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My mom made me a doctors appotment in August with a regualar pediatricion. (i'm 13)
I'm gonna get a physical or a check-up, I can't remember which one. Thing is, I havn't been to the doctor since I was 7 or 8. So, of course, I've gotten my period since then.
Will my doctor want to take a look "down there"?
(Sorry my spellings kinda messed up, I'm in a hurry) (link)
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If you were going to get a pelvic exam I'm sure your mother would have mentioned it to you. Most
doctors don't give you a pelvic exam at your age unless it is asked for. They will probably ask if you've started your period but that is all.
I do want to clear up some misinformation you were given. Not that it is important to your question, but because others will read this too.
A general practitioner or family physician can do pelvic exams. You DO NOT have to go to an ob/gyn. ob/gyn doctors simply only treat women's problems or pregnancies. Family or general practitioners do it all.
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I have an emotional dilemma. I have a male friend who I have known for over 25 years. We talk at least three times a day, discuss politics and history, like the same movies and books, grew up in the same neighborhood, enjoy the same lifestyles. We’ve been through a lot together and he has always been generous to me, and helped me in my business and personal life.
However, we both have had two marriages each to other people (we're both divorced right now). I never felt a physical attraction to him, that is, until just in the past eight months. To my surprise, he’s a passionate lover. I find myself feeling things for him that I’ve never felt before.
Now we have to decide whether to be together, but there’s a problem. I don’t think we want the same things in relationships. He says that I have to give up trying to control the relationship, and I say a relationship is a 50-50 proposition. I think he punishes me by withholding affection and being critical, and he says if I feel that way I should move on. He says he wants me to be submissive to him, but that just seems like the start of an abusive relationship to me. He says I'm just used to being in charge all the time and he's not having it.
I suspect his attitude is probably one of the reasons why he hasn’t had successful marriages, but I haven't been a success at marriage either. I just can’t see clearly right now. Should I at least try to change to accommodate him or should I just move on???
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You are right that it should be a 50/50 proposition. There should be give and take on both sides.
You can't control the relationship entirely either. Nor can you be totally submissive. You will have to have a long talk about what you both really want. I think you both react as you do because of your past relationships.
I have been married 31 years. And I can tell you from experience that discussing things, well major things, before doing them or buying something costly is the way to go. Don't make plans for the other person without asking. Those kind of things. You also have to respect each others feelings and nobody controls the other.
I am in charge of housecleaning, and meals. He goes to work 6 days a week. When I was working we shared.
He is in charge of everything automotive. I sometimes help but when things start flying I'm out of there. :) He is also in charge of lawn maintenance because I hate it.
It isn't quite the same for you because you aren't married, but it can be close to the same.
I don't know if you are currently living together
or not. So I'm probably not helping much. But, you get the idea I hope. Make a plan and stick to as much as you can. I don't see why you couldn't work it out.
If you think he may get abusive then by all means hit the door running. I don't think all men
mean any harm when they use the word. You might ask and see exactly what he means when he says he wants you to be submissive.
Good luck. :)
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My friend said the first time she smoked a cigarette, she got "high" and she felt jittery and light-headed. Is that true? I mean, can that happen with a cigarette? I'll rate high for good answers. Thanks (link)
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I don't know that I would call it a high. The next feeling you get is nausea and usually vomiting. Good thing she didn't smoke a second one. :)
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It's driving me crazy.
I think it's called "Total eclipse of the heart"
5's for all answers. (link)
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Good song. Its sung by Bonnie Tyler. :)
Now I have to delete the question because you added I rate 5's (new rule, read note above where you wrote question on the ask question page) But, you have the answer anyway. ;)
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k well i constantly say i am ugly .... but EVERYONE ALWAYS SAYS IM BEAUTIFUl but i really feel ugly...and my mom says i just think that becaus i am going thru th epuberty age....but idk what to do...help.. i feel ugly .. and alot of ppl tell me in not..how do i know the truth? (link)
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If people tell you that you are beautiful then you just believe them.
