he said he really thought of me as a friend and he thought that way since before we were going out but he went out with me because he felt bad for me(i asked him out)!i cried for days only because i before we were going he told all my friends he likjed me he even told me he liked me so im so confused so does he like me or does he just think of me as a friend really?
we still flirt and its real hard to get over him when he's always there.
what should i do?
i still love him!
help plz
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sincerly,
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You poor thing!! I'm sorry that this has happened to you. It sounds like you really cared a lot about him.
As much as I hate to say it, I do believe he meant it when he told you he saw you as a friend. It might be that he thinks you are a great person but just doesn't feel that there is any real chemistry there. Sadly, there is really nothing you can do about this. However, I understand exactly what you mean when you say it's hard to get over him when he is always there and I do think you need to do something about this.
Having someone you felt a lot for but have broken up with around you constantly is very much like a recovering alcoholic working in a bar. It's there, right in front of you and knowing you can't have it is torture. The truth of the matter is, you can't get over something until you have had a length of time completely separated from it, whether it's alcohol, chocolate or a guy. Therefore, the best thing I can recommend to you is that you distance yourself from him as much as possible. Explain to him first, so he understands. Tell him that you understand why he broke up with you and you can accept it, but you still have a lot of feelings for him and you can't get over them while you still spend so much time together so you need some space away from him. After this point, don't talk to him, see him, text him, e-mail him, nothing. Break all contact. I'm not saying this will be easy but it is necessary. After a good time has passed (you will need to use your own judgement but I would recommend that a good time is when you are able to think about him without feeling a big pang of sorrow or longing), try speaking to him again but keep it strictly platonic. No flirting!
While you are effectively going 'cold turkey', make sure you keep yourself occupied. Go out with your friends to placed you know he won't be and forbid all your friends from mentioning him. Take up a new hobby or an extra-curricular. Volunteer for something. Just do something productive that will take your mind off him and make you feel like you have achieved something.
Eventually, you will realise you aren't thinking about him as often and that when you are thinking about him, you just smile because you remember the good times and don't feel sad because you miss what you had so badly. You can get over him but it takes time and work. Don't worry, you will be fine.
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alright so heres the deal. me and this guy used to go out. we went out like 6 times, and one time was almost for a year. He's always the one dumping ME, but somehow we end up back together again. Six months ago,he broke up with me so were not currently going out, but i still really like him, and i think he likes me again, too.Maybe he changed, but Im not sure if i should just keep giving him chances? but i really like him. Do you think its a good idea if we go out? Or should i just get over him? THANKS ALOT.
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Honestly? I think you are wasting your time with this guy. I'm sorry. I know it's not what you want to hear but I'm shocked you are even considering getting back with this guy who has dumped you so many times! You ever heard the phrase 'once burned, twice shy'? Take heed because it's applicable. You need to realise that if this guy has broken up with you 6 times already, he WILL do it again. I have to add that you ought to be questioning him as to why he keeps doing this to you. Either he wants to be with you or he doesn't but you cannot keep having your heart broken just because Mr Indecisive can't make up his mind.
I really don't think this guy deserves a seventh chance. He's lucky to have got away with treating you this badly! If you really want to give it one more try then that is entirely your decision but think carefully about it first and ensure that before you take him back, you ask him why he always breaks up with you. The fact is, in my opinion at least, you deserve a lot better and you ought to be out looking for someone who KNOWS they want to be with you, rather that someone who treats it like the whole thing is some sort of game. So ask him straight out, does he want to be with you or not? After that, the choice is yours but personally, I think you should move on.
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So, last night (Around 1:30 in the morning?) my boyfriend and I had sex and whatnot. We used a condom and all, but it ripped. I don't know if he realized it at first, so I don't know if he got his sperm inside of me or not, but I'm reallllly paranoid. We've had sex a few times before without a condom but he swears he pulled out before anything happened. I have no idea what to do, I'm really scared. Should I go get an ECP? I'm not sure when I was supposed to get my period but I was expecting it sometime this weekend/week. Any advice you can give me us greatly appreciated.. Please help? :/.. (link)
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Firstly, if the condom ripped while you were having sex and you aren't on the Pill, yes you could be pregnant and yes you should get the ECP. A major problem with condoms is the fact they can rip, which is why you should never rely on them as your only form of contraceptive. The best thing you can do is see your doctor and ask to be put on the Pill. As most pills are 99.9% effective as a form of contraceptive when taken correctly, used with condoms, you're as protected as you can be. It is what the Dutch call going 'Double Dutch'.
