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this may be kind of long but ill try to make it as short as possible. me and this guy mike have been broken up for about a year and a half. the whole time we have talked and he still tells me he loves me and misses me every once in a while. well tonight i was with my friend and he called me. well he then told me he was coming to my house but i told him no cause im scared of heartbreak. i do have a boyfriend of 7 months but i still do care about mike. and my boyfriend is amazing so i dont want to hurt him. well mike stayed for like 10 minutes trying to get me to come outside but i couldnt bring my self to it cause i always do. well later on he told me that he made me something since i made him a scrapbook last summer. he refuses to give it to me til i see him. he stayed on the phone with me after he left and had something to say but couldnt because his friend was there. he told me wed talk about it later and i asked when that was and he told me he didnt know. i really care about him and i always will cause he was my first love but i dont know what to do. should i just let him come over and give it to me and talk to me like he wanted and say what he wanted or should i just say no? please help. thanks so much!!
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Well, if you really care about him as much as you say you do, you should let him come over & see you; as friends. There's nothing wrong with him coming over, unless you see there's a definite chance something will happen between you two, that could possibly hurt your current boyfriend. I'd say just let him come over & talk to him. There's nothing wrong with friendship. Also, try & think about how you're making him feel by denying him to see you. Think about it. :o] I hope I helped!
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okay just let him come over and see what happens explain to him that you still care about him but you've moved on if you have. you don't have to love him to care about or be friends with him sooo i hope this advice helps good luck.
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Ok well.I know what your going through and I know its hard because he was your first love and you care for him.I know how you feel.My advice is that you should let him come over...BUT talk to your boyfriend first so that he knows and he wont suspect anything ok.
Ok well let him come over and let him talk to you and give you what he wanted to give you it will better.I really hope I helped alittle on what you should do and I hope things work!! :)
::*Just a friend*::
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this reminds me of the notebook lol. so anyway.. well it sounds like you still love him and that he still really loves you too. you should let him come over and talk to you to help you make up your mind about everything.
when he gives you what he made you and talks to you, you might end up liking him even more than your boyfriend now, so then you can just go out with him and break up with your current boyfriend.
hope i helped♥
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Wow, that was long. But I don't,mind! :)
I think that you should talk to Mike,give him another chance. Maybe he really still wants to be with you. If it were me, i wouldn't break up with my new boyfriend.....yet.
First kinda talk to Mike and see if he is for real. If he is, then you might want to think about a 2nd chance. Since you said he was your first love, then i would tell the other guy that You have stronger feelings for this other guy. If he is a nice guy, he will understand. Just ask yourself, who are you happier with????
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hey,
wow, complicated situation. if i were you, i would say no unless you had more feelings for him, then with your boyfriend you have no, and what was the reason you broke up in the first place? hope i helpedd.
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heather.
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If he broke up with you, and now he wants you back its a definate NO. But even if you broke up with him or y'all broke up together, you should still say no, because you might end up breaking your current boy friend's heart. Tell Mike that you still want to be his friend but if he really loves you, that he'd give the scrapbook back. Hope I helped,
♥♥Meggy
P.S if this wasn't a good enough answer, ask me again and ill think of a better answer!~!
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first of all, did he break up with you? or did you break up with him? it kinda makes a difference. anyway, if he dumped you, then i'd say no because it will only make things harder to forget him & move on. i think i'd say "no, i dont want to talk to you anymore." (once again if he dumped you) but if you really really like him, then i guess follow your heart...but it might not end up perfectly. he's just trying to lure you in with a present, which i think is stupid.
ok if you dumped him, then you have to think, "why did i dump him? why would i want him back?" if you really think that you do, then i guess go for it. you COULD try being friends.
its kind of a difficult decision, i know, but try to find the rite one. remember, do u trust him not to hurt you?
haha sorry if it was a little long too. =] hope i helped & i hope it works for you!!
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Okay, I want to apologize to you ahead of time if my answer doesn't help.
