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Hey yall. Im a regular 21 year old. Im laid back but of course i can be crazy at times. Just like everyone. Althought my column deals with everything. I specialize in any kind of advice. My friends are always coming up to me to ask for advice so i must be pretty good. I hope that i can help you in anyway possible!!!=]]

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OKay I woke up one day to see little tiny bumps on my face... i thought i was breaking out well now its on my arms and starting to move down my neck. its not noticable to others but when i feel my face and look in the mirror i cna see them. i have been doing my daily rountine as usual using the cleaner, the toner, and then the mosturizer. but its not going away and i don't know what to do. its very itchy. does anyone have any ideas or any experiences that are similar?

it could be prickly heat or dry skin. i would put some lotion on your arms and stuff before you put it on your face and c over a day or two if the bumps start to go away.

-Mr.Advice1120=]

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Ok I can answer almost anything and know I am stuck on a single family problume! Ahh but thanks for your help ahead of time!!! Ok my parents are always fighting I mean always! They fight over my dad always yelling at me cussing me out and stuff like that! Then this past school some girl who I had never talked to only maybe once or twice. Told the office that I was being abussed because i had bruises on me. Yeah my da had hit me and so on and so on, but they didn't even let me talk very much or anything to say my side or anything. They called childrens services and they came to my house. My dad lied to them in front of every onen else in my family and he said that it was just from be that I was falling of my horse running barrels and he grabed me because he didn't want me to hurt my self! He yells at me all the time and he is hardly ever home but when he is I am always in the worst mood because I don't want to be around him! He once told me to get the hell out of his life! I tryed to run away this was about a year ago! And i have also tryed to run away in the past as well! But I don't do that any more because my mom swares that if she lost me she would get killed! But know onto my brother... he is just like my dad except the beating of him is worse! I will do one thing wrong like leave up the foot rest on our couch and he will sit there and screem at the top of his lugs at me for it. I cant look people in the eyes I never have it makes me feel weired but then he punches me and kicks me and things like that! he does it all the time! he has cut me with knifes and spoons and thrown me down stairs! Too What i am saying is also he is getting married and she wants kids! I have tryed to tell her but she is too in love with my brother to understand me! I am worrried for my brothers fiancee(sp?) and his future kids and also what can I do about my parents and my brother? I am so stressed out I don't know how to handle it!!! Please Help I need it bad! Also Sorry this is soo long!!!

hey, in my opinion this is serious. you need to tell the police or social services that your being abused and your mom too. social services has special programs and help where your mom gets help to get back on her feet. this is very serious if your brother is cutting you with knives!!! but for now you need to confide in the police and a friend and dont leave your mom behind if you think she is goin to get beat. also for future reference in any situation you need to stand up for your self. look people in the eye and talk in a stern dominant voice. and always keep eye contact dont look away because it show that you are scared. so please involve social services, the police, your school guidance counselor, and a very good friend who can help you and your mother.

I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT!!!!

-Mr.Advice1120

p.s- pleez go to my column and update me on the news and you can leave questions to me because i am very concerned!!!

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Hey, I am 14 years old and I eat very healthily and wash my face morning and evening but i get really greasy skin. I have several shine-absorbing products from garnier that work extremely well immediately but then after a few hours i have shiny blotches around the t-zone area. I hate coming home, looking in the mirror and finding a greasy shine on my nose and around my face and i wonder what Ive been looking like throughout the day. Is there any facial products or natural ways of reducing the shininess of my face that are guaranteed brilliant results?

ty x luv rachel

hey, i have heard of a few people with this problem and i have found out a really good product. its the new clearasil oil contol. this product is great and worked for me and some other friends that i have recommended this product for.

I HOPE THIS WORKS FOR YOU!!=]

-Mr.Advice1120

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i just feel like everything is a mess. everything is wrong, and i feel like its wrong because of me. i dont want to feel like this anymore and i dont want to push people away like i do, for no reason. what do i do..why am i like this?

hey, it depends if your in your teens then it could possibly just be hormones. but i think the main thing you can do is to go out side and some activites. do some things that make you feel happy and forget about what is going on for a while. because everything that is going wrong just cant be blamed on you. so maybe just relax and do some activities that are stimulating for the brain and some physical activities as well. just as long as these activites keep you healthy and happy. (i.e. if you like to read that might be good or maybe even yoga and meditation)

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im 15 almost 16 and i am still in a AA-cup bra.

mom is a A-cup, but my sister is a C-cup.

