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heyy like im looking for an ew comforter and stuff. and i looked at www.wakeupfrankie.com and www.pbteen.com and i looked at ikea.com i found some that i liked but ikea is a little cheapp and the others are a little expensive. so iwas just wonderin if any of you know any more good sites or stores?? (link)
Hey- I've had success with overstock.com. Shipping is CHEAP, even on big things, and there are usually reviews of the products. Check it out. Good luck.


how would i start modeling?.. i know i need a portfolio but how do i come about that.. do i pay?.. how much is it? do i just go to a place where they do professional photography like glamour shots?..
and for acting.. how do i start that.. is it wise to get an agent? how much would that be.. im thinkin of taking acting classes.. i take drama in highschool

**how do i know what is and is not a scam** (link)
Hey- to assess if a company is running a "scam", call and ask them one thing- will they take everybody, or just the people with a legitimate chance at "making it". They won't always give you a straight answer, so you may have to be tricky: "Hi, me and a group of my friends were thinking of getting into modeling. Will you represent all of us? Cause I don't want to do it unless we all do it." If they say you can all take classes but they can't guarantee that they'll represent all of you, they are probably reputable. If they say Sure, we represent anybody who wants to get into modeling, then you may want to move on. You need an agency who will give you an HONEST assessment of your chances, not just one who tells you what you want to hear.

As far as pictures: when you first meet with a modeling agency, they usually DON'T want professional shots, just a few snapshots. They will tell you what to do from there. My recommendation: DO NOT sign up for anything at your first meeting. Walk away, think about it, go with your gut feeling. Ask yourself if you will be happy even if you never get any work from it.


My friend is ALWAYS sick. Now that it is summer, my friends and I go out alot together and have alot of sleepovers. So we are alwasy with my friend that gets scik. She just recently got me sick. I don't want ot get sick over the summer, so that means I don't want to hang out with her when she is sick. She should be hom anyway, but she doesn't want to miss anything. What can I say to her so I don't have to hang with her? (link)
Drop a hint: next time you're talking to her, say that you don't want to go out because you're sick and you don't want to get anyone else sick. It doesn't have to be true that you're sick. ALSO, are you sure that what she has in contagious? If she's always sick, then maybe she has a condition that causes it, which means she can't pass it on. I've known people with CF who were always coughing- big, phlegmy coughs. But they weren't contagious.


if a person is bipolar how do they act..?
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I can tell you this- when my aunt is having an "attack" she says the overwhelming emotion she is feeling is fear. She doesn't know why she's afraid, or what she's afraid of, she just knows she's terrified. From our perspective, the way we know when my aunt or my uncle are on the verge of an attack is that they 1) stop sleeping, 2) start doing weird things, and 3) become overly-confident. They really think they can do ANYTHING, and they set out to prove it. Some examples from my aunt's most recent attack: she told my cousin she would be cured of diabetes if she held a candy-cane until it melted. she did not sleep for FOUR days. when she filled out paperwork at the hospital that admitted her, she listed "Governor Bush" as a contact. she hired a personal body guard. the list goes on and ON. Keep in mind, though, that everyone is different.

Good luck


I have a friend (we actually went on a few dates but nothing more) that has a little girl (he's 18 and she's 3). He takes no responsibility for her and doesn't live with her. She lives with his mom. Our families actually know each other as well.


Today I had a dentist appt. and I saw his mom there. She was with her other son and this little girl that I never met. I figured she just had another kid since I didn't see her for so long.


So later on when I was home, I told my mom that I ran into her and asked when she had the little girl. My mom told me that it wasn't hers; it was my friend's daughter. I was so incredibly surprised because that thought never entered my mind. And the little girl is so unbelievably adorable. She was even sitting in my lap the whole time I was talking to her mom.