The other thing that you need to understand is that men produce sperm constantly and it can 'escape', so to speak, any time they are aroused. This means that whether he actually climaxes inside you or not, you can still get pregnant.
For future reference, if you're going to have sex, ALWAYS use a condom, make sure you are on the Pill if possible and remember that sex always carried the possibility of resulting in pregnancy, whether you use contraception or not.
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my boyfriend recently cheated on me with my ex friend. well he admitted to it and asked my forgivness so i forgave him and my friend hasn't forgave or admitted. but two days ago she called his cell fone and left a message that told him to call her back. the next day i looked on his cell and he called her. wat shoudl i do? wat should i say to him and her? should i make her admit it and say sorry? (link)
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Where to start?!! First of all, this ex-friend of yours is a terrible, horrible person because not only did she try (and succeed) to steal your boyfriend away but she also clearly feels no shame about it because she appears to be trying to do it again! This is the sort of girl who will go on to destroy peoples lives because the fact a guy is taken means nothing to her if she wants him.
As for your boyfriend, you need to get rid of him. Besides the fact that he is a liar and a cheat, you cannot trust him and a relationship without trust may as well not exist at all. Let's face it, even if you stay with him, you will always be wondering, always looking at his cellphone and always paranoid that he's straying again. And why shouldn't you feel like that? This guy has proven that he has no self-control and believes he can have his cake and eat it too.
You need to dump this guy. Now. You can do so much better than him and more importantly, you deserve a lot better than him. Don't let him get away with how he has treated you. I'm not saying take revenge because in my opinion, that is almost always a very bad idea. However, you need to break it off with him. Tell him you know something is still going on between him and this girl and if he wants her, he can have her but you want nothing more to do with him.
After that, lift your head high and know that you haven't lost anything because neither of them were worth having in the first place. Sooner or later, the same thing will probably happen to them and then they will be laughing on the other sides of their faces. Best of all, by that point, you could be with someone who treats you just as you should be treated and you could be very happy. So get rid of him and get on with your life.
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my boyfriend and i got pretty close last night to a home run but i got scared and froze up what should i do to calm down and go with the flow
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If you got scared and froze up, it's a sure sign that you just aren't ready to have sex yet. There's nothing wrong with this if you have never had sex before and your boyfriend should be able to accept this. Your first time is supposed to be special and with someone you are comfortable and ready to have sex with. When this happens, you won't need to calm down or go with the flow because you won't just feel comfortable, you will really want to do it with him.
I know it's such a cliche but if your boyfriend is in any way making you feel that you should have sex with him, regardless of your feelings, then he is not a good guy and you shouldn't be with him, let alone considering losing your virginity to him. It is a big deal and you will know when you are ready but until then, you should try to take it more slowly and make sure you don't let your boyfriend to put you under pressure to do anything you aren't ready for.
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Well theres a guy who I get on really well with. We talk at school and for hours on msn. A few months ago he asked me out, I turned him down I didnt want to ruin our friendship. Again a few weeks ago he asked me again, we have been chatting more and hanging out loads. I said I would think about it then the next day told him I didnt think it would work. So its been just over a month since he asked me and im starting to fal for him, he seems to have moved on but im not sure. We spoke on msn for 7 hours today, I mean before I knew he had msn I was only online around once a week. He is such a sweet guy and I regret saying no, I guess I never really noticed that side of him before. Now I need your help, Is it too late?? Should I ask him out?? Has anyone been in this situation before?? Im falling in love with a good good friend so I need amazing advice. I dont want to ruin what we have, but dont want to lose what we could have had. Thanks for reading this.
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Really, what you do depends on how sure you are of your feelings and how strong they are. My rule of thumb is that if it could be love, you may have a great friendship but it should be risked for great love. If you don't think it will be anything more than a crush that may be short lived, it is best not to take the risk and maintain the friendship.