This is completely destroying my life! I have not had a boyfriend cuz' my breasts are tiny now I am old and nobody will want me.

what about breast enlargement?

are there any other wayz i can get someone to love me?

is surgery for enlarging my breasts my best way to get my life back?

i want to have a boyfriend before i get old! am i already too old? none of the boys will want me soon. i am almost 16!

Please HELP ME!

hey, your asking if your to old to have a boyfriend, well you still have a long way to go before your to old to have a boyfriend i mean your not even out of school yet. also if guys arent goin out with you because of your breasts then they're very immature and you just need to wait till the rite one comes along. also you should wait to have breast implant until your like in your 20's.and there are a lot of things that go wrong with breast implants. if want to know all of them go to google.com and search "the pros and cons of breast implants" or just "the cons of breast implants" and vice versa.

I HOPE I HAVE HELPED!!!=]

-Mr.Advice1120

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PLEASE help me! i'm scared and pissed to!
my brother (who is 13 and about 270 pounds- i'm 16, f, and only 115pounds!!) is always threatening to beat the shit out of me! what do i do?? my therapist knows, and she says not to call the police or anything, but to try and let it blow over. when he says something to me (he calls me a lebian or a faggot-so does my mom- b/c i'm bi, also he calls me a highschool dropout b/c i failed 1 year of school!) i really just want to knock him out but he's so big!! and he's so much stronger than me!! ive been known to knock the shit out of some ppl, but they were girls and my size too! he really scares me, and he pisses me off sooo bad!!! he just makes me so mad and he's mean to me and my mother backs him up 100%!! what should i do??? i am tired of living like this!!!

hello, look in my opinion this sounds really serious and you need do something where the police are involved. especially if your mom is teaming up wit your bro and beating you up. you need to tell the police becouse you are definitely being abused. sry to say but maybe you need to move in with another family member even if they live in another state.

IM REALLY SRY FOR YOU SO PLLZZ TAKE HOLD OF THE SITUATION!!!!

- Mr.Advice1120

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Does anyone know what bluetooth is? i have it on my cingular cell phone and i was wondering what it is // how to set it up. Ill Rate. Kthanks. :]]

bluetooth is a tichnology where you buy this microphone that clips on your ear and you can talk on it without your phone being connected to a wire or anything. like your phone could be in your car or at home. you can go to best buy or circuit city to buy the bluetooth ear clip.

-Mr.Advice1120=]

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okay. i guess i knew i was his rebound girl from the start.stupid me, i know. so anyway i couldnt resist because ive had a crush on him since the beginning of the year and now at the end he came to me with problems(his g/f of 2 years dumped him, he said i was the only one he could trust). i was estatic. he was such a sweet talker and i fell for him only because he said he loved me. (over like a 4 month period)and he got everything he wanted out of me and then ignored me. i can't get over him and i see him all the time.i still feel so strong for him even though i should hate him. hes crazy about his ex. infact im seeing him satrday becaus emy best friend is dating his bestfriend. what do i do? what do i say, i need closure.thnx. i rate 5s

hey, act like you dont care. dont like let him know you like him. just act as if he wuz an accomplice and nothing more. let him do all of the work and show that your untouched.and just say pretty basic things like "hi" "how have u been" or when somehthing comes up just go with the flow. whatever you do dont try. just stay relaxed and cool. i promise it will be fine.

I WISH U LUCK!!! =]

-Mr.Advice1120=]

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Hi all,
I just got a new iPod:)!
Can I have some help transfering my music from Limewire, or at least into an area where I can put it onto my iPod?

1st= when go to your library in limewire.

2nd =go to the shared files icon which can be located on the library page and click on it.

3rd=all of your songs will pop up and then right click on the song and go to the option that says "open with".

4th=then a some software files like "i-tunes" or "windows media" should pop up then click on "i-tunes"

5th=when you click on it "i-tunes" should pop-up and the song should appear in your library and from there you transfer the songs.

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so i reeeeeeeelly like this guy and we started talking over aim and we've never met face to face i asked him who he likes and he said someone i dont know but when the subject of who i like got brought up he acted kind of weird i guess he really wanted to know who but i wouldnt tell him i cant get up the courage to tell him and he keeps saying you should tell this guy that you like him im confused and i dont know what to do because alot of times i tend to see another guy and then get confused between which one i like more but this time i reeelly like him im like in love with him i think this everytime and we have everything in common so basically my question is am i in love and should i tell him and does he really like this other girl or is he lying sorry this is so long ill rate high for trying unless its a dumb answer

hey, i think that if you live far apart from him then is really no relationship, but i mean if you really like him then you have to let it out. and if it turns out he doesnt like you at least you tried. there is no hurt in that. i mean you cant keep your feelings locked up all of the time. but before you do anything really think over your feelings.