Well I'm gonna see my friend next weekend (I haven't seen him in a month) and I was wondering if I should mention his daughter and tell him that I met her or not considering he never even sees her. What do you guys think? I mean I don't want to make him feel bad or anything. (link)
Hey, I've had friends who had kids at a really young age and they down-play being a parent so that they can still act like a normal teen. Maybe he's not telling people because he doesn't want to be judged, and he doesn't hang out with his daughter because then people will know about her. Sad, yeah, but it happens. If it were me, I would definitely tell him, in a non-chalant way, that you met his daughter and that she was sweet and adorable. Then leave it at that. Don't ask him why he never brought her up and don't make it seem like you're judging him because then he'll shut down. Later, you could say "Maybe we could take your little girl to the park on Saturday." Bottom line- if you act cool about it, maybe he'll be cool about it, too.


i took piano lessons when i was 9 years old,and then because the teacher was so strict and i cried after sessions,i quit.and now i wanna study piano again but i don't think my mom would let me.i'll really stick to it,be strong,and work real hard on it.i just wanna learn how to play the piano again....13's not "too late" age,right??how do i convince my mom???tnx in advance (link)
If your Mom's concern is that you won't be dedicated, show her you're interest by practicing NOW. Sit down and practice every single day, even for a little bit, and make sure she can hear you. Then mention to her that you've always liked the piano and that you liked taking lessons but that the teacher was so mean. If you REALLY want to impress your Mom, look in the phone book for a different teacher who is nearby, then find out how much they charge and when they have an opening. How could your Mom say no to someone who has done all that research?


So lately I've been wanting to get fit and in shape. I'm already running and walking, but I also want to do some other exercises. For the past two weeks I've been trying to do push ups and I can't. Why is it so hard? I can't hold myself up and its embarrassing. I've been doing them on my knees to at least build up a little arm muscle and so I do that for awhile and then I do a regular push up and its not helping at all, its almost a waste of time. I get like a tingly feeling in my elbows and then when I stop trying and get up, my upper arms hurt. How come I can't do push ups? Is there a way to gradually build arm muscle so that I can do push ups? I know its hard and challenging but it its impossible all together for me :(
Thank you. (link)
I've had the exact same problem! I always thought that I just couldn't do them, but last summer I started working on it and finally could. I got one of those small Yoga balls and put it under my hips, then did push-ups like that. As you get better, move the Yoga ball down to your knees, and so on. Good luck!


It seems as if all my kids have their problems anymore. It's hard as a Mother to hold things together sometimes.

I am not quite sure how to deal with my Son's gf who has bipolar disorder. (they are 21 & 22) It's like walking on egg shells when I am around her. I do like her, it's not that, but she can be so mean sometimes. Her angry comments are hurtful, to our entire family, including my son. They really don't get along that well, but there is nothing I can do about it, I know that. He has to deal with staying or leaving because he owns that situation, not me. However in order to maintain a relationship with my son, I feel like I have to accept her. However, because of her treating myself and my other children badly. I am really confused. She is not on medication because she can't afford it and her own Mother kicked her out. We are really all she has right now.

Any suggestions? (link)
Hi, I have an aunt and an uncle who are both bi-polar and it is very serious stuff. Actually, my aunt is in the hospital right now because she just had an "attack". She was doing weird things- I won't go into details, but she was very creative. The other people who answered that there is assistance for those who can't afford it are correct, but it may take a while to get it. BUT keep in mind that it's not always that they can't afford the medicine, but that they won't take it anyway. I know that sounds unreasonable, but it's true. We've been through this DOZENS of times. For some reason, they will up and decide they don't need their medicine, and they will lie about not taking it. It's part of the cycle.

For your sanity, please know that my aunt and uncle have never harmed ANYBODY, they just do strange and unpredictable things. And yes, part of it is lashing out at the people they love.

TALK to your son, tell him you care for his girlfriend and want to see her happy. Say you did some research about her disorder and have found that there are things she can do to get help. Give him whatever info you have, say you will help if they need it (not financially), then back away. Sounds like you are handling the situation well.


Can you please tell me how old you were when you went on your first date, and the first time you made out?? (link)
19. I was a late bloomer.


i work at an ice cream shop and im not allowed to wear nailpolish. my nails break easily and they start to peel off in layers. HELP. what can i do to keep them healthy and keep them from not breaking without nailpolish?

I RATE HIGH. = ) (link)
1) Pre-natal vitamins. I swear they work! I used to have paper-thin nails, I could literally peel them off, but since I started taking pre-natal vitamins, I have to trim them with scissors.

2) Cuticle oil- very easy, very effective. Put it on your cuticles, rub it in, go to bed.


I have to audition for A MIdsummer Night's Dream on Sunday. I have to prepare a Shakspearean monologue that is more than four lines, but less than two minutes. I want to use this monologue:

http://www.mirroruptonature.com/shakespeare-monologues/female/amnd-1-1-226-helena.pdf

I learned it for school. My question is, do you think it is a good monologue for an audition? If you don't can you reccomend another one? Thanks. I'll rate high. (link)
Hi, I've always loved the "I am ashamed that women are so simple" monologue from Taming of the Shrew. Yes, I know, it's politically incorrect, but it is very straigh-forward and easy to follow/understand, and still shows a lot of depth. The monologue you picked- do YOU like it? Are you good at it? Are you comfortable with it?