I think most people, and it is probably worse while going through puberty, feel they aren't good looking. So you're perfectly normal to feel that way. Just simply stop worrying about it. You're beautiful...like it or not! :)
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this may be a little weird...but i was wondering, is it better to sleep with a bra or without one? thanks (link)
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I don't think there is any right or wrong on this one. Just do whatever is more comfortable for you. Most prefer without but its a personal choice. There are no benefits to wearing one 24/7. :)
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OK so I'm not trying to sound concieded but i no i'm really popular and my boyfriend gets really mad because everyone stops and talks to me and asks me questions. And he doesnt like that i have a lot of guy friends. But thats just how i am i have a million friends i'm really socail what do i tell him (link)
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You simply tell him you have a lot of friends and not all are girls. If he can't handle that then you need to reconsider your relationship.
If you don't, you will both be miserable. :)
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ok well me and my b/f we at this dance thing and we were dancing then out of nowhere another girl comes up to us and was like hey ur hott to my b/f then right there he just lefted (i thought he saw one of his friends or somthing)well moments later me and my friends were walking around then when a slow song came up i saw my b/f dancing with the girl that called him hott i really didnt mind at first but then later he came up to me and broke up with me for the other girl.so then right after he broke up with me he asked that girl out butt she said no because she already had a bf but he wasnt there soo she had no 1 to dance wiht soo she just asked a random person to dance with her(my b/f) well then my b/f came up to me again and asked me out again but all my friends told me not to go back out wiht himm but i honestly still love himm but i dont no wut to do??plzz help (link)
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Its up to you of course but I think he let you know the kind of guy he is. I think you know it too.
Soon as some other girl shows him some attention he will be gone. He is probably just using you until someone he considers "better" comes along.
I know that isn't what you want to hear, I'm sure that is what your friends are probably telling you already though. You can do what you want, just beware of what may happen down the road. :)
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im 16/f. and i met this guy a few weeks ago. lets call him E, well we chilled a few times and eventually i found out he had a daughter. i asked him exactly how old was he and he sed 23! ..he asked back and the next thing i knew i was "18". well.. later, we had sex. and the next day i found out he was still living with his babymama. he sed he's not with her thoughh.. but i dont know. we have a date on friday.. and i dunno what to do. shud i just leve him or pretend like it all doesnt bother me. i mean .. i like him and all.. and im just reallie confused.. (link)
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He is living with her but isn't "with" her? He is lying. You are 16 and say you are 18...you are too.
This was wrong from the start. Lies in a relationship are a big sign it isn't right.
He isn't a good guy any way you look at it. He isn't married to the woman who had his child. He lives with her and screws around on her...don't think for a minute you are the first. Is that really the kind of guy you want to be with?
My advise is get out before you get hurt. It may upset you now but it isn't near what you will experience if you let the relationship grow. He has no intentions of leaving his family, he just wants some on the side. Don't be that girl.
He may give you a different story...don't believe it for a minute. :)
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My boyfriend asked me out 6/17/06. Well now everyone hates me. Kristen, Kelsey, Torie, Katelynn, Kaitlyn, Victoria, Jasmine, and more people. I meen I love Nick and all but he liked Kelsey, and he asked her out and she said no. Me and him became friends, he asked me out, and now we are going out. Kelsey started to freek out and tell all of my friends bad stuff about me. I can not take it anymore. I meen like they are being SO meen. I have to go back to school with them, and they are going to treat me like dirt. I cannot make new friends because the rest of the people in my grade are like goth? or like wayy nerdy. I dont know i have a freekish school. aha. thankss. =[ (link)
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I don't understand why they have a problem with it. I mean he asked Kelsey out she said no he moved on. If she wanted him she shouldn't have said no. Not everyone plays games.
You have every right to date him and he you. If other people don't like it tell them to kiss your tush.
Someone really needs to tell Kelsey that most of the good guys aren't gonna beg her to go out. She says no she better damn well mean no. Her loss your gain. Any of your friends who are real true friends are not going to remain mad at you once they hear the real story. Start making calls and see who those real friends are. :)
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im a single mom my daughter is one month old and im scared to death. Back in august my daughtes father proposed and i said yes. in sept i got pregnant and then her father told me he was going to fight for full custody of her. so i ran but now social services has required that i file for child support. and if i get it cant he reques visitation rights. what you need to know though is that he lied to me about everything hes a decade older then he told me he was he lied about his middle name and a lot of other stuff. i need advice i dont want him getting any rights to her what can ido (link)
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If he pays child support he will get visitation rights. You will probably need to go through the court system and get all that sorted out. He has rights to his child the same as you do.
