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I am 23 years old, I have 4 kids, and have been through everything you could possibly think of. Ask and I shall tell. You may not like everything I say, but the truth hurts and if you take what I say into consideration you might find that it can help you even if you alter it some.
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i went to the doctor yesterday because i thought i had a UTI. i peed in the cup and they tested it and said that i didnt have a UTI. so all i have to do is every day for a couple of days is go in the bath and soak with water in vinager and if it doesnt help then go back.
i feel like i have to pee alot and it like bothers me "down there" and its like all the symtoms of a UTI but its not it!
im only 13 too.
and im scared i have like a problem
do you know what it could be??
You need to go back to the doctor. Just becuse you don't have a UTI doesn't mean that you don't have a bladder infection or kidney infection. That is a test that they have to send to the lab and what is vinegar and water going to do if that is the case then you can just douche. Matter of fact go to a different doctor. That is the craziest diagnosis I have ever heard of. Don't wait because if you do it could get worse.
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"I currently work in retail in a mall, I am 19 yrs old, my manager that is 26. There are a lot of things I am troubled about, I don't know how he feels about me.
I am the top sales associate at the store. One day, he told me if I sell $3000 worth of sales (which is IMPOSSIBLE in our store) in one day, he'll take me out for dinner. Later on, he changed the budget to $1500, which is EXTREMELY difficult still. He said he would take me to a very prestigeous/expensive restaurant, the 360 restaurant on top of the CN tower (I am from Toronto Canada by the way). In MY opinion, this is a place where all my friends in relationships go to on special occasions.
Well, an hour before the day ended, I was FAR from the $1500 budget, so he said he cant take me to dinner if i dont make the sales, he'll only take me to Diary Queen, and I made a very disapproving/disappointed *awwww* jokingly, then he said fine.... i'll take you to DQ and a good walk on the beach.
I ended up making $1500 that night!!!!! when he was checking my sales, he had his hand covering his mouth and kinda laughing. He looked nervous, scared, excited, (according to everyone else that was there).
we are going this weekend, first he tells me to dress glamourous!... later on, he said glamourous usually means romantic, flowers and all that, so he told me to dress *fun*.... then i asked *are you gonna get me flowers?!?!?!* jokingly of course. Then he said... *c'monnn christine*... so i told him im only joking..... but he ends up asking me what my fav flower is...
I am extremely confused about this situation. He is extremely good looking, and has a lot of *girl* friends.... but I dont THINK he takes them out to nice dinner like this.
Also at work, he offered to buy me a drink... but he said he *forgot*, but later on, he bought me a drink when we decided to go hang out with his friend and this other girl at work.... i didnt ask for the dirnk... he came outta the convenience store for me...
but just yesterday he said he REALYL wanna see the movie the LakeHouse with sandra bullock and keanu reeves, and he was gonna see it with his friend (a girl)... but she didnt end up calling him... but it SEEMED like... when we saw the advertismeent for the movie he emphasized that he wants to see it again... =/ ... im not sure if he's hinting me taht he wants to see it with me?... or he jsut wants to see it... since he was gonna see it with a *girl* friend anyways....
also... when we were with his friends hanging out.... they were talking about sum girls... and he commented and said they were pretty... >.
There are a lot of guys out there that are overly flirtatious. He might be one of them. As far as the other girls thing, he may just have a lot of friends that are girls and that is not a big deal. (and all guys talk about how pretty other girls are no matter what situation they are in romantically) As far as nowing if he likes you, I think that is already known. Does he really want to act on it? Probably! Can he act on it totally? Probably not! Why? Because you work together and he is your boss. That is a hard situation.My advice, keep flirting but don't hold back on your personal life with other people. And if that doesn't suit you then woman up and tell him exactly how you feel. I say what is on my mind when where and to whom I please. I don't hold back because life passes you by in an instint and you don't want to miss good opportunities. He isn't going to fire you and I don't think it will change your friendship. I told another person that needed advice that there are a lot of fish in the sea you just have to have the right bait. Well in your situation you got the bait all you need to do is hook the fish and reel him in. I hope this helps and if you need more advice hit me up.
Hey... ok, this question is crazy so don't say I didn't warn you.
I think I'm looking for opinions more than advice... and I want to hear what you all think!!
