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Ello,
Before I start talking about myself, I would like to talk about advice. The best advice you can get is from your soul and guardian (parents). I am just a kid who realized that when she asked for advice the answers were similar to what she would of done or what she wanted to do deep down but didn't realize it. I am very truthful because I know what it feels like to ask a so-called friend to only have them tell you something to just make you feel better instead of what needs to be done. Thankyou.

Anyway....

I am me.
I love moshpits, concerts, meeting the band and chilling at the after party. Being a friend. gaia ( tisue ) an anime roleplaying comunity. makeing fakelip piercings. .school
German Expressionalism (probably spelt that wrong). The history of emo music.

I hate drama, when things die... like fish,
very one-sided political views. illegal drugs (8 of my cousins died, could u blame me?),
spelling things wrong which I do online all the time,get a mark lower then a 85% on a test (that totally pisses me off and ruins my day),falling for someone who you think likes you back and then finding out they never liked you at all and then he fuc*s ur best friend and say ur ok with it .being all "all". being around a group of people you dont know . feeling sick. Jello!!! The sun. My World My Butt and Other Big Round Things (1 of my favorite books)

advice

i've been getting lower abdominal pains for a month or two now; and when they come, they kill.
they're usually gone in about 5-10 minutes.
i've never gotten my period.

Go to doctor, NOW! Pain is not good no matter where it is. If you hold off any longer, something could be seriously wrong and could cause a type of damage. My dad wouldn't go to the doctor because he said "oh its nothing, it will pass." It ends up he has a disease called, i don't even know what or how to spell it, but it has to do with eating nuts. He had to get an operation cause he waited so long. Anyway, so yes please do what the others say and go to a doctor. Better to be sure and safe then sorry!

Hope this helps (:

- Delia

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ok so my 16th bday is next month and my mom just asked me what id like to do for my bday. that was a surprise since at first she said she couldnt afford a party or anything. soo of course i mean i dont have a big budget it needs to be reasonably cheap but still fun. i already get dinner and a car but theres not much else to do around here except movies bowling and skatin all of which ive done before and those dont seem too 'sweet sixteeny' anyway. any one have any fun ideas for me and like 3-4 close friends? no spend-the-nights either lol sry its complicated.

Well for my birthday i'm hiring my favorite band (hopefully if my dad will pay) at a local undergroud rock club thats not much to rent out. Otherwise the cheaper thing i'm going to do is just take a few of my friends to a concert like I did for my 15th. Most concerts in NY are like 20 bucks a ticket, and if you live in NJ or NY try the Starland Ballroom. That place is cheap, cool, and it has a great sound system. They have all types of music playing there, like Justin Timberlake to Narles Barkley to My Chemical Romance to... just about every genre! Or you can take them to a club thats fun and just pay for their entry. Hope this helps!

Love Much,
Delia

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ok. so my boyfreind and i have been dating...well for one year on saturday. and yeah this isnt that much time. but still...i really want to come up with a good idea for something that will really surprise him. I have a swim meet in the morning at 10 and then we are going to the kenny chesney concert at 4:30...so there isnt really that much time. so basically what im asking is what is a good surprise for him...girls what have you done...and guys what do you like?


Welll hmm hmm hmmm. I would buy him a new Chesney t-shirt that he could wear to the concert that night and a big old hug. And maybe make him a little card that says something really simple and truthful (cause most, not all, but most don't get the really deep poetry stuff). If it was my guy I would write on a white piece of folded paper.
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Hey love! I'm really happy your my boyfriend, and I know we'll have loads of fun tonight. I've had a great (almost full) whole year with you! **smiles** So, hope you like the card.

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Hope that helps with your special gift. I know its kind of stupit, but its simple and to the point. (:
Love,
Delia

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Ok to start 14/f
Before I ask my question I'll give you a backround
Today i woke up and i was pissed because i got little sleep. My little brother was talking to my dad about how i dont go to sleep when im supposed to (12am) because I get on my computer and stay on there till about 2 or 3 am. My dad was pissed and said that when school starts for the first 3 months he will cut off the internet. Then since I was still pissed I was ranting on about how school sucks and that landed me a 15 min lecture about how if i didnt go to school I wouldnt be smart and get a good job. Later today my older brother started thinking that im turning anerexic because I had not (and still havent) eaten anything all day. I kinda blew that off and then my mom said that I dont like my family because eariler i said that its not really that cool to go to the bowling alley with my family and not my friends. Shes says that im lazy and just dont want to get any exercise (even thiugh you dont exercise at a bowling alley) so now im thinking that my family is out to get me into the loony bin

So now my question is
do i apologize for being a sort of smartmouth
or just leave it alone and let them apologize.

I rate depending on the quality of the answer.