Now if he is abusive or would endanger the child in any way, you may be able to keep him from having some visitation. You need to talk to social services about it and see what they suggest. They may help with your legal help or at least find you someone who can.
As for him getting full custody, its not likely to happen. The courts tend to favor the mother so long as she isn't an extremely bad mother.
The only way you could continue to hide from him would be to get a good job and not accept help from social services. That may not be so easy to do though because child care would probably be outrageous. Talk to your social worker and see what he/she suggests. :)
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Is it out of line to correct somebody who you know is wrong in your answer? For example, say the question is "should I keep my pony?" and another person replies "no because a pony is a baby horse so you won't go as far on him", is it out of line to say "Actually, a pony is just a horse who is under 14.2 hh" blah, blah, blah? (link)
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I think its okay. Sometimes there is a lot of bad info that could use some correction. Just be polite about it. :)
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Hi,my name is Belinda.My mom and I would like a recipe on funnel cake.Do you have one you may give us or may know where we can get one.Please e-mail me at johnnybelinda3040@yahoo.com.
Thank you,Belinda (link)
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Here is a whole list! Yummy. :)
http://www.cooks.com/rec/search/0,1-0,funnel_cake,FF.html
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"I currently work in retail in a mall, I am 19 yrs old, my manager that is 26. There are a lot of things I am troubled about, I don't know how he feels about me.
I am the top sales associate at the store. One day, he told me if I sell $3000 worth of sales (which is IMPOSSIBLE in our store) in one day, he'll take me out for dinner. Later on, he changed the budget to $1500, which is EXTREMELY difficult still. He said he would take me to a very prestigeous/expensive restaurant, the 360 restaurant on top of the CN tower (I am from Toronto Canada by the way). In MY opinion, this is a place where all my friends in relationships go to on special occasions.
Well, an hour before the day ended, I was FAR from the $1500 budget, so he said he cant take me to dinner if i dont make the sales, he'll only take me to Diary Queen, and I made a very disapproving/disappointed *awwww* jokingly, then he said fine.... i'll take you to DQ and a good walk on the beach.
I ended up making $1500 that night!!!!! when he was checking my sales, he had his hand covering his mouth and kinda laughing. He looked nervous, scared, excited, (according to everyone else that was there).
we are going this weekend, first he tells me to dress glamourous!... later on, he said glamourous usually means romantic, flowers and all that, so he told me to dress *fun*.... then i asked *are you gonna get me flowers?!?!?!* jokingly of course. Then he said... *c'monnn christine*... so i told him im only joking..... but he ends up asking me what my fav flower is...
I am extremely confused about this situation. He is extremely good looking, and has a lot of *girl* friends.... but I dont THINK he takes them out to nice dinner like this.
Also at work, he offered to buy me a drink... but he said he *forgot*, but later on, he bought me a drink when we decided to go hang out with his friend and this other girl at work.... i didnt ask for the dirnk... he came outta the convenience store for me...
but just yesterday he said he REALYL wanna see the movie the LakeHouse with sandra bullock and keanu reeves, and he was gonna see it with his friend (a girl)... but she didnt end up calling him... but it SEEMED like... when we saw the advertismeent for the movie he emphasized that he wants to see it again... =/ ... im not sure if he's hinting me taht he wants to see it with me?... or he jsut wants to see it... since he was gonna see it with a *girl* friend anyways....
also... when we were with his friends hanging out.... they were talking about sum girls... and he commented and said they were pretty... >. (link)
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It does sound to me as if he likes you. While you are out to dinner you might just ask him in
a joking kind of way How he manages to have so many girlfriends!
Some guys are just flirty by nature and don't really mean a lot by it. I don't think I would worry to much about his flirting with other girls.
Go out and have a good time, see where it leads. He may just ask you out again before the night is over! :)
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I am a pepper fiend. I put pepper on practically everything but sweets. My question is, could that be misconstrued as an insult?
My brother's girlfriend kindly made dinner for our family for the first time, a few weeks back. Chicken. Of course, I went nuts with the pepper shaker. The way she looked at me really hurt my feelings. I don't think she purposely shot me down. I think she was just more in shock that I had the nerve to do that. She eats dinner with us everynight, though. She knows my routine. It's nothing new. I still felt like a jerk. I didn't say anything then, but I probably should have. Now it's too late, and I would just like to gather multiple opinions for future reference. I'd hate to unintentionally put somebody (who so generously devoted their time and effort to please me) down.