Good luck!


I am a 16- years old, I got a event that takes place soon. I need to tone my stomach and mi chest. The event takes place in a month and two weeks. Can someone plz help me? Mi breast aren't saggy but I don't like em, they are to low, can someone help me to do something to help me. please help. thanks (link)
Push-ups and bench-presses. Make sure you are wearing the right kind of bra. A lot of people think under-wires are uncomfortable, but they do wonders for shaping.


A little more than 25 years ago, I met a guy who became a friend. About three years after we met, he took my car out one night, got drunk and smashed it up. I had to pay to tow the car away, junk it, and for tickets. Cost me over $1,000 at the time. He never offered to pay me for the damages to my car.

He was doing bad financially at that time and I figured that later on, when he was doing well, over time he would find some way to compensate me because we were still "friends."

Fast forward 25 years. This "friend" is single and doing well, owns house, car, good job, etc. Last year I borrowed $300 from him to buy emergency plane tickets, and told him I'd pay him back when I could. About three weeks later, he began to demand repayment in full. He was nasty about it so I reminded him about his car wreck 25 years ago. Nobody made him pay then.

He was still angry; I was stunned. No, I did not ever pay him back. The crisis has passed but I want to know, who's right about this? Should he get his $300 back? And what about people who think the passage of time relieves them of their financial and moral obligations? Your help please....

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LEGALLY, he has a claim, but you do not. Ethically, you both have claims. Cover yourself and give him his $300, definitely ask him for the $1000, but understand that you probably won't get it. Then kick him to the curb. He sounds like a loser.


Okay, my best friend was dating my cousin for awhile, but then they broke up, Two weeks ago, they got back togeather, and my cousin came up for a visit. They hung out and everything was okay. Now my best friend (which by the way, there both 13), just broke up with him, cause she's saying "she didn't know how wild he was" because she just found out that he made out with his old girlfriend on her bed! But he wasn't even dating my friend at the time, so it's no big deal. So now she's being all gay, and i dont understand how to deal with this situation. Should i be mad at her, for hurting my cousin, or should i just let it slide? I love my cousin alot, he's like one of my best friends, but she's one of my best friends too! HELP (link)
Try to understand that when a relationship ends, someone usually gets hurt. I know you love your cousin and your friend and want to see them happy, but if she doesn't want to be with him, you can't be mad at her for that. Maybe she's intimidated by his "experience". Maybe she thinks that he'll expect things she's not willing to give. No matter what, though, support BOTH of them, because right now they BOTH need you.


But she told me the other day she had got rid of the photo?


I know I shound havnt done it thou but I made a fake email addy to talk 2 her “bf” and I was talking 2 him and he seems a nice guy but when I askd him are you single he said ye iam but iam just getting off with this girls thou. So I think she finks they are seein each other?then I askd her wot is she doin 2nite ( last nit) and she said iam goin out with kris and havin sumthin 2 eat at his,but when I was talking to him askd him wot was he up 2 2nit and he said “ just a quite nite in watchin the football and I was talking 2 him till bout 11 ( at nite)anyways y is she tryin 2 make me jelious? I thought you only made sum1 jelious when you likd them?
help me plzzzzzz
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I think one of two things:

1) She likes you

2) She likes that you like her and doesn't want you to stop

One or the other. I think if you like this girl and want to see it further, tell her you don't appreciate the games and to knock it off. Maybe she's trying to prompt you into action with her little hints. Or maybe she's just playing with you. If it's "Option 2" then kick her to the curb.

As for Kris' comments: maybe they aren't an "item" but she wants you to think they are. Or maybe she did have plans with him, but he cancelled and she doesn't want you to know. Who knows.

