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Should I Move On?
A guy that I'm friends with and hoping will be my bf one day keeps giving me mixed signals. One day he'll be sweet and attentive and tell me things I want to hear; and the next he's mean and cold. For example; one day he told me that he wanted to be with me and hoped I wouldnt marry someone else. Then another day he sarcastically told me I needed a man in my life. He can also make some rude comments about women in general; like "women always need attentiong"; and that men are smarter than woman. One day I took him to play tennis and the whole time he critized me. Everyone tells me I can do better but I feel I really love him. Even with all his faults he's still really sweet sometimes- once he gave me his computer and desk and when it was my birthday and phoned me and sang happy birthday and mailed me a gift (he lives out of state). He'll also say Bye Beautiful everytime we sign off on msn messanger. What do you think I should do?
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I really don't have any advice, its more of a statment from my older bro that he wants to pass on to you. He says that when he says Bye Beautiful, he most likely means nothing by it, its just something that guys do. But he prob still thinks your beautiful prob.
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dump him you need someone better that loves you twenty four seven. You need someone that is nice and you no that he loves you. You dont need someone that is two-faced.Hope I helped!! AbBeY!!
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the reason why i think he is cold and bitter is because he likes you so much he doesnt want to show you how he feels for when. like guy mood swings. he likes you either way but he figured you are moving on so he needs to show you he is to even thou he can't. tell him how you feel about him. promise you things would change..
remember everything happens for a reason
-Adrianna
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This is kind of a toughie! I can understand your position. After all, even if he does like you, do you necessarily want to be with someone who can be so critical and makes sexist comments?
Then again, is it possible that these comments and criticisms come from somewhere else? Perhaps he says things like that he doesn't want you to marry someone else as his way of letting you know he likes you but when you don't respond in a way that lets him know you like him too, he becomes defensive. The way he is acting is similar to what I can do to my boyfriend when he does something to upset me, which is what leads me to believe this is a possibility.
Of course, there is also the chance that he is just not a great guy. However, my feeling towards this is that you will never know unless you take a chance.
A lot of people see dating as a be all and end all. Why go out with a guy if you're not sure how you feel about him? My rule of thumb is that dating is a method of getting to know a potential partner better. Dating doesn't mean you definitely have to stay with them or kiss them or sleep with them. There's no obligation there so why not give it a try? Tell him how you feel and ask him if he would like to go out with you. Go somewhere intimate where you can talk properly, like a restaurant and try to really get to know him. If you still think he gives you the cold shoulder after one or two dates, you don't have to go out with him again and you will know for sure. On the other hand, you could find out that he really is only using the criticisms and comments as a defense mechanism, fall madly in love with each other and live happily ever after!
My point is you won't know how warm the water is until you dip your toe in so give it a try and see what happens. You could end up the happiest girl in the world!
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Hey there
I can relate to this guy...I know im a female, however i have acted this way to a guy before...
My suggestion is that you 'test' him by making him jealous...Talk about another guy...This may just be the wakeup call this guy needs to realise you are not going to wait around forever for him...and that you are desirable to OTHER men....
good luck
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Is he aware you love him? He might think u dont and likes you and is afraid to get too close. So he probably makes rude comments to make you seam less appealing and to make you become mean to him so he thinks he has a reason not to want you. Or maybe he has no idea he's being rude, I'd suggest telling him you think you love him and it hurts you when he makes those comments. Good Luck!
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Maybe you shouldn't move on until he gets really mean. If he sends you gifts and really sweet, then he must care about you.
Snowi
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