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Unintentional Insults.
I am a pepper fiend. I put pepper on practically everything but sweets. My question is, could that be misconstrued as an insult?
My brother's girlfriend kindly made dinner for our family for the first time, a few weeks back. Chicken. Of course, I went nuts with the pepper shaker. The way she looked at me really hurt my feelings. I don't think she purposely shot me down. I think she was just more in shock that I had the nerve to do that. She eats dinner with us everynight, though. She knows my routine. It's nothing new. I still felt like a jerk. I didn't say anything then, but I probably should have. Now it's too late, and I would just like to gather multiple opinions for future reference. I'd hate to unintentionally put somebody (who so generously devoted their time and effort to please me) down.
So if you worked all day to prepare a meal for your guests (even family) and someone were to pepper the hell out of it, would you take offense?
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Personally, I wouldn't take offense. Were you being a bit agressive about shaking the pepper out? Maybe she thought you were being rude by using up so much pepper. I don't know, if I were you I'd just forget about the incident and move on. But, here's a tip: next time you're over someone else's house, don't put *as much* pepper on your food as you usually do, and pour the pepper on lightly, not as if you were trying to stab your food, lol.
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A good rule of thumb is to always taste your food before adding any seasoning to it.
Even if you know that you love pepper, and that everything is better with lots of it... it's just polite to the chef to at least try what they have made for you before changing the taste of it.
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Dear Friend,
I wouldn't worry about it. This sounds like one of those things you've built up in your mind to be a bigger deal than it really is - if a little while has passed, chances are your brother's girlfriend has already forgotten.
If you really need to rest your conscience at ease, casually bring up a discussion about your love of pepper. Gauge her reaction, and decide whether to proceed with an apology or drop it.
Love,
Ainsley.
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I wouldn't take any offense at all. Maybe you just misread the look she gave you. I really don't see why she would be upset. Pepper is a seasoning meant to be put on food. What's the big deal?
I wouldn't worry about it.
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Personally, I would take no offense because I can respect the fact that different people have different tastes. However, in a situation where someone important to you has taken the time to prepare a meal, you may wish to be subtle about adding pepper or any other condiments. Also, it's always polite to try the dish first before assuming that it needs to be altered to suit your tastes. If you are worried about this becoming a social problem in the future, you may wish to begin using less pepper in everyday life so that you don't drown dishes in pepper out of habit.
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I wouldn't take offense over a silly thing such as pepper.
My mom likes to put sour cream on everything. She puts it in soup, mac && cheese, ect. I like to put sour cream on my pancakes, because I like it that way.
People have their different fetishes. Your brother's girlfriend already knows that you put pepper on everything, so she should be used to it. It's not like it's a huge surprise that you do that with your food.
If she gives you any strange looks, continue putting it on. Don't put on an act for her. If it's what you like, and what you want to do with your food, then go right ahead. It's not like you're picking little pieces of chicken, making disgusted looks, and flicking them aside, you know?
You're going to be eating the food, so you should be the one deciding what you want to do with it.
Hope I helped!
♥ SiMA
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No I wouldnt take offense,
because if they like it that way ..they like it that way you know? I cant change it!
Like some people love salt, and they put massive amounts on food, no need to be offended about it, its normal, everyone does what they want to.
So I would say I wouldnt have taken offence, and I'm pretty sure she shouldnt have either. Especially if she eats with you and realizes that thats what you do.
<3
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of corse i wouldnt, just because some one put pepper on there chicken is no reason to take offence...im srry but to be mad at someone because they put pepper on there food is kinda stupid
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Well I sure wouldn't... but I'm a pepper fiend too. Even use it and salt on watermelon and cantaloupe. I've gotten my share of weird looks too.
If she knows how you like the pepper, I see no reason she should have been offended by your using it on her meal. If its really bothering you, then just tell her it was a great meal and you hope she makes it for you again sometime. If she asks about the pepper then explain how much you like it. I think telling her you hope she cooks for you again sometime though will let her know you weren't peppering because the food was bad or anything. :)
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