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does my manager like me?!?!?!
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"I currently work in retail in a mall, I am 19 yrs old, my manager that is 26. There are a lot of things I am troubled about, I don't know how he feels about me.
I am the top sales associate at the store. One day, he told me if I sell $3000 worth of sales (which is IMPOSSIBLE in our store) in one day, he'll take me out for dinner. Later on, he changed the budget to $1500, which is EXTREMELY difficult still. He said he would take me to a very prestigeous/expensive restaurant, the 360 restaurant on top of the CN tower (I am from Toronto Canada by the way). In MY opinion, this is a place where all my friends in relationships go to on special occasions.
Well, an hour before the day ended, I was FAR from the $1500 budget, so he said he cant take me to dinner if i dont make the sales, he'll only take me to Diary Queen, and I made a very disapproving/disappointed *awwww* jokingly, then he said fine.... i'll take you to DQ and a good walk on the beach.
I ended up making $1500 that night!!!!! when he was checking my sales, he had his hand covering his mouth and kinda laughing. He looked nervous, scared, excited, (according to everyone else that was there).
we are going this weekend, first he tells me to dress glamourous!... later on, he said glamourous usually means romantic, flowers and all that, so he told me to dress *fun*.... then i asked *are you gonna get me flowers?!?!?!* jokingly of course. Then he said... *c'monnn christine*... so i told him im only joking..... but he ends up asking me what my fav flower is...
I am extremely confused about this situation. He is extremely good looking, and has a lot of *girl* friends.... but I dont THINK he takes them out to nice dinner like this.
Also at work, he offered to buy me a drink... but he said he *forgot*, but later on, he bought me a drink when we decided to go hang out with his friend and this other girl at work.... i didnt ask for the dirnk... he came outta the convenience store for me...
but just yesterday he said he REALYL wanna see the movie the LakeHouse with sandra bullock and keanu reeves, and he was gonna see it with his friend (a girl)... but she didnt end up calling him... but it SEEMED like... when we saw the advertismeent for the movie he emphasized that he wants to see it again... =/ ... im not sure if he's hinting me taht he wants to see it with me?... or he jsut wants to see it... since he was gonna see it with a *girl* friend anyways....
also... when we were with his friends hanging out.... they were talking about sum girls... and he commented and said they were pretty... >.<.... is he trying to make me jealous?... or he really doesnt care about me...?
plus... he's been single for 2 yrs... he can be a little flirtatious with other girls sumtimes... do you think he is extremely flirty with me? or just normal flirting?...
OH man!! that was long, thanks for reading it!!!!! Please lend me your opinion on my situation, I am very confused... "
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There are a lot of guys out there that are overly flirtatious. He might be one of them. As far as the other girls thing, he may just have a lot of friends that are girls and that is not a big deal. (and all guys talk about how pretty other girls are no matter what situation they are in romantically) As far as nowing if he likes you, I think that is already known. Does he really want to act on it? Probably! Can he act on it totally? Probably not! Why? Because you work together and he is your boss. That is a hard situation.My advice, keep flirting but don't hold back on your personal life with other people. And if that doesn't suit you then woman up and tell him exactly how you feel. I say what is on my mind when where and to whom I please. I don't hold back because life passes you by in an instint and you don't want to miss good opportunities. He isn't going to fire you and I don't think it will change your friendship. I told another person that needed advice that there are a lot of fish in the sea you just have to have the right bait. Well in your situation you got the bait all you need to do is hook the fish and reel him in. I hope this helps and if you need more advice hit me up.
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Sounds to me like he does like you, he is being very flirtaious. No manager say's hey you make this much in sales and I'll take you out. It's not like he profits off of the sales, it just makes him look good. It was his way of asking you out without looking stupid if you were like ummmm eww no lol. I'd keep my eyes open on this situation, he kinda' sounds like a player with all these girls he takes out. That might vey well be why he is technically single. So yea, he is definatley flirting with you like mad but ya know, just keep your eyes open if he starts to get more serious with you.
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It does sound to me as if he likes you. While you are out to dinner you might just ask him in
a joking kind of way How he manages to have so many girlfriends!
Some guys are just flirty by nature and don't really mean a lot by it. I don't think I would worry to much about his flirting with other girls.
Go out and have a good time, see where it leads. He may just ask you out again before the night is over! :)
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