Ok, I am a 20 year old female and I am about to start my third year of college. I have a boyfriend that I have been with for about 3 years. We actually went out for 2 years, then broke up for 8 months because I didn't want a relationship, and have now been back together for a few months. He is deffinitely the love of my life, and we intend on getting married in the future.
Why in the future and not now? Well, he recently joined the army and will be in it for the next 4 years. He is now stationed across the country and is going to Iraq for a year soon. He visits as much as he can, and we have no problems making the relationship work. We always talk about getting married in 4 years, because that is when he will get out of the army and I will be finishing up college.
So what is my question about? Well, we got to talking the other day, and the idea of us getting married NOW came up. The reason this even came up is because if we do it now, he will get payed twice as much for being married and in the military. Not only that, but I will also be able to get on his health insurance plan provided by the army. And lastly, the army would pay for my last four years of college... and because I am not eligible for financial aid, that would save us about 150,000 dollars in loans (after interest) once I am graduated.
If we get married now, there would be no ceremony since it's too last minute... he leaves for Iraq in 2 months. We would just sign the papers and be legally married. In your opinion, is this a mistake? Is it selfish or in bad taste? We both intend on getting married to each other, and we both love one another and have faith in the relationship. If we get married now, we intend on having a big ceremony in a year or two. What do you think? I mean if we are getting married anyway and love each other, shouldn't we just do it now and make our lives in the future easier?
All opinions are welcomed and appreciated! Thanks! :)
If you are getting married because you want to get married then I say do it. All the other stuff is just a plus. If I was to get married again I wouldn't have another big wedding because you never know what is going to happen in the future. My advice is to get married now and if ya'll make it for the 4 years have a really big wedding then because if the two of you make it through him going into the military and not seeing each other then it really is meant to be. GET MARRIED GIRL!!!! If it is what you want GO 4 IT!!!!! I send you my best wishes to you and your boyfriend and if you do go through with it Congradulations
When I was 10 years old, I had a incident where a grown man stopped me next to the road and he wanted me to touch his penis. Since the age of 16 I have had a problem with giving a guy any form of foreplay. Some times I could masturbate them, but that was guys I did not really care for.
I am in a 5 month relationship now and love my boyfriend very much. I have told him what happened to me and he understands, but I want to be able to take part in foreplay with him, I just get to scared. I can also not be naked infront of him when it is not dark. I think this is all connected to my childhood. Other than that our sex life is good. Can anybody please help me? I am a 21 year old female
First, I am going to say that I am sorry for what happened to you. People that do those things to children should be shot in the ****. Next I would like to let you know that how you feel is normal and to be expected. The big problem here is trust and I know that sounds weird because you are thinking "What does trust have to do with foreplay" Well, you have a problem with foreplay because of your past experiences. That person betrayed your trust in people. As far as the naked thing, that is interpersonal. My opinion is that you don't like the way you look completely and I also think it is interemotional because of the traumatic past. My advice to you is that if you love this guy then learn to trust him completely. He is not going to hurt you or make you do anything you don't want to do. If you can't work through this problem with advice then you might want to look into getting therapy, because you might not realize it but the problem may go deeper then when you were 10. I hope I have enlightened the situation a little bit.
20/F.
So I’ve been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. We have a great relationship and we usually tell each other everything. However, two weeks ago I found out that he has been hiding something from me throughout our entire relationship (that’s not the problem though...).
I was at home when it happened. My boyfriend’s college suite mate called me and asked me to come over right away. He seemed worried, but wouldn’t tell me anything over the phone. I drove to their dorm room, and just as I was about to go up the stairs, I heard someone mumbling. I looked underneath the stairwell, and there was my boyfriend. He was sitting on the floor, with his head in his hands, crying, and freaking out.
It took me almost an hour to get him to calm down. Once he finally did, I asked him what had just happened. He told me that he suffers from mild depression and anxiety. He had been having a massive panic attack. He takes medication for both conditions, but he told me that recently his anxiety had been getting worse.
I’ve never seen him, or even anyone, have a panic attack before and I don’t know anyone else who suffers from anxiety. Nonetheless, I tried to be as supportive as I could. He told me that he had been having trouble sleeping because of the anxiety but that talking to me usually helps him calm down. I ended up spending the night in his dorm, and I haven’t left here since.
He’s been to the doctor, and all they’ve done for him is increase his medication.
