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My Boyfriend is Moving and I Have a Problem...
Hi, I found out a few months ago that my boyfriend (he's also my best friend)is moving to Belgium, which is bad because I live in the US. My problem is that though 4th grade all the way through 7th I was a cutter. Now that I found out he's moving... I started again. He Knows what's happening and gives me all the love and support i need... That makes it worse. I love this guy more than ever, and we recently got sexually involved. I'm sooo scared.
P.S. I'm 14, I know young. For what you just read at least. I'm a girl!
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Honestly, do you even see a point in cutting yourself? Eather way, you know that he has to move and you're just going to be left with scars and still upset. You shouldn't cut yourself whenever there is something bad going on. You have to learn how to deal with it in a different way. You are making this guy feel guilty for moving and it hurts him as much as it hurts you. For now, just spend as much time as you can with him and just support each other. Spend more time together and just accept the fact that he has to leave. I know that it's really hard for you and I can't even imagine if someone I cared about had to leave, but I can put myself in your position. You're really upset, I understand that but you shouldn't be cutting. After you leave that scar on your body you're still left with the problem. It's not worth it. While he's still here, enjoy the time you have left together and have fun with him, your friends and family. Be around people and just don't be too sad about this because you're going to have to let him go. When he leaves, keep in touch with him and you guys are still going to be close.
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ana: okay, so it seems like you realllllyy love the dude. but sometimes if you love somthing enough you have to let it go. considering your 14 there isnt nmuch you can do except keep in touch with him, and try to move on. but DONT cut yourself. that wont do anything but hurt you. surround yourself with friends and family until you get through this. it wont be easy, but you can do it. im sure you will find another great guy, and be just as happy, just give it time. and seriously, get some help&& stop cutting is doesnt solve anything and your wayyy better then that.
good luck, i hope everything works out=]
mikela thinks.
listen. theyre are other ways to deal with your problems. one of my friends use to cut and she got REAL help. your boyfriends great and everything but you need REAL help, professional help. listen there will always be tuff times but cutting yourslef wont make them anyless tuff. you end up just adding more problems on top of that.now i know your gunna miss your boyfriend but if you love him, you will work it out. and maybe hanging out with your other friends are your family will help ease the pain because time heals all and friends will always be there. but seriousely if your cutting yourself you might have other problems you didnt know about. but yeah another thing you can do is pick up a sport or hobbie to keep your mind on other things. i hope everything works out and if you need anything eles. you can im me. miikela says xx. oh ps. my friend sees a proffesional and she loves it and shes really happy now :]
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Stop cutting. i dont care what the circumstances are, dont do it. it's not worth it. You have to be able to be strong without a guy on your own before you are strong in a relationship. So if you're already cutting yourself just because he's moving, then that proves that you arent strong enough without him. I hate to tell you...but that relationship just isnt going to work. But i promise that things always turn out for the better. You'll probably end up meeting someone new or he might come back. Dont get your hopes down. And dont make him spend the last couple of months with you making memories of how you cut yourself. Make these last couple of months worth it. Hang out with him as much as you can and make memories that you will want to look back on later. please be careful. cutting is NOT the answer.
Hope that helped.
♥ Me
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You need to stop cutting by whatever means it takes.
Don't make him feel guilty for having to leave. That's the worst thing you can do. By cutting that is the message you are sending. He cannot nor should he be the sole reason for your happiness. Those relationships never work out.
So tell your parents, or whatever it takes for you to stop cutting. :)
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