I have the same problem.. sort of. Except I'm happy one moment, sad the next, then extremely angry. Or in any other random way. I've never been diagnosed, but yeah. First thing you should do is research it. Try to see if you have any of the signs. Go to the doctor and talk to them. Tell them whats going on and they might be able to tell you what you have. There is medication for it, but from what i've been told it is NOT for everyone.. so be careful if you do take any medication.

Hmm, when your telling your parents just don't be like "HEYYY, I think i'm bipolar!!".. maybe you should be like "Hey, can we go to a doctor.. I need to get checked out.. you see, I think I'm Bi-Polar." Just don't be all in their face "HEY, I THINK I HAVE THISSSSS".. yeah. None of this probably helped you, but yeah.

God Bless,
Nikki.

God was there. & He does love them. If He didn't, then He wouldn't have sent His only Son to die for them and US. Everything happens for a reason.. I know, you probably hear that all the time. Well, it's true. God has to let somethings happen to fulfill his will. All those people on that plane, well, it was their time to go. There was a girl here, in her twenties, and she died in a car wreck.. it was her time. God knows what he's doing. He's got wisdom that none of us could even IMAGINE. You may not know why God took those people, but He HAD a reason for it.

I have a personal story that does relate to this in a way..

My Grandma died in March of 2005 [my grandpa died the day after Christmas '04, so it was hard].. it was unexpected and we were about to go insane. Well, after my Grandpa had died I told my mom I was NOT going to leave my Grandma by herself [We lived with her.. but my mom was talking about moving back down south].. Well, as I said above, My Grandma passed away. Why? Well, beats me.. But God used it to fulfill part of His will on my life. I ended up moving and I now attend the most amazing school & I am even more closer to God than ever. He turned a horrible situation, into an amazing life. If you want to talk about this more, then please, feel free to IM or EMAIL me..

God Bless,
Nikki.

No, you shouldn't be scared. Flyings not as bad as everyone makes it out to be. Sure, the takeoffs & landings are a little scary at first, but they're the best part.

Chewing gum helps keep your ears from popping [and sometimes, depending on how far you go, the popping can hurt]. As does yawning. So, if you would like to keep your ears from popping then chewing gum & yawning are the best things to do.

Getting sick all depends on the type of person you are. If you have a weak stomach than there is a stong possibility that you might get sick. I've never gotten sick on a plane, but there are people who do. Like my mom, for instance, can't drink dark pops [sodas or cokes, whatever you call them] on a plane or she'll get sick. She can only drink clear things, like Sprite or Seirra Mist. So, maybe you should stick to the clear drinks.

I usually take a book and/or magazine on the plane with me. Depending on how long the flight is, really. Sometimes I just sit there and stare out the window. You can take CD players & MP3 players, too, but I never do.. for, well, fear of something might happen [I don't want to scare you, so i'll just leave it at that].

Flying is actually pretty fun, though. You can hit turbulance, which can be a little scary if your flying for your first time [geez, it can even be scary if it's not your first time]. I hope you have fun on your trip.. & enjoy the plane ride. ;D


Nikki.

I'm actually pretty shy, too. Well, sometimes. I've overcome it, pretty much.. I still have my times. I've actually had the feeling that people think i'm stuck up because I don't talk around them [because I don't know them]. I actually got over it by joining my Church drama group [you don't have to join a church drama group, but its fun. maybe school or something] & I joined my schools dance team. It's really fun. & it does help getting over your shyness. Today, 7 of us did a drama infront of about 200 people at Church and I wasn't that shy. So, it's something to get into if you want to get over your shyness. It also helps because now i'm not afraid to go talk to people.


Nikki.

Okay, I want to apologize to you ahead of time if my answer doesn't help.

Anyway, it seems like this Mike guy still does care. But, like you said, you don't want to hurt your boyfriend. So, obviously you can't just drop him. The only thing I can really tell you to do is follow your heart. Cheesy & cliche, I know. Guys are so hard to figure out. & you never know how they REALLY feel. I can understand that you don't want to get hurt.. believe me, but i'm sure you don't want to go through life thinking that you made a mistake turning him down.

I really think you need to talk to Mike.. & your current boyfriend. See who you feel more compatible with. Maybe one makes you feel better than the other? Who knows. Just trust your heart on this one.