I have been in this situation before. The guy I fell for was my best friend and we have now been together for three years, living together for 8 months. It was terrifying telling him how I felt but it came down to the fact I couldn't bear the thought of spending the rest of my life without him, which is what could have happened if I hadn't told him how I felt. When I felt like that, I never thought twice about the risk to our friendship.
It is never too late to tell someone how you feel or how you felt about them and if you don't tell him, you could end up regretting it if you really care a lot about him. So if you really think what you have could blossom into love, tell him and see what he wants to do. Explain you are sorry if you hurt him all those times you turned him down but as time has gone on, you've developed feelings for him. If he's asked you out twice then he probably hasn't stopped feeling the same way about you. More to the point, if him asking you out and you turning him down twice hasn't ruined your friendship, I doubt it will if you tell him how you feel. So just go for it, if you think you are ready. Who knows? It may turn out to be your first love!
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if you shower in cold water does it really make your hair shinier? or does anyone know other ways to make your hair shiny?
thanks!
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It can do but I have heard that the main effect is that it helps to reduce frizz.
I know this will sound odd but the most well known product for making your hair shinier is beer. It's absoloutely true. If you can get hold of some beer and rub some into your hair, then rinse out with cold water, it is supposed to give your hair a great shine.
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in between my breasts on that bone, it stings almost like cramps. also, once in a while it stings on my ribs. actually it kind of feels like a sharp pain. what is this and how can i cure it. PLEASE DONT SAY call the doctor. (link)
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It sounds very much like heartburn, which is a sign of indigestion and oh my goodness does it hurt!!!!! I get it there quite often myself. I can't take indigestion remedies but I would recommend you take Rennie or Gaviscon, which come highly recommended.
It might also be a symptom of trapped wind. There are medications to help with this, such as wind-eze, but I hear that a mug of hot water and gentle exercise can help to move it.
Don't worry, it's nothing serious. Just wind or indigestion so try some medication for indigestion and that should help.
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im 13 yr old female.
Okay i started talking to this one guy i really liked a while ago.He imed me and sadd that he wanted to get to no me better, we started cybering and i started liking him even more. He started getting orderly so i showed my friend what he was saying and we were mad at each other for sometime.he said he was sorry, and now he wants me to flash him a piece of my thong, or "pretend to slip and rub me" and i dont know what to do, hes really popular, so im afraid if i turn him down ill be even more hated than i already am...please help ill rate high!
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I understand what you are saying but you really need to weigh this. Are you prepared to risk your personal dignity for a little popularity? I would also like to point out that a guy who 'wants to get to know you' and then just begins cybering is not the sort of guy with any respect for women. That is not getting to know someone, but rather finding a willing volunteer for a cheap thrill. I'm sorry if that isn't what you want to hear but he's not respecting you right now.
I would strongly suggest that you don't do it. If you do it, you may think he will like you but he will respect you even less and if you don't do it, you're not really losing out because he's not really a friend to you anyway. I'm sorry to say this but I am speaking from experience. If he really is your friend or respects you in any way, if you tell him you don't want to go any further and do anything like this that he is asking, he will be nice about it and let the whole thing drop.
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Ok...I'm 14/f. Since it's the end of the school year at and I wont be going back to my current school I wanted to tell this guy that I've liked for about 3 years how I feel. The question is how do I get the guts to say it? I mean he's one of my good friends and all but this will be the last time I see him and it's gonna kill me if I dont tell him! What do I do? I rate high! Plz and thank you!
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I had the exact same problem when I was 12. There really is nothing you can do to help summon the courage except to remind yourself that this will be your last opportunity.
You know, I really had a big thing for this guy for two years before I left school and I never told him how I felt. My 'friend' did and harassed him so much (allegedly on my behalf) that he refused to speak to me. So I sent him a letter, telling him how I felt and what had happened. I never heard from him again.
This is why I want to stress to you that you NEED to tell him. Until a few years ago, I always regretted not telling him how I felt because the worst he could have done was said no. I don't want you to go through this because the regret you feel is like a constant torture at the back of your mind.
Whatever you do, before school ends, tell him that you really like him and have for some time and even if he doesn't feel the same way, you just didn't want to never have told him that. Leave it there and if he likes you too, he should tell you. If not, you haven't lost anything but you prevented yourself from suffering huge regrets. So take a deep breath and just do it.