Thanks, DarkChocolate794

i know how it is, family sucks. I doubt they'll apologize to you. As for the bowling alley thing, I get that all the time from my grandma. I think its because they don't realize that now that your older your more independent and like to be social with others your age. Everyone gets nasty or smartmouth sometimes, especially since you didn't sleep much. I would tell them "hey look, I know i've been kinda mean to you today and I think its because I didn't sleep well. And you know, now that i'm 14 I like to 'hangout'. And I can't very well 'hangout' with my family, so can we plan events together so that I will still be able to 'hangout' with my friends and spend quality time with you. Its not that i don't want to make time for you, its that I like makeking time for my friends too." or something like that (:
and for anerexia, I didn't eat for like a week and a half once. And barely anything for the month following. Everyone was like "omg your anerexic!" and I wasn't, i just wasn't hungry. It ends up I had acid reflux so bad that it made me no longer hungry^^

Anyway, good luck!

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Ok so there is this guy I like. Lets call him...Mark.
Well my friend introduced me to Mark and when I was talking to him on AIM my friend yells that he thinks I'm pretty.

Well after that we started talking more and more. Then later that night he told me that he has a girlfriend. It was fine with me because I was thinking of really getting together with him.

Then he was saying how he liked me and how he wanted to be with me but, then the next day all he could talk about was his girlfriend and how much she likes him and all of that.

I can't help but feel somewhat jealous.

I really don't know what to do. I do like him even after I am trying not to but it's hard.

Part of me wants to think he likes me really and then another part of me just says that he does it to all the girls he talks to.

What should I say to him?

he is playing you, messing with your mind. I have learned one major thing about "players" in my 15 years of life. They USE you. He's teasing you. Beware, stay away, but still be cool to him if he talks to you.

What I would do if I were you:

guy:hey
me:hi
guy:i missed you soo much
me: you have a girlfriend, why borther saying that kind of stuff to me
guy:i don't like her much
me: then why are you with her?
guy: because... I don't know
me: well figure it out and then let me know
guy:....
me: i'm not a play thing, I have feelings
guy: i know you do, and I like you
me: well your with someone else, and I don't want to be the "girl" you cheated on her with
guy:....


yes I just imagined that in my head. Hope it helps!! Much love,
Delia

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is it hard to give a blow job? and if youve never done it before and you give it to a guy.. if its not good enough will they not enjoy it?

I never done it, I probably will if I get nuts enough. Just make sure you use a latex condom and all that sort of stuff cause you can get an STD or whatever its called. Yah my friend got syphillus to the mouth (gross looking, painful, and forever)

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i love to compliment my boyfriend and make him feel good, but sometimes i run out of things to say! what kind of compliments do guys like most? and how do you let them know how attractive you think they are without simply using words such as hot? i know it should be easy but i wanna know what kind of compliments make guys feel the BEST and how i should word things

I say "i like being around you" out of nowhere, really randomly. Random little complements are the best. Smiles are good too, I smile all the time when i'm with him... but not the scary smile. Just a relaxed smile (:

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well people i have been volenteering at the local pool with swimming lessons...and i recently had 4 classes and i got a sunburn and i need it to stop the pain...so what should i do....i hvent taken a shower yet but will it be bad if I do!please give me all the advice you can....

thanks,
meghan

aloe vera all over. Preferably the real kind. My mom puts ours in the refrigerator to keep it cold and then puts it on. It feels great!

Hope this helps.

Much love,
Delia

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my boyfriend and i had been going out since febuary 17, 2004 so a little over 2 years, everything was perfect we were madly inlove and it was so nice and great he helped me when i needed him and he would help me everything he was my prince charming!!! but anyway one night we were at a big party my good friend had this summer it was in june like june 10th around then, but anyway and there is this girl who loves my old bf i mean she would do anything in her power to try to break us up. she pulled out a bottle and demanded we play spin the bottle! i didnt want to because i figured she mad it so it would land on him and of course it did he told her he would only kiss me and thats it! and she jumped on him and started making out with him the worst part was he started making out with her back and i know because i saw his tongue involved. after my friend pulled the girl off of my bf he stared at me and i just started crying i usually dont cry but something made me want to cry!!! he came by me and hugged me and i pushed him to the ground he tried to apologize but i didnt want to hear it my best guy friend came over and hugged me and told me that he was a jerk and that everything was going to be ok. i didnt talk to my bf the rest of the night then next day i checked my email and there was 10 emails all with the same subject i dont like her is what they all said, so i told him i finally forgave him and things were good for about a week then he invited me over and i decided to go biiig mistake when he came to the door i noticed his friends b. and j. were there with there girlfriends who i knew and we were friends it was all good and everything was going great until his neighbor (who is the girl i hate who loves him) came over she and him flirted the whole time in front of me and then if it didnt get anyworse she started kissing him and touchin his tush again he just let her do it but this time i threw this soccerball on the ground at them while they were kissing and slammed the door on my way out. he chased after me and grabbed me \"babe i\'m sorry she just kisses so well i cant stop!\" i smacked him across the face and tried to get him to let go of me but he wouldnt \"im not cheating on you i love you and you know that\" he said \"do i\" i snapped back and kicked him in the nuts and walked off he told me he was sorry but i told him that we couldnt go out anymore and its been 3 days since i told him we couldnt go out now he wont stop calling me sending me emails practically stalking me telling me hes so sorry and loves me and wont do it anymore but i dont know i have to admitt i still love him but i dont want to be hurt anymore i really miss him but i dont like being treated like this please tell me what you think

