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One is the lonliest number
Ok so heres my problem, I am really just feeling lonely right now. My friends and everyone I know basically is going out with someone and well nobody really seems to like me. I have plenty of friends male and female, I guess a pretty good personality (otherwise they wouldnt hang out with me right?)I just dont get it. I also have pretty low self esteem so right now I'm pretty much guessing I'm ugly or something because no matter what I do nobody likes me. My friends always have the girls coming after them even! And I'm always pushed aside...Sigh. Any advice, and I for one seriously don't have faith in that good personality is what they're looking for thing. Thanks
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dude, Its kinda like this who would you rather go out with... a girl thats hot as hell, but is also boaring as hell or a girl thats okay but shes alright. EXACTLY! Dude dont get down man hang out with some girls and maby you'll be asking for "other" advice next time (if you know what im sayin)
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Nathan
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Just be nice and be yourself. Girls LOVE it when you are nice and gentle. Just do small things for the girl you like, like hold open the door for her orrrrr see if she needs help on the assignment you are working on. Just small, simple things like that.
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Well, I bet you you would be perfect for anyone to date. You have a good personality from what you say. You just need to relax. The right person will come along. Some people date for the heck of it, and to me I've learned it's a waste. Date people you know that will impact you to the greatest. Someone you can love. They'll come along sooner than you think. I promise. So remember you could be with someone in your eyes perfect someday soon.
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This is basically what is happeing to me right now. ALL of my friends are dating and i have no one. I just make the best of ot. Im sure your not ugly or anything but basically right now when you are younger its hard to always find someone. just make new friends and hang out with other ppl when your alone or got o a family members house or something.
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Ok, I know where your coming from. My bff got a boyfriend of a guy I liked. Everything changed. EVERYTHING. She doesnt tell me things, and now that he broke up with her she deep down is blameing me. But thats another story, so anyway... selfesteem. For 2 years I was in a deep depression and had no selfesteem because I was verbally abused everyday. I can relate.
One day I woke up out of my suicidal state and said "who cares what you think, i'm not ok but that doesnt mean i'm not worth anything". The "i'm not ok" line is from a My Chemical Romance song that I absolutely love. Try listening to them, it may release your anger. Write poetry, stories, anything too. They are great. When I was younger I wrote alot. I have been recently recognized by scholastic, anthropology of young american writers, etc. You can be too ^^
Don't let yourself be pushed aside. You are so much more then they'll ever be. You know why? Because the people that suffer in life succeed. Who have you ever heard of that is famous and never felt pain? Martin Luther King was prejustice against because he was black. Helen Keller was blinde, deaf and who knows what else. The best songs are the songs written by people that can share their feelings. They have feelings and are intouch with them because they have suffered, in one way or another.
You are worth so much more, i'll pray for you and you keep trying to survive, and we'll call it even (:
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lonlieness hurts dont go for looks and look for people who have the same intrests as you and are not judges by how ugly you are but like you for you.
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Well i know what it feels like to be lonely. It sucks right? Dont worry about it is basically what i want to tell you. If guys dont like you for your personality then there is no point in having a bf if they only like u for anything other than who you are. Don't worry about having a boyfriend you got your friends, but if you want guys to notice you more try get their attention. Dont let yourself get pushed out and dont be afraid to be yourself and wear what you like. If you worrying about looks.dont. as long as you can carry yourself with confidence and like the way you look, other people will like the way you look at take notice. Dont worry about guys if. there is one out there for you, just wait for him to find you.
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Hi, OK, so I think you need to realize a few things right now. First of all, you need to determine if you really want to date or if you're just upset that nobody is dating you. There's a difference. Second, know that your friends will ditch you for whoever they're dating for the rest of your life. it happens to everyone. It's not nice but it IS normal, so don't take it personally.
Now, to your original statement that you are lonely "right now". Think of this time as a "vacation" from your friends and go DO something. Whatever you want. Really, it could be anything- learn to play the guitar, join a healthclub, mow lawns for extra cash. Diversify! Last bit of advice- go volunteer with a theater, whether a local community theater or the one at school. Do something simple, like props. This is a great way to meet people, especially girls!
Oh, and I don't know how old you are, but personality is definitely number one! I don't mean to imply that age matters, but if you are in high school, then yeah, personality is all for nothing. But soon it will be your most important asset, so develop it.
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