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OK, I really like this guy. He's really nice, and he likes the same things as me. I never use to like him at first but now I kind of do. Well my one friend said she was going to hook me up with him (this was when I didn't like him) and I didn't really want to. Well he asked her out not too long ago, and she told me that she said yes because she didn't want to hurt his feelings. I didn't really care she was going out with him, but then I started talking to him more and we became friends and I got to know more about him, and I like him a little now.
Well I guess my friend and him broke up, and my friend is upset, and there was this big fight. I'm afriad to talk to him now, because I'm scared he might ask me out, and I can't do that to my friend. I choose my friend over this boy, but I do like him. I was thinking about waiting a while till maybe she got a new boy friend and she got over him, but I'm still a little worried. What should I do? Thanks. (link)
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I've been gone so I'm sorry I'm so late getting back to you.
If you really like this boy then talk to him whenever you get a chance to. Just because your friend and him are no longer dating doesn't mean you and he can't be friends. People have lots of friends and not all of them are friends with each other.
If he should ask you out then you deal with it. If your friend is a good one then she probably won't object much should you decide to date him. She shouldn't anyway.
You could tell her yuo kind of like him and see what she says about it. :)
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dang, you got married at 17? (link)
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Sorry it took a while to get back to you. I have been on vacation.
Yes got married at 17. still married too! Can't recommend it, but it can work sometimes. With a LOT of work. :)
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I have been recieving remicade infusions for rheumatoid arthritis for the last 4 years and
as of the last 6 months. The relieve level that i experienced at first seems to have diminished considerably. Is it possible that my body has become imuned to it? (link)
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Be sure and tell your doctor about it. He/she may need to change your dosage. You don't get immune to the medicine but your body does build up a certain tolerance for it. For any medicine not just that one in particular. :)
Just let the doc know so he can up the dosage if he feels it is safe to do so.
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so ive been dating a guy for a couple months and he just recently said something really mean to my friend while she was working causing her to run of work bawling. i dont want a guy that talks shit to my friends. is it wrong to break up with him for it? please answer.. (link)
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First of all find out what was said and why. Maybe someone took something wrong. If they both work in the same place maybe it was something work related. Get the facts from both sides before you make a decision you may regret.
Then if after you have heard from all involved you decide he was wrong, then by all means show him the door. :)
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My brother is 17-years-old, just graduated high school, has a job, got a F150 for his 16th birthday, wrecked it twice, got a different car a few months after his 2 wreck, has crazy high insurance which he doesn't pay for and he makes $900 dollars a month.
His current car isn't working because he messed up the engine somehow and claims that he can fix it himself so meanwhile he drives either my dad's F250 or my dad's 240 which do NOT have insurance on them (because my dad doesn't drive them anymore and wants to sell them).
He just got into another accident with my dad's F250 (he tapped a guy's van and it barely made a mark on the guy's van but nonetheless, still went to my brother's insurance). At one point, my dad was paying $550 a month for my brother's insurance alone!!
Well, like I said, my brother makes $900 a month and is about to start college. My parents thought that he was saving his money up (he'd always ask them for extra money plus he even told me that he was saving) but my mom looked at his bank statement that just came in the mail today and the only money in there is not even half of the money he got from my parents as a graduation gift (they gave him 6,000 and he only had 2,000 in the bank.
So basically he spent almost 6,000 in 2 months, he doesn't help my parents pay for his high insurance, is about to go to college (my parents have money put aside but they are wanting him to at least want to be responsible), has 5 accidents on his record (2 of which major--all his fault).
When my mom asked him what he spends so much money on he said it was all food and gas (complete BS, who spends 3,000 a month on food and gas when they're 17? plus my mom gives him gas money all the time. He then told my mom that there's never any food in the house (I swear he's retarded, I go shopping with my mom and she spends at least $200 a week on food! There's ALWAYS something to eat and she cooks EVERYDAY!!)
And on top of everything, my dad hasn't been working for the past few months.