I think you should give Mike a chance to say what he feels, everyone deserves that. If you don't want him back, though, tell him that. Don't lead him on, because believe it or not, guys don't like being led on.. just as girls don't like being led on. But give him a chance to say how he feels, because you never know.. that could change your whole prospective.

I have no idea if any of that helps. I hope it does, though. I'm not to good with relationship stuff, but I try..

Nikki.

Hm.. all I can really tell you to do is think of him as just another guy friend [it's hard, i know]. It'll be much easier to talk to him that way, though.


Nikki.

Freshman year isn't as bad as it seems [i'm a junior now]. I loved it. It was a bit overwhelming, though. Of course, the school I went to was big.. and crowded [so you had to rush to get to class on time]. The first few weeks are a bit stressful [because you need to get used to this new atmosphere. your not locked up like you were in middle school]. It's really fun, though. You make tons of new friends [but keep in touch with the old ones].. and everything's just great. There is a lot of drama, though, so just stay out of it and it'll all be fine. ;D


Nikki.

Don't worry about it. It is very possible that you will get a few classes with your old friends. That's what I was worried about when I first entered High School [now i'm in 11th grade].. I was afraid that I wouldn't be able to see my friends anymore, that we would grow apart. We didn't, though. If anything, we became closer [well, a few of us did]. I had atleast one friend in every class.. & I would see the rest of them in the halls or at lunch. You even get to make new friends [which is good, very good, just don't get caught up with the wrong crowd].



Nikki.

Hm, i'm kinda in the middle about this.

Yes, it is a lot easier to tell someone how you feel in an IM, but that person might like it better if you told them face to face. I guess it all really depends on the type of person.. if you say it face to face they'll be able to tell that you really mean it... if you tell them in an IM then they might not know what to think.


Nikki.

Okay, well, about the dressing stuff.. i'm not sure what you'd want to wear, because i don't know your style & i don't know your schools dress code.

But about moving.. going to a new school is not bad. When i first moved down here [well, it's really my second time.. the first time i was okay because i was going to a school where i already knew people because i used to live there before] i refused to do anything, i was not happy at all. I even refused to go to a public school [even though i've been to one since i was little.. so i now attend a private school]. BUT, some public school's aren't bad. Believe me, they are way different. Just take it slow on your first few days. It won't be bad.

Hey. Flying's not as bad as it may seem. Sure, the take-offs and landings are a little scary [it's the best part, though], but other than that the plane ride it nice. I've flown numerous times & i fly by myself a lot, too [i'm 15, by the way].. it's fun, though. I like it. & Yeah, you do hit turbulance sometimes.. some of it can be a little rough, but don't worry about. You have a TON of time before you have to fly [unless you plan on making a trip by plane anytime soon], so don't stress.


Nikki.

Okay, i don't know if you've ever tried to listen to Christian rap, but you should give it a try. If you just like the beat then it's basically the same as any other rap, the plus side is the lyrics are a lot better [because they don't talk about money, cars, & girls who will do ANYTHiNG for money].

Here's a list of a few.. i don't know if you'll want to check them out or not. I honestly think they're awesome [and it's the only type of rap i will listen to anymore].

Grits, Lacrea, KJ-52 [he's got a really good song called "Dear Slim"], John Reuben, & TobyMac [there are more, you just have to search for them].


Nikki.

First, i think your too young. I'm only 15 and, sure, i love kids but I am not ready to have a baby.. what 15-16 year old really is? They may think they are, but i honestly don't think they have any idea what they're getting into [no offense to anyone, it's just what i think & how i feel].

Kids are amazing. I love them to death. That's one of my passions [besides Church & Traveling]. It's something i could see myself [yes, i want a big family] doing in the FUTURE, when i'm MARRiED [to someone who loves me, no less].. i just ask you to wait. It may be hard, but i bet in the end it WiLL be worth it.


Nikki.

If your bored at that Church, why not try another one? You might be surprised at what you find. There might be a Church out there that you like better than the one your in now. Who knows?

I don't know if your youth group is anything like mine [but by the sounds of it, it's not.. because mine is not "lame" at all], but maybe you should find a youth group with a good pastor. A pastor who actually gets involved with the teens in the group. Our youth pastor gets involved [we have teen explosions (which are basically where a few other youth groups come and we worship God and we do dramas)& outings (girls night out, which his wife takes us on.. and boys night out, which he goes with the boys.. plus, concerts and youth conferences)], plus he's there whenever you need help. Some people don't think it's good for a youth pastor to get so involved with their teens, but i love it. I don't know what i would do without him & his wife. So, maybe you should look for that in a youth group.