I hate him, and love you since you hurt him. . His excuse about how good she kisses is discusting, and is no excuse at all. If I were you, I would not forgive nor forget. Your worth way to much for that bull. As from what you wrote, he is treating as if he knows he can do whatever he wants. Dont let him take advantage of the fact that you love him. He should respect and cherish your love, not abuse it in the way that he has (by kissing other girls, especially right in front of your face!)
Find someone else, or get to know yourself and just forget about his existance for a while.
Hope this helps!!
Much love,
Delia

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what time of the day is it best to go running?!

morning, since your more awake and its not to hot out. However if your like me and simply not a morning persin, try evening... like right after dinner. Not too late because running (and other physical activities) gets blood flowing and your heart beating which makes you more awake and less likely to fall asleep fast.
hope this helps!

Much Love,
Delia

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well im going to be a sophmore next year and i have absolutely no idea what i want to be. obviously i have a dream job, and mine is to become an actress, but in case that whole deal doesnt work out, i want to have another thing for backup. freshman year i just took basics and this year i basically am too but junior im going to really need to think about what classes i want to take because its going to make a difference in colleges and stuff. does anyone know of any quizzes i can take or any thing like that to help me figure it out? thanks!

Well honestly, I don't think online quizzes will help much when it comes to decideing what you want to do for the rest of your life.
I have the same problem. I really want to be a hair stylest since it comes naturally to me and i'm great with color. However, I have Connective Tissue Disease so I feel it is my duty to become a doctor to help other kids out their with this disease. I am going to be a sophmore, and am completely still torn. What I did is register for a Fashion Design course (for the creativity for hair styling), and Science Summer Camp (to help with my knowledge of science i'll need to be a doctor), as well as Karate and Dance (to try something new). I advise you to do the same. Join clubs and activities. They will help you see if you feel passionate about it as much as you think. Hope this helps. Much Love,
Delia

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HELP!!!I luv my brother so much well hes cute major but hes a spoiled brat and everyones likes him and I guess thats why hes spoiled.I cant controll myself and yes hes 4 years old.
I dont know if I should keep hugin him or ignore him 4 being spoild.
HELP!!!

he's a kid. all my cousins were annoying, cute, and craved attention. Of course I gave it to them along with everyone else. They all turned out just fine, and are on their way to college and getting married etc. Most 4 year olds are so cute and want everything. Just love them. Love is important for all ages, especially at that age. But i know your a great sister so don't worry at all ^^

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I havent had my period for 4-5 months!But im not pregnant why is this?PLEASE HELP!!!

go to a gynocologist. You may seriously have a hormonal imbalance or something else. Tell your parent or guardian immediately. This is not normal to not have it for such a long amount of time. Get help NOW

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Ok so heres my problem, I am really just feeling lonely right now. My friends and everyone I know basically is going out with someone and well nobody really seems to like me. I have plenty of friends male and female, I guess a pretty good personality (otherwise they wouldnt hang out with me right?)I just dont get it. I also have pretty low self esteem so right now I'm pretty much guessing I'm ugly or something because no matter what I do nobody likes me. My friends always have the girls coming after them even! And I'm always pushed aside...Sigh. Any advice, and I for one seriously don't have faith in that good personality is what they're looking for thing. Thanks
Will Rate

Ok, I know where your coming from. My bff got a boyfriend of a guy I liked. Everything changed. EVERYTHING. She doesnt tell me things, and now that he broke up with her she deep down is blameing me. But thats another story, so anyway... selfesteem. For 2 years I was in a deep depression and had no selfesteem because I was verbally abused everyday. I can relate.

One day I woke up out of my suicidal state and said "who cares what you think, i'm not ok but that doesnt mean i'm not worth anything". The "i'm not ok" line is from a My Chemical Romance song that I absolutely love. Try listening to them, it may release your anger. Write poetry, stories, anything too. They are great. When I was younger I wrote alot. I have been recently recognized by scholastic, anthropology of young american writers, etc. You can be too ^^
Don't let yourself be pushed aside. You are so much more then they'll ever be. You know why? Because the people that suffer in life succeed. Who have you ever heard of that is famous and never felt pain? Martin Luther King was prejustice against because he was black. Helen Keller was blinde, deaf and who knows what else. The best songs are the songs written by people that can share their feelings. They have feelings and are intouch with them because they have suffered, in one way or another.

