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pressure to the max
alright you guys i need answers fast and i need good ones. theres this guy nate who i met about 5 months ago and after about 2 months we started liking each other and we made out a couple times. now, tomorrow he wants to hang out and he plans on taking it to the next level. im 15. everyone i know is telling me to wait and lecturing me so please dont. the thing is, is i want this to be really special and i dont want him to just think of me as just antoher girl (im a virgin and hes not) and i know that im getting really strong feelings for him and the thing is is like i dont know how he feels about me and hes not the type of person to come out and say it and it would be akward if i asked. today i was trying to talk about it and i was like if i said i didnt want to what would you do and hes like well id try to sweet talk you into it but then id just give up and i mean thats how he is and it was funny but i dunno im really stressed. what do i do?
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make sure you put everything in perspective ask yourself all the questions (i.e. is he worth it? will i be heartbroken if he screws me over, and all the like) i personally think sex is better this way because you dont have to worry about getting your heart broken. i wouldnt worry to much about trying to make it special, if you want maybe just light a couple candles, and music is good lotsa times. it wont be great, in fact you probly wont even orgasm the first time you have sex.
hope i helped
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oh and make sure you use protection that shit aint a joke. thats how ya screw yourself over not usin that stuff
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deffinatly dont do anything your not comfortable with. your only 15! you dont need to rush into anything--i would say to deffinatly deffinatly wait. you dont want to go too far and then regret it- making out seems far enough to me.
good luck.
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Dont do it. It's that simple. You should lead him on tomorrow. Let him have his fun, but when the time comes, push him off. Be like "nuh-uh, not now, not here". But still keep him in the mood. You dont want to be 'just another girl' to him. You want him to remember you for the rest of his goddamn life. It may sound evil but it'll make him think of you more and more often. It'll make him want you more, and soon he'll start liking you a lot [if he doesnt already]. But don't go through with it until your 100% sure you're ready.
Listen to this song; S.E.X by Lyfe.
it really helps.
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I hate when people lecture you.Do what you feel is right..if you really want to go to the next level with him then go ahead. It`s honestly all up to you and don`t stress over it if your afraid of saying no you shouldn`t be just be like I don`t think we should yet maybe later but if you do then go for it.♥
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Hi
You need to do what feels comfortable and natural. If something doesn't feel right, chances are it's because it's not.
I have just one question for you. Why do you want to lose your virginity to someone whom you aren't even sure how he feels about you?
Losing your virginity is a BIG thing, and you want to be able to look back on it and not be like "what the hell was I thinking?"
Just remember to think of yourself first, and don't let anyone talk you into something you're not ready or sure about.
Take care,
Brenda
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This is up to you. No one can really give you that much advice?
Are you ready to take it to the next level? If so, than go for it. But be prepared. You may consider this to be 2 different things. You may consider it as 'making love' & he may consider it as just 'hooking up'. He may not think of this as a commitment, so you need to talk to him about it if you think that's what this is. I would advise waiting until I knew for sure what it is he really wants. But it's completely up to you. If I were you, i'd ask him how he feels.
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Hi, Are you ready to take it to the next level? You don't sound to show. You are still quite young and have you 2 even considered contraception? I would'nt do something your not show on, especially if it's stressing you out. If you don't know how he feels about you, how do you expect to have a good relationship with him. That sounds all one sided. Daniel.
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well i have kind of been in the same situation. first you need to think about what you would be comfortable doing by setting boundaries. if u think you truely aren't ready, then dont! and truthfully, in all the realtionships that me and my friends have been in, the farther you go with a guy the harder the relationship gets, but thats just what seems to happen to people i know. hope this helps!
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