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my ex boyfriend [ i just broke up with him tonight ] wont talk to me. he practically hates me .. were talking on the phone right now and i love him to death but he just treats me wrong. i mean its just when hes around me hes fine, but when hes with his friends hes just stupid. what should i do ? ;please help' (link)
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There is really nothing you can do. I know that you really don't want to hear that but the truth is, he's probably hurt by it all and he's ignoring you and acting as though he hates you to try to hide his real feelings.
If you haven't already, tell him that you are sorry if you hurt him and explain to him exactly why you can't be with him any more. Knowing why might take some of the edge off his feelings because everyone has a right to know why someone no longer wishes to be with them and telling them means it is a point he can work on for future relationships.
After this has been done, there is only time which can heal his wounds. I know it's a cliche but it is the truth. He needs time to accept the situation and after a while, he should start behaving normally again.
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i'm going to be 19 soon and so far i've had a lot of life experience, but about 10 years ago my parents got divorced which i understand happens my dad was an alcoholic and my mother didn't think that i was a good environment for me and my brothers to be raised in. for about two years me and my brothers would spend every other weekend with him, but once i started middle school and started hanging out with a lot of friends i didn't go see him as much because i'd be busy...on my 14th birthday i waited all day for him to call me, i checked the mail everyday for a week for a card and i got nothing. it really bummed me out, i asked my mom when the next time i'd get to go to his house to see him and after she called him to find out when we would get to see him, he said that he couldn't for a while because of work, i didn't see or hear from him for two years after that. then on my sweet 16 i went to dinner with my grandmother and my then boyfriend, i was talking to her about the job that i wanted when my old bf asked about my dad, i don't think that my grandmother was thinking when she said this but she accidently slipped out that before i was born that my father wanted my mother to abort me when he knew that it was going to be a girl, after that i just broke down i spent two weeks without talking to anyone, i tried to stop thinking about it, it got toward the end of high school and i was preping for my graduation, without telling me, my older brother sent my dad an invite to the graduation ceremony. i started to panic while i was waiting to walk because i was afraid that he wasn't going to show i even started crying until i saw him walking down the hall towards me, HE SHOWED, i thought "oh well he wants to be in my life again" after he left to go back home (he lives two hours away) i stopped hearing from him again, it really sucks because i get really jealous of all my friends because i'm the only person in my whole circle of friends who's parents aren't together, i have maybe one friend who's parents aren't together but he still sees them both, why would a parent just abandon his kids like that? i have to spend three weeks in the same town that he lives in to do training for work and i leave for there on my birthday, i'm really afraid that if i see him he'll just act like everything's ok or even ignor me completely, is it just that he doesn't care about me or could it be something else? i know he doesn't have a job right now because he's been dating this stupid bitch of a woman since my parent's split and she hates me and my brothers so it's hard to tell if it's him or her that's stopping the connection HELP!
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I am so sorry that you are going through this. It must have been particularly hard the last few years to cope with a Father who is so distant from you.
I know that you desperately want a Father figure in your life but it seems that he just isn't prepared for Fatherhood at this point. It may be that initially the alcoholism kept him away and since then it has been shame or fear of rejection. The fact that he came to your Graduation would suggest to me that he is interested in your achievements and so on but that there is something stopping him from being there as much as he should be. Unfortunately, I can't say for sure what this is.
Personally, I really think it might be a good idea to confront him about this. Ask him to meet you for lunch or dinner and ask him staight out "Why have you never been there for me?" You should be able to get some straight answers. However, if you decide to do this, you hve to be ready to cope with any answer you might get. Whether it is simply that he was too ashamed to see you after some time had passed or whether it was just he didn't want anything to do with his children.
Whatever happens, Shay, please try not to dwell on this too much. I know it hurts so badly sometimes but some people just aren't cut out to be good parents. You have every right to be upset and feel as though you have missed out on something but the alternative would have been being raised by an alcoholic Father, which would most probably have been worse.
If you think you are ready, try to talk to him about it because it is the only way you will get real answers and be able to set your mind at rest. After this point, try to accept that you might be better off without this man in your life and try to get on with your life. He may not be there for you as you would like but there are plenty of people who love you and care about you and that is what you need to focus on.
