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i'm cristina. I'm spanish, from bolivia. i'm actually really good at giving advice. whether it be about relationships, looks, school, and whatnot, you can trust me w/ these things. I've truly been through a lot. I've had numerous of bad hair days, and definitely a load of bullcrap to deal with. I'm christian, [but i'm not a fanatic]. you can talk to me about anything. sex, hair, school, family, friends, love, racism, whatever you'd like and i'd be glad to give you an answer. and i love tatiana like a lotttttttt
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I'm 18 he's 21. We are thinking about getting married after 1 year together. He has a lot of sexual fantasies of being with other girls but says he can try to forget about having sex with more people and settle down. Is he REALLY ready for marrige?
he "can try" to forget. oh hell no, honey. he's not ready. he has to be PREPARED to the forget. scratch that, he has to ALREADY HAVE FORGOTTEN. marriage is a big commitment. you dont want to be divorced by the time your 23. that's when most people get married. 23-27.
yeah im confused. i kno cristina, no clue who tatiana is lol? and i just recognized what she said in the question and realized it was her so yeahhh.
oh. yeaa im her friend, tatiana...from her soccer teams. that question was like ....i have a problem like that ...and tina has the same problem, so i didnt wanna embarrass myself so i used her names and dates haha to ask that questionsssss. so whats your name? ill tell her u said hi
So I have a crush on this guy I've been friends with benefits with. Good idea or no? and why?
friends w/ benefits..that type of things always starts off innocently. but as time goes on, it's natural that you and him are gonna start to like eachother. that's why it's not a good idea to get attached. cause maybe if you like him, he might not like you..he just wants to be you're FWB. but i mean, keep doing what your doing ;]
My friend gave my number to the guy that I like and he said that he would definitely call me. If he calls me, I know that I'll get nervous and freeze up. In case he does call, how do I stop myself from being nervous and how can I calm down?
think of the one thing that relaxes you most. maybe the beach, or the soft, wind moving swiftly against your skin. you want to impress this kid right? when he calls, pretend to be busy, but not too busy. like..as soon as you answer the phone, start laughing to give him the impression that someone around you just said a joke, and you're cracking up. it makes him think that you're not lonely, and you're rather popular. just talk to him as if you're talking to anyone else. be cheerful, ask him questions. ask him about himself, what sports he plays, what his hobbies are..all that good stuff.
what are some games you could play between 2 people like a boy and girl. on AIM besides like 20 question and truth and dare..minus the dare part. thanks if you have any.
hmmm.. that's a toughy actually. i dont know how old you are, but if you're old enough, you could play 3 questions. thats like..the guy asks the girl 3 questions, but the girl only has to answer 2 of the questions..but truthfully. the questions are usually like.. "what are you wearing underneath your clothes"..or "would you ever give me head"..those type of things.
and then the girl has to ask the guy 3 questions, and he only has to answer 2.
sorry if this doesnt help
Ok i'm 15/f and i haven't done anything with a guy exept kiss and its like a peck not like making out or anything. i feel like a prude but i think i would be ready to have sex if the opportunity came up. I have gone to a catholic private school all my life and next year will be my first year at a public school. My question is will things be different will ibe pressured into things more so than at my old school?
okay, girl. i completely know where your coming from. i went to catholic school for the first time in my 8th grade year. and everyone there seemed like a prude. i had already gone to 3rd base. so i was surprised when they told me that they never kissed. but now, i'm finally back at my public highschool, and yea, it's much differnet. you will be pressured into a lot of stuff, but you dont neccessarily have to go through with it.
dont give up your virginity unless your positive that the guy is gonna remember you till the day he dies. you want that moment to be a special thing.
My boyfriend and use to have sex like probably once a day. So i got use to it and it my vagina didn't get sore anymore. But hes been living with his dad this summer so i don't get to see him. but he came to visit this weekend and we had a lot of sex. And my vagina was really sore. does anybody know how to make it not as sore without having sex?????
well, depending on the way you two have sex, maybe you two can keep the sore-ness to a low-key type of thing. when me and my boyfriend have sex, i'm usually on the top, and the only time i ever got sore was the first couple of times.
okay today was the last day of school for my school. okay to keep it short, i like this guy and we are also friends. how can i stay in touch with him over the summer so he doesn't forget all about me? IMing him doesn't work because all he ever answers with is 'lol' or 'yeah'. and there is NO WAY i'd ever call him. that would be too weird, because we are more of like school friends. we talk in school and everything but not out of school.
thanks! i rate high =D
seems to me that if all he does is say "lol" or "yeah" and if you dont wanna call him, then maybeee you two arent best friends. just IM him with plans one day. be like, wanna go to the mall with me and a couple of people?
or if thats too weird, bump into him "accidently" one day. wear something really nice, and make yourself look BEAUTIFUL, and then "accidentally" bump into him and just start talking.
hope this helps!
