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Hi. If it helps, I'm 15/f. Ok, I'm not going to beat around the bush, I think I might be gay or bi. Lately, I have found myself wanting to be with a girl more than with a guy. Today, I was at the waterpark with a friend, and I checked out almost every pretty girl I saw. Now, honestly, I don't know if it is because I might be gay, or because I find myself wanting to be a lot like them. I'm not the prettiest girl ever, and I'm not celebrity skinny. I do have some meat on my bones, but I'm not huge. Also, there is this girl at my school who just graduated. We were friends, and she was also gay. We played softball together for 2 years. I found myself wanting to be with her more and more everyday. I have had this 'crush' on her for as long as we have known each other. First, it started out with her looks, but I as I got to know her, it became stronger. I haven't had a real 'crush' on a guy since then. I don't really find any boys that attractive any more, but I find myself checking out girls more and more often. Could someone please help me, and with the information I have given, tell me what you might think it is?
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You are at young age where experimenting is normal. Just because you look at other females in a sexual way does not mean you are gay. I am bisexual and For me I wasn't sure at your age. I really didn't know until after I became sexually active. Being gay has a lot to do with an attraction but it has to do more with happiness and pleasure. I wouldn't beat yourself up over it until you get to that stage. What I am trying to say is that you have to try something before you know if you like it. Go with your gut on this one but don't rule out any possibilities until you know for sure. And besides you are young you have the rest of your life to figure out exactly what you want and who you want to spend it with.
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your not bi.
your 100% lesbian.
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If you find yourself having really strong attractions to other girls, such that you would want to go out with them, you are probably lesbian or bi. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. However, the waterpark may just be yourself comparing to others. Girls typically do that. Yet, a good test is that if you find yourself lookig up and down someone 3 times, you are probably in love physically with them.
If you don't find boys attractive, then you are definately not bi. It would be either lesbian or assexual, and I don't believe assexuality exists.
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You could most likely be lesbian. Girls, check out other girls, to compare each other usually, but like you said, its not just like that. You have, emotions and attraction to girls. Maybe you could contact that girl you have a crush on, and get her perspective on it, since she is lesbian, then, if she does think your lesbian, then maybe if you did want to have a relationship, she now knows. But, you might want to wait a little while, considering your 15, and its just the beginning of your outcoming. If you are lesbian, and plan to tell people you are, be prepared to be "shunned" by some people, because thats how people are. Good Luck, hope I helped!
-Brina
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i think that you have an attraction to her really strongly but then again if you want to now if your really bi or gay maybe try checking out guys aswell and if you do become bi dont be ashamed of it or anything like that and if she is still gay then give it a shot and see how it all turns out i hope i helped and i tried :D
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