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is that really the reason we broke up?
ok this may get confusing so i'll try to put it simply ok
me and my ex also one of my best friends went out for 1 month then he broke up with me he says he did because he just saw me as a friend.i don't know if i really believe him this is the kind of realationship we had.
We talked on the phone like everyday for hours.
and we would always meet like every night(he lived behind me)anyway he seemed as though he liked me he would always put his arms around me and hold my hand and i truly thoght he liked me and i really loved him and i know i loved him because i don't say i love you unless i mean it and if a guy says it to me i'll be like thats good i know thats mean but hey can't lead them on anyway so i toldhim i loved him and he said he loved me know here's the thing he treated me way differnent then all his other girlfriends like on myspace he put all his g/f 1st but with me he didn't even put me on it he would hug his previous g/f at school but not me once we broke up i asked him if he really saw me as just a friend or if it was more to it and he said he really thought of me as a friend and he thought that way since before we were going out but he went out with me because he felt bad for me(i asked him out)!i cried for days only because i before we were going he told all my friends he likjed me he even told me he liked me so im so confused so does he like me or does he just think of me as a friend really?
we still flirt and its real hard to get over him when he's always there.
what should i do?
i still love him!
help plz
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sincerly,
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awee im sorry. i really think he saw you as just a friend. i'm sorry to have to tell you this.
but theres also a chance that he might have broken up wiht you because he was scared to ruin your friendship because he really does like you.
dating for a month isn't long enough to bring the love word into the picture sweetie
whatever his reason be glad yall are still friends
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You poor thing!! I'm sorry that this has happened to you. It sounds like you really cared a lot about him.
As much as I hate to say it, I do believe he meant it when he told you he saw you as a friend. It might be that he thinks you are a great person but just doesn't feel that there is any real chemistry there. Sadly, there is really nothing you can do about this. However, I understand exactly what you mean when you say it's hard to get over him when he is always there and I do think you need to do something about this.
Having someone you felt a lot for but have broken up with around you constantly is very much like a recovering alcoholic working in a bar. It's there, right in front of you and knowing you can't have it is torture. The truth of the matter is, you can't get over something until you have had a length of time completely separated from it, whether it's alcohol, chocolate or a guy. Therefore, the best thing I can recommend to you is that you distance yourself from him as much as possible. Explain to him first, so he understands. Tell him that you understand why he broke up with you and you can accept it, but you still have a lot of feelings for him and you can't get over them while you still spend so much time together so you need some space away from him. After this point, don't talk to him, see him, text him, e-mail him, nothing. Break all contact. I'm not saying this will be easy but it is necessary. After a good time has passed (you will need to use your own judgement but I would recommend that a good time is when you are able to think about him without feeling a big pang of sorrow or longing), try speaking to him again but keep it strictly platonic. No flirting!
While you are effectively going 'cold turkey', make sure you keep yourself occupied. Go out with your friends to placed you know he won't be and forbid all your friends from mentioning him. Take up a new hobby or an extra-curricular. Volunteer for something. Just do something productive that will take your mind off him and make you feel like you have achieved something.
Eventually, you will realise you aren't thinking about him as often and that when you are thinking about him, you just smile because you remember the good times and don't feel sad because you miss what you had so badly. You can get over him but it takes time and work. Don't worry, you will be fine.
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hey,
Im so sorry, ive had similar relationships like this. Maybe before he went out with you, he saw someone else in you.
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