There's this guy that works at a store right down the street from me and I think he is absolutely gorgeous! I want to start talking to him but I don't know how to go about doing this. Can anyone give me some ideas on how to start talking to him without making myself look crazy?
Oh goddd, if he's a hottie, go get him tiger. Just go down to the store completely casually one day, and buy something. Make sure he's your cashier though. Invite him somewhere. Be like, "it's summer, and you're at work? You should come with me one day to do/go to ________" (whatever it is you wanna do or wanna go) If it accepts, give him your number, or let him give you his number..and just go with the flow
good luck. tina
Alright, so I'm 16 and am still a virgin. But when my girlfriend and I engange in sexual activities, I can never have an orgasm. Hand jobs, or Blow Jobs. It just dosen't get me over the edge. Sure I can masturbate and it works fine. I don't know, I've tryed to calm down and not worry about someone walking in or something. And also, it seems like she's down there FOREVER. I really need to know the actual time. Any help? Or has this happened to anyone else?
Well babe, looks to me that you're girlfriend isnt doing the job she should be doing. I'm not a guy, but i'm a girl with experience. Trust me. Try experimenting with other girls. See what happens.
alright you guys i need answers fast and i need good ones. theres this guy nate who i met about 5 months ago and after about 2 months we started liking each other and we made out a couple times. now, tomorrow he wants to hang out and he plans on taking it to the next level. im 15. everyone i know is telling me to wait and lecturing me so please dont. the thing is, is i want this to be really special and i dont want him to just think of me as just antoher girl (im a virgin and hes not) and i know that im getting really strong feelings for him and the thing is is like i dont know how he feels about me and hes not the type of person to come out and say it and it would be akward if i asked. today i was trying to talk about it and i was like if i said i didnt want to what would you do and hes like well id try to sweet talk you into it but then id just give up and i mean thats how he is and it was funny but i dunno im really stressed. what do i do?
Dont do it. It's that simple. You should lead him on tomorrow. Let him have his fun, but when the time comes, push him off. Be like "nuh-uh, not now, not here". But still keep him in the mood. You dont want to be 'just another girl' to him. You want him to remember you for the rest of his goddamn life. It may sound evil but it'll make him think of you more and more often. It'll make him want you more, and soon he'll start liking you a lot [if he doesnt already]. But don't go through with it until your 100% sure you're ready.
Listen to this song; S.E.X by Lyfe.
it really helps.
(15/f) ive been dating this guy for about two weeks now. and im used to guys who are trying to make out with me or atleast kiss me on the first date. my boyfriend and i just had our first kiss on the lips last night. and i had to like pull him over to me to do it. its not like im his first girlfriend or anything.
arnt guys supposed to be nnot shy at all.
isnt the girl supposed to be the shy one?
and its not like im a slut either..
why is he so shy? and how can i make him not"?
eh trust me girl, i've been there. He'll change as time goes on. Just keep on kissing him [even if you're the one who has to lean in over to him], and with time, things will change. Maybe he thinks that you don't want to do anything, so he's not trying to rush you into anything.
is always calling him. Like everytime I am with him, she calls. she'll call like 92875 times if he doesn't pick up. Then he told me that he told her to stop calling because he has a new gf and she cried, cuz she loves him and they lost their virginity to each other but they broke up in february. soo then i thought she stopped calling, but then the other day when i was with him and his friends and his friend has his cell and told him that she called, and then he's all like, why.. what time.. etc. He was really interested in her call.
i've never met the girl, she goes to a different school.
I feel like i'm just getting in the way of something that they could have again. If you've seen The OC, I feel like I'm Anna and they're Seth and Summer. I wish I knew a way to bring this up to him, but I don't know how and I don't even know what I'd say because I can't even put it into words how I feel. I feel like a fool, but theres more to it.
and then last night we hung out til like 11, and then he called me at 11:15 because he's going on vacation and we won't see each other til next week and i said i had a headache, and he told me to go to bed, and i told him that it wouldn't matter if i went to bed because i'm not tired. at the time i thought he was just trying to give me good advice about my headache, but he was really just trying to get rid of me so he could CALL HIS EX GIRLFRIEND. after the headache thing, he was all like, "im sooo tired, im gonna go to bed." but i believed him at the time. then i logged onto myspace and his ex left him a comment being like, 'thanks for calling me at 11:30 last night! call me tons when your down there!" me and him got off the phone a little before 11:30. so much for GOING TO BED.
i've never mentioned anything about how i feel about him and his ex gf, i just keep it to myself because i don't know how to bring it up. he said he'd call me while he was on vacation, so when he calls I think I'll just be like, "I'll let you go, so you can call [his ex] or something." Idk. Advice?
okay. you've got to tell him how you feel. If they lost their virginity to eachother, then yea..she wont stop calling him. Especially if he was her first, she's going to feel the need to continue talking to him. About the MySpace thing, you need to confront him about that too.