So if you worked all day to prepare a meal for your guests (even family) and someone were to pepper the hell out of it, would you take offense? (link)
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Well I sure wouldn't... but I'm a pepper fiend too. Even use it and salt on watermelon and cantaloupe. I've gotten my share of weird looks too.
If she knows how you like the pepper, I see no reason she should have been offended by your using it on her meal. If its really bothering you, then just tell her it was a great meal and you hope she makes it for you again sometime. If she asks about the pepper then explain how much you like it. I think telling her you hope she cooks for you again sometime though will let her know you weren't peppering because the food was bad or anything. :)
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I just found out that there is going to be a ten year highschool reunion for my grad class this august. I said I was going to go and already sent the check in the mail. Well I looked at the website for who is already signed up to go and this guy that was really popular who I was madly in love with is going to be there. He knew I liked him and treated me like dirt. I still get nightmares sometimes. I've changed alot since school. My question is how can I be less nervous when I go and have to see him? Also how should I act around him? (link)
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People tend to grow up once out of high school and do a lot of changing in 10 years.
You will probably be nervous at first. Not to many ways around that one, but it probably won't last. Just go to see those who you did like and know in high school. If he is still an ass avoid him, but he probably has changed a lot too. Just be polite and have a good time. :)
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my magazine subscriptions includes Times, Blender, Popular Science, Ellegirl, Bitch and Jane. is Bust or Ms. good and what other magazines do you think are cool? Newsweek is sort of like Times and I don't know if it's worth it to subscribe to that as well. (link)
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You don't have to rate this as it is just a suggestion.
You might get some better responses if you would add what your interests are to your question. There are so many possibilities! :)
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almost a year ago i got a 3year old cot i was so happy but i was not there when my dad brought her home i came home week later to find my cat hateiing me loveing my dad i dont no wat to do because i really want her to like me any suggestions?
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Cats will usually latch on to whoever is showing it affection. Try holding it more and petting it.
Make sure you are the one who feeds her.
She may always go to your dad first because he spent so much time with her when she first came into your home. You can probably get her to hang around with you more if you really work on it. :)
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Sixteen years old and male. I'm not sure why, but I don't talk to my father. I don't hate him or dislike him. My uncle noticed that when he stayed to visit and told me that I need to go up and talk to him more often. I tried to, but I guess after awhile I stopped. What really got to me was that my sister said that to me too, and she's younger than me. I guess it's that noticable. But I want to know what I could do to start conversations and talk. The only time he goes out of his way to talk to me is when he needs me to fix the computer or get him something (and I'm not exagerating). He gets home late and is always busy when he's home.
Should I write him e-mails? He is constantly checking his e-mail. I do feel somewhat uncomfortable talking to him about anything more than the Yankees game. Generally I'm not too open, it's not easy for me - but it's really bothering me now because I want to create an open line of communication, but I don't know how to start or what to do to make sure that once I start it doesn't fall apart. Any advice? Thanks. (link)
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I've always noticed this between my son and husband to. I don't know why it is. My son talks to me all the time.
Could be because he works all the time. Maybe you
feel you have nothing in common to talk about most of the time. I often have wondered if my son so wants his dads approval that he feels a little intimidated at times.
I think writing emails is a wonderful idea. You could start out maybe telling him what you have been up to lately and see where it leads. He would probably be really tickled to get an email.
You could even just start out by sending him a special card or a funny joke or two. It could get to be a lot of fun. I really think you should try it. :)
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OK, well, my two best friends will call me out if they think I'm "flirting" with a guy. It doesn't even matter what guy, they will just give me a look and act all mad. They don't even like the guy, since they both have boyfriends. But the problem is that our ideas of flirting are WAY different. Like, they think that striking a conversation up with an ex or playing soccer with a good guy friend is flirting, but I say not really. I need help! I need to know what to do? Should I laugh it off, or just not talk to my guy friends?
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Just laugh it off. Some people flirt with everyone. It isn't even something they do consciously. Its a natural thing they just do.
Just tell them "I flirt with everyone, stop worrying about it". It really isn't any of their business anyway to be honest. What difference should it make to them. Tell them to get over it. :)
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