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I don't know which to choose!
I apoligize if this is in the wrong catagory. I was not sure what this would be considered as, but here is my question: I'm 16/f and I am unsure if I should go out with this guy. I am a devoted Christian and I pray for God to help me through a lot of this. But I am still unsure. I always give people a chance, because I believe that you can't really judge someone until you know them. Well when I met this guy he asked me out, but my other friend tells me he does drugs, he smokes, and he has this "bad boy" reputation. He's a really sweet and caring guy. And I kind of like him. But I don't want to end up going the wrong path if I am with him. And he's 16/m. What do you think I should do in this situation?
If you need more information about this situation you can e-mail me at xxmcrfan15xx@yahoo.com. Thank you in advance.
And I am sorry it's a bit long. I tried making it as brief as possible!
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Maybe give some free advice about: Spirituality?
First, keep praying to God. He will let you know what he wants you to do.
Second, you should find out if the stuff your friends are telling you about this boy is true or not. Do you think God is going to want you to go out with a boy that does drugs? I don't think so. He may want you to help him, but don't date him just yet.
Is he a Christian? Because that's what matters. & i don't mean a "Christian".. i mean an actual CHRISTIAN. One who lives by the word.
& if you are going to date him, you must have standards. Make a list. Put what you want in a guy [not just physical qualities, like, spirtuality.. and things along that line. you can put physical stuff down, too.. eye color, etc]. & then pray about it [we were told to do this by our youth pastor]. God has a guy waiting for every girl & vise versa.. maybe this guys not the one?
All i can tell you is do whatever God is telling you to do... & be careful.
God Bless,
Nikki.
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Just go into it with your lines set and you'll be fine. Decide right now that you will be a Christian, stay off drugs, never smoke, and if you're tough (and it sounds like you are) you'll be able to stick with it. Maybe you can even talk to him about why he does those things... and who knows, maybe he's not as bad as you've heard, reputations aren't always true.
As long as you know who you are and are tough enough to walk away when you're truly tempted to do something against that, you can go out of your comfortable little world and meet people who might not all be Christian and get to know them better, it's okay, it's good for you.
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Hey,
The first thing to do, which you are already doing, is to pray. You want to do what God wants, so you need to know what God wants, right? So keep asking Him about it, ask what He wants you to do, ask Him to guide you and give you the stregth to do what He asks, even if it's not what you want.
Next, you need to listen to Him. Remember that God speaks your language. If God wants to tell you something, He'll find a way to do it. It's not your responsiblity to try and decode what God may be saying to you, because He will make it clear. But it is your responsibility to listen.
You can do this by reading the bible everyday, and asking older Christian friends if theres good passages that you could read on this subject. Pray through them with God, and ask Him to speak to you throguh His word.
Also, talk to Christian friends who know the situation. God so often talks to us through friends, and if you can pray about it with them, even better. Read books, Joshua Harris is a fantastic author to read. As someone before me mentioned, I Kissed Dating Goodbye is a great book, as is Boy Meets Girl.
So, my advice is to talk and listen to God, in as many different ways as you can, and He'll stick with you.
My personal advice is to think, "is a realtionship with this guy going to be good for my faith?" Your realtionship with God has always got to come first, so if anything is going to hinder that, it's bad news. You have a great attitude in that you want to give people a chance, but it seems to me that with this lad, maybe that chance should be friendship first, until you know he's definately not going to cause you to muck anything up between you and God.
If you want to chat about this anymore, email me clairejones00[at]hotmail.com
(the [at] is just something I do to stop spammers or anything picking up my adress!)
Good luck and God bless
xxx
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I think you should tell him your concerns about dating him. This will let you see his personality more. If he is turned off because your weary of his bad boy additude, then you will know that he isn't worth it. But, if he understand that your weary and just don't want to make any mistakes, then you should consider getting to know him more.
If I were you, I wouldn't listen to the rumors and find out for yourself. Yes, it might be hard to resist temptation to do something that you shouldn't, but that's no reason to not try.
If he pressures you about anything, at any time, then I would stop talking to him. But, if you think he's sweet and caring, then who knows, maybe all the rumors are wrong.
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Nope. This is the right catagory for this question. The Bible doesn't say not to date, but I can tell you there WILL be temptation to head down the wrong path. Once you agree to date him (or anyone) you will find it harder to hold to your Christian principles.
My son had the same concern and was asking the same questions you are. He read a book called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" by Joshua Harris. It changed his entire outlook on the whole dating thing. Give it a try. You will get a godly perspective on dating.
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what you should do is reamin friends with him and see if he's the person people say he is.. just see his personality and if he is not a good guy then dont be with him just remain friends..go with what you think.. its ur decision
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