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I spilled soda on my phone yesterday and it broke and now I'm afraid to tell my parents. It was an accident, the soda leaked in my purse, it wasnt out of carelessness or anything, but I dont know how to approach telling my parents!! (link)
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The best thing you can do is to tell them about it SOON!! Explain that you are very sorry but that it happened and you will either buy them a new phone or pay them back the cost of a new phone. Tell them (most importantly) that you are very sorry you didn't tell them soon but you were scared and although it's no excuse, you just panicked and couldn't tell them.
The fact that you are apologising for not telling them sooner means they will understand you knew you made a mistake here and that is one less thing for them to have to deal with. Offering to pay the cost of a new phone shows a great deal of maturity and responsibility and telling them what happened rather than lying shows courage.
You may still get in trouble but this is very much damage limitation now. Whatever you do, just don't shout back at them if they get mad. It will be a bit of a shock and they are entitled to be upset so if they shout, stay quiet and just tell them you are sorry.
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Our dog who is 8 months has had enlarged nipples now for a few weeks. She got out three four weeks ago and dissapeared for a few days. We found her and have had her at home ever since but is there a chance she is pregnant? It is unusual for a puppy to have such large nipples. (link)
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If she hasn't been spayed then it is a possibility. However, there is also a chance she may just be 'in heat'.
The best thing you can do is to take her to the vet and get her checked out. They will be able to feel around her stomach and do various tests to work out what it is. If you explain the symptoms over the phone to the vet, they may be able to tell you over the phone.
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I had my last cycle April 28 through around May 3. I've got something important going on May 30 that I can't miss, but will have to if I'm on my peroid. Am I correct in thinking that there's a 100% chance I'll miss it? (link)
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Not necessarily!
I was going on holiday to Tenerife once and was going to have to put up with having my period while I was there. I went to my doctor and he gave me a tablet which can delay your period.
Basically, you start taking it a few days before your period is due and then have one every day until you are ready to have your period. It should start a day or two after you stop taking the tablet.
I assume that this tablet is available everywhere so have a chat with your doctor and see if you can have it.
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SO in ethics class last week we learnt that statutory rape is basically when someone has forced sex with a minor (under 16) and it could apply when 2 minors involve themselves, etc, etc. We also learnt that you will immediately go to jail until the trial.
My question is:
When a girl gets pregnant and she had sex but she's say 13 or 14, do they just deliever the baby? I see girls like 15 and 14 with babies and I'm wondering...don't the doctors of nurses ask them questions....cause that's statutory rape right, so can the mother be jailed or the dad? ...does anyone know if this happens or they just deliever the baby no questions? (link)
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It isn't necessarily rape, no because you don't know that the 14 and 15 year olds had been forced to have sex. The sad truth is that children are getting pregnant at such young ages these days as even 12 and 13 and it is usually because they had unprotected sex with boys of a similar age. As long as they weren't forced into having sex then it isn't statutory rape. However, if they have sex, whether willing or not and their partner is aged over 16 at the time, the one aged over 16 can be jailed for rape.
It is rare for Doctors or Nurses to ask questions because if the Father of the child isn't at the birth, they have no reason to suspect foul play. More often, they will think the kid just had unprotected ex and got pregnant. Mostly, they will just assist with the birth, give some help and advice after the baby is born and after that, any action is down to the police and it is rare for them to get involved unless a report is made.
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Okay, once I was looking at some questions, and I came across this girl who had this problem. Though after she was done explaining her problem she gave a list of ways that she would like the question to be answered. The most non secencial one was when she said, "For all you people who TlaK lyk DIs" Don't bother answering. That just pissed me off because if you REALLY need help, then you wouldn't care how people answered your question, as long as it gets answered in the first place. My question is: If people list ways to answer their question, then how are we suppose to answer it honestlly if we can't fully express our feelings due to their moranic limitations? (link)
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I agree to a point. I think that if someone doesn't want specific answers then it seems they want confirmation that what they have decided to do is something other people would approve of.
However, when it comes to the actual wording, I must admit it highly irritates me when people type like that rather than in proper English. I just can't see the point when surely it is so much faster to type in normal English that everyone can understand than to type in ridiculous 'text speak' that takes ages to translate?!
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