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how do I stop myself from freezing up and being nervous?
My friend gave my number to the guy that I like and he said that he would definitely call me. If he calls me, I know that I'll get nervous and freeze up. In case he does call, how do I stop myself from being nervous and how can I calm down?
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when you get on the phone with him, just be like "heyy whats uppp" or something that you usually do when you talk online...let the guy do most of the talking...once you get familliar with his style, just kinda go along with the convo and BEEEE YOURSELFFFF. if the guy likes you , he should like you for you. so just breattthhhh take deep breaths [not into the phone hahh] and talk a little...say what your doing, what your going to doo...whatever yall find to talk about..itllbe fine , just relaaaxxx
good luckk!
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ok 1) the clicking to the other line idea is fine, but make SURE you click to the other line b/c once i thought i had clicked to the other line and i was talking to my friend about this other guy (i wasnt cheating but he was gonna come pick me up! thats all!) and my bf heard the whole thing and we had an arguement....
anyway sory for rambling on about that, but my genius idea is to just get kind of tipsy, enough so you dont get nervous, but not so much that you start acting stupid.... i kno underage drinking is bad and if you think you'll get in trouble for it, dont do it.
ugh sorry i rambled so much, but i hope i helped in some way
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I usd tog et tlike this too, a great thing to do is write a list of all the things you can talk about so here arent any awkward silences because you'll have your list infront of you when he rings so you can just bring up these things into conversation
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Hm.. all I can really tell you to do is think of him as just another guy friend [it's hard, i know]. It'll be much easier to talk to him that way, though.
Nikki.
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okay i used to be the same exact way i got over my fears by thinking of him as just another friend have you told him that you like him maybe if he knew that you like him maybe it wouldn't be soooo bad but yeah i hope this helps.
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Just be yourself. Talk about things that you both may have in common. Then talk about that. Sometimes when a boy calls me the same thing happens. I like to have a friend there with me. It makes me less nervous. If you like this guy, act like your really interested in what he has to say. Say things like, that's cool, really, and ask questions about that topic. Trust me, I do this all the time and the guy falls head over heels. Plus, you won't have to talk much. He'll be doing all the talking. And I'm sure hon, he will be just as nervous as you are. Trust me. Believe me, all guys may seem like there cool and calm and know everything. There clueless, hormonal raging machines. I'll leave on this note, they really like to talk to talk about themselves, so keep the topiv on them.
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Just think "this boy is nothing in my life and is a complete moron. i will not get upset, nervous etc. when talking"
thats what I do, even if it isn't how i feel about the person i say it and usually i'm ok
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the same thing happened to me, just dont think about it, act like your talking to one of your friends.. & if you freeze up on what to talk about, just talk about stuff that happened at school or how hes doing the rest will just come.
♥ me
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think of the one thing that relaxes you most. maybe the beach, or the soft, wind moving swiftly against your skin. you want to impress this kid right? when he calls, pretend to be busy, but not too busy. like..as soon as you answer the phone, start laughing to give him the impression that someone around you just said a joke, and you're cracking up. it makes him think that you're not lonely, and you're rather popular. just talk to him as if you're talking to anyone else. be cheerful, ask him questions. ask him about himself, what sports he plays, what his hobbies are..all that good stuff.
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lol
since he cant see you
you could like jump up and down
or smile, really big
you could also say "hold on, other line" click it over and SCREAM! lol
then deep breaths and calm!
just pretend like he is any other guy
and plus, if he is calling you, it must be a good sign :)
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ok the happens to me ALL the time whenever theres like this guy that i like.. just like act cool. when and if he calls just be like oo hey like you no normal and be like oo i didn't think you would call or im happy you called and bladiy bladiy blah just basically act cool. its easier to talk to the guy you like than rather in person.. well i find it easier. maybe have your friend there rwith you or tell your friend that maybe she can help you or something. and if you come to the point where nothing helps write down what you can say and just read off of that but thats like if you cant think of anything else.
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