He has told many times over the past two weeks that my staying with him, in his dorm, makes him feel more at ease. That when we’re together, he’s able to function like a normal person. However, he still has anxiety when he’s about to go to bed, and sometimes we stay up and talk for hours before he’ll finally fall asleep.
I feel immensely guilty for saying this, but I’ve never been so exhausted, emotionally and physically, in my life. I work full time as well as go to school and this whole situation has really taken it’s toll on me. All of my attention has been focussed on him and I’m constantly worrying about him when we’re apart, but five hours of sleep a night (sometimes less) cannot be healthy.
I’ve tried to tell him that eventually I’ll have to go home, but then he starts to get anxious about the thought of me leaving him alone.
I love my boyfriend and I want to be there for him when he needs me, but I would like to have somewhat of a life of my own. Ugh. I feel selfish saying that...
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Any input would greatly appreciated.
Okay, so I know what your boyfriend is going through because I am on meds for the same thing. See I use to not be able to sleep and would cry a lot or just get pissed off at the world for no reason. My fiance has been there a lot for me and I appreciate him a lot for that. See, the thing is that he loves you so much and now he is getting dependant on you. That could be a bad thing because like you said you want a life of your own which is totally understandable. You are going to have to talk to him and explain how this situation is taking a toll on you. Just explain to him that regardless of where you are physically that you are always with him emotionally. Let him know that in that perspective, you are not going anywhere and that might help a little. Also, he needs to go to counseling. You might need to go with him a couple of times till he gets comfortable, but he needs outsider help and someone that won't just drug him up. Somebody that will listen that doesn't have an obligation. I hope this helps and best wishes
i'm 19 years old and a female and was sexually abused when i was very yound by a babysitter. i am not worried about this and dont feel it affects me that much and i am quite open with this fact and the people who are close to me know about it all. The problem is that when a guy wants to get close with me i just seem to panic and just feel well out of my comfort zone. especially if its a boyfriend and its sexual. i have had sex in the past and the guys know about it and are very conciderate of it. But yet i still dont know when its affecting me like this. or even if it is that is the reason why. just finding it very difficult to get close to a bloke. i have loads of guy mates which i mess around with alot but i dunno its just so confusing. could you please enlighten me on this if its possible.
I was molested when I was young and it kind of had the same affect on me. I guess I finally realized that not everyone is like that and would violate me in that way. The one problem that I see in your situation is that regardless of how you feel you are still fooling around. This could be bad. The reason is because you are not comfortable with what is going on. I think that regardless of the situation you need to feel comfortable with yourself more than pleasing the other person.I understand that not everyone can afford to go to the counselor and recieve help that way so my ears are always open and if you need to talk annonimously you can always e-mail me. cmerun69@yahoo.com Just remember that you have to be happy and content before you can make someone else happy and content. I hope I have helped and hit me up if you wanna talk about it
HELP. im 10 pounds overweight. i want to lose those 10 pounds since it is summertime. ive been eating right and doing at least one form of exercise everyday. (elliptical or walking or swimming) ive been doing this for the past 3 months and no results. what could i be doing wrong? how can i lose this weight?
5 pounds of that is waste and 5 pounds is water retintion. Eat a bowl of healthy cereal in the morning equal to one cup with 2% milk for lunch have a light yogurt and a small side salad with fat free dressing, for dinner have just a salad with fat free dressing. Do 50 crunches in the morning before you eat and 50 crunches at night after you eat but an hour before you go to bed. You should shed that 10 pounds in about 2 to 3 weeks
Okay My names Kristen 17/f...I'm in a relationship with a guy who's father abuses him..the thing is my boyfriend is just letting this go like nothing happens. I'm scared that his father could get more mad and seriously hurt him..I've tried to talk to him about it and tell him how I've felt but he just says to not worry about it. I mean how can I not? I love this guy with all my heart I can't loose him!!! Please I need help please :-(
I have been in this situation before. First, your boyfriend doesn't say anything because regardless of what he says he loves his father and doesn't want to see him in jail. Second, if he does go to the police, your boyfriend will go to foster care until he is 18. He is 17 now and doesn't have that much further to go until he is 18. You can probably talk until you are blue in the face but it's not going to matter. He is a man and he has to handle it himself. The best thing you can do for him is stand beside him and back him up in any situation. I hope this helps. And remember, it is your business when your boyfriend tells you about it, but if you act on it without his permission you may lose him anyway, so be careful how you handle the situation.