I HOPE I HAVE I HELPED
-Mr.Advice1120

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Hi Im A 21 year old female. and im stressing. I Have a 24 year old boyfriend i have been with for the past 2years and a half. in this relationship i have bin cheated on,beaten up i have practically been abused mentally physically and emotinally. he say he love , i guess in his own ways.but i have been dealing with him and his baby mama to much. dont get me wrong i do love him. but i felt he stopped my life completly. i wanted to go to college or to the military and he didnt want me to go. but i was dumb. anyways i went away for training which i had to beg him to let me go, eventually he did. before i left i found out he cheated on me with his baby mama again. so when i went away i found someone.A 25 year old firefighter. someone who treated me like i have never been treated before, he respects me, he loves me, hes offering me the world, my mom spoke to him and she like him, so i had plan to leave my boyfriend to go to live with this guys now. i would love to be with this guy so much but my boyfriend refuses to let me go. now these days he all of a sudden want me and promises me to treat me good, but he promised that before.everytime i speak to my baby i smile he makes me feel happy something i havent been feeling in a long time, this is my story i dont know what do do, im a Virgo In Distress and i just cant figure out what to do. please help me, this is my future.

hey, first of all you need to leave this guy your with and go with the firefighter. the 24 yr old is bad news. he doesnt love you, you just cant see taht because your in the realationship. he cheated on you, he doesnt want you to follow your dreams, he mentally and physically abuses you. does taht seem like he loves you??? well i'll tell you he doesnt. he also seems controlling. you need to be free and have control. so please listen to me and go with the 25 yr old. he seems nice and want you to be happy. remember in a relationship you should never be hurt especially abused in any way especially on purpose. and the 21 yr old he says he promises but it seems as if he always promises. dont believe a cheater especially the one who has hurt you so much. So please listen and go with firefighter/25 yr old. He's the right choice or at least the better one.

I HOPE I HAVE HELPED=]

-Mr.Advice1120

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What is a good and healthy/safe way to loose fat in your inner thighs?

I'm 15 years old and a girl. I don't have access to a gym so please don't suggest working out at a gym


thanks a head of time.

well first off you could start running. but when you run sont go crazy at first. work your way up from a mile or so. also biking is very good for legs. trail biking and speed biking use lots of muscel. Some neighborhood parks might have trails just for trail biking. also swimming could be good too. but basically any exercise that puts a lot of work on the legs.

-Mr.Advice1120=]

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the other day in gym, we were playing softball. i'm not very athletically inclined, if you know what i mean. i was up to bat and i like hit the ball and i screamed. my gym teacher goes 'i think she has issues' and she said this in front of the whole class. i asked her what she meant and she goes 'well when ever you get pressured or have the spotlight on you, you scream and flail your arms around, that's just one of your issues.' i didn't really think anything of this, but now the more taht i think about it, it is making me upset.

is this an appropriate thing to say to me [a 13 year old] ?


and i'm thinking of having my mom call her, would this be a good idea.

hey, your gym teacher must be really mean. thats not right to be saying to a 13 year old in front of the whole class. you should tell someone. plus this gym teacher is no counselor so who do they think they are to tell you that you have issues. you should tell an administrator or make your mom get invloved.
-Mr.Advice1120

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this seemed like the best column to me, sry if it's not in the right place.
i have serious trouble sleeping. for example, right now it's midnight and i am dead tired. so far i've layed down to go to sleep about 4 or 5 times. every time i do, within 15 to 30 minutes i start to feel very restless. i toss and turn, i try different positions, i sit up and lay back down, and various other things. what should i do? should i go so far as to see a doctor?
~anonamousadviceseeker

Hello, i was thinking and i came to the conclusion that you might have insomnia. if you find yourself tired but cant fall asleep then you just might have insomnia. for this you need to get exercise and eat healthy. along with that start making a reasonalble bedtime for yourself.