He's so fucking irresponsible and bad with money. My parents do their best to give us what we want and he completely takes it for granted. I mean, my parents don't spoil us but we live happily.
Every stupid thing he does reflects on me, of course (I just turned 16 but did I get a car? NOOO because of him!! My dad even said that he was the reason I didn't get a car, because my brother's insurance is SOOO high.)
My mom was just crying over him and I was talking to her, trying to comfort her and she doesn't know what to do with him anymore. They try taking away the cars/truck but he says he needs to go to work. I've told my parents to make him pay for his insurance but they never go through with it! Any suggestions, I can't stand him anymore. And I know it's not my place to "discipline" him but I'd like to give my parents suggestions because it really is reflecting me and that's not fair at all.
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Here's how I think I would work it out. Your parents are paying for his college. Anything else should come from his pocket.
If you live where it is possible...bus pass. No car. He would have to buy his own car, insurance and gas. Can't afford it...well, maybe there is an old bicycle in the garage he can borrow.
So long as they are letting him get away with not paying his own way, he won't. :)
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Hi, I found out a few months ago that my boyfriend (he's also my best friend)is moving to Belgium, which is bad because I live in the US. My problem is that though 4th grade all the way through 7th I was a cutter. Now that I found out he's moving... I started again. He Knows what's happening and gives me all the love and support i need... That makes it worse. I love this guy more than ever, and we recently got sexually involved. I'm sooo scared.
P.S. I'm 14, I know young. For what you just read at least. I'm a girl! (link)
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You need to stop cutting by whatever means it takes.
Don't make him feel guilty for having to leave. That's the worst thing you can do. By cutting that is the message you are sending. He cannot nor should he be the sole reason for your happiness. Those relationships never work out.
So tell your parents, or whatever it takes for you to stop cutting. :)
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Ok so I have these weird marks on the back of my legs...like upper leg...they're purple and thing but they look really weird and i want them to go away...what are they and what can i do about them? (link)
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It sounds like they may be stretch marks. Here is a web site tht will explain what they are and
possibly how to help make them less visable. :)
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/skin_stuff/stretch_marks.html
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To make this short.
I've had sex for the first time with my ex boyfriend even though he has a girlfriend...well i got sick of being the other woman so i told him that he either has to be wit me or her well of course he picked me but to my suprise the reason why he picked me was so we'll have sex and of course like a dummy i did it...well i thought we were together or going to work on it so the next day i waited for him to call me and he never did...it's been 3 weeks now and i've realize wat an asshole he is...i'm totally getting over him...i know hard to believe but it's true...but wat i'm wondering should i ask him why he or how could he do this to me or should i jus leave things the way they are? Thanks in advance! (link)
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You already know why he did it. He told you what you wanted to hear so he could get sex. He got it
and now hes left because he is an asshole.
I wouldn't even give the jerk the satisfaction of knowing you care. :)
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My dad is watching porn right now. He does every night because we have lots of channels and at night theres porn. I know for SURE because Ive walked in on him before. And I can see from here. He thinks hes hiding it but hes not. Should I tell my mom my dad watches porn?! what do i do. Ive never told anyone, because its awkward and i dont want my friends to not want to come over my house because they feel weird around my dad. hes a really nice dad/man! I WONT confront him about it, so if you say do that Ill give you a 1..sorry. (link)
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You can certainly ask your mom why dad watches porn where you can see it. Tell her it offends you and can she make him knock it off.
He probably won't but he needs to take it somewhere else. I doubt it will come as a big shock to your mom. She probably knows he watches it. :)
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How do you get to be a featured colomnist? (link)
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http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=31
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I was at cheerleading practice yesterday and I must have turned my neck the wrong way to fast cause it popped and started burning. It went away for a minute, then I got this excrusiating pain in my neck. I can't turn it to the right, or lean it back, and if I'm laying down I have to use my hand to pull my neck up when I want to stand up. Has this happened to anyone before, and how long will it last? thanks =] (link)
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oh ouch! Yes I've had it happen.