I am a female from Canada.
I am in a serious committed relationship with my bf and he does not know that I am bi-sexual. I have been considering telling him because of my re-occuring problems about fantasizing being in a relationship with a female.
I love my bf as well and we have a healthy relationship. I want to tell him because I don't feel right keeping secrets from him. We are very open to each other. Should I tell him? How should I put it so he won't feel threatened?
Advice please?
Okay, listen! I am a bisexual woman myself so exuse me if I am blunt. Every man unless they are gay fantasize about 2 or more females together at one time. It turns them on. You need to talk to him but make it fun for him. Don't come right at him with the situation. Bring up a mutual conversation and mention girl on girl action see what he says about it. Then you can just throw in there that you like it. If the conversation goes south just reassure him that you are with him even though you have these feelings and that is not going to change because of them. He will understand and besides if you know each other as well as you think you do then he already knows and just hasn't said anything about it. Don't be scared of how you feel, it is only going to create more stree for you in the future.
Hi. If it helps, I'm 15/f. Ok, I'm not going to beat around the bush, I think I might be gay or bi. Lately, I have found myself wanting to be with a girl more than with a guy. Today, I was at the waterpark with a friend, and I checked out almost every pretty girl I saw. Now, honestly, I don't know if it is because I might be gay, or because I find myself wanting to be a lot like them. I'm not the prettiest girl ever, and I'm not celebrity skinny. I do have some meat on my bones, but I'm not huge. Also, there is this girl at my school who just graduated. We were friends, and she was also gay. We played softball together for 2 years. I found myself wanting to be with her more and more everyday. I have had this 'crush' on her for as long as we have known each other. First, it started out with her looks, but I as I got to know her, it became stronger. I haven't had a real 'crush' on a guy since then. I don't really find any boys that attractive any more, but I find myself checking out girls more and more often. Could someone please help me, and with the information I have given, tell me what you might think it is?
You are at young age where experimenting is normal. Just because you look at other females in a sexual way does not mean you are gay. I am bisexual and For me I wasn't sure at your age. I really didn't know until after I became sexually active. Being gay has a lot to do with an attraction but it has to do more with happiness and pleasure. I wouldn't beat yourself up over it until you get to that stage. What I am trying to say is that you have to try something before you know if you like it. Go with your gut on this one but don't rule out any possibilities until you know for sure. And besides you are young you have the rest of your life to figure out exactly what you want and who you want to spend it with.
Hi everyone, I'd like to hear your perspective(this question is especially for girls but guys are welcome to answer too). My problem is that I feel disgustingly and frighteningly ugly. My own reflection upsets me when I look in the mirror, and I find the idea of sex really scary. I've tried it a couple of times, but the guys I've been with have been really greedy and impatient and made me feel even uglier. They kept on going on about how pretty other girls were, and I think they just wanted me because I'm so insecure. Has anyone else been through this , and come out all right the other end(e.g. in a happy relationship, or just happier with themselves). Some days I don't even want to leave the house, I feel I look so bad.
Thanks in advance(22/f BTW).
Hey! I know exactly how you feel. I don't look at myself like that anymore. I think that everyone looks down at themselves every once in a while. I will tell you what I did as a young adult and then you can decide if you want to try it. First of all, you have to quit putting yourself down. Beauty is only skin deep. In this situation you are your own enemy. Do this one thing every morning and every night. Walk by a mirror, and no matter how much you want to say something bad, tell yourself something nice and don't think about it. Take a day off of work, go get your nails done, get a fresh hair style, and if you got the money, go try a new wardrobe. Sometimes people can get stuck in a way of life that they are not happy with and if you change it then you can possibly change the perception of yourself. Boost your own ego cause sweetie that is one thing we don't need a man for, a man is just a plus.
okay, to start off, when i see a hot guy on the street, i automatically think "they're hot" and when i see a pretty girl on the street, that NEVER crosses my mind, i just say to myself, "i wish i looked like them, i wish i had their body" etc. but there was this myspace with "i'm horny, fuck me" as the name, and when i looked at her pictures i got horny. they were of a woman's body, lubed up and she was covering her breasts and her vagina. an di watched a video on youtube of a woman dancing and stripping, and it showed her butt. i'm fifteen and female, and i admit to masturbating, and when i masturbate to men i get turned on, but i tested myself and thought about women, and i just got grossed out. could dirty pictures of women just turn me on because i wish i LOOKED like that, or should i question my sexuality, taking everything else i've said in this question into consideration. help please, i rate high.