You are worth so much more, i'll pray for you and you keep trying to survive, and we'll call it even (:

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If the clothes from abercrombie are so...thin....why do they cost so much?
And I don't want this to sound mean, but why do so many people buy their clothes there, just for them to shrink in the laundry?

you r totally completely right!!
thus i do not buy name brands (except this one pair of capri's my mom bought me that are Ralph Lauren)

i hate name brands. their expensive, everyone owns them, they are made cheaply, and yes as you said they shrink.

lets protest!! (jk lol)

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Sorry if this is the wronge category.

Okay, my boyfriend of over a year is turning 21 soon. Problem is, I have no idea what to get him. He is really into the punk/goth stuff. Any ideas?

concert tickets, thats what i tell my relatives and everyone else to get me for my birthday. Or does he use vampire freaks? get him a premium account. Cd's are awesome ^^ and theirs always just finding out his favorite band and getting him a band tshirt from places like Hottopic.

Since he is turning 21, a bit of alchohol wouldnt hurt lol

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im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.

mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.

This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.

what about breast enlargement?

are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?

is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?

i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!

Please HELP ME!

do not get breast implants. you can get infected and die or have to have them taken out. Plus they DONOT feel real. i'm a DD so i'll tell u a terrible secret about girls that have big boobs- it hurts. Old men stair at u, your back hurts, you look slutty in every shirt you wear. But if you want that kind of attention, stuff em with tissu. and/or gain weight. join clubs at school etc. to meet guys. I wouldn't want a guy that only wanted me for my boobs, i would want a guy that liked me for who i am... but hey thats me. your life isnt ruined, your young still. Continue being a nice smart individual and love will come when you least expect it (:

(i'm 15 and don't want a boyfriend any time soon because all my friends that have them lose their perspective and priorities aka they get really nuts)

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Heres the sitch...im a 16yr male senior at my high school, and ive been BEST friends with this girl since sophmore year...problem is, ive fallen for her...hard. i cant get her out of my head, i get jealous of any other guys she talks to or who like her, and im really protective of her...but she doest like me when i like her, she said she had a crush on me back when i had a gf soph year, but now she doesnt like ANYONE. what should i do? ive liked her for two years, but she says it would be wierd to date bcuz weve been friends for so long...

pray.

once when i was younger- way back when in elementary school- i loved andrew. i loved him sooo much! i never told him. years go by, he likes someone else. i'm the first one he tells because were such good friends. that week i talk to his bestfriend. it ends up andrew did like me, but i dont think he knew i liked him. this fact tortured me for years.

the other day i saw him in a fast food resturant. well thank God i did not go out with him. He turned into a Catholic school prep (i went to Catholic school with him when i was younger, but i choose public for highschool). he even plays football and has a army kind of haircut.

all i could say is pray that it will work out. be honest with yourself, and know that what you'll say to her will change your friendship forever.

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This question is directed toward all you christian colunists. I'm planning to get a tattoo soon and I'd like to get the opinion of other christians. So if you are a christian, I'd like to know how you feel about tattoos.

i'm Catholic so i'll give you my honest opinion.
i'm sure you know why Christians are against tattoes. we dont believe in permanently changing your body because that says to God "you did not make me perfect". Personally I think that its true. Also, i'm not sure if you will be able to be buried in a Christian cemetary.

This will PERMANENTLY change your life. you may think now "oh its so cool and hot" but later in life when your trying to feed your family and you cant get a job you may think "if only I didnt have this tattoe I could pay for little johnny's daycare" (this is also what Dr.Phil said on his TV show)

I don't plan on getting a tattoo because i am always changing. I could change tomorrow and think something completely opposite then what I feel now.

Your the only one that lives with yourself forever. Do what you'll do, but just know theirs consequences for every action, every choice.

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I am starting to hang out with new people, usually I would be outgoing with my firends, no matter who it is, but since my new friends are popular,I"m having trouble. How do I be more outgoing. These girls are very outgoing and if you're to shy you'll not be friends with them any longer!!! HELP!!!

i'm never friends with people who don't accept who I am, even the bad things. Maybe start looking for people who just say "your a nice, cool person" and hang out with you for that reason instead of having to change your personality (:

everyone starts making friends, being more outgoing, at their own time. I'm 14 and it just happened to me. Luckily, it was the first day of highschool that I decided i'll be friends with whoever I want so I didn't miss much. It was more of a change in my life, a growing turn, rather then decision. I was ready. When your ready, talking... making friends, etc. will come easy ^^

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