I HOPE I HAVE HELPED=]

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allright here we go again..
do you think its weird if someone likes you that is like 2 years younger than you and you might have feelings for them too? because im going into 11th grade and this guy is goin into 9th grade and hes really nice and everything! its just the age difference i just dont know. i shouldnt let it get to me but i just find it maybe weird or like i cant get anyone else but someone yougner than me? and people might think i look desperate or something

Hey, i was in the same situation with a girl. To tell you the truth if you really like him then there is nothing to worry about. I mean if you were 34 and a guy was 32 would you be fretting about the age difference. No i would think not. The reason being is because when you become that age you become more mature, and you can reach that maturity. Thats what love does. So dont be afraid to be mature.

I hope it all works out between you two!!!=]]

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Hey... ok, this question is crazy so don't say I didn't warn you.

I think I'm looking for opinions more than advice... and I want to hear what you all think!!

Ok, I am a 20 year old female and I am about to start my third year of college. I have a boyfriend that I have been with for about 3 years. We actually went out for 2 years, then broke up for 8 months because I didn't want a relationship, and have now been back together for a few months. He is deffinitely the love of my life, and we intend on getting married in the future.

Why in the future and not now? Well, he recently joined the army and will be in it for the next 4 years. He is now stationed across the country and is going to Iraq for a year soon. He visits as much as he can, and we have no problems making the relationship work. We always talk about getting married in 4 years, because that is when he will get out of the army and I will be finishing up college.

So what is my question about? Well, we got to talking the other day, and the idea of us getting married NOW came up. The reason this even came up is because if we do it now, he will get payed twice as much for being married and in the military. Not only that, but I will also be able to get on his health insurance plan provided by the army. And lastly, the army would pay for my last four years of college... and because I am not eligible for financial aid, that would save us about 150,000 dollars in loans (after interest) once I am graduated.

If we get married now, there would be no ceremony since it's too last minute... he leaves for Iraq in 2 months. We would just sign the papers and be legally married. In your opinion, is this a mistake? Is it selfish or in bad taste? We both intend on getting married to each other, and we both love one another and have faith in the relationship. If we get married now, we intend on having a big ceremony in a year or two. What do you think? I mean if we are getting married anyway and love each other, shouldn't we just do it now and make our lives in the future easier?

All opinions are welcomed and appreciated! Thanks! :)

my opinion/advice depends on a few factors. i mean obviously getting married right now has a lot of benefits. and as you asked if it was selfish it depends. i mean if your getting married mainly because of the fact that ur college will be paid for then i would say it might be selfish. but if if the both of you truly love each other and have a passion for each other and their are some benefits that help especially for your college and money problems then i say go for it.

i wish you the best of luck!!!!!!!!!=]]]

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Why are my legs so skinny danm can i get them fatter

I would have to say that do leg exercises are very important to enlargen your legs. Running, biking, and exercise machines meant to add muscle to the legs would also be very good to use.

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What are some free programs you can download music on? I had bearshare, but it put spyware on my computer. I also tried limewire but you have to have java for it to work, and when I tried to download java it said there was a problem. I used to know a lot of programs, but I forgot them. Thanks!

Hey, i know one of the free programs is Kazaa. Also, Morpheus might be free.

-sincerely,

Mr.Advice1120 =]

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hey im 15/f and about 130 pounds. I want to lose a few pounds so i can look good in a bikini. I want to lose my leg "fat" and i want a flat tummy. See I cant get "dedicated" it doesn't usually last. No matter what i do i cant seem to lose weight diet or no diet.. i cant lose weight or gain it and i want to lose it. I want to lose 10 pounds. Any Suggestions, or tips to get dedicated? What foods to stay away from? Thanks!! I'll rate 5s!

Hey, so u want to lose some pounds. Well i would have to suggest exercise. Exercise is a very important element in losing weight. Not only that but it will keep you healthy. As far as i know stay away from a lot of carbs. The reason being is because carbs turn into surgar. I mean dont go crazy but just try not to eat as many. Also, try not to eat about 2 to 4 hours before goin to bed. Because then you wont be doin anything to burn the fat and calories. Also, make sure you eat your three meals a day and dont have to many snacks. Ummm....if you want to get dedicated maybe u should buy a new bikini and everytime you look at you'll think of losing some weight. =]

If this has helped you in the least bit please e-mail me. Just go to my column. =]

-sincerly,

Mr.Advice1120 =]

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how can i get free songs on my ipod besides limewire? and i heard on the back of certain pepsi bottles you get a free song? helppp

Hey, if your lookin for free songs and you cant use limewire try using Kazaa. This is also a software in which you download like limewire so idk if thats a problem. You can go to Kazaa.com. I rly hope that i have helped u. =]

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