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people are mean.
i hate it when people talk about me behind my back but unfortunatly people do. and i dont know how to deal with it anymore. i used to ignore it but i cant anymore and im ready to snap. what should i do?
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honey EVERYBODY talks about EVERYBODY.are you trying to say you dont talk about anyone?what goes around comes around.even if you dont talk about anyone they still will.you shouldnt give a damn they can say what they wanna say about you they have a right to and so so YOU you have a right to say whatever you want too. ppl talk about me a lot and i dont even bother
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Hi there, some people can be mean, rude, and racist. Its just life sadly. The problem is with some people is that they call other people but they don't see the real you on the inside. My advice is just simply ignore them. If its making you angry then just think of it this way, if they are calling you they are actually saying alot about themselves as a person. They are talking about themselves. Hope that works for you. Daniel.
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well. if people are talking about you behind your back then i'd advice you to ignore it. but since you can't take it anymore then this is what i have to say. even if they make ufn of something about you just remember it's something you like. it's what makes you you. good luck! bye
-.christina*
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it happens to everyone.. honestly there is no way you can avoid it. although people will be less tempted to talk behind your back if you don't talk about anyone behind there back. lets act it out.
your name is Shelly, you are talking to Kim about Allyson.
Shelly: Ugh, Allyson has been so annoying lately. Sometimes I dont wanna be her friend.
Kim: Yeah, I know. She can be.
Shelly: But its nonstop, shes always trying to steal the spotlight.
Kim: I guess that is kinda true.
Now, Kim is talking to Allyson.
Allyson: Hey
Kim: Hey, you know Shelly was talking about you right?
Allyson: Whatd she say?
Kim: that you were an annoying little kid who cant grow up and she is trying to quit being your friend because when shes around you, you leave an impression on other people.
Allyson: What a bitch.
Kim: I know, has she ever said anything to you about me?
Allyson: Not that i can remember.
You see, Kim told Allyson what Shelly said and more. If you talk about someone else to someone else, then they are gonna wonder if you talk about them behind their back.
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The people who get so caught up in gossip don't realize the harm it causes. However, they may not be targeting you as bad as you think they are. Pass around this poem....and wait it out. Otherwise do your best to aviod these "backstabbers" all together.
My name is gossip.
I have no respect for justice.
I maim without killing.
I break hearts and ruin lives.
I am cunning and malicious and gather strength with age.
The more I am quoted the more I am believed.
I flourish at every level of society.
My victims are helpless.
They cannot protect themselves against me because I have no name and no face.
To track me down is impossible for you.
The harder you try, the more elusive I become.
I am nobody's friend.
Once I tarnish a reputation, it is never the same.
I topple governments and wreck marriages.
I ruin careers and cause sleepless nights, heartache and indigestion.
I spawn suspicion and generate grief.
I make innocent people cry in their pillows.
Even my name hisses. I am called Gossip.
Office gossip. Shop gossip. Party gossip. Telephone gossip.
I make headlines and headaches.
Before you repeat a story ask yourself, is it true?
Is it fair? Is it necessary? If not--- KEEP IT TO YOURSELF!
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yeah me too. i'm sick of it, theres two girls that always do. everytime someone talks about you,just think, 'wow, they must have no life if they can find nothing to do but talk about me.' its true. people just talk about other people cause they feel powerful.
xO *briana
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Snap. Heh I know that sounds like really bad advice that will probably just fan the flames of bitching even more but if you're at the point it can make you feel a whole lot better to just turn round to the next person who does it and call them an asshole and walk away (even better if you can do it with a calm voice and slight sneer that implies they are more pathetic than annoying :)).
It'll go on most of your life to some extent or another and it'll get easier to brush off the older you get. It's worth bearing in mind they are pretty childish and trying to laugh it off.
For now though occasional little outbursts like that should get you through. Not to mention prove to be a bit of a shock to everyone if you don't usually stand up for yourself.
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WELL.. YEAH THAT NEVER ENDS.. BUT LOOK AT IT THIS WAY... THEY MUST CARE ABOUT U SOMEWAY FOR U TO BE ON THEIR MIND ALL THE TIME...
CORi
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It will never end either honey, even as an adult. Either 1) ignore it and decline to spend time with those who gossip about you, 2) See it as a good thing, a reflection of their insecurities and jealousy, or 3) get agressive.
I recomend the first two.
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tell the school guidance counselor. they will make this come to an end. you'll never have to deal with it again. end of story please just take my word.
i know i only gave you one suggestion, but i feel this is the best way to solve your problem!
hope i helped ♥ ♥
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Yeah, I think all of us know how that feels whether we want to admit it or not. Look at the people who are talking about you behind your back.. [one] they're just making you the center of the world, so obviously you've had an impact on the one way or another. [two] they have nothing better to do than put others down and they really need to get a life, obviously.
All i can tell you is to continue ignoring them. Yeah, sure, it's going to be hard. Everything about life is hard, but i'm sure snapping at them won't do you any good. They'll probably just continue talking. You'll make it through this. ;D
God Bless,
Nikki.
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There is nothing you can really do. You probly shoudnt snap on anyone. The last thing you want to do is let them know it bothers you becuase if they know that they will talk more about you. Everyone gets talked about even if your the most popular person in school or if your the geekiest. People dont care.
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I agree, I hate when people talk about me behind my back as well. They are just bored with their own lame lives that they have to make you the center of their world. (I guess you could take it as a compliment?) Except the thing is, it's something out of your control. You can't be like, "Hey! Stop talking about me behind my back!" They would not only keep doing it, but it would give them another thing to talk about. My best advice is to try and ignore it. Do your best not to talk about people either. You shouldn't stoop to their level. People (especially girls) gossip, that's what they do. It definately sucks, but people are mean. It's not your fault, and unfortunately it's out of your control. Do your best to ignore it. Other than that, all you can do is give them something good to talk about. :) Hope this helps and feel better.
-cindy <3
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Gossip is a bitch. There is really nothing you can do. Unless you talk about people behind there backs, they have nothing against you. Everyone on this planet gets talked about one time or another. It's part of life and you have to ignore it. Or just give them something to talk about : ].
Trust me, there are worse things in life then being talked about. Be the best you can be, and don't sweat the small stuff.
//X0 H0LLY
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