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Is he off-limits? ((kind of confusing))
Well, my friend "Sarah" likes this boy named "Jason" in our youth group. She made it clear that he is her territory, though he doesn't like her like that at all. My friend "Kia" is "Jason's" brother, who is my best friend. She told me that "Jason" likes me, and I like him. The sad thing is, our youth group strictly is against dating, so it wouldn't really go anywhere even if we tell each other.
So what it all boils down to is, "Sarah" doesn't know I like "Jason", and I'm going to keep it that way. I just don't want her getting mad at me when we flirt with eachother ((b/c we do ALOT)). I don't want to make her mad, but I don't think she should run my life just b/c she likes him.
What do I do?!!
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Your friend is immature for claiming him for her "territory," but at the same time, why make it into a big deal if it's not going to go anywhere? Flirt if you want..just try not to in front of your friend so much to avoid confrontation. Telling him that you like him probably won't do much and it would probably get spread around and come back to your friend.
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i had the same dilemma when i was a junior in high school.. there was this hot guy who was a senior who use to visit me in p.e lool he liked me and i liked him but i was too shy to do anything about it. but my girlfriend liked him and she was not shy what so ever. i didn't make a move due to me feeling that she saw him first and that i shouldn't ruin a friendship over a guy... he told couple of people of how he felt about me but being stupid i never made a move/ now all three of us went our separate ways.. them two both got married to different people and are happy and am single wondering if things would have been different if i had just made a move... so just go a ahead and make the move cuz u never know what will happen . i hope i helped
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Do what you think is right. Im sure what desision you make will be a great one!! AbBeY!!
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No one can really "call" a guy or girl.
Even more so if one of the persons involved does not like the other.
My honest opinion is that you shouldn't care if Sara "says" Jason is hers. He doesn't like her like that, so why should you be tied down on her imaginary fancy? You decide who to like and who to date, not her.
And there are ways around the dating issue. Youth group can't directly say you can't date or can't like someone, they can only influence it. And if they get in a fuss over it and discriminate againts it, then it shows what good youth group they are.
It's fine to oppose it, it is not fine to restrict it.
You follow your own heart and mind on this. My advice is to simply do that and don't let others lead you where they want it to go.
I hope I helped, and good luck with everything.
-Ryan
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