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my boyfriend and i got pretty close last night to a home run but i got scared and froze up what should i do to calm down and go with the flow
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you may not be ready. saying and doing are two different things and if you freeze up when it comes down to it, my forst guess would be that your not ready or you dont want it to be w/ him...
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everyone always says "if you have any regreats then don't do it" or "if you have second thoughts don't do it"
you always have second thoughts with every choice you make so why can sex be any different? well it's not. I'm sure everyone who's had sex had second thoughts about it. but if it feels totally wrong.. then do not do it.
goodluck sweetie
and make sure you use a condom!
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DONT do anything you dont want to.. Be for sure that you want to before you do. Make sure its somebody you realllllyy value before you want to give yuor virginity up.. Like its different your first time. You want to at least have a memberale relationship to lose it to so you wont look back and say, i wish i would have waited like 4 months so til when this other guy came along..
it is perfcetly okay to be scared.. most people are and being scared may be because u arent ready
-Adrianna
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It's possible that the reason you are scared is because you're emotionally not ready for that kind of intimacy yet. Don't rush into it. Do it at your own pace. Make sure you and your guy talk about it so you both know you are on the same page with things. If you are ready however, get yourself "pretty-fied" as I like to say. Dress cute, shave, get your hair and nails done -do anything that makes you feel desirable. Then when the time comes, you will feel even more willing because you yourself feel sexy. This also boosts your confidence, which is really hott to guys. So, in a nutshell, make sure you are actually ready, REALLY ready, and then go and get "pretty-fied". haha. Good luck and let me know how it goes! - GC07
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Only do what you are comfortable with!! If you "freeze up" yu are not comfortable and shouldnt be doing that!!! Trust me
_x0` Julianne
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as lame as its gonna sound - you were NOT ready to go that far. if theres any tensing up, or any feeling uncomfortable- thn youre NOT ready. dont force yourself into something you feel wierd about doing. trust me when i tell you this- it might seem so- but it is SOOOOOOOOOO not worth it in the end. wait until you can feel completely at home with that person and not have to worry about feeling guilty, or embarassed or ashamed about anything. and mostly- dont let him force you into anything you dont want to do. wether you are ready or not- doing so will change your relationhip- wether yuo like it or not. sometimes for the worse. just think about what your doing. hope i helped .be careful.
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If you got scared and froze up, it's a sure sign that you just aren't ready to have sex yet. There's nothing wrong with this if you have never had sex before and your boyfriend should be able to accept this. Your first time is supposed to be special and with someone you are comfortable and ready to have sex with. When this happens, you won't need to calm down or go with the flow because you won't just feel comfortable, you will really want to do it with him.
I know it's such a cliche but if your boyfriend is in any way making you feel that you should have sex with him, regardless of your feelings, then he is not a good guy and you shouldn't be with him, let alone considering losing your virginity to him. It is a big deal and you will know when you are ready but until then, you should try to take it more slowly and make sure you don't let your boyfriend to put you under pressure to do anything you aren't ready for.
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You want your first time to be special, right? You also would want to be comfortable with him, so I'm guessing you're just not ready. Don't push yourself into doing it if you're not sure if you're ready yet. Just tell your boyfriend how you feel, and if he cares about you, he'll wait for when you are. Your first time will always make you nervous, but if you feel as if you have to ask on here if you're ready, then you're not.
Another thing, I believe sex should wait until marriage, but if you absouloutly HAVE to, ALWAYS use protection.
-mystical_breeze
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You're obviously not ready. Don't push yourself. You want the timing to be right. Don't worry, it'll come. Hope this helps.
-cindy <3
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