It will probably be gone in 3-4 days. :)
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Does any one know where you can buy a john deer hat? (link)
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If you have a John Deere dealership in your town
or someplace close, they sell them. :)
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i dont want to tell my doctor im sexualy active but i want birth control. i think im going to tell him my period has been going on for 15 days for the last times i had it and that i normally only get it for 5 days. or if i DO tell him i am sexualy active will he tell my mom or is it between me and him? (link)
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Don't lie to your doctor. Tell him you are sexually active. He won't tell your mom.
In order to get on the pill though you have to have a pelvic exam. No doctor will prescribe them without one and then you have to have one yearly in order to get your prescription renewed.:)
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I have an in home daycare and I have been caring for these two wonderful, beautiful boys who I love very much. One is 3 and the other is 14 months. Their parents have become good friends of ours, who we hang out with some weekends.
My problem is, that I feel taken advanage of and I don't know what to say or how to say it.
I charge them very minimally...$200 a week. Their hours of care are from 9:00-6:30. Lately, they have been getting dropped off at 8:40 and being picked up as late as 6:40, sometimes 7:00. In the beginning, if they were gonna be early or late I would know in advance. But now it's happening more and more often without notice. I really don't appreciate it. I have 4 other kids in my daycare and 1 of my own and my time is very precious. Especially in the AM when I am trying to get ready for the day.
Here's what really makes me mad...Their mother's work schedule changed and she had a CHOICE to work either M-F 10:30-7:00 with saturdays off or M-TH 9-6:00 and work saturdays. Normally, my daycare closes at 6:30- I don't want kids later than that! Without asking me, she CHOSE to work the M-F 10:30-7:00 shift so she could have saturdays off. She never even asked me if that was ok. That would mean that they wouldn't get picked up until 7:30 with travel time.
Now I am in a position. We are friends and I love those babies. But I really don't wanna have kids in my house from 7AM til 7:30PM, ya know?? What can I say? They really don't have any other friends or family to help them out and I am the only one who watches their kids.
Any advice?
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You need to make it clear, friends or not that your business closes at 6:30. No exceptions unless it is an emergency situation...then they will be charged for it. Not just them, all families. Write it up very professional sounding and give all a copy.
You are definitely being taken advantage of. The problem is, if you let them get away with it now it will probably get even worse. Put your foot down. Try not to make it seem you are singling them out. She knew your hours when she changed hers.
Isn't it funny how people assume that because you work in your home your schedule is just more flexible than theirs? Let it be known it isn't.
If they are really good friends they will understand.
Good luck. :)
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last time i had sex with my girlfriend, i came really fast, how can i prevent from cumming so fast? (link)
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Here is a web site that may help you out.
http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/articles/sex/sexprema.html
A lot of times age and experience help! Until then hopefully this article will be of help. :)
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Tell me please, what is the best way to deal with adult children who live destructive lives? Is it ever okay to say "I have had enough and I want you out of my life" I mean I love my son and couldn't deal with that well, but I can't deal with this either. He's lazy, won't work and is in an abusive relationship. He's on probation for an old charge, but is likely to screw up again if he keeps going this way. He refuses counseling, but has no money or a job anyway. I cannot do tough love, and I don't even know if that really works after talking to other parents. I love him I really do, but he (and his gf) are hurting the rest of our family. Anyone been there? (link)
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My son laid around the house doing nothing at one time too. Had to finally boot him out and it worked for me. He is now married with 5 kids and is a productive member of society.
We simply told him, you have 30 days to have a job and a place of your own. If you have a job in 30 days but need to save up for first and last months rent or something we may be able to let you stay a while longer. Time limit (and there would have been one) determined at that time.
Well we didn't get that far because in 30 days he didn't have a job. Hard to get one when you sleep most of the day. So, in 30 days he was out.
