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How? And Why?
Okay, once I was looking at some questions, and I came across this girl who had this problem. Though after she was done explaining her problem she gave a list of ways that she would like the question to be answered. The most non secencial one was when she said, "For all you people who TlaK lyk DIs" Don't bother answering. That just pissed me off because if you REALLY need help, then you wouldn't care how people answered your question, as long as it gets answered in the first place. My question is: If people list ways to answer their question, then how are we suppose to answer it honestlly if we can't fully express our feelings due to their moranic limitations?
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Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health?
tAlKiNg LiKe ThIs bugs the shit outta me, personally. But, I know some people that CANT read it like that because they are dislexic. Some people just need certain things to read.
Other times its just a mental thing. They can't STAND to read it like that.
People just have prefrences. Deal with it. <3*****
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Thats a good question,
I just say what I feel is right,
and is in their best interest,
if they mark me low, its their fault,
because they are the ones who have to deal with the consquences.
:)
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if you cannot express your feelings fully without TlaK1nG lyk DIs then you probably dont have any answers worth reading. now i agree some people do post moronic restrictions, like "i wana lose weight but i dont want to diet, exersize, take pills, or change anything that i am doing now help" and that is moronic, but its annoying to have to read an answer in 7h15 f0rm47 b3c4|_|5e 17 7ak3s u 71m3 2 r34L1z3 1t |5n7 54y1ng any71n w0r7h r34d1n. get my point?
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I agree to a point. I think that if someone doesn't want specific answers then it seems they want confirmation that what they have decided to do is something other people would approve of.
However, when it comes to the actual wording, I must admit it highly irritates me when people type like that rather than in proper English. I just can't see the point when surely it is so much faster to type in normal English that everyone can understand than to type in ridiculous 'text speak' that takes ages to translate?!
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Some people don't want to hear the truth, I call this denial. An answer is an opinion, they can take it or leave it, but they shouldn't leave bad feed back for an opinion. So my advice would be answer the question the way you feel it should be answered, and don't worry about their limitations.
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I think if someone really needs help, they should listen to what everyone has to say. But on the other hand, language was made so people could communicate. if you TyPPs ]IKK3 DiSZsz, people can't understand what you are saying, making it pointless for them to try to decipher it tobegin with. Usually when people type like that, it's a sign that they are young and probably immature. (not always, but it'sa good hint) and maybe this person was looking for some more mature advice. And for the honestly part, I'm one of those people that give geniune answers whether it's what the person wants or not, and I can type like a normal person and give my honest opinion. Crazy typing doesn't make it any more honest or "original", sorry. <3
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I just experienced this very thing. I answered a question for someone with the best of my ability. It was and is a very good answer to the question. The problem with people like the one you are speaking of is that they are simply seeking answers that support their opinion. They aren't looking to learn or improve their life. I think they want something they can print up and show to someone only to say, "see? All these people say the same thing I do. So, you are wrong." They don't want honesty or truth. They want to support their delusions. I'm not going to answer those questions anymore. They don't really want your opinion, so why give it to them. They will only burn you and why sacrifice your integrity by relenting to what they want. Look for people who are seeking your honest opinion and help. You can pretty much tell who those people are. A person who is giving you a list of preferences as to how they want you to answer their question is not looking for honesty and truth. They are looking for feel good answers. I also wonder if they don't look at your ratings before they rate you. For the longest time I had a perfect 5. All of a sudden people didn't want to give me anything more than a 4. I didn't change my honest style and true intent on helping. I think some people can't stand it if you are able to maintain a 5 and simply have to take you down a peg. It gives them a feeling of control and power. But, you will run across some that will fool you and you think they are looking for your true effort and boom they give you a bad feedback. When that happens let it go. Take my word for it.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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It tends to be that either people don't want to hear what they already know (When people say "Don't tell me to..."), there is something in there which is triggering to them to hear about (Like, don't mention the act of throwing up...), or they don't want to decipher the anwswer because they need help that fast.
I personally tend to do what they want, because I disclaim on my profile that I'll help you how you ask to be helped... But, generally just mark them down and answer it however you feel like. If they give you a one or a two becuase of it, just file an abuse report or delete you answer.
They're annoying, but they are inevitable, unfortunately...
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It is the same thing as asking only people who know about the subject to answer your question.
You don't want complete idiots to respond to what you ask. You want someone who is taking your question seriously to answer your question so you don't have to weed through responses that are stupid and a waste of time. You come to this site for real answers, albeit some are sarcastic and funny, but they are real nonetheless.
I can't say that I blame anyone for asking people to not talk like a dumbass or type in a way that is hard to see or understand.
If someone who asks a question gives guidelines as to the answers they want, meaning, if you are going to tell me the truth, then don't bother because I only want to hear what I want to hear, then screw them and risk a 1 to let them know what this site is really about.
They are only screwing themselves out of advice and differing points of view.
You can fully express what feelings you have and what you think without resorting to TyPe lIkE ThIs n' horrible chat speak. I think this person just wanted her question to be answered intelligently.
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Well, if you wanna T@lk LYk D*z and someone says don't, I guess you saved time by not having to answer a question.
C'mon people. It's common courtesy to type correctly and so people can actually comprehend it. If you don't like that rule, don't answer the question. It's that simple.
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Although I generally agree with you and when a person says "I'm having a problem with blank but don't tell me to talk to them because I can't!" or "but don't tell me to see a doctor" when those are the obvious solutions, I get a little ticked off. If I see something like that, I rate it down or choose not to answer it because the asker clearly doesn't want the obviously correct answer. But with your specific example I have to disagree.
If I saw an answer to my question from someone who TlaKd lyk DIs I would probably not bother to read it. The effort it would take to understand the chat speak would likely not be worth the quality of advice that such a person had to offer. This might be an unfair generalization, but it is NOT an unjustifiable generalization.
I don't believe that the specific requirement of not using chat speak takes away from a columnist ability to be honest of fully express themselves. If anything, using proper English allows a columnist to express themself with greater clarity and be more easily understood. Let's face it, when it comes to giving advice, expressing your feelings is great, but if the person you are trying to advise can't make sense of what you are saying then it's pointless for you both.
If I really want advice, I want advice that I can understand. Advice I can't make sense of is useless to me.
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I usually delete those. If one makes it through rate it down if you are a moderator.
As for answering, I personally wouldn't bother.
I'm with you. If you know the answer then why ask the question. All they are wanting is approval on something they have already decided on. Anything you say to the contrary will probably get you a one rating.
However, if you want to answer it anyway then go ahead. If they rate you badly file an abuse report.
They only thing I would agree with is if they didn't want someone answering who can't write a sentence. Nobody wants to look at that mess! :)
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