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Friends and flirting
OK, well, my two best friends will call me out if they think I'm "flirting" with a guy. It doesn't even matter what guy, they will just give me a look and act all mad. They don't even like the guy, since they both have boyfriends. But the problem is that our ideas of flirting are WAY different. Like, they think that striking a conversation up with an ex or playing soccer with a good guy friend is flirting, but I say not really. I need help! I need to know what to do? Should I laugh it off, or just not talk to my guy friends?
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nobody can tell you who to not talk to tell your friends that they have BOYFREINDS and you dont bug them and tell them not to flirt with them.but try not to loose your freinds mabey they are worried about you in a way.talk to them and ask them honestly what pisses them off about it.good luck
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I think you should laugh it off all that really matters is that you and your guy friends both know that it's just a friendship maybe your other friends don't understand If you want them to understand have them join in unless that's a problem with you or your guy friends which comes back to are you really just friends
it's your call!!
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You might try asking them why they care if you flirt. Ask them if they perceive you as being overly flirtatious, or if they are just jealous because they don't have your attention. Granted, they will not likely respond with much honesty, but you can learn much from the way they answer rather than what they actually say. Above all else, tell them that you don't care if they think you're flirting or, if you are flirting, agree that you are flirting and show that you don't care.
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I was about to say the smae as the advicenator below and suggest your friends had a little touch of the green-eyed monster. For a start talking to a guy does not consitute flirting, it's constitutes being a rational, interesting person who has things to say to all kinds of people and even if you flirted with every guy in the land, you're single, why should they care or disapprove?
If they're in relationships the most likely explanation is they envy you lots of male attention that they don't or can't get. Perhaps they even feel ignored by these guys when you're around. Even so this is really not your problem but if they're bugging you you need to ask them what exactly their problem is with you talking to and/or flirting with guys.
The laughing it off policy is best and hopefully they'll get over it one way or another.
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Sounds to me like I sense a hint of jealousy from your friends. My friends used to do this to me ALL the time. If I laughed at a joke one of my guyfriends told me, they would freak out & say that I was flirting with them. Even if the guy was standing right there. It killed me, & I eventually just stopped talking to guys all together. It was so retarded. What you need to do is ignore them. I seriously think they are just angry because you get along with guys really well, & they don't. Simple. Don't listen to them. Laugh it off & be sarcastic about it. That will get them to shut up. Ignore them & try not to let them get to you.
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I know this si so old fashion, but you could just ask them to stop calli9ng you out, because it is embarressing (do they do it in public?) and that is so not your idea of flirting. You can tell them what your idea of flirting is so they're not calling you out every single time.
You could laugh it off, and then change the subject but that will give them more reason to think that you are flirting, unless you're realyl good at fake laughing. (haha.) If you just sit them down I think they will understand, I mean they are your best friends right? :)
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Just laugh it off. Some people flirt with everyone. It isn't even something they do consciously. Its a natural thing they just do.
Just tell them "I flirt with everyone, stop worrying about it". It really isn't any of their business anyway to be honest. What difference should it make to them. Tell them to get over it. :)
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