& about the "hating the two girls".. keep this scripture in mind [it always helps me].

Luke 6:27-28 says;;
"But I tell you who hear me: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you."


Nikki.

God's not torturing anyone. They all brought this on themselves [just like people ask "why would God let someone suffer from alcoholism?".. he didn't, they brought that on themselves]. The people that will be "left behind" are the ones who never believed in God [never had him as their Savior].. do you think he WANTS to torture them? No, but they DID have a choice.. they could have accepted him as their savior, but they didn't.

& he could make everything dissappear in a second, but why? He wants it all to go. He's done such an amazing job creating this, creating us, but no one seems to care.. no one seems to notice that all he wanted from us was us to love him. Do you think he's happy about us not giving him the love he deserves? I don't think so. So, why should he be merciful when it comes down to this? He's given us enough mercy, enough grace, enough love.. he's given us everything and some people just throw it away. He's been holding this inside.. giving us chance after chance and he's not going to hold it in much longer.. God's wrath is not going to be something to mess with.

About why he wants the world to end... in the beginning, as you know, it started out with Adam and Eve. They sinned.. & he destroyed the world with a flood. Man's sin continues, as you know [and yes, Christians DO sin, but they repent and TRY very very hard not to do it again], and God doesn't want that. So, why not just end the world? In the end you will either be in Heaven or in Hell [which, if you've ever been to Hell House, is the scariest place you could ever go].

I'm sorry if that was all confusing. If you want to talk about this more than just go to my advice column and get my IM name and IM me. ;D


Nikki.

NO. Okay, NO is my answer. I do NOT want to see another teen give their life away because they don't feel their wanted. I used to go through this all the time.. "I'm worthless".."No one cares". SOMEONE cares, SOMEONE loves YOU very much [okay, so here comes the Religion.. just thought i'd prepare you]. JESUS did not die because he WANTED to.. no, he died because he loved YOU. DO YOU UNDERSTAND ME?! HE LOVED YOU! Okay, so you probably think i'm crazy, but i'm just telling you the truth. I've seen/heard about TOO many teens giving up their lives & i'm so sick of it. NO ONE is worthless, i don't care what anyone says, NO ONE is worthless. No one deserves to feel that way [and yes, i know people feel that way, though.. i struggled with it for awhile].. you WiLL make it through this, and you'll be glad you did.

Nikki.

Something like this actually happened to one of my good friends, so i'm going to tell you the same thing I told her.

All you can really do is talk to your friend. Plain and simple. Tell her how you feel about this. If she doesn't understand then what kind of friend is that? Boys shouldn't come between a friendship because, well, we ALL know why. & about her not telling you first, honestly, if my friend made out with a boy i would rather NOT know because that's their business not mine.

Nikki.

Maybe you should talk to both of your parents. Spend a week at your dads or something & then decided from there. You should choose whichever home/parent makes you more comfortable. I'm sure if you talk to both of your parents they'll understand.


Nikki.

Popularity is so overrated I honestly don't know why they even bother with it.

Just because you don't act like them & meet their "standards" does not mean your a loser. So, don't let them get your self-esteem down. Half of the popular people i know aren't even HAPPY, believe it or not. How sad is that? They put on this big front and then they're not even happy with their lives! All i can tell you is to live your life so your HAPPY. Happiness is always the best way. It's sad, though, if you think about it.. some of them spend a tremendous amount of time putting others down only to make themselves feel better.


God Bless,
Nikki.

Yeah, I think all of us know how that feels whether we want to admit it or not. Look at the people who are talking about you behind your back.. [one] they're just making you the center of the world, so obviously you've had an impact on the one way or another. [two] they have nothing better to do than put others down and they really need to get a life, obviously.

All i can tell you is to continue ignoring them. Yeah, sure, it's going to be hard. Everything about life is hard, but i'm sure snapping at them won't do you any good. They'll probably just continue talking. You'll make it through this. ;D

God Bless,
Nikki.

My name is Nikki. I'm 17. I like to act, play volleyball & softball, etc. Um, yeah. I am religious, but i won't judge you if you aren't. I like to give advice. I'm nice.. unless I'm annoyed. =] Yeah, that's basically it.

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