First of all everyone tests their sexuality even men. This answer could go either way. The thing is that when you are young you sometimes think things are gross because that is what you have been taught by peers and adults. The fact that you got turned on by pictures of another woman doesn't make you gay or bi. Every woman has looked at another woman in a sexual way and whether they decide to act on that is a different story. My advice would be that you need to follow your heart and do what you rbody tells you because even your brain will lie to you. Your heart is pure and it won't lie to you. You are young, in time you will figure it out.
i wasn't exactly sure where to put this. i have a friend, who just happens to be a hermaphodite or however you spell/say that word. she/he is a boy and a girl. they have both parts. she just told a couple of her friends recently at camp, and it's fine with all of her friends, except the girl she likes. she doesn't believe that she's gay, because she told me she sees herself as more of a boy than a girl, or 80% 20% as she puts it. the girl that she likes has been avoiding her ever since my friend told her how she felt. now that i've explained that, my friend was asking me the other day what to do about it, and i didn't know what to tell her. so, i'm just asking, do you have any idea what she should do as in...coping with it i guess?
sorry it's so long, but if you still don't understand exactly what i'm asking, i'll find some way to talk to you about it.
Your friends condition is a blessing. Not too many people can be that blessed by god. The problem is that other people may not be as exceptable. If this girl cannot accept your friends way of life then he doesn't need her. It is her loss, she may not see it that way, but one day she will. Live your life for you and not the people around you. Your happiness is what counts everybody elses happiness is just a plus.
okay. so im having some trouble. im 15/f and i never have a boyfriend and i mean never. occasionally ill have some random ones pop up but i just never feel anything for him. They all tell me that im their 'little sister' and i just dont get it... I mean, [im not big headed or anything] im not ugly, i actually am very satisfyed with my looks.. i dont get it. like, i am very popular, not because of what i wear, because of how i act... i just dont know how to get and keep a steady bf... any suggestions?
thanks in advance
The reason they say youlke a sister is because that is exactly what you are. Because you are so popular, it is going to be to where you meet someone on the streets that doesn't know you. Don't look for it let it find you. Eventually it will come and it will mean more to you because you weren't so anxious. Let that soak in over night and see how you feel in the morning
15/F Alright, so I have been dating this guy, ryan, for about 6 months. I can honestly say that I LOVE him. Bu, lately he has been acting distant, strange. I was talking to a girl online and as soon as he found out I was talking to her he made me stop. It's just weird. And This may be a little TMI but the last time we were doing "things" He just stopped and said, "I can't do this." He's never done rhis before, What do you guys think, and any advice on how i may be able to figure out if he is?
Hey girl. Look the truth of the matter is that a womans gut is always right in some fachion or form. If you think he is cheating then he probably is. As far as the girl on the internet, I would keep talking to her even if it was on the DL. She might know something and she probably doesn't know that he has a girl. You never know you might lose a boyfriend but you might also gain a good friend.(the girl on the net)
THERE IS A LOT OF FISH IN THE SEA, AND THEY ALL BITE THE BAIT, YOU JUST GOTTA KNOW WHICH KIND TO USE
my boyfriend has been an utter jerk to me lately. i dont know what to do. i found out a bunch of lies he been holdin out on me. but i cant break up with him because hes the father of my child- i just dont know what to do with him anymore. all he wants to do is hang out with his guys while i sit at home pregnant and in a crappy mood. hes blaming his ignorance on me, and says that im becoming the type of person he doesnt want to be around anymore. what in the world can i do to let him know tha its NOT all me, and that pregnancy CAUSES YOU TO HAVE MOODSWINGS???!!! hes jsut not gtting the concept.
Girl! I know how you feel! I have 4 kids and the truth is that the pregnancy part is by far the worst. Men do not and will never know what it is like to be pregnant or to have a baby. The truth is that most of them don't care because they know that they don't have to experience it. Sometimes in life, people have to realize what they have but they only do that after they lose it. If you can't get through to him by talking, don't talk anymore and take action. Remember, it is a proven fact that men see more than they hear. Keep that in mind as you work this problem out.