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highschool reunion
I just found out that there is going to be a ten year highschool reunion for my grad class this august. I said I was going to go and already sent the check in the mail. Well I looked at the website for who is already signed up to go and this guy that was really popular who I was madly in love with is going to be there. He knew I liked him and treated me like dirt. I still get nightmares sometimes. I've changed alot since school. My question is how can I be less nervous when I go and have to see him? Also how should I act around him?
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you said it yourself " who I was madly in love with " WAS ....it was a long time ago and youve changed since then just chill keep it cool hes not gonna BITE you.Just act totally normal and if he brings it up and says anything like HA REMEMBER WHEN YOU USED TO LIKE ME say HAHAHAH YA I KNOW I WAS TOTALLY BLINDE to make him feel bad IF he makes you feel bad FIRST but other than that just chill and remember that this is the past u talkin bout here
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Go out, buy a new dress, get your hair done and make yourself HOT! That way your confidence will be up there and he will be the one who is nervous.
I wouldn't make the first move, either. Play it cool around everyone else. You will have enough people to chat with to keep yourself busy anyway. If he does approach you, don't bring up the past. Just focus on now. Let him know how well you are doing. I know it's mean, but I saw an old high school boyfriend who totally broke my heart and it felt really good to tell him how I am happily married with a son and my husband owns a business so I am able to stay home. I didn't forget to add in that I own a house and our upcoming florida vacation, either. You wanna know what HE was doing??? Living in his parent's basement! HA! That felt great!
The first step is CONFIDENCE!
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Be confident. If he treated you like dirt, he doesnt deserve your time. DONT approach him.But who knows, maybe he has changed? Make him make the first move. If he comes up and starts talking to you, play it cool and smooth just act normal and say " Hey, How have you been" Start catching up on things, but dont go to fast. If he asks you out to dinner or whatever, respond by saying " Oh I Don't Know, I have been pretty busy lately, I will call you when i can"
That way he can see that you arent anxious. =]
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I suggest avoiding him, but if he approaches you or you have no choice but to meet him head on, just smile and say "Hi". If he tries to start a conversation make an excuse "I'm sorry to cut you short but I have to return a call" Be confident and pay a lot of attention to everyone else besides him. If he is good at picking up on cues he will leave you alone.
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have you ever seen romy and michelle's high school reunion? act just like that.
actually just make sure you look good. it will make you less nervous because you'll be more confident. just act nice and maybe he got fat or something so you won't be nervous around him.
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I'm certain that both you and he have changed considerably since high school. I feel that I have made such changes, and I've only been out of high school for three years. However, being suddenly surrounded by people from that part of your life can make you begin thinking and acting like you did back then. If you do feel a certain tension between yourself and this man or if he treats you badly at the event, try your best to brush it off and remember that you've grown up and your life is different now. You may find that you are able to talk to and relate to him better now than you did in high school. In any case, remember that your friends deserve your attention at the reunion and that, above all else, you should be enjoying yourself.
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People tend to grow up once out of high school and do a lot of changing in 10 years.
You will probably be nervous at first. Not to many ways around that one, but it probably won't last. Just go to see those who you did like and know in high school. If he is still an ass avoid him, but he probably has changed a lot too. Just be polite and have a good time. :)
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This is your chance to make him sorry. Get a cute dress, do your hair and makeup...and then ignore him. Pretend you have no idea who he is, no matter what. Don't let him ruin your evening. Be proud of yourself for realizing what a jerk he is and try your best not to worry about it.
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