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Is it too late??
Well theres a guy who I get on really well with. We talk at school and for hours on msn. A few months ago he asked me out, I turned him down I didnt want to ruin our friendship. Again a few weeks ago he asked me again, we have been chatting more and hanging out loads. I said I would think about it then the next day told him I didnt think it would work. So its been just over a month since he asked me and im starting to fal for him, he seems to have moved on but im not sure. We spoke on msn for 7 hours today, I mean before I knew he had msn I was only online around once a week. He is such a sweet guy and I regret saying no, I guess I never really noticed that side of him before. Now I need your help, Is it too late?? Should I ask him out?? Has anyone been in this situation before?? Im falling in love with a good good friend so I need amazing advice. I dont want to ruin what we have, but dont want to lose what we could have had. Thanks for reading this.
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it is never to late.. the rest is all up to you and how u really feel about him
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This has happened to me before
we went out but he broke up with me because he saw me as just a friend but he's still my best guy friend we talk every day. so my point is go for it you never know he could be the love of your life and if you don't say anything you will go through life thinking wat if? so go ahead and ask him out what do you have to lose obviously you guys will still be friends and it won't be awkward if it doesn't work because he asked you out and you turned him down and you guys still chat.
so go for the gold! ask him out!YOU NEVER KNOW.......
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Really, what you do depends on how sure you are of your feelings and how strong they are. My rule of thumb is that if it could be love, you may have a great friendship but it should be risked for great love. If you don't think it will be anything more than a crush that may be short lived, it is best not to take the risk and maintain the friendship.
I have been in this situation before. The guy I fell for was my best friend and we have now been together for three years, living together for 8 months. It was terrifying telling him how I felt but it came down to the fact I couldn't bear the thought of spending the rest of my life without him, which is what could have happened if I hadn't told him how I felt. When I felt like that, I never thought twice about the risk to our friendship.
It is never too late to tell someone how you feel or how you felt about them and if you don't tell him, you could end up regretting it if you really care a lot about him. So if you really think what you have could blossom into love, tell him and see what he wants to do. Explain you are sorry if you hurt him all those times you turned him down but as time has gone on, you've developed feelings for him. If he's asked you out twice then he probably hasn't stopped feeling the same way about you. More to the point, if him asking you out and you turning him down twice hasn't ruined your friendship, I doubt it will if you tell him how you feel. So just go for it, if you think you are ready. Who knows? It may turn out to be your first love!
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i dont think its too late. you said yourself you werent sure if hes moved on. i've been in the same situation but the only reason why i'm with my current bf is because i took a chance. i know this might seem typical "blah" advice but you really do need to find out how he feels. he might just be embarassed that he still likes you when you said no so many times so hes trying to hide it. it sounds like you've liked him the whole time anyways..whether you want to admit it or not. if you spent SOOO much of your time talking to him, i have a feeling it was more then because he was such a cool guy. trust me. i know first hand what thats like. i completelyyy understand not wanting to lose him as a friend but the least you could do is talk to him about it. dont jump right into it and ask him out though. that would be the wrong thing to do. find out where he stands and maybe it would still be worth it after all is said and done. he also needs to realize how much you cherish his friendship regardless. besides, sometimes friends can be better then bf/gf anyways.
good luck girl. i hope i helped :]
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