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friends..and boys
okay so my best friend has been seeing this guy, well shes been kind of ignoring me.. and then she made out with him last night for the first time, and she didnt tell me first..she told all my other friends.. who are her friends too, and they ended up telling me.. i dont know i got really mad about this and can u please tell me if im over reacting? bc i think she blew me off the other night to go hang out with him too.. plz help
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If its the fact that you don't think she trusts you anymore or whatever, ask her why she didn't tell you first. Often times the answer will be as simple as she saw or talked to your other friends first. If its something else, then talk to her. She might not even realize what she is doing. In the end, this is going to be a test of your frinedship and if you guys are true best friends, you will come together in the end.(Trust me, I'm glad to say that my best friendship has pulled through in the end after one of these kinds of situations. *hugs my best friend*) Just give her time to be fun and crazy with her boyfriend.
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Something like this actually happened to one of my good friends, so i'm going to tell you the same thing I told her.
All you can really do is talk to your friend. Plain and simple. Tell her how you feel about this. If she doesn't understand then what kind of friend is that? Boys shouldn't come between a friendship because, well, we ALL know why. & about her not telling you first, honestly, if my friend made out with a boy i would rather NOT know because that's their business not mine.
Nikki.
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youre definetely over reacting. i think it jsut sounds like its hard for you to let her go. but dont worry- you find a guy too, and you'll be all over him. no big deal. guys will come and go- but if she's a real friend- SHE wont. no biggie, hon. dont worry about it.
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jus let that roll of ya shoulder. u live youre life and let her live hers. don't worry about it. shell come around.
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that sucks that she blew you off but maybe she is having a hard time right now. it could be posisble her bf doesnt really like and some how convinced her that she shouldnt be talkign to you. my advice to you is try talking to her about it. if she blows u off then leave her allow true friends dont do that.
♥ Steph
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hey!! alright so there are two things going on here... first of all, it sucks when a good friend finds a bf and ditches you for him... most people go through that. if they just started dating, give her a little bit of time... like no more than a month and see if she still continues to do this. if she does, then you can approach her (nicely) about it and tell her that you are happy for her but you feel left out. why wait a month? because if they just started dating, she is still excited about the whole thing and wants to spend a lot of time with him. plus, she is much more likely to be understanding if you say "for the past month i've felt left out" as opposed to saying "you've ditched me the last week"!! you guys can work something out... maybe have a day where she can hang out with you without bringing him, a day to hang out with just him and every now and then, both of you can hang out with her and a few other people. mixing things up like that is the best way to make sure that no one feels left out (you, her bf or her other friends).
now, moving on to the making out and not telling you thing... a lot of times, believe it or not, people feel the shyest around people they are closest to. the reason she didn't tell you first is most likely because she was nervous about it and didn't know how to bring it up. it might not make sense that she would feel this way around her best friend... but think about it... she was nervous because you mean the most to her out of all her friends, and she doesn't want to say anything stupid in front of you because you are important to her, and your opinion of her actually matters to her. she was just afraid of screwing up. it's completely normal... most of my good friends have done that, and i have too. it takes a lot of weight off when you tell people whose opinions you don't really care about, and then let the news make its way to those closest to you. just approach her about it and say something like "so i hear last night was a big night for you" or something like that. basically, don't make it a big deal and get her comfortable so that she can open up to you and tell you about it. eventually your friendship will become stronger and more open as you two continue to do this, and no one will be shy about spilling anything to the other one!
well, as you can see, you're not in the most fun situation right now, but everyone goes through it so don't worry. all it takes is an honest talk or two to make those problems go away... there is no need for fights and drama, although you do have the right to be hurt. if after talking to her a couple of times she still doesn't care about your feelings, then you can think about making her a less important friend in your life and finding someone who will respect your feelings! :) good luck and let me know if you need more help!
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ya i had a friend who did that too i din't think your overracting about her ignoring you.s he has to understand that when it dosn't work out shes gunna need her friends to help her but whats she gunna do when she lost them all from blowing them off i don't think your over reacting i think ur right on the money
<3 Becs
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Well if this is your friends first boyfriend than maybe she is just excited about having one. If it isn't her first than give it some time, and if she doesn't come around then ask her what's up.
*snowi*
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