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my boyfriend recently cheated on me with my ex friend. well he admitted to it and asked my forgivness so i forgave him and my friend hasn't forgave or admitted. but two days ago she called his cell fone and left a message that told him to call her back. the next day i looked on his cell and he called her. wat shoudl i do? wat should i say to him and her? should i make her admit it and say sorry?
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once a cheated.. always a cheater. and sometimes that doesnt apply but obv he likes your ex freind.. you know what has happened is in the past. no need to being it up and make her say sorry cause chances are that she is not. so why bother.. move on. he will realize what a lost you were in the end.
-Adrianna
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Where to start?!! First of all, this ex-friend of yours is a terrible, horrible person because not only did she try (and succeed) to steal your boyfriend away but she also clearly feels no shame about it because she appears to be trying to do it again! This is the sort of girl who will go on to destroy peoples lives because the fact a guy is taken means nothing to her if she wants him.
As for your boyfriend, you need to get rid of him. Besides the fact that he is a liar and a cheat, you cannot trust him and a relationship without trust may as well not exist at all. Let's face it, even if you stay with him, you will always be wondering, always looking at his cellphone and always paranoid that he's straying again. And why shouldn't you feel like that? This guy has proven that he has no self-control and believes he can have his cake and eat it too.
You need to dump this guy. Now. You can do so much better than him and more importantly, you deserve a lot better than him. Don't let him get away with how he has treated you. I'm not saying take revenge because in my opinion, that is almost always a very bad idea. However, you need to break it off with him. Tell him you know something is still going on between him and this girl and if he wants her, he can have her but you want nothing more to do with him.
After that, lift your head high and know that you haven't lost anything because neither of them were worth having in the first place. Sooner or later, the same thing will probably happen to them and then they will be laughing on the other sides of their faces. Best of all, by that point, you could be with someone who treats you just as you should be treated and you could be very happy. So get rid of him and get on with your life.
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Cheating is probably the worst thing that can happen in a relationship next to domestic violence. You know that he called her back, but he doesn't know you know. That right there could hurt him quite a bit, because he could take it as meaning you don't trust him. In a relationship, trust is one of the most important elements. If it doesn't exist, than neither does your relationship. Sorry if that sounds harsh...
Keep things simple and straightforward. All you really need to ask him is if he responded to the message, and ask him what he said. You don't really know what he said, but it could have been anything. Don't take the angry approach even though you're hurting. If the guy said that he was sorry, trust that he's sincere unless you have solid proof otherwise.
I hope this helps... I've never been cheated on, but I've seen others go through a lot of heck in relationships. However, people have tried to screw with my girlfriend and I before and that's what it seems your "ex-friend" is trying to do. Don't trust anything she tells you. You should probably just ignore her.
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