Anyway, it seems like this Mike guy still does care. But, like you said, you don't want to hurt your boyfriend. So, obviously you can't just drop him. The only thing I can really tell you to do is follow your heart. Cheesy & cliche, I know. Guys are so hard to figure out. & you never know how they REALLY feel. I can understand that you don't want to get hurt.. believe me, but i'm sure you don't want to go through life thinking that you made a mistake turning him down.
I really think you need to talk to Mike.. & your current boyfriend. See who you feel more compatible with. Maybe one makes you feel better than the other? Who knows. Just trust your heart on this one.
I think you should give Mike a chance to say what he feels, everyone deserves that. If you don't want him back, though, tell him that. Don't lead him on, because believe it or not, guys don't like being led on.. just as girls don't like being led on. But give him a chance to say how he feels, because you never know.. that could change your whole prospective.
I have no idea if any of that helps. I hope it does, though. I'm not to good with relationship stuff, but I try..
Nikki.
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This may be kind of long, hope you don't mind. but here it goes. =D
Well darling. I was amazed while reading this, because I was in the same situation and in away still kind of am.
Honestly, from experience. I think this guy may still have feelings for you, but I also think that he might just be jealous of the fact that you're with someone else. You know the whole " He doesn't want you, but doesn't want you to have anyone else" type thing. It's very normal for you to still care about him, seeing as he was your first love and everything. I still care about mine to. Trust me.
I'm proud of you for not giving into him and going outside to talk to him. By doing so you're only setting yourself up for another heartbreak. You're much stronger than I am, and I admire you for that.
And the whole "he refuses to give w.e it is he has for you until you see him" thats bribery. He shouldn't be doing that. He should do it no matter what, if really cares about you. And also, if he really cared about you and wanted to tell you something, he should have said it infront of his friends regardless.
It's kind of hard to say if you should let him come over. Do you want to get over him? Or do you want to get back together even though you have another guy you care about?
If it was me, because i previous just did this. Have him come over and give you what he has for you, and let him tell you what he has. But don't respond to him with an "omg i love you, i want you back" type thing. Act like you don't really care, as hard as that may sound to do. It is possible. Maybe you should just let him go, tell him you're over him and move on. It will hurt. Yes. But i've learned that it's better to just let go and be hurt, then to continue giving into him and being left heartbroken everytime. It sucks, and I think everyone goes through it once in their life time. But, you just have to let go. =D
I hope I helped in someway, if you have any further questions, feel free to write back or
e-mail me at .. evilpoptart611@yahoo.com
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The question you need to ask is to yourself. Who do you like more? your current boyfriend or Mike. If the answer is your current boyfriend, then don't talk to mike. By just talking to him, this would probably make your boyfriend jealous and could be a potential problem in your relationship. If the answer is Mike still, then talk to him. Hear him out. It would also depend on why you guys broke up. If you broke up because he was unfaithful, then your answer should be clear. Once a cheater, always a cheater. That is the worst thing one can do in a relationship. They are built on trust. If he hurt you (heartbreak), then my advice to you is to thry to move on with your new boyfriend. He seems to sound like he cares for you alot and you do for him. If you don't want to hurt him, then try not to keep in contact with Mike.
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Well to from what your saying it sounds like you still love eachother but your afraid of getting your heart broken again. That shouldn't stop you. Follow your heart, if you love him then see him. Yes that will suck for your boyfriend of seven months but believe me it would hurt him WAY more to find out you love someone else THEN be dumped so just do it now. Let him give you whatever he made, let him come over, and etc.
Good luck and tell me how it goes! If you need anymore help just leave me another question in my inbox.
-♥Shelby
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yea i deffinatly think you should let him go over. cause even though you guys were together doesnt mean you have to end a frendship. people can always be frends even if theyve been together. so i say go for it. =)
but, if its hard for you to see him then tell him you seeing him makes you uncomfurtable and that you really want to be frends its just going to take more time.
but dont worry hun. everything will be fine. just act as if you guys are just frends hanging out like youd normally do with your other frends.
i dont know if i helped much. but i hope i did. sorry. good luck!
michelle<3
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