Did we feel bad? Oh you bet! Was probably the worse thing in the world for a mom to do. But, he tells me now that it did him good. Even friends are only going to let you crash at there place for so long!
That is all I can suggest.You can't have the rest of your family learn from his bad habits. Sometimes you have to do what is best for the others.
Very best of luck. :)
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i've had a friend for about five years. we've been pretty close. he has MD (muscular dystrophy) and with that disease you get worse as time goes on. it's hereditary and the people in his family that did have it, died at a very young age. he told me that he'd be lucky if he passed age 35. this upsets me. i know he had this disease all along, but realizing that he's already 19 years old and well, 35 doesn't seem that far away for him. i know you can't predict when you'll die or anything but i'm not sure what to do. he tells me i'm his closest friend and i appreciate that, but i feel selfish because i feel that it's a lot on me. that seems stupid, but it's like he wants to spend his time with me. i don't even know what to say to that. my question is how would i even begin talking to him about it? i care about him, but i feel that he should spend time with his family and not focus on me as much. you only live once. i want to spend time with him while he's here and okay, but i don't want all of his time dedicated to me. it shouldn't be and i'd feel bad if it was. how can i talk to him about it? the topic isn't the best to bring up. sorry this is a long question.
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Friends should be able to talk about anything. If you have questions about his MD I am sure he wouldn't be offended.
He needs to act like a normal 19 year old and that's what he is doing. He will spend time with his family too. He has to act normal while he can because the Day will probably come when he will not be able to get around as well as he does now. If he doesn't hang out with you and act like every other 19 year old...well he would one day regret it.
The very best thing you can do for him is to stop worrying about it. He will do what he has to do. If it scares you then tell him and talk. Don't push him away because he is sick and you can't deal with it. I'm sure he would much rather talk about it than have you want him to back off. :)
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ok i really like this guy but there's a problem. i went to my friends house last week and we went to his house but then after that he asked me if i would "do stuff with him" meaning like a bj and stuff. anyway i really like him but he doesent want a girlfriend because he just got out of a long relarionship. and i do want to do that stuff but i cant because im scared but i really want to. but he doesent want a girl friend and i dont know if i can handle just being a person he says to "have fun with" please help me i rate high! thanks . p.s im going to his house friday! (link)
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I can't advise you to get into a friends with benefits relationship. He's the only one getting the benefits!
If you give in and do things with him he is never going to date you as a girlfriend. He will just use you when he's horny. I hate to be crude but that's all you will be to him. Why should he spend money dating you when you will give it to him for nothing?
Think about it real good before you agree to something like that. You will get hurt in the end. It just isn't worth it, no matter how much you like the guy. :)
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So yesterday, i was standing on a chair when my foot slipped and i fell face first into the carpeting. I used my wrist to break my fall an dever since it really huurts. Its not bruised but my legs and nose are bruised up pretty well from the fall. It hurts when i try to turn my wrist into my body like when i wash my hands, dry them, hook my bra, do my hair, try to wash my hair, eat, etc. This happened two days ago and it is still a bit swollen. I tried wearing a ace splint but that doesn't help from the pain of turning my writs. When you put presure on the bone, it hurts and when i rotate my wrist it hurts a lot. My parents think nothing is wrong and they don't want to take me to get x-rays until a nother couple of days. Im icing it and taking ibprofeun but it isn't helping. Anybody have any ideas? (link)
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If it is still bothering you in a couple of days
then go see your doctor. In the mean time treat it as you would a sprained ankle. Sounds like that is what you are doing. Take the ibuprofen.
A doctor would have to rule out a fracture. Most of the time though if a person has a wrist fracture from breaking a fall you would definitely know it. They are usually visibly deformed. You also wouldn't be able to move it at all.
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i was just wondering what is a skinhead? (link)
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A person (usually a guy) will all their hair shaved off.
It can also be used to describe
a member of any of various groups of people, who shave their heads and sometimes participate in white-supremacist activities.
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