A casual way to bring it up, would be..go out to dinner one day. Or lunch. Or breakfast or w/e and just talk about everything. Let it all out.
Maybe because he lost his virginity to her too, he's attached because she has something very dear to him. (his virginity).
Just talk to him about this. Keep checking his myspace. And if you can, talk to her about this too. Tell her to back off, cause he's yours.
A guy I was with for a year broke up with me. I don't want to mope around the whole summer.
What can I do to distract myself? I've tried lots of things..
Obviously this guy is SO overrated. well, depending on where you live, you can check out the latest teen clubs. If you live in jersey, there's Soundgarden, and Abyss. That's always a great place to meet new people. Another thing, its summer! you can easily hit the beach with some of your girls, go down the shore, have some fun. Six flags is always an option. Hitting the mall would be the first thing i would do. It always cheers me up. Go to the mall, get a hotties number =).
Ok, so I've liked this girl for a long time, and during the beggining of the school year she also liked me (I didn't know it back then). Now, she's going out with one of my friends, but we still talk a lot. She also keeps on asking me who I like (A lot!) Every time she says that though, I just ward it off by saying something else. So my question is...should I tell her that I like her, or keep that secret safe with me?
You've liked her for quite a long time, i guess. You owe it to yourself to tell her. If you're friend gets mad, just explain everything to him. It's going to be hard, but it'll be worth it in the end. Seems to me that the girl might like you. She's asking you who you like, and that's definitely a sign. I'm a girl, and i know how these things work lol.
Ok so i posted something yesterday about how my crush just found out i like him, well he texted me and said we'd talk tomorrow. So i'm just wondering if he likes me. I mean we don't get to see eachother that much right now because school is out but we still talk a lot. And when we do see eachother i can see him staring at me. i look at him he holds his gaze for a second and looks away. it drives me crazy! i want to like walk over and be like i like you! anyways when we see eachother it seems like he can't stand when we're in the same place and we aren't hanging out together. Like he was at my brothers wedding (his cousin married my brother...i knowit seems weird but we have been friends for way longer than that, and we're not blood related...lol just had to clear that up) anyways he was at my brothers wedding and we had a hummer limo no one else was in there yet but instead of sitting somewhere else he sat really lose to me, like really really close. He was always offering me a drink from his beer, and he wanted to dance with me the entire time. He's a grade older than me so we don't een see eachother that much but he always comes by locker after school and talks to me. Does he just want to be best friends or does he want more too? I rate all 5's for good advice!
UM YEA HE LIKES YOU! lol. Okay, i'd like to say a few things.
1.) because he knows that you like him, it's going to make him start to realize that he has a good chance with you, and he might want to make something work now.
2.) You're incredibly lucky that his cousin married your brother. I say that because you two HAVE to be close no matter what. Whether or not he doesnt like you, you still have to be close because of the fact that your brother is his cousins husband.
3.) at the wedding, when you two were in the hummer limo, i bet you looked stunning considering the fact that it was a wedding. So, he's seen you at your best, he's seen you at your worst, and he still wants to be seen with you. He still wants to get close to you. So yeah, I would have to say that he wants to be more than just "best friends" with you.
im 14 and ive been straightening my hair since like 12 1/2. so its been like 2 years kinda.. well like what hair straightening does.. it fried my hair. and i also blow dry it every day.. and its REALLY bad, like its poofy and its like dry.. but once i straighten it it looks kinda healthy, and not so poofy. so i was wondering what could i do to get my hair back to healthy.. you dont understand how POOFY it gets when i get out of the shower.. so if i like blowdried my hair on cool(not the high heat, like cold heat) and not straighten it as much, would that help? what things could i do so it will become healthy again? and im sorry its so long, but i will rate!
Well, for starters, you could cut down on blow drying. After getting out of the shower, just air dry your hair. It takes 2-4 hours but it's worth it. I straighten my hair too. My hairs naturally straight but it has a few waves in it. Try using BioSilk. It silkens out your hair and give the extra "umph". Along with that, try using a Ceramic hair straightener because it doesnt burn and mess up your hair. Be more concerned with your scalp, rather than your hair. If you blow dry your hair, and the blowdryer is hot, then not only are you burning your hair, but your burning your scalp (which can lead to balding). Maybe you could start putting your hair up in a pony tail. If its really "POOFY" then stick with the BioSilk. It'll help relax your hair.