Good luck


me and this girl have been friendly 4 bout 5 months and the other month she txtd me sayin she has no got a bf and that she still wants to keep in touch with me cos she will miss me, and when we went on our date she has kept the photo we had taken of us and she has also kept the train ticket and this boyfiend she has now she says is " the 1" if he is the 1 y keep the ticket and photo of us?

the the other day she was meant to send her bf a txt and it appeard on my phone instead when his name is Kris and my name is Ste but K is nowere near S in the alaphbet is it? is she tryin to make me jelious r sumthin?

she says that the date we went on she will never 4get it was 1 of the best days she had and that when we kiss she went all funny but i still dont understand it? when we talk now we just end up arguing and bitchin bout each other then we say sorry 2 each other and that it wasnt nice but y does she still want me as a mate if we argue and then make up the other day she said she "hated me and that i had "blown it "( y had i blown it she says she dont like me anymre) and told me to "piss off" but then she txts bk and says sorry bout b4 . but if she dont like me and i pissd her off y she wanna keep intouch with me she says I always make her happy and smile isn’t that wot a bf is
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OK, this girl totally likes you. Past that, though, she's completely confused. I think she's saying what she says and doing what she does to get your attention and see how YOU feel about HER. If you feel like being the aggressor, next time she says something nice about you, say something like "If you mean what you say, you shouldn't be with him. You should be with me." Then see what she says.


Heres the sitch...im a 16yr male senior at my high school, and ive been BEST friends with this girl since sophmore year...problem is, ive fallen for her...hard. i cant get her out of my head, i get jealous of any other guys she talks to or who like her, and im really protective of her...but she doest like me when i like her, she said she had a crush on me back when i had a gf soph year, but now she doesnt like ANYONE. what should i do? ive liked her for two years, but she says it would be wierd to date bcuz weve been friends for so long... (link)
Sounds like she's already let you know she's not interested. Either that, or she's being coy. Best bet is to continue being her best friend and when she decides she's ready to date someone maybe it'll be you. BUT, you have to accept that it may never happen, and decide if you're willing to stick around and be her friend anyway. I hope the answer is "yes".


Ok so heres my problem, I am really just feeling lonely right now. My friends and everyone I know basically is going out with someone and well nobody really seems to like me. I have plenty of friends male and female, I guess a pretty good personality (otherwise they wouldnt hang out with me right?)I just dont get it. I also have pretty low self esteem so right now I'm pretty much guessing I'm ugly or something because no matter what I do nobody likes me. My friends always have the girls coming after them even! And I'm always pushed aside...Sigh. Any advice, and I for one seriously don't have faith in that good personality is what they're looking for thing. Thanks
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Hi, OK, so I think you need to realize a few things right now. First of all, you need to determine if you really want to date or if you're just upset that nobody is dating you. There's a difference. Second, know that your friends will ditch you for whoever they're dating for the rest of your life. it happens to everyone. It's not nice but it IS normal, so don't take it personally.

Now, to your original statement that you are lonely "right now". Think of this time as a "vacation" from your friends and go DO something. Whatever you want. Really, it could be anything- learn to play the guitar, join a healthclub, mow lawns for extra cash. Diversify! Last bit of advice- go volunteer with a theater, whether a local community theater or the one at school. Do something simple, like props. This is a great way to meet people, especially girls!

Oh, and I don't know how old you are, but personality is definitely number one! I don't mean to imply that age matters, but if you are in high school, then yeah, personality is all for nothing. But soon it will be your most important asset, so develop it.


I'm planning to get my first tattoo. I'm searching for the perfect design. I want to get a wolf and a dreamcatcher and my name on my shoulderblade. I just submitted my description on a website to have it custom designed by a tattoo artist. I'd like to know what to expect when I actually have it done. So if anyone that already has a tat could please share their experience. Is it really painful? Do you have any regrets? (link)
OK, I'm gonna be the lone dissenter. I have a low threshold of pain, so when I got a tat, it hurt like crazy! It took more than an hour, too. I can't hardly get my finger pricked at the DR, but I sat there and let them ink me up for more than an hour. The difference is that I really wanted the tattoo, so it was all OK. I kept it clean and moist for a few days, but it actually healed pretty quick.

Some things I've heard: colored ink hurts more and fades faster. Some colors look better over time, so choose wisely. Shading hurts. Take some type of pain killer first- ASK the tattoo parlor if it's ok and for a recommendation.

I'm probably the most "vanilla" girl in the world and I have never regretted my tattoo. Make sure you can say the same.


if i were to but baby oil on me when i am tanning, would that get me darker a little faster than not putting baby oil on? (link)
Since you asked specifically for products you won't have to buy, my friends have all used these things with varying degrees of success: baby oil, cooking oil, PAM, butter. Basically, anything you would "fry